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is my problem with letting go of the past runing my life?
here i am asking for advice because i know not what to do. ok here's my problem..i've been with my gf for about 2 months now and its been the best thing thats ever happened to me..but itsy hard being with her because she had broken my heart twice in the past. dont ask me why i got with her kuz i'll just tell you i did it because i loved her from the second i met her and you could say i was just a love sick puppy..but real love is something i've searched for for most of my life..ever since i knew about the idea..but this is what happened..my gf (lets call her naomi) got with my best friend sid about a year or so ago i cant exactly say how i felt without going into detail but to sum it all up..it was the worst time of my life..well anywayz..after that happened i just completly lost hope of her actually feeling love for me i thought it was impossible for her ever to feel for me the way i did for her..i love her and all...but i cant stop thinking about what happened before...when she did that it was like my world ended..theirs was so much pain i started cutting myself i was cold to everyone i isolated myself from everyone it was like i made my own little hell..but now that i've gotten the girl of my dreams its like i cant stop thinking about what happened before. and whenever she would ask me whats wrong and i'd lie..she'd ask whats really wrong and i'd tell her exactly how i felt..witch is horribly crushing on her. i dont know what to do, its like impossible for me to let go, i hate making her feel sad and i hate making her feel guilty...but whats wrong with me?
Does she really love me?
Please Help me
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Theres nothing wrong with you..you just need time to let go, your just not ready yet....im assuming she meant alot to you, and its hard to drop someone who you love. I had a b.f for 7 months off and on and we kept getting back together, he saved me from jumping off my roof in the summer, and helped me get better with my cutting and eating disorder..it was hard to let go of him but i knew i had to cause in the end he was only making me worse..its not easy being alone..so talk to her maybe you can hit it off one more time..but the only way to a good relationship is to be TOTALLY honest and i mean everything..you'll hit bumps sure but if you make it through then it makes it a stronger bond..and dont go looking for love..let it come to you, just try to enjoy your life i know its hard but if you lead a life of depression you can never do the things you love <3
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yes she obviously really loves you. maybe befor she just needed a break and normally best friends are alike so gurls will go fer the guys best friend.... i dont kno how to help you with fergetting about that tho... its just something thats not able to be dun.... maybe you should try to have fun... eventually it will drift.... im sorry if this didnt help but i just dont kno what to do.
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This isn't something you want to hear, but-
If she hurt you that much in the past, get rid of her. You can't stop thinking about what's happened, so it obviously hurt you so much. In some cases it's better to forgive and forget, but if she hurt you mentally THAT much, you shouldn't have to deal with that. I realize you feel bad about making her feel bad, but what you have to focus on now is-- what's best for YOU?
I know someone in same sort of situation, he thinks that they're completely in love, but they aren't. Luckily-- *knock on wood* he hasn't done anything stupid, because they've been back together, for awhile. I know she's cheating, I just have no proof, that's just the way she is.
Go to a party, hang out with some girls you know-- get over her, and find someone that won't hurt you. You'll eventually get over her-- before she hurts you more.
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