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I'm a sophomore girl, fifteen years old. I dated a guy all through my freshman year, when I was fourteen and he was sixteen, a sophomore at the time. We'll call him Matt. Matt and I started off and for the first six months, things couldn't have been better. It wasn't until he started pressuring me to do stuff (sexually) that we started to fall apart. I know now that what he did was wrong because he used guilt and at one point physical power to get what he wanted. At the time though, I didn't see it. I was SO whipped by him, and SO clingy. I thought I would be nothing without him. (He was my first boyfriend, kiss, fingering, hj and bj). I was only clingy because I felt so attached to him from all the physical stuff and I was so scared to lose him. Which I did... He broke up with me in a text and refused to see me in person to let us talk about it. His reason was "were just not working out". We did fight... A LOT. After we broke up he did a lot of shitty stuff. He tugged me around saying he wanted to get back together and then saying he didn't (he confessed it was cause he wanted action), he gave all of his friends and his baseball team VERY vivid descriptions of how far we went (and lied and told people we had sex). He told me I was a whore, worthless, that he only liked me for hooking up, and so on...
I can't even begin to explain how much all of that tore me up. It was the worst summer of my life. I cried myself to sleep almost everysingle night... I ended up deleteing him from my phone, deleted him from facebook, refused to talk to him... And I finally started getting better. However. Halfway through the summer he tried to apologize for everything he did. He went on for a long time... But I said no, and told him I didn't wnat to forgive him because I couldn't trust him to not hurt me again. That I couldn't even be friends with him because I was scared to trust him in any kind of way. I told him he had hurt me too many times and I was in no condition to be able to take another round. He didn't like that and we ignored eachother again until school started.
When school started I was tired of hating him. It took too much out of me to keep it up and I just wanted to forgive him because I knew if I didn't, I would never be able to forget. Forgive and forget ya know? I needed to just be done with it. So I told him I forgave him. And that I was sorry it took me so long and that I was sorry for anything hurtful I might of said (even though he said I hadn't) and that I was sorry for being so clingy during the relationship (he said that wasn't completely my fault). And we seemed good. But the thing is... Now...
Now it's been about six months of us being friendly. We'll text every so often, but not much. I have dated another guy but I ended it... because I still had unresolved feelings for Matt. I don't think I do anymore. Matt has been dating this new girl but, I'm pretty sure they're breaking up soon... His best friend told me he was going to dump her cause he only liked her for the sex. Haha, he's still just as big of a douche. Anyway, I don't want him back or to ever be involved with him like that again. But it seems like everytime were alone together (which is kind of often... we go to this two person computer lab during studyhall together) we ALWAYS start talking about the past. And there's ALWAYS this energy between us. He's put his hand on my knee and rubbed my hand and I've pushed him off because he's a dirt bag and he's dating someone... but I STILL have this pull to him. And we fight... all the time. I can't even begin to describe our relationship. Were not friends... but we are? I don't know. I just feel like I'm never going to be able to have a normal relationship with him. What do you guys think?? Is it a bad idea to try and be friends with him?? And why is there still this spark there when he's hurt me so bad and for all this time I thought he didn't give a shit about me... which I really don't think he did. He never cared as much as I did, and I know that. But he gets angry when I say that. Even though its true.. UGH we just argue all the time and I jsut want us to be normal!! The weirdest part is, it was like one day he just stopped affecting me. One day, I stopped feeling this pang in my stomach when I saw him in the halls, and I all of the sudden just stopped wanting him. It scared me a little, haha. I don't even know whats going on... I'm so confused. please help! Oh he's a junior now, seventeen. (link)
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I don't think think you should have any kind of relationship with him becouse it will be a big risk of him hurting you again and it may cause you to go into a big mental break down. Don't give the asshole a second chance stay away from him.
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I'm 14 and a girl and I think I really want sex or the touch of someone else. I think about it a lot and I sometimes dream about it. I know I am really young so sex isn't really the best thing...I know about masterbating but I am afraid to touch down there. As in like skin to skin. Like using my finger. And I don't think I am comfortable on putting some house hold object up there either...and I definatly can't get a dildo. I need help...any adivce? (link)
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I think that you are to young to be having sex I understand that your hormones are having an effect on your body right especially since your 14 your curious about what it's like. There is no way at 14 you are fully able to understand the consequences of sex. what if you got pregnant you wouldn't be able to raise a baby on your own since you can't even get a job at a fast food restraunt and there is also alot of stds out there.
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I like to do alot ι wanna be α singer when ι get older and. α dancer , but my lifee mad fuuckedd up and my family and fake ass friendss ..... My question is should ι start smokingg ? Smokingg weeed ? To takee the pain away because people act like they dont care but ι still dont wanna give up on my dreams but ιts like fuck everybody idc about them but this pain and stess hurt / depression ...... But iam α strong person .... & iam 15 ..... (link)
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It's good that you don't wanna give up on your dreams but from personal excperience I don't think that you should smoke weed becouse it dosn't really take the pain away it may while you are high but when you are not high anymore the pain will come back. plus there are so many consequences of smoking weed. Alot of people don't think weed is addictive but actually it is very addictive. If you get caught smoking by the law you can get into big legal trouble. It can cause damnage on your lungs make it hard for you to breathe and cause you to cough. people will also use you for weed and pretty soon you will find out you have no real friends. It impairs your judgement not just for time you are stoned. It makes communication with you difficult if not impossible. People also lace weed to even stronger drungs. It may cause your memory to go to downhill. It can also can mental health problems such as depression and cause you to get more irritable when you don't have weed in your system. If they find weed in your system or any kind of drug for that matter when you try to find a job they will not hire you. Research has shown that it also kills brain cells. It lowers your self esteem and makes you want to lay around and do nothing. It also makes you forget your dreams and goals. Iam sorry my answer was so long but I just don't want you to make the same mistakes that I have please don't pick up the habit also it costs alot of money and at only 15 you don't have the money to support the habit and can't get a decent job.
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can you still get pregnant if you get your period? (link)
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I have heard of some woman getting pregnant even while they have their period.
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whats the first sign of pregnancy besides a missed period? (link)
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morning sickness,tender breasts,and gaining weight.
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im 12 years old and im pretty sure my mom hates me. i get in trouble for the stupidist things and she always gets in my face smacks me and once gave me a bloody nose.. my younger sis and older brother get watever they want can do anything and never get in trouble. wenever i talk to her bout it i get yelled at and smacked. if i talk to anyone else shell find out some how. im tired of crying my self to sleep at night and trying to run away and wanting to die sometimes i dont know wut to do (link)
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Iam so sorry to hear about what your mom is doing to you. I know you scared and confused but you need to tell someone about what is happening to you mabey you can talk to a teacher or a school guidence counsler,or a friend or another family member you can trust. I know it's going to be hard for you to tell someone but it's for you and for your siblings saftey even if she is not doing what she is doing to you to them it could happen . please tell someone for you and your siblings saftey.
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HEy ok so my boyfriend and i broke up like 2 months ago now in school we sit RIGHT next to eachother and like he will always turn and look at me and i will say what and he will smile and look away what is he trying to say?!?! oh and then other times hes all flirty with other girls:( haha ok plzz help! (link)
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mabey you should ask your teacher if you could sit somewhere else.
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okay i jus got a cute puppy but idk what to name her , i dont have a picture but ima try and descibe her the best way i know how .. she is light brown with white paws i and i pink lil nose im not sure what kind of dog she is but she doesnt get big at all she gets bout the same size as a shitzu. (link)
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you should name her baby.
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i am 13, i have gotten fingered and felt up multiple times.. it isnt bad because it feels good but im also only in 6th grade. i have sent pictures.. but with a bra on. i am not dating the person who fingered me or felt me up, and it has happend with more than one guy. please tell me what u think. (link)
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I don't think you should be doing this becouse your only 13 and you don't fully coprehend the consequences of sexual activity. please try to stay a kid as long as you can honey and please wait untill your old enough to understand what going on.
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What is the most painless way to commit suicide (link)
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please don't commit suicide .
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im 16/f and feel over weight, im 4'11 and weigh 160. my doctors says i should be weighing 130 or less. i hate the way i look i just want to die at times. my mother and I are looking for a plastic surgons in Rockford, Illinois that will do payments. we dont have much money but are able to make payments month to month. i just want to be happy and love myself. thank you. (link)
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Don't do plastic surgery it can cause serious damnage to your body and it can leave scars on your body that you do not want. If you want to lose weight you need to do it in healthy way don't go on a crash diet that can make you really sick and can cause serious eating disorders. you should talk to your doctor and he will tell you what the best way for you to lose weight based on your heighth and age. you can also find a body mass index calcualater online. you need to cut down on what you eat, you need to lose weight slowly if you lose it fast it will just come back if you lose it slow you will keep the weight off. you also need to exercise at leat 3 times a week and you need drink penty of water I hoped i've helped.
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this may be long. sorry but i need help..
my phone got stolen a few weeks ago so I have been using the house phone to talk to my boyfriend. well the other night he was out to dinner with his friends so i went and got my moms phone to text him. She has about 300 unread emails, and she got a new one. I didn't want the LED light to be flashing since I was using it to know when my bf texts me. So i was gonna open then close the email.
Turns out it was from her "lover."
This isn't the first time I have "caught" her. When I was in about 7th grade, I opened up her email thinking it was mine and read some stuff. Showed my sister, she talked to her whatever. I was young.
Well this time, I showed my sister, and she told me to reply to it. So I did, saying "this is ___ daughter, you better pray my dad, sister and I never find you."
We decided to leave his and my email on her phone so she can see. The next day she came and said "you sister thinks im cheating on your dad?" and i said we read the emails blah blah blah and that I'm the one who emailed him back. She was shocked.
The emails weren't anything sexual but she did say she "loved him more" and that they should meet up.
Turns out he works where my mom does. My mom cleans offices (as do i, at the same place) and she "ran into him."
shes lying. the one email said "i want more of your sweet kisses" from him. her excuse "he gave me a kiss on the cheek."
the emails never said "i had fun with you" ect. She told my dad she had a "crush" on him when she worked somewhere else a few years ago. so it might be true that she "ran into him" and hasnt been "seeing" him long.
So, idk how I feel. Its no surprise that my mom is unhappy. they fight and she use to tell us "when you guys are both 18 im leaving your dad" well im now 19 soon to be 20 and my sister is 23.
Like my sister is all upset and cant believe this is happening, as to where I am just like "okay." I haven't cried, yelled or anything. Tonight both my dad and sister were "yelling" at my mom and I just sat here. I haven't called her names, the only thing I said was "i don't want to talk to you" but I love my mom, i'm a mommys girl.
I don't know if its just not hitting me yet or I have a better control of myself. she left the house tonight, wont pick up her cell, probably bc im calling from the house, and I have no idea where shes at. I'm worried.
Do you guys think something is wrong with me bc I "dont care" about her cheating? yes, its wrong and she shouldn't have. But at the same time im like whatever....:\ (link)
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I think you and your sister need to let your parents solve the problem on their own and no I don't think you should have read your mom's text messages or answered them for her that's a violation of privacy next time if you see one of her texts I suggest you don't even open them and if you do by accident don't read it how would you feel if your mom did that to you? No I don't think there is anything for not having any emotions about your mom cheating on your dad you probally just shocked and scared by the situation and by the way those are emotions. I hope i've helped you with your problem.
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my sister changed in 6th grade and started to like her friends more then me and care about her boyfriend we used to hang out all the time i miss her and i dont know what to do to get her back??? help (link)
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you should explain to her that what is happening between you her is bothering you tell her how you feel.
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What do i get my boyfriend for a 9 month aniversory? (link)
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why don't you burn him a cd of all the love songs that remind you of him.
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I'm 22 and have been hooking up with a 40 year old, we've had sex once before but he wants to continue hooking up. Has anyone else been with someone older than them or do you guys think it's wrong??? (link)
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Iam going to tell you becouse i've dated an older guy before and I don't think it's a good idea. I know it wasn't for me.
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Hey guys, So I'm going to get right down to it, I have been sleeping with this guy, and we had protective sex usually but one night we didn't have protection so he would just pull it out before he would 'cum' inside of me, but now Ive been noticing these kinda small.. completely white bumps that look like they're underneath the skin, the aren't anywhere near my actually vagina, they're more towards the lips, outer area. I thought maybe it could be an infection of some kind. I can't go to the doctor because I'm only 14 and my mom doesn't know I'm sexually active. By the way, I've had no symptoms, no discharge, smells, nothing. Anyone have an idea what this is? (link)
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It sounds like that it could be an std you need to get it checked out by a doctor
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Okay, so I'm 16, and I'm female, my boyfriend is also 16, we have been together since we were 13, and we love each other, my dad died last year and my boyfriend was there an he was my dads bestfriend, I'm worried what my dad would say if we had sex for the first time... Should we? Lame question but I need advice:( (link)
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I think that you are to young to handle the conseguences of sex what would you do if you got pregnant? How would you raise a baby? would your mom help you? you need to think about all the consequences like stds. I think that you need to wait until you get older.
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im 12,well i hump me bed , i know it sounds weird but im skared if im pregantnt i mean when i was little i used to do it and i didnt get pregnant and im also skared cause i got on top of my brother when we were fighting and i dont wanna get pregnant but i didnt hump him or touch his pinis (p.s i know im not pregnant but i just wanna make shure im skared) when i was humping my bed i had clothes on? (link)
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no
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okay so I'm 17/ female
soo me and my ex have been talking for a long time we broke up last summer but we still talk as if we go out even when he has a girlfriend he still messes around with me.. which i think is wrong he has put me through hell and back in it again but its like i fell in love with him so i cant leave him alone we almost had sex last week but i got really scared i dont know if i should have sex with him because i dont want him to have everything. its really confusing should i just cut him off and not talk to him anymore? it might be kind of akward tho? i dont want any of his girlfriends coming up to me and asking me have i been messing with their man shaking my head what do i do ? (link)
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No. Don't have sex with him first off if he has sex with you he would be cheating oh his girlfriend and do you want to be known as the girl who broke his girlfriend's heart? second of all you are to young for the consquences of sex you are still in school if you got pregnant how would you raise a baby?
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I have shoulder-length hair, and I really want it to grow out. But my hair tends to sort of hit a plateau, where it seems to stop growing, and it's almost at that length. Is there anyway I can stimilate growth to make my hair grow faster, and to grow past the point it usually stops? (link)
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keep a healthy nutritious lifestyle
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