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okay so i have always been turned on by a naked female but i always thought so did everyone period and that it didnt mean i was a lesbian. but lately i have been craving more and more to be with a girl sexually and emotionally. i end up catching myslef having a crush on a girl and wanting to hook up with her but i cant bring myself to actually do it. idk if its because i really am not a lesbian or if i am and dont know how to get something started with a girl. can somebody help me? (link)
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you know I know very few girls who don't get turned on my other girls...I have had those "cravings" to. It doesn't mean I am going to go through with it it's just thoughts.
The real way to know is to ask yourself if you are into guys. If you are in to both you are probably bi! To be a girl and bi is so much easier than a guy. Most people I have encountered embrace girls that are bi.
You are still young and just don't fret it.
hope I helped
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is lindsay lohan a lesbian with samantha?
is samantha a lesbian? why does she dress like a guy / sorta look like a guy? or is she just a cross-dresser? (link)
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you know I think it might just be the tabloids being asses but if they aren't and it's true...honestly I think that is cool...I think she would be an awesome lesbian and besides Sam does good for her...
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Okay, since I've been with my boyfriend, his ex has been harassing me.
Threatening to kill me, late phone calls, prank calls, throwing harsh sentences as she goes down the hall.
We took it to the principal, more than once, he never done a thing.
I had to spend the last three days of my sisters senior year at the house while she still went to school.
This summer she's even egged my boyfriends house, four times.
My mom went to file charges with the CDW.
My boyfriend ex is phycho, seriously. She'll never stop.
We've even called it truths, not once, not twice, but THREE TIMES!
And she just wont stop.
She's now accusing me of harassing her, saying i called her, then she asks for my number, she's just wanting an excuse.
Its gotten so bad, that mom and dad are threatening to change schools if I don't do something about it.
I would fight her, but the truth is, I'm afraid of the embarassment of getting whooped.
Please help...if you need more info I'll be happy to give. (link)
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you should record the phone calls and bring them to the police. I would hate for you to have to leave a school because of her you know. It's not your fault she is doing this and you shouldn't have to be punished for it.
You need something to be solved and that is the only way for it to stop. you and your bf should do this. Do not threaten her...don't call her...let her call you...then she won't have any evidence that you were doing it to her.
hope I helped
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Okay, I was late for my period the month of June. The I had sex on the 28th of July and started bleeding for like 2 days but it went away... We didn't use a condom (yes i know stupid move) but it just kinda happened, but the bleeding stopped and i am pretty sure the bleeding was just my hymen, but that would mean i never got my period the month of July. I know it is always possible to get pregnant, but how likely is it that I could be pregnant now? (link)
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All I have to say is get tested. I just found out I was prego and we used a condom. If you had sex around the time you were supposed to have your period there may be a chance you are pregnant.
Believe me if you are it is not the end of the world. I do believe that those things happen for a reason.
But get tested before you start freaking out.
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Hi,
I wanted to ask is there any way to decrease the length of my period, so shorten it? Are there any natural ways? nothing like pills or birth control but other stuff? And does excercise make it last longer or shorter?
Thanks a lot everyone and for all your help in advance.
M.
xxx (link)
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there is one way...it's not a for sure happen over night thing but I have heard that if you start to exercise more it can sometimes change your period in that way.
But if I were you I would go for the pill...try yaz it made my period way less...about half the blood and one less day.
hope I helped
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Anyone known any sites where I can download South Park episodes for free, for my iPod?
Thankss! (link)
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allsp.com and southparkzone.com have every episode for free and it is legal because for some reason the writers want them to be free on the net for everyone to see. I think southparkzone is under maintance right now so I would go to allsp.com.
I don't think you can download them to an ipod though. sorry!
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I am a 41 year old man. I have been divorced for 5 yrs. I have been dating a woman on and off for the same five years. We had split it off about a yr and a half ago. I missed her very bad and had began seeing another woman. She started coming around my house and kept trying to get me back. Finally I gave in and blew it off with the other girl. We started seeing each other again and I ended up asking her to marry me last year in Feb.
I have a 16 yr old son who lives with me. He has been thru alot since the divorce. His mom not only walked out on me, but also the kids. My daughter is now 21 and on her own. My son is a big concern.
Last year I purchased a home about 30 miles away in the hometown of my fiance and she moved in with me. My son was upset about the move but in the year since, he has come to love our new town.
My fiance and came up with a financial agreement that She'd pay the mortgage of $1300/month and I'd pay the rest of the bills which total about $2000/month.
Here's the big issue. We used to have a pretty decent sex life except for the fact that she will not give oral sex. The rest of the relationship I thought was good enough that I thought I could probably look past it. I love oral, both giving and receiving.
Our relationship, though not perfect, is extremely good and we are best friends. Except, now she is not interested in sex at all and she's decided that we can have sex every other night. There is no flexibility in this with her. And when its MY NIGHT, then she says to hurry up and let her know when I'm ready. There is no foreplay, no arrousal. She doesn't even participate, at all. Now she don't even let me give her oral, though I'm good at it and she orgasm's every time.
She says I have the problem. It's to the point that I don't want to do anything at all or even be around her if it's not MY NIGHT. I long for passion and romance and she gives me none.
I've tried to talk to her but she refuses point blank to talk about it. I'm very unhappy and very unfulfilled in this relationship.
Two things worry me the most. My son, who has been through so much, is finally beginning to feel stable. If I dump her, then he's hurt again.
Secondly, I love my home very much, though, had we not made a plan, I wouldn't have bought it. It takes both incomes to manage the bills.
I really love her. Either I dump her or resign myself to an unfulfilled sex life.
Also, I've been cheating on her with a 29 yr old. (she's 45). The 29 year old is a freak in the sack and satisfies me immensly. I'm not making a decision based on my affair, but I can't take it anymore. I hate drama, and breaking up is big drama.
I see no more use. She just don't satisfy me. I don't like cheating and can and would be faithful to someone who put a small effort into pleasing me. I think a lazy lover who does not even try to please me is in way being unfaithful.
Is dumpsville the enevitable? Or am I being unreasonable and should change my thinking? (link)
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I think that there has to be a reason to her not wanting sex. More than likely she may be going through metapause but is to scared to express it or deal with it in general. Sex is very important in a relationship but I do not think it is something to break up about.
I would like to address your cheating. I know you say you don't like cheating but you know what...then you should stop. I don't care how little sex you are getting at home, if you love the one you are with there is no reason to cheat. You have a hand use it! Think about what will happen if she finds out you have been cheating. I think that is much more of a problem than her not giving you sex.
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Ok well here's the deal. I was with a guy for around like 7 months. Then we broke up, and went on a month break, but we never really stopped caring about each other. I broke up with him because he was really disrespectful and basically took me for advantage. He didn't know what he had at all. Then we got back together because he wanted me back, and i still really cared about him. We went back out for about 1 1/2 months then i broke up with him agian. He totally acted like he didn't care at all...again, and so i wasn't going to put up with that. He even asked me to go over to his exgirlfriends house. This exgirlfriend is easy, and hooked up with him before we started going out. I said i wouldn't like it if he went. He reluctently said ok, but then after that things only even worse. He was a total jerk and stood me up.
I know that i may be making him sound bad right now, but this is all the pain he's caused me. And i mean you know, easy right, if someone causes you pain you don't go back to them. I guess its just that i want to believe he'll change. And for the most part he is changing. Like he is trying harder but maybe its because he knows he can't control me anymore. I don't know. And to make matters worse he is pressuring me to go back out with him when i don't know what i want.
Next problem. I've kinda had another guy stick around for me through all this. He's been there for me through everything, and helped me out all the times i was miserable from my boyfriend (ex now). I really want to give him a chance but i'm scared he'll hurt me like my ex-boyfriend did. Also i can't quite let go of my ex-boyfriend. I want to be with him, but i know it's bad for me. Also, this new guy is kinda pushing me to go out with him too, and i really don't know if i can do that. I mean i feel bad because they both want to go out with me, but i don't know how to say no, so i feel like im leading them on when i just don't want to hurt their feelings.
What should I do in your opinion? (link)
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ok, just bear with me. i am not cassie, who is the one you actually are asking for help. my name is james, and i am cassie's fiance. i was looking over this site because she said how she felt proud of everything she does for others. but then i saw your question, and trust me, i know a lot about this subject. before i calmed down, and found the girl of my dreams, i was exactly like your ex. from how you describe your ex, he is attempting to play both sides of the field. he wants you for the simple fact that he feels that no one should be able to have you, but he feels that he should be allowed to do what ever he wants, like go over to his easy ex's house. the way i used to be, i would have three or four women that i was having relations with, and going out with the one i knew would give in to my demands. it is very good that you are believing in yourself and not putting up with his shit, i am now a firm believer in the power of will. you should never be in a relationship that the other person is neglectful or emotionally harmful. it is best that you stand strong, and believe in what you know in your heart. he is not the one to be with. i know feelings are a bitch, but trust me, it is better not to repeat old mistakes. my father always said "fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me." and i think that is a perfect motto for this situation. if you know it wont turn out well, dont let him sway you.
as for the friend, all i can say is follow your heart and mind. if you think he is like your ex and will hurt you, then tell him no. but if you know he is a good person, and if he has been there for you in a kind and understanding way, maybe he is a good person to be with. true, pushy guys probably suck (personally, i have never had to deal with them. lol) but maybe he sees the way that your ex treated you, and is trying to help you in his own way. i dont know him, but if he has been nothing but supportive, i doubt he is like your ex. but then again, i am just the one giving advice, you are the only one who knows what is best for you. i hope that you make the best choices you can, love with all your heart, and find the light in the darkest of situations.
best of wishes,
james
ps. sorry about me answering your questions instead of cassie. i hope that i was helpful.
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I am a mother of 5, with the two youngest being my step children, ages 14 and 12. My husband and I have the children full time with the exception of every other weekend, they spend with their mom. Ok this is the situation. I have been their step mom for ten years.I have watched them grow, have attended school functions, teacher parent conferences, school trips, all althletic functions, etc... The birth mom, we will call suzy, treats the two different. The oldest gets everything she askes for.. from clothes, shopping, weekend trips, etc.. The youngest gets an occasional shirt or small item. She is very angry at her mom and says things like I hate my mom, I hate my sister, my mom loves her more than me, my mom promises me things and never keeps her promises, etc.. I am becoming very concerned with her anger. I have done very well at keeping my mouth shut when it involves their mother. And I want the youngest to have her lime lit, to feel special, etc..However, I do not want to stoop to the level of their mother and include one in something special and not the other... We always include all 5 of our kids, no matter what we do..we always have..I just dont understand how a mother can put one child so much higher than the other...And she is hurting...I always insure her that she is loved just as equal and all the other children we have...But she always poses the question, "why does my mom love ____ more than me." I dont have an answer for her..My advide has always been, I can't answer for your mom, thats something you will have to ask her. Is there any suggestions to help me out in this situation? What more can I do? Am I giving her the wrong advice? Please help....Desperate step mom.... (link)
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It is not too early, (at 12), for this young one to start learning hard lessons. We are all here to learn and grow, it is obvious that the youngest has a bit more to deal with. Help her understand that life is about learning and books are not the only place you learn from. Hate is a hard emotion to over come, but until she does, it will haunt her life. It is not her that is the recipient of a perceived injustice, it is the oldest you must watch, for the lessons she will come away from with this treatment will wreak more havoc on her future then what the 12 year old will go through.
I know this is not what you want to hear, you want to hear how to fix this and get the mom to stop her bias treatment, but that will never happen. Many people play favorites, parents, teachers, bosses, it will happen all her life, teach her to deal with it now, she will be much stronger for it. Not knowing this child, I can not tell you how to approach her, you should best know that. She needs to understand that her mother is no different from a lot of other people out there and love comes only in one degree, but "like" has many degrees.
Be well and good luck,
Gilbert Mar
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well im the definition of "loner" i only have about 3 or 4 friends in this whole world. my boyfriend used to be my best friend, but he cant be my friend anymore because everything has changed since we started dating. im really happy with him, but i miss our friendship. i have another close friend, Nona, but she has so many friends besides me and shes always busy so im left alone. My boyfriend lives 20 minutes away and im not driving yet, so we only see eachother on fridays. and my other 1 or 2 friends i only talk to every now and again. like maybe once or twice a month. so they are more aquantince(sp) then anything. i always say that im happy where i am because i dont like being surrounded by people because im uptaining closterphobia(sp). but i just want a few more friends that i can talk to and hang out with and stuff. im fixing to try to get a lifeguard job, and that should add to my friend status, but im really shy. and i never start conversations. and see, all the time when i try to get friends? we become friends and then i get excited and just annoy them to death without even knowing it. or i do something wrong and they dump me. im just confused and lonely and bored and im already out of school so i have NOTHING to suck up the time with! and the lifeguard classes dont start until june...and i have nothing to do till then. any advice on how to get friends?? (link)
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Welcome to the club, it's a big one! We are all loners, when it comes down to it. We come into this life alone, we will go out alone and we will feel alone in the middle. Believe it or not, it is most likely that the friends you have now, will not be friends in 10 years, you'll have a whole new set. And if you can't be friends with your boy friend, then you are with the wrong boy friend. My best friend in the world is my wife. There is no one I would rather be with, talk to, or knows more about me then her. The fact that you feel this way about him tells me you are too young for a steady relationship, go back to being friends and if it's meant to be, it will develop into a much stronger relationship. As the poster said before me, smile and get to know as many people as you can. I would add, don't be afraid. rejection is a part of life, there will be those who will reject you, that's their loss. Your only interested in finding those who will except you for who you are.
Bell well dear one,
Gilbert Mar
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Tonight was the last straw and my Mom said tomarrow morning she's calling someone for me to talk to because she's done with my crap. I did explode tonight... but Im not going to someone to talk to "because they care" when they obvously dont considering there gettying paid awesome money. Why waste my parents money for my to sit in a room... and listen to some guys words. She would rather send me to some guy so she wont have to deal with the facts SHE SUCKS AS A MOTHER! I told my Dad off tonight because he was being an asshole and I told him he didn't love me because if he did he would atleast try to quit smokeing. He's reocvering from a heart attack but has changed nothing in his life. Im not goign to some fucking therapist because "I bottle my emotions" how to I convince my Mom i dont need to go and to stop botteling my emotions because i eventually explode
even tho i dont I justdnt tell them anything because they suck at listening (link)
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Too many young ones don't realize that their parents are just like them. We all are going through life trying desperately not to screw up and failing miserably. You did not come with a hand book for your parents to read and most books are pure physcobable. Parents turn to consolers out of fear and who can blame them? In doing so you should recognize the fact that they do love you. They are afraid that you will do something stupid and they may lose you, (as you fear the loss of your father). The thing that sets us apart from animals is our ability to reason, this also comes with our right to choose. We can be stupid with our choices, or smart, your dad chooses to be stupid and continue his bad habit. This is what it is to be human, your choices will define your fate, make sure you're starting your life with the right ones and except the fact that he has the right to make his. Perhaps in doing this your parents will except the fact that you have the right to make your's. Be calm in your speaking with your parents, show them that you are trying to be adult and are in control of your choices and that you are trying to make the right ones. You have the right to your private thoughts, but you need to show them through actions that those thoughts are not unhealthy. Speak your piece with them once and stop your nagging. Your father knows your concern, but to dwell on it is not healthy and they know it. Yes, this will bring him to an early demise, you know it, but so does he. Part of being an adult is realizing that death is apart of living. If you dwell on death, you miss living. So stop "telling them off," and except them for the flawed human beings they are. Stop living your life in fear and start living it in knowledge. Get to know your parents for what they are, not what you want them to be. No matter what you do, some day they will be gone and with it your opportunity to really know them will be gone too. Stop thinking of them as your parents and start thinking of them as friends, for that is what they truly are.
Be well,
Gilbert Mar
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Okay why do most girls go for bad guys?? i mean i like guys with a rugged side but also a sweet side too, which is what i mean. Why do some girls want all bad?? I think it is exhilerating...but like others either say No Way or push it further...Im talking to someone who is somewhat of a bad boy, but he is sweet, he just gets into fights, not with me, with others...but every one is all like why do that?? and is all judging him and what not and its completely retarded (link)
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honestly, I don't see too many girls who like bad boys. I think if girls do it might be because they think the boy will protect them if they are ever in trouble. Some girls think that all boys are bad also, either bad or dorks. Which is not true at all. If I were you if you like your bf you would just ignore the judgments. They don't know him and you do.
My boyfriend has done many stupid things and people judge him all the time and I think it is completely retarded because he is also the nicest guy in the world (in my opinion).
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i never tried this ask a random columnist thing before but oh well. Im 15 years old, female, from a small small town and like every teenager i have issues. sometimes i just feel so alone and i have friends and they are the best and i have family who are great as well but still i cant help but feel alones sometimes, also i cant help but feel like im not doing what im supposed to be doing like somehow im living a different life than what i was supposed to. i just need someone to talk to and maybe someone who can relate you dont need to answer this but u if do thats great too (link)
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It sucks to not know if you are going down the right path. You very well might not be going down the right path and you may need to reevaluate your life and figure out what you want for your life. Find something you are passionate about and do it.
I have felt that loneliness this past couple months also. I don't have great friends like you do though, but I think you feel like you want or need more and that definetly could be what you have to figure out.
Try meditating and asking yourself the questions you want answered.
I hope I helped.
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Alright so here's the deal I'm female and 20 years old,
I was with this guy lets say "X" for secrecy. Five months, I really felt a connection with him so deep that when I fell or hurt myself he'd be like ohh my hand hurt today and i don't know why... But things started to get hard and we argued a LOT and broke up. The night we broke up he was IMing my best friend and they had umm phone sex? I found out the next day and was so hurt, that I went straight to this guy who I had been flirting with while i was with "X" we'll call him "Y". So me and "Y" we have EVERYTHING in common from music to food to movies etc etc etc we haven't found anything that we don't both like. He told me he loved me and wanted to be with me and I told him I loved him... but today I just feel confused am I doing the right thing? Who should I choose X or Y???? I have no idea. Has anyone else ever been in this situation? (link)
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I have not been in this situation but you just need to look at who makes you happier.
If I had to choose I would probably give up on "x" because it seems like he has given up on you. In the end it is you and your heart that has to make the choice.
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I saw a guy holding a bag for his girlfriend I thought it was lazy for the girl to not do it your self. And I am a girl. When I said it out load "why is he holding her bag?" my friend said "because it is an act of kindness!!" she said strict and firm to me while glaring at me? Why? It’s like she saying "you don’t do that!" but we not a couple. (link)
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you know what I think your friend might think? Men are supposed to do everything for girls. Like it is a duh thing. It isn't right at all and any guy who goes along with it all the time is pretty sad. I guess every once in a while it is ok and you never know that girl might have not been thinking that and she just wanted his help really quick. You never know the situation.
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I've been with me boyfriend for 2 years now and i love him a lot..He has such a hold on my heart and he just doesint know how bad i love him..instead of believing i love him he tells me i dont and gives me so many examples of why i dont..it just hurts when you know you love someone and they just deny your love...ANy way i wanted to know how i should i handle my boyfriends controliveness..he gets mad when i get dresses for school and say that i dont get dreesed for him the reason why i dont get dresses for him is beacuse when i do he says smart things like what! you wear them tight jeans to school or yea you like wearing that tight top to school huh? so i stopped getin dresses for him to prevent his comments..so now he gets mad when i dress for school...what do i do what should i say to him??? (link)
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I know you love him and this might be hard to hear, but he might have a problem that needs attention. My bestfriend is in this type of relationship and I don't see it getting better unless he gets help.
The problem is, is that it will be extremely hard for him to understand it. If this is a huge issue for you, you have to think very hard about what to do.
You could talk to him to try to convince him to seek help, you could have a deep conversation with him and hope it clicks for him, or you could dump him and see if that makes him change. Any way you look at it, it will be difficult.
I am sorry if I didn't help you but that is the way I see it and it is not a cut and dry solution.
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I'm a worthless human being. I've been a worthless human being for a pretty long time, but I've just now come to accept it.
I've decided I want to die. However, I'm too much of a coward to go through with it. Perhaps it's the thought of pain, maybe it's the risk of failing at failing.
In any case, whatever some (Relatively) painless and (Relatively) reliable suicide methods, preferabley accessable to the common 20-something who doesn't work in a hospital? (link)
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You use the word "Human Being," yet obviously don't understand its meaning. Anyone can give you many reasons to kill themselves, most can not give you one reason to live. I will tell you a secret, one you must explore and understand. A human being and your purpose is wrapped with in the word. We are the marring of the "Human" animal and the Spiritual "Being". It is the animal that wishes you to give up, it is the spirit that wishes control instead. As long as you live under the control of the animal, your life will be this perceived nightmare you wish to escape.
I will tell you the best way to kill yourself, live without caring, commit to nothing, neither lead nor follow, never try to improve, most of all ignore what you are and what your spirit wants of you and never try to be important! Most people try to do things to make themselves appear important, few are willing to do what it takes to be important for that involves taking risks and sticking your neck out.
Search for reasons to live young one, reasons to die are easy to find.
Be well,
Gilbert Mar
I feel bad that you don't understand. It did answer your question and you should really listen to it. It has nothing to do with religion. I am not a religious person at all. It is the truth about life and I am sad that you don't understand it. I will give advice to people if I think I can help them even if it is not the answer you wanted it is an answer to the question put forth. My advice to you would to be don't ask questions on here and expect every answer to please you.
I hope in some way you can understand what I am trying to say. If you don't I am sorry and I wish you the best.
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me and my best friend have been friends for a while we do everything together but here lately she has been telling me that my boyfriend was making out with his ex girlfriend and that he was cheating on me and when i ask him about it and my other friends they tell me that they havnt ever seen him kiss another girl and that he would never cheat on me but because of what my best friend it caused me and my boyfriend to break up so i dont know what to do any more. (link)
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I am sure your best friend is jelous. It happens to the best of us. you are going in a different direction than your friend and she is not liking it. You need to tell her that your life is your own and that hers is hers. Many people try to make you who they want you to be and you cannot let her do that!
Tell her that she has to stop lying and even if she is telling the truth you will find out on your own and that is not her business or her place to interfer.
I hope I helped
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how do you get rid of the wall-wall. Cause when i look at other peoples profiles some of them have their wall-wall so you cant look at the conversations between them
how do i do that? like make the "see wall to wall" under every comment invisible or something. Thanks (link)
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the reason some are hidden is simply because you are not friends with the person that one of you friends is having the convo with... I don't think you can hid it or get rid of it.
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Okay, My mate is fifteen and she went to a parety a few months ago and drank too much then slept with a guy from her class.
They were both virgin's before hand but she now recons she could have a sexually transmitted infection... Is that possible?
And also I think she should go to see a doctor for help but she's scared because she is under age for having sex.. Can they do anything like with the law or something if she asks for help? And also if she does have an S.T.I doesn't she have to tell the guy she slept with... how can she do that? help.. I'm worried about her, they can be serious sometimes right? x (link)
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most std's (sti's) have to come from having sex with someone else before that. In the us the girl wouldn't have to say anything but the fact that she had sex. She would not get in trouble unless the parent makes trouble.
What are her symptoms? It could be something else that has to do with sex but is still perfectly normal.
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