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hey im 23 i live in this campsite with a bunch of my family ((dont ask, long story)) and i had a boyfriend who i'd been with since i was 18. we were going to get married and he proposed to me, and it was after we made up because my brother and our friends had helped us to make up because we were fighting for various reasons. well, he proposed to me and then the next day i went somewhere with my 2 girlfriends and i ran into this kid who i went out with for a pretty long time in highschool. we got to talking and he didnt know i had a boyfriend. well the same night i was sitting talking with everyone and my cellphone rang and it was him. he told me he found out i had a boyfriend and he hung up on me and sounded really upset. so i went out to talk to him with my 2 girlfriends and we didnt come back until about 3 in the morning. well my fiance stayed up waiting for me and when i came in he asked why i wasnt home earlier and accused me of cheating on him ((one of the fights we previously had was because he was cheating on me)) and well i got mad and he never came to bed that night ((we share a gigantic camper with about 8 people)) and i woke up the next morning and found a note that said he was out just like i had been and would be back later. so he came back then the next morning and he was drunk so i threw the ring at him and i pretty much kicked him out. well i went back to him after having a boyfriend and told him i still loved him and he told me he didnt want me to find out this way but he had a girlfriend. so now i like him and i dont know what to do because deep down i think he really does like me. he ran his car into a tree when we broke up the one time and idk hes just really comfusing. (link)
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Theres really no way to know unless you ask him -- But he might not say the truth because he has a g.f but you never know -- Straight out tell him how you feel the worst he can do is say i dont feel the same way -- But if he got mad that you had a b/f then theres deff. something there i mean why would he get mad if he was just a friend right??!! GO FOR IT -- If he doesnt feel the same way its his loss not yours!
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Okay I really love to swim and cheelead but next year I will be a freshman and I will need to chose.. I love both.. but which one would be better for me?? I am 14 and I have a pretty busy life.. my sister is also a cheerleader and she quit swimming.. plz help me out.. but now i got to go to 7th hour in school.. thank you..
Kaydee (link)
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Both of them are very good athletic sports -- But cheerleading is LOTS of fun, games..competitions, you make alot of friends -- and its good for college follow your heart which one would you rather do? swim or have fun giggling with your friends...
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How do u get a girl to kiss you? Or find out if she wants you to kiss her? or let her know that u want her to kiss you or be kissed by u?
Thnx 4 da help! (link)
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Bring up the topic of kissing...lips, anything that has to do with kissing, try and send her signals..maybe talk to one of her friends and have her mention it to her -- Shell get the idea after awhile, do small things like kiss her hand, cheek, fore-head .:.
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i fink i may have add.its attention defiect(sp?)disorder.does aneone knw the simptoms?i cant sit still for more than half an hour and my concentration span is like 10 mins.i always get told of for talking and not concentrating.one of my teachers said that i might have it and im also dyslexic and it might be linked.wat do you fink?neone know ne websits i could go on?thank you (link)
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Theres alot but its very helpful:
The ADD symptoms of Attention Deficit Disorder come in many forms and no two people display the same symptoms of ADD or ADHD. The symptoms of ADD or ADHD manifest itself in undue passivity or inattentiveness, or uncontrollable, aggressive hyperactivity.
unable to sit still, plan ahead, finish tasks, or be fully aware of what's going on around them
Ok so i found this other thing...
SYMPTOMS OF INATTENTION
a. often ignores details; makes careless mistakes
b. often has trouble sustaining attention in work or play
c. often does not seem to listen when directly addressed
d. often does not follow through on instructions; fails to finish
e. often has difficulty organizing tasks and activities
f. often avoids activities that require a sustained mental effort
g. often loses things he needs
h. often gets distracted by extraneous noise
i. is often forgetful in daily activities
SYMPTOMS OF HYPERACTIVITY-IMPULSIVITY
Hyperactivity
a. often fidgets or squirms
b. often has to get up from seat
c. often runs or climbs when he shouldn't
(in adults, feelings of physical restlessness)
d. often has difficulty with quiet leisure activities
e. often "on the go", as if driven by a motor
f. often talks excessively
Impulsivity g. often blurts out answers before questions have been completed
h. often has difficulty waiting his turn
i. often interrupts or intrudes on others
I KNOW I KNOW its ALOT and time consuming...
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i got my first kiss at this campground i go to, and it was with this kid whos always been my friend, and we always hang out with like 8 other people. none of them know that me and him had a connection. well a couple of days ago my brother called me on my cellphone while i was out with my boyfriend and a couple friends and he said that the boy i kissed had called him and told him because he couldnt keep it a secret anymore. so my brother called me and told me he knew, and he was flipping out on me, and i guess he was being so loud that my boyfriend heard it, and he got upset and wouldnt talk to me and was always avoiding me. it was a long time ago that we kissed, but he didnt know that so he thought i was cheating on him, and he got pretty upset. i dont know what to do, because he wont listen to anything i say. and im afraid my brother will tell everyone else at the campsite, and i dont want them to know because then when we hang out things will never be the same. (link)
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Talk to your boyfriend -- Sit him downa nd tell him what happened -- If he doesnt understand then hes not the guy you thought he was -- Im sure hell understand when you tell him just gotta find a way so hell sit down and hear you out: Call him, online, email, when you see him pull him away from everyone
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I have a large group of really close friends. Two who some would say are the most popular are starting to be really badly bullied by this jelous cow with no real friends. She has been being horrible to them for a long time, but now things are getting nasty. One of these two friends today got really badly shouted, e.c.t at, punched in the back ( which is really bad for her, as she has a bad spine and needs to wear a back brace) and her hair pulled so badly, I mean really pulled. In the shouting, she insulted her so much as well- calling her a jewish bitch and so on. All my other friends and I did all we could to break up the conflict and she would have done much more if we weren't there. I have a feeling this is going to get much worse. We have told the teachers, but this is going to make her so angry. This is all over nothing, simply them being popular. Both friends were left crying. For ages we have ran away whenever we have seen them ( she has her gang). What can I do to stop this from getting worse? Also, the other friend has a bad self image (even though boys think she is best looking in the school) and has been a cutter in the past. What can I do to help my friends and stop the bullying? (link)
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If any harm happenes to your friends bodies and they get a broken bone or something worse, your friend can sue this girl -- A teacher can really only talk to the student and tell them to stop, maybe detention -- Thats only going to make her even more mad and come back -- Tell her mom, police, SOMEONE and if worse comes to worse self defence is NOT crime -- You have the right to defend your body
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I helped my friend get a boy, who is also my friend. She said she really liked him and totally wanted to go out. So I hooked them up. The boy is really sweet and really likes her. The day after they were together. She says to me that she's going to break up with him because she's in love with her ex from like a year ago. (And he doesn't like her like that.) She got me to hook them up, and she's going to break his heart after he admits his feelings for her. I don't think thats right. i told her she said she'll give him 1 week tops. I don't know what I should do
PLease help (link)
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Talk to her in two days and she what she says -- Tell her straight up what you just said "he doesnt like her like that" -- You can always clue in your guy friend and let him know whats going on in her mind and let them settle it, if shes gunna dump him then its her loss not your fault
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ok i need a serious answer on this because i am really confused. i want to shave "down there" but i don't know how because last time i did i got major razor burn and itched forever and it was soooo uncofortable so i don't know how to do it and how much to take off... do you shave all of it off? please help (link)
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Be very careful with your razor, buy one for sensative skin -- and a girls type of shaving cream...you can take it all off..but your skin needs time to get used to shaving ebcause your very sensative in that area..after doing it wait about 5-7 days before shaving again otherwise youll get cuts, put lotion on after you shave..it will make it smooth
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ok, so i meet this guy online. i know what you are thinking....oohhh how dangerous, he could be a murderer...but hes not. i've talked to his friends and i know almost everything about him. i even quizzed him to make sure. he has become one of my really good friends. we always talk when he's online, but im not allowed to call him anymore. i always feel myself missing him when he isnt online, and i crave to talk to him so much. i think i like him, but i havent seen a picture of him, let alone seen his face. i live in new york and he lives in canada. i always talk about him, and it really annoys my friends. i know he is single, but how do i tell him i like him?? we always flirt...its obvious really, but i dont know how he feels about me. (link)
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Well seeing what the other people posted -- there right but wrong, i've beent here before, he could be who he says he is, yet again he could be lying, you never know, ask if he has a pic...tell him you like him -- if you flirt already whats the harm done? and plus its only online not like hes seeing you in skool everyday -- Whats the harm done? he can only say Yes i like you OR no i dont, but still flirt..it wont kill you..
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ok me and this guy, jeremy have been hanging out. he's a year younger than me (school-wise) because he failed, and we met through my best friend.she and him are good friends, so yeah ;) well jeremy has a friend paul, that likes my friend ewelina... making sense? well the guys drink sometimes. everytime we hang out they are bored because they are sober and vodka gets them to express themselves?! haahaa... weird i know. well the i heard jeremy likes me so i startedmaking small moves o him, like laying on him and stuff and well yesterday he didn't do ANYTHING, AT ALL! then later on he called me while i was at my friends house, and i was hey who is this, he's like your're boyfriend. i was like oH the one that ignored me today? he saoid he didn't ignore me today and that he really likes me and he's nervous AROUND girls he likes. the only reason he said all this was because he drank a little. and then he calls ewelina, and they talked for 73 mins, exactly, haha. they talked about me. he likes me a lot, and he wants to change supposedly . he wants to get serious with me and his friends told me the same thing. today i heard they're going out to drink again and i called them and we talked then went to his friend paul's house. they were sober and we didn't talk at all, we just sat there (me,paul, jeremy, ewelina!) and then me and ewelina left and went to her house and then all of a sudden the doorbell rings. we answer it and its jeremy with 2 of his friends. then ewelina leaves and me and them go to the park to talk. they ask why we don't want them to drink, and i couldn't think of a good reason. then they were like to jeremy (his friends said) ok how about u dont drink on mon, tues, wed, thurs, and friday saturday sunday you can? how does that sound lisa(me)? and i was like i dont control him and he's like dude ill drink whenever i want. i really like the guy and i know him and my friend ewelina have had feelings for each other in the past and paul likes ewelina so thats why jeremy ANd ewelina never went out. one of jeremy's friends today metnioned that if paul was a good friend he's let jeremy go out with ewelina. she's my best friend and i loove her to DEATH but i don't know what to do anymre. she's not gonna go out with paul and i want to go out with jeremy and he knows that. so how do i get jeremy to stop drinkinking and how do i tell him and good reason to show that I CARE!!!!!!!????? and should I worry about jeremy and ewelina? thanks soo much!
=] thanks a zilxillion (link)
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Well depending on how old you are..you should talk to your friend about this, im sure if you go out with Jeremy hell try to stop cause your his g.f -- Mayb you could get Paul and your friend together and THEN ak if its ok to go out with Jeremy...talk ot her first she is your friend...follow your heart, if you dont you wont get anywhere in life..
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I think I have self-image problems. I hate my stomach. I'm always worried it is preventing me from finding a boyfriend. I know people sometimes comment about my weight behind my back. In school when we had our physicals I felt extremely self-consious because the nurse put the chart down and a few people could see my weight (I'm not sure they care though). I just don't want to hurt myself. I've thought about nt eating and becoming aneroxic and when I did I honestly didn't care what it would do to my body as long as my stomach look thinner. I do exercise usually but I never see results. I just want to know how I can have a better self-image. Any help? (link)
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Anorexia could hurt you alot -- Its kinda like a drug, once you try it, you say to yourself that once more wont hurt -- And it keeps going until one time you end up passing out and in the hospital wheny uo wake up with IV's in your arm, i know it might not scare you now but you can lose your hair, your skin becomes blotchy, blurry vision, weak-ness, stretch marks, boobs hget smaller!, hard to keep up woth normal things you do, and when you start eating again you gain back all the weight...try not to look in the mirror as much (if we didnt have them, imagine half the people who have eating disorders wouldnt) work out, eat healthy (food groups) proportions, itll pay off..
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I am 15 and I just cannot get any guys to notice me. Sure, I have plenty of guy friends, but I find it very difficult for guys to look at me as more then a friend. I'm not exactly skinny, but I guess i wouldn't callk myself extremely huge. I am just overweight. I work really hard to lose weight and it usually works, but I always get so depressed when I see all my friends who weigh like 115 pounds and how they always get the guys to notice them. How can i get guys to notice me and really see the real me, not just what is on the outside? How can I make them see the real me? How can I deal with the stress I have, and how can i lose enough weight to make guys want to be with me? PLEASE HELP ME!!! (link)
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It shouldnt always be because your skinny, and your have a hot body -- I know sucks you see all your friends getting guys and you just sit back and watch, if you wanna lose weight talk to your parents, and to your doctor -- you just dont wanna lose it the wrong way. Guys are pricks sometimes...but im sure you'll find someone who will treat you right
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Ok this is a real question i really want to know why do most girls think all guys want is sex it drives me mental because i actually flipped out on someone who asked a question and said anyways dont all guys just want to get laid it drives me mental and i just want to know why they think this cause i know when i get a g/f i actually want a relationship. (link)
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Most guys dont mature until they are older, and you probably know that -- Well most guys are just horn dogs and want sex, so girls assume all the time -- Some girls are into it and some girls arent -- Alot of girls go looking for "Mr. Right" who they think wants a relationship and BLAH BLAH..its just kind of a thing in girls heads..happenes, trust levels go down as girls date guys so they set higher standards..thats just the way ti works..not easy but if yu can get a girl to see that you REALLY want a relationship then youll be ok
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i'm 14 and i think about sex kind of a lot because this one guy that i really really like wants to have sex w/ me but i don't really want to but then again i look at some of my friends that are 14 and they've lost their virginity already but i don't really want to have sex w/ this one guy but then i do..i'm confused and i don't know if i'm totally out of my mind for thinking about this but i don't want to have sex w/ him but then i do..is it bad to even think about it when i'm 14? (link)
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Dont lose it because everyone around you lost it -- Most of the time the first time isnt what every girl dreams.. something goes wrong half the time -- Your only 14 and you could wait a year or 2 and see if its what you really want -- You shouldnt just jumop right into sex, thats why there is kissing and the whole nine yards...take it slow..if you move too fast you could regret it
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my boyfriend smokes pot and i HATE it...i have really strong feelings about it b.c of certain things from my family // well i want him to stop and he promised me he would, he did it once and i wasnt so mad then he did it at this party that i went to! i dont want him to think im trying to control his life i just dont want to associate with people who do pot and i dont like to see him hurting himself like that...im scared to talk to him about it b.c i dont have enough strenght after everything that happened in my family...well, what can i do - leave your screen name for AIM if possible ! (link)
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I can see where your comming from..you just care about him -- but you gotta let him know somehow -- you dont always have to say it in person or over the phone -- if he has a s.n you could im him -- its not fair to you, but he might have a hard time understanding -- im sure if you explain everything that you said on here he could try and see it your way
AIM: LilPeppa18
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k me and my [ex] bf broke up ALONG LONG LONG time ago..i think he even has another gf now, but neway its been like a year or something that we havent been together and we havent even talkd in almost that long..it would be our 2 yr anniversary comin up in like a month...we broke up in tha rainy season and it was SUCH heartbreak for me..i cried every night for like 3 months straight....but the thing is, not even like 2 hrs will go by that i dont think of him...and since its the rainy season im thinkin about him so much more and im really sad..this isnt normal to STILL not be over some1 by now is it? (link)
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People wonder about theri ex's all the time..even though he isnt in your life anymore, he still meant something to you long ago..and since its the season when you broke up its no wonder thinking about him..but its normal, takes girls a longer time to get over relationships then boys..its normal dont stress yourself..getting in touch with might not be the best idead IF you were thinking about it..but you never know..always have to have options, just dont stress too much hes a guy. Youll go through more than plenty...and there will be some you HATE and some you LOVE it happenes...jsut dont hold on too long could make you mentally sad
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here i am asking for advice because i know not what to do. ok here's my problem..i've been with my gf for about 2 months now and its been the best thing thats ever happened to me..but itsy hard being with her because she had broken my heart twice in the past. dont ask me why i got with her kuz i'll just tell you i did it because i loved her from the second i met her and you could say i was just a love sick puppy..but real love is something i've searched for for most of my life..ever since i knew about the idea..but this is what happened..my gf (lets call her naomi) got with my best friend sid about a year or so ago i cant exactly say how i felt without going into detail but to sum it all up..it was the worst time of my life..well anywayz..after that happened i just completly lost hope of her actually feeling love for me i thought it was impossible for her ever to feel for me the way i did for her..i love her and all...but i cant stop thinking about what happened before...when she did that it was like my world ended..theirs was so much pain i started cutting myself i was cold to everyone i isolated myself from everyone it was like i made my own little hell..but now that i've gotten the girl of my dreams its like i cant stop thinking about what happened before. and whenever she would ask me whats wrong and i'd lie..she'd ask whats really wrong and i'd tell her exactly how i felt..witch is horribly crushing on her. i dont know what to do, its like impossible for me to let go, i hate making her feel sad and i hate making her feel guilty...but whats wrong with me?
Does she really love me?
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Theres nothing wrong with you..you just need time to let go, your just not ready yet....im assuming she meant alot to you, and its hard to drop someone who you love. I had a b.f for 7 months off and on and we kept getting back together, he saved me from jumping off my roof in the summer, and helped me get better with my cutting and eating disorder..it was hard to let go of him but i knew i had to cause in the end he was only making me worse..its not easy being alone..so talk to her maybe you can hit it off one more time..but the only way to a good relationship is to be TOTALLY honest and i mean everything..you'll hit bumps sure but if you make it through then it makes it a stronger bond..and dont go looking for love..let it come to you, just try to enjoy your life i know its hard but if you lead a life of depression you can never do the things you love
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hey, i need help really bad but i don't have anyone to turn to, and i really mean nobody. a while ago i "went through a depression stage" i guess you might call it, and it got really bad. i was builimic [sp.?] and i cut myself. [my parents and friends were compleatly oblivious to everything because i guess i'm a "good kid" and they never had to worry about me] i don't know how it stopped, but it just did. and now i think it's starting again, my parents suddenly decided we're moving and i feel like nobody wants me around, but i guess thats my fault because iv'e been pushing away the people that mean the most to me. i always want to be alone and i started keeping to myself a lot, like not talking AT ALL during lunch, unless someone asks me a question or somthing. when i get home i got straight to my room and cry, i don't know why though. and i started cutting myself again, i dug a knife into my wrist after dinner tonight and it bled and bled. i feel like i don't belong anywhere and i want to run away, but i don't know where i'd go or how i'd get far enough away from home. iv'e also sat on my roof after everyone in my house is asleep and thought about jumping off, but i really don't want to go to hell. i really need help [i'll "rate high" or whatever, just please help] -jeanine (link)
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You should talk to your parent's and tell them whats going on..or one of your friends,keeping everything in could have triggered the cutting again..you could have though it wont hurt only once, but its addictive. Get yourself into a club or group after skool..be social. Locking yourself away is just gunna make you feel like you dont want anything to do with people, and they wouldnt understand whats going on...those are voices in yuor head..call me crazy but people call them the "bad voices". Your alone all the time now so your mind has time to think alot about all the bad shit in your life. But if you keep yourself busy and happy and healthy theres no need to be sad..i know you must be saying its hard to be happy when you feel like shit..but you gotta live your life, people say its the shortest and to live it up..but actually its the longest fucking thing you do..live it how you wanna..who cares what people think..whatever make YOU happy. Realize that your not the only one..so dont feel alone at all..talk to someone it may feel crapy at first but you gotta feel like shit before things get better, i promise..
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For the past while i have been cutting myself. At first it was just scratches and then i started cutting deeper and deeper. I am really scared and I don't want to talk to my parents, they have enough to worry about, so is there anyway i can break the habit and just stop...and please don't answer if you are just going to poke fun at me and mock me. I don't need that. Only post if you can help me. (link)
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Sit your parents down...and try and get it out..and if you can't then just pull up your sleeve..i know you think that your parents have enought to worry about but your thier child..and i know my parents hate seeing me go through the samething..and im sure yours would too. You can try other ways but if your hooked on cutting (deep) then it won't really help..rubber bands leave welts, cold showers hurt like hell, burning just becomes another habbit to fix..so really the only way to get rid of it is to get help
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ok, well I just turned 13 not to long ago and I have a boyfriend. But if my parents find out they would kill me. If I'm on the phone with a guy or whatever and my parents ask who I'm talking to I always have to lie and say one of my friends names thats a girl. And if a guy calls me and I don't answer the phone everyone keeps asking me questions about why there calling and stuff. I really love my b/f tho and when i wanna go somewhere with him I have to tell my parents that I'm going sumwhere with my friends. I just wanna be allowed to have a b/f so i can hang out with him all the time and everything without having to have at least one of my friends there. What can I do?
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It's not really a question of what you should do, talk to your parent's but they will probably say the same thing. Try looking at it from thier eyes..your thier little girl and it's hard for them to undertsand that your getting older and your gunna wanna do more stuff. Don't try to rush your teen years either, Being a kid is one of the best things in life..because once you get older you realize the responsibility you have to take on. So you kinda just have to wait it out..it's gunna be hard but if you get through it, it'll only make you stringer.
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