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Why did she sound strict?
I saw a guy holding a bag for his girlfriend I thought it was lazy for the girl to not do it your self. And I am a girl. When I said it out load "why is he holding her bag?" my friend said "because it is an act of kindness!!" she said strict and firm to me while glaring at me? Why? It’s like she saying "you don’t do that!" but we not a couple.
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you know what I think your friend might think? Men are supposed to do everything for girls. Like it is a duh thing. It isn't right at all and any guy who goes along with it all the time is pretty sad. I guess every once in a while it is ok and you never know that girl might have not been thinking that and she just wanted his help really quick. You never know the situation.
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I know of guys who refuse to hold a purse while a women tries something on/ties her shoe lace/whatever, and frankly, I'm with your friend on this one: It's an act of kindess and is very gentlemanly and polite of him to hold her purse.
Now, like any kind act, he might have been being taken advantage off and being asked to hold it for an unjustified reason, or for too long. But that is up to HIM to decide, not you.
When it doubt, assume the best of people, not the worst. Although I'm not a mind-reader, I would imagine that is why she sounded strict, because you automatically assumed the worse about those two people, instead of seeing huge possibilty of goodness in them both.
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