Hello, all! I haven't had much life experience compared to some people, but I can give you my view of things, and I'll do my best to give an honest opinion. Ask me anything and I'll answer as best I can!
Myself, I'm a Nursing Assistant finishing up some classes before I start working. My interests include cooking, martial arts, music, video games, gardening, acting, reading, and paintball. My girlfriend is slowly pulling me into politics, but she's drawing me in none the less. =P I love her so much!
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alright so me and this girl have been the best of friends since 1st grade. we were seriously inseperable up until about a month and a half ago. i think she has changed so much. for the first time we started partying and we met some new friends over spring break. well now she has been skipping school..shes failing the 10th grade. she doesnt do any work..she did have a problem with drinking but then she quit drinking as much. she yells at her parents and cusses them out if they ask her to help around the house. well lately its like i cant stand her. at first i like this guy alot and i started talking to him first but then he started liking her cause she was flirting with him constantly and they started hanging out and she made out with him and she knew that i really really liked him. she flirts with every guy that comes along. my other friend liked a guy and my best friend did stuff with him. on top of all that its like if i say something stupid she blows up on me and says "fuck you" and cusses me out even more. it seems like everyday we get into a small argument. like today.. we were in the lunch line and my friend asked how this guy we know found out about her and another guy and i said " well she might have told him" and my best friend blew up on me saying "i didnt fucken tell him so dont go blaming shit on me..you fucking always say and ask stupid shit" its like i cant stand her anymore. i dont want to lose her as a friend but i seriously think i am starting to hate her. and im not the only one that feels like this. 3 of her other friends feel the same way. what should i do?!?!?!? ILL RATE HIGH (link)
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The fact that she's flirting with a lot of guys, has family problems, and is irritable with other girls probably means that she's desparate for love. Not "desparate" in the sense that she wants a bf, but she just wants someone, ANYONE, to show her love and attention. Most likely, she views you and other girls as threats and is affraid that you will steal the guys, thus the way she treats you. But it isn't an excuse for her behavior.
There could be something else much more serious in her life that's happening, too, so be wary of that. It seems like she's really hurt about something and probably doesn't want people to know.
My advice would be to back off... She needs some time to herself perhaps Don't be mean back, be kind, but keep your distance. If you feel that you should move in and help her out, do so. Do not involve this girl in any aspect of your love life, though, it will just lead to trouble.
Good luck! This person can still be a friend, but she needs to sort out her life first
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this is my first post and ohh yeaah English is not my first language...
I began my college year in 04 until now i took a total of 14 classes. and i failed 3 courses got d's in 2, withdrew from 2 and got okay grades meaning c's and b's and cr in the rest. I'm not getting anywhere in school, I don't have a major and everyone i know has either transferred to a university and are close to getting their degrees. My parents think am doing great in school and they keep asking me when I will be graduating...and take into consideration i am not satisfied with the life that am living. so what am asking is ..Summer classes are beginning any time now,& should I retake the classes that I fail or just give up on school... any advice u have for me is welcomed (link)
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My advice is don't go through anything as important as school just because someone else wants you to. Do what YOU want to do. Regardless of the grades you've gotten in college, you've gained experience, and in some ways it just as valuable, so what you've been doing isn't worthless.
Some people can work in a classroom situation, with multiple classes, many homework assignments, and so forth. There are also people that can't do that as well and need to focus on something specific. Have you ever thought of a tech school? Or a school where you could focus on the career you want without having to worry about a million other subjects? You might find that you do better in that kind of situation.
I can't tell you whether to quit school or not. But whatever you choose, do it for yourself, for what YOU want. Maybe the classes will be much easier the second time, maybe they won't. If you think that staying and finishing this would be best, then go for it. ^_^
Hope that helped...
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ok this is kind of long, but it is important,atleast to me. alright i really like this guy his name is carl. welll carl is alot older than me im 13 and hes 17.carl likes me to and we were dating not going out i donnt know we would justdo sexual things you know?? well last night i met my friends ex boyfriend they only went out for a day his name it bob. bob saw my myspace pictures and he thoought i was really hot we talked on the phone and we like each other alot he asked me out and i said yes i dont know how to tell carl. .... thats my first question. my second one is is that his ex girl friend hates me she got like five people to call him and tell him im fat i am fat thought but i really like him and i wanna stay with him.how can i loose weight before i meet him at movies.
i am fives foot big boned and i anf 140 ilbs. how can i get a flat tummy as soon as i can. i will do anything but i cant run and i dont hav a bike and i cant join a club or whatever. thanks
please dont give me any speacher on how i should not worry about him or whatever.
ps. thats not there real names. haha (link)
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When they are jealous, girls (especially the ex of the guy you like) can be downright vicious. She did that not because she THINKS you're "fat," but to upset you. She's probably pretty mad about the thought of you with her ex.
The relationship asside, don't just change yourself because some random jealous female told you that you're "fat." This guy you like doesn't seem to be bothered by the way you look, either. So if you want to change the way you look, do it because YOU want to, not just to conform to someone else's ideas.
Personally, for workouts I like Tae-Bo. It's fast, fun, and can get you fit fast! It's a workout that involves punching and kicking motions done in time to music. If you're not familiar it, you might be able to get a video at the library about Tae-Bo. Just do it for about a half hour 2-3 times a week.
One more thing... Choose between these two guys. Don't leave both of them on the edge or go very long without telling them what's happening. It might be hard to tell "Carl" that you like someone else, but it has to be done if you want to keep your relationship. Be straightforward, be honest.
Good luck! ^_^
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my fever is 100.9 , is that bad?
I have been having horrible aches and pains, stuffed up sinuses (ears, nose, throat)
and i feel woozy half of the time. (link)
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Your oral temperature range is between 97.6F and 99.6F, I believe. So you're only about a degree above normal, and that's not too bad. Keep an eye on things just in case you start feeling worse, though.
It sounds like you have the flu/cold that's been going around. Just get some rest, some vitamin C, and drink lots of fluids. Keeping your body hydrated is very important when you have the flu.
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Hey! How are you? Do you enjoy being a nurse? I know you arenot familar with me but I am new with advicenaotrs and want to make friends! So I am De (link)
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Hey there! Welcome! ^_^ I'm not a full nurse, I'm a Certified Nursing Assistant.
Being a CNA involves a lot of skills work such as taking vital signs and helping people with what we call ADLs (activities of daily living). That means assisting in bathing, helping people go to the bathroom, and feeding people who can't feed themselves. I will warn you right here: This job is not for everyone. You need to be able to stomache certain smells and sights that would normally make you sick. However, you do get used to it in time (it's still taking me a while =P).
If you're looking for a taste of nursing before you sign up for the LPN (Licenced Practical Nurse) or RN (Registered Nurse) programs, becoming a CNA is a good place to start. You can get a job in almost any hospital or nursing home as a CNA, and many different areas in the medical field are open to you.
Yes, I do enjoy being a Nursing Assistant! I haven't started work yet, but in training we did work with people at a nursing home. It's not the most well-paying job out there, but you're never short of work, and it's a job hat leaves you feeling like you're doing a good service to people who need it.
If you're up for it, check it out! The class to become a CNA only takes about a quarter of a year and will be given by many community colleges. If you call up you're local college, they can probably give much more information about it.
Good luck! There is a shortage of CNAs, LPNs, and RNs these days, and we really need good people in out work places!
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Ok, I'm having problems with my neighbor/really really really good friend. We've been friends since about 2004. Things went great until the beginning of this year. He just started not coming over anymore. He used to sleep over at our house every week but not anymore. His mom has talked to mom and has had problems before. She's really mentally messed up, she just clings to every single little thing she can find wrong with people. For example: One night he called (His name's Kevin) to see if we could play late Saturday night, but we already had some other people over so we told him we couldn't play. So his mom got together everyone in the neighborhood and did some picture-taking outside our lawn (our lawn) just to show he had friends too. xD
And recently, he's been having friends over and not inviting us like CRAZY. He keeps wanting to sleep over on weekends when he's over here but his mom won't ever let him. And his birthday was last week. I at least expected to get invited to his birthday party, but nope. He wanted to, or so he claimed, but his mom already picked out the friends who were coming, and I wasn't on the list.
I don't know why it's gotten like this. He just called asking for me to fix a problem with his Xbox so he and his friends he has over can play, and yet I can't go over there. That's using me right there. I want to be his friend so bad, but I think his mom's spreading lies about us and Kevin's hearing them.
What should I do? Should I distance myself? Thanks for any help. :) (link)
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I went through something similar, only the guy wasn't really my friend and one day the entire family just upped and started treating me like garbage. No reason, either. The mother was the root of it all, the person twisting and controling everything as she saw fit, and I suspect that it's the same in your situation. But the thing about this is that if this mother opposes you about something, chances are that she's gone and whined about it to the rest of her family and that encourages hostile or strange behavior from people that were formerly your friends. Namely, her children.
My advice would be to disacociate yourself with these people as much as you can. Maybe your friend will understand, maybe he won't. The only thing they can cause for you at this point in time is trouble.
The reasons behind it could be anything from the mother being a psychotic control-freak to a matter of difference in religion. For now, just keep it cool, minimize contact and let them be.
Sorry if that wasn't what you wanted to hear... Good luck, though! Situations like this can really bite.
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I'm almost 16. I had a wonderful boyfriend of 8 months. We have been through everything and survived it all. & now he's sick of trying. I need to show him that we can do this, forever. I'll give lots more details if you want to help. Please don't reply if you're just going to tell me to move on.
-Gabohh (link)
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This is a reason why I love Belladonna! ^_^ She gives awesome advice! I can't think of anything to add to what she said...
Good luck!
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I'm in really bad pain. My head is stuffed up, so is my nose. I've been achey all over, my head hurts. I've been so cold, yet so hot at the same time. I also have no appetite and my throat is killing me, feels like I have a ball in the back of my throat. I'm light headed and dizzy, I don't now what's wrong. Do you? Please help. (link)
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Ok... what you're talking about sounds like the general bug that's been going around. I have it even, I feel a bit the same way right now. It looks like a cold, to me... But along with that a light flu. That's as best I can guess...
What I would do about it is get liquids in you. If you dehyrate yourself, you're going to be in a lot worse shape than you are. If you don't feel like drinking water, get some ginger ale, but stir it to get some of the carbonation out so it doesn't bother your stomach. Some vitamin C and echinacea will go a long way as well. But the most important thing by far is REST. Stay away from foods that will bother your throat, too. Dairy tends to build up mucus, so I would stay away from milk and ice cream.
It should go away in a couple days, these things always do. But until it does, take it easy. Rest up, and make sure you don't dehydrate yourself.
Hope you're feeling better soon!
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A couple days ago, on myspace, I was on my friends page, and I saw this guy [one of his skater friends] and I thought he was hott and he lives in my town, and he's my age, so I figured I'd add him as a friend because there are good chances of us already knowing each other. Well it turned out to be one of my ex-boyfriends from a few years ago. You know. We dated when we were young. I was like 13-14 or something. Now I am 17 & He's 18. Well when we were together he liked me a lot and he was really sweet and everything. Like a perfect boyfriend, but we were young, so it really didn't matter. Well now we found out who each other is, and we can't believe we are talking again after these years have gone by. Well the problem is, I have been talking to him again for a couple of days and we talk on the phone and stuff, but he tells me how cute I am, and he brags about me, and he TELLS ME HE LOVES ME. I don't know what to do. I don't want to ignore him anymore, I just want to be friends because I have my most recent ex boyfriend whom I love very much and he just got a job for me and everything. (link)
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If there are no feelings for this guy on your end, then you shouldn't feel bound to return any feelings that he may have. Simply tell him that you just want to be his friend. There are two ways that he'll take it: the good way where he respects you and the bad way where he gets mad because it was a blow to his ego. Don't mean to be rude, but those are pretty much the only ways guys take news like that.
But what's this about you still loving your "ex"? Perhaps this guy is going for you because he thinks tht you're not attached to anyone at the moment?
Be strong, and don't fear being frank with a guy.
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OK please just hear me out i really want to know this . my friend told me that my boyfriend giving me oral sex was like me loosing my virginity is this true? (link)
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Hundreds of years ago, losing your virginity was defined as your hymen being broken by penetration of a man's penis. There was even something about guys keeping the blanket with the blood on it to prove that their wife was a virgin. How does that relate? That's what people would call intercourse or copulation. And that's the definition of "losing your virginity" as far as I see. Oral sex is nothing more than mutual masterbation by use of the mouth. But I would agree with Belladonna and say that it IS a form of sex.
Hope that helped!
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Hello, just wondering how I should go about telling a girl how I feel about her. I am semi-overweight and not really that confident yet. I just want to give it a shot anyway whether it ever happens or not. I have known her for a while so it's not just some random pretty girl that I've never talked to.
I was think about sending roses and etc. with a secret admirer message...would a girl like that? Just looking for some advice on how to handle this.. (link)
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Girls appreciate honesty. If you're straightforward with her, and you don't try to be overly-clever, she'll probably like it. But if you're still not very confident about telling her, then wait a little bit. You want it to come off not as just a random thing, but as something that's been on your mind a while and something that you've really thought over. In the mean time, try to show her with your actions that you like her. Spend time with her, let her know that you're thinking of her, go out of your way to say hello or do something nice for her. When you think that you're ready to tell her, don't spring it on her suddenly, start a conversation with her about a related topic and tell her during the conversation. Give her time to take it in and don't pressure her.
The only experience with "secret admirer" messages that I had was the time another guy sent one to my girlfriend. >.< I don't know about that... Maybe you should try something like taking her somewhere or sharing things that you enjoy with her. Actions speak louder than words!
Best of luck! ^_^
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I want to have a sweet sixteen, but I can't have anything too big because I already had a bat mitzvah. Does anybody have any good, not extrememly expensive ideas for a cute sweet sixteen party? Also, I want some good themes as well. (link)
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Sure, you don't have to have anything big. Just get your best friends together and plan out something like dinner at your house, go to a movie, or check out 16 different shops at the mall. But the imortant thing is get in some quality time with your friends. You'll remember that most. Also, try to incorperate "16" into your party. Like have ice cream at the party with 16 kinds of topings to put on it. =P
I'm doing the same for my 21st which is on Friday. Just something simple with 3 of my friends and a little booze to emphasize the "21" aspect of it. ^_~
Have fun!
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I kinda want guys to answer this question, because they would know this kind of stuff. What makes a girl sexy? (link)
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Well, for starters, the idea of "sexy" greatly differs between guys. For example, I personally find dark hair, green eyes, and a small figure to be incredibily sexy, and that's just the physical part of the attraction.
Though mentally speaking... Sexiness is probably 90% personallity. The image a guy builds of you in his mind determines how sexy he thinks you are. That can be based on how well he knows you or what he thinks of the way you look. Make sure that guys fall in love with the real you.
Girls who are actually "sexy", I believe, are the ones that leave the guy wanting more. (that was told to me by a friend of mine) ...If that makes any sense... Don't worry about being sexy to all guys, because the guy that really loves and cares for you will find you sexy just the way you are.
If you have a bf, do things for him. Let him know that you love him with little reminders, thoughts, notes, and other things. That might not seem in the general definition of "sexy" but if the guy loves you, he will see you that way. Guys like to be thought of by their gf. And attention is a really big turn on for many guys.
So called "sexy clothes" (revealing clothes) don't do much for you besides make guys see you as an object. It's far better to dress sexy for a guy you care about and who cares about you rather than to dress sexy just to get attention from guys.
Hope that helped! I had to have some friends help me on this one... =P Because I'm just one guy with one guy's oppinions.
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Me and my boyfriend were messin around and i was sitting on his lap. if he leaked a little could i get pregnant? Help plz (link)
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Well, I'm not used to sex related questions, but I'll do my best.
Did you both have your clothes on? If you did, and none of the sperm actually got on you or especially on your skin "down there" the chances of you getting pregnant are very small. If however you both had your clothes off and some sperm DID happen to get in the vicinity of your vagina, then there's much bigger chance that you could, in fact, have gotten pregnant from it. But there's a lot of factors to consider such as your period.
Keep an eye on things, you should be pretty aware of your body's monthly funtions. If you start to get really worried in a few days or you miss a period, get it checked out! Next time tell your bf to be a bit more careful, keep your pants on, or keep your baby-making parts away from each other. =P
Good luck! And be a little more careful in the future.
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Ok i have the Font folder in my computer like the one when you open control panel. But i want the font symbol in my aim list of fonts. Its in my Font folder but how do i get it in my AIM list? Easy 5's.
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Well, I don't know how to import fonts to AIM, but I can try to help...
Under "My AIM" on your buddy list there's a menu called "Edit Options" and a submenu there that says "Edit Preferences." There's a font list there and if you check around you might be able to find the font you're looking for because a lot of programs have the same list of fonts. Also, you can access the prefrence window of AIM by having the buddy list up and pressing F3.
Hope that helped...
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Ok.I know that you have to be certain ages to get jobs.But what is the YOUNGEST age that you can get a job and what is the job?? Please help!Thank you! (link)
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I think it depends on what state you're living in... Here in WA, the minimum age is about 15, I think. Also, you might get paid less as a minor if your employer chooses to do that. A place like Safeway can be a goodplace to start. I began work at a flower farm and loved it! Check around, go to local businesses and not just big companies like Safeway, and ask as many questions as you need to!
You'll get a job! Good luck!
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Hey, tomorrow I'm gonna buy a digital camera with these gift certificates I got which are for Best Buy. Each gift card is $30 each, and I have $20 also to spend on it. I'm just wondering if anyone knows of any good cameras that I can buy with that much money, and which kinds are really good quality. Thanks so much :]
I'll rate! (link)
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My advice would be to save up a little bit more and buy a better camera. It's hard to find anything good for around $100. Once you get into the $150+ then the cameras start to get a lot better, will take better pictures, and will probably last longer. I have an Olypus Stylus 300 which I am very pleased with, and it was about $250 when it came out. But I think you can get a newer version for even cheaper now.
Also, ask the guys at Best Buy. They know what they're talking about and could be really helpfull.
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Theres this girl i really like in my class when she found out i liked her she told her friends well im dating someone and she actually was and she told me this that she had a bf like 4 or 5 times and she wrote me a note saying i should repsect dat she already had a bf. Now could this mean she likes me but she has a bf at the moment and maybe i could be her bf in the future when she breaks up wid him and she is like kinda nervous and shy around me and quiet and i catch her looking at me my fair share of times help plzzz i really like this girl. (link)
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Almost anyone can "like" a person. But it takes real strength to actually "love" someone. I'm not talking about love in the sense of bf/gf or husband/wife, I'm talking about simply caring for someone. Part of love is respect. And respect in this situation most likely means backing off when she tells you that she has a boyfriend. You can cause a lot of problems for yourself, others, and wreck any chance at a friendship with this girl if you do not respect what she's telling you. She's probably nervous and shy around you because she knows you have feelings for her, and it's made the situation awkward.
Don't worry about her liking you or not. Rather, think about showing her how much you respect her choice and that will say more than anything at this point in time.
On one more note... Put yourself in her boyfriend's shoes. Would you want some guy lurking around your gf waiting for a chance to snatch her even after she's told him "No"?
Take Care!
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I've made the biggest mistake of my life letting him go. Now he is with another girl, and it is too late. No matter how much I convince myself that I dont care for him anymore, everything always comes back to him. We actually had something together, and I pushed him away, just like that. I was afraid, I didnt want to get hurt. But I pushed him towards another girl, and I hate what I've done. He was my secure foundation, and now he doesnt even want me in his life. I cant stand knowing that its so easy for him to just erase me from his life, while its the most difficult thing I have ever been put through. We both liked eachother from the beginning, and I was too afraid to admit it, he was just too shy. But now that I've admitted it to him, he and his friends all make a joke about it. he comes around every single day with his new girlfriend and I cant even look up because I dont want to give him the satisfaction of my jealousy. and it doesnt help that his group of friends tell him and his new girl to walk by me a million times just to see my reaction. It hurts like nothing that Ill ever be able to explain (link)
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Getting over someone you once cared about or still do is very hard. You're walking away from all you knew, and everything looks uncertain. But in walking away and letting it go, you're freeing yourself of what bound you to something that wasn't permanent. Moving on can seem near impossible, but in the end it's worth it. You'll be free to find someone even better, though you think that such a person might not exist. But they do, trust me.
The best I can do is offer some simple advice. Instead of trying to just conquer this yourself, get your friends who you trust to help. Go to a movie (not a romantic one), find activities to keep your mind busy.
Advice on the guy... This might be a bit hard to swallow for some, but: a guy who was really "worth it" wouldn't turn around and try to make you jealous by showing off some other girl. There are much better guys in the world, and if you keep your standards high you'll find one, or he'll find you.
Good luck!
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Ever since the guy that I liked told me that he likes me back, it has been really awkard between us. The thing is that we liked each other since 7th grade but we never really said anything til this year. When we see each other in the hallways in school we just look at each other and we don't say anything. I'm told that I should be the one to talk to him first but I'm just scared and I don't really know what I can say besides hi. When I see him or when we look at each other itz like I just freeze up and I get these butterflies in my stomach. What should I do? (link)
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He's made the step and told you that he likes you. The ball is "in your court" so to speak. If you do like this guy, and you've liked him for a while, you migh want to consider saying something to him. Shyness is a part of the begining of a relationship, and it's completely natural. Feelings now are different because one of you has been open about how they feel. Yes, things are changed between you two now, but whether that's a good or bad change is up to you. If you do like him, be brave! ^_^ Sit with him at lunch, say hello when you see him. He's probably nervous that he's screwed things up and is waiting for you to answer.
Be brave and best of luck! I hope this helped somewhat...
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