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I'm worried what my dad would say if we had sex for the first time...
Okay, so I'm 16, and I'm female, my boyfriend is also 16, we have been together since we were 13, and we love each other, my dad died last year and my boyfriend was there an he was my dads bestfriend, I'm worried what my dad would say if we had sex for the first time... Should we? Lame question but I need advice:(
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I'm 16 and i'm not a virgin i lost it to a guy that i was with for a year and i thought i loved him. i dont regret doing it with him but i do regret doing it at so young i lost it when i was 15 almosst 16. my dad doesnt know but i know for a fact that if he did he would be pissed.
i think that you should do it when your ready and if you have any doubts DONT do it. because if you think you shouldn't maybe you shouldn't. Good luck sweetie:) and im sorry for your loss.
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Okay so I am 16 too. I have not done anything sexual. Honestly I think it is dumb. Why do it when it can lead to so many horrible things. Pregnancy, break ups, diseases..ect. My advice is wait until you are married. Then you know for sure the person you are with will love you and not leave u if you get pregnant or anything else. I understand that you will have the urge to try sexual things. I've gone through it to. If you're going to do anything, Masturbate or maybe just have him finger you. That wont get you pregnant or get u any diseases.
You know that your father would not want you having sex. I dont think any father would want their daughter having sex. But this is your choice so I hope you choose wisely.
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Well if you love him and he loves you then I dont think that your dad would say anything critisizing about it, go ahead, have sex, but have protection too,im sure your dad would love you all the same.Because your still his daughterand you are going to have sex one day so why not now?I am sorry if you got a desease but I dont really think that it was my responsibility to make you ask him did he have a desease you seemed to know him well enough why didn't you do that:( (justagirl15) I am so sorry:(((!!
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I just want to say that engaging in mutual masturbating, oral sex, or anal sex when trying to avoid vaginal sex is a TERRIBLE idea. What happens is that you get in that heat of the moment. Your hormones are going crazy and your body is doing things your brain hasn't yet thought of. You suddenly find yourself in a position where you haven't thought things through clearly. Trust me on this.
Saying, "No vaginal sex! But we can masturbate each other, have oral sex, and maybe even try out anal sex a time or two..." is asking for trouble. Big trouble.
If you must, if you truly must, engage in some sort of sexual pleasure then masturbate alone.
You're 16.
You know in your heart that your father wouldn't approve right now, and that's because YOU know that YOU don't approve of these actions.
Hold off.
Love doesn't mean you have to have sex. Lots and lots of people have sex every day and don't love each other. Having sex doesn't show love at all.
Be 16 with your boyfriend. Do 16-year-old things. Go on double dates. See a few lame movies. Go rollerblading. Pick up a hobby together.
If you love each other, truly love each other, then waiting for sex is no big deal. Sex has it's time. 16 is not the time.
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I think that you are to young to handle the conseguences of sex what would you do if you got pregnant? How would you raise a baby? would your mom help you? you need to think about all the consequences like stds. I think that you need to wait until you get older.
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well your dad would obviously know that his daughter is going to have sex one day but i don't think that he would be happy because you're 16 i think that you should wait until you're a couple years older all dads don't want to see their daughter hurt and yours wouldn't want that too so i definately think you should wait
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I'm sorry for what has happened to you, if you read my advice I advised against having sex and suggested alternatives. If you were to have sex I was suggesting a male condom. Yes there is such a thing as a female condom which might have offered more protection. If you engaged in oral sex and one of you had a cold sore that could account for you getting herpes. A cold sore is a herpes virus.
the recommendation for condom usage is sound advice and is backed by many agencies who seek to prevent the spread of AIDs and STD's. I know you want to blame some one for what has happened and it is okay to blame me, I have big shoulders. But do not blame the advice, the advice on condom usage is sound and backed by medical literature you can find on the web if you care to research it.
For you to have an STD means your boyfriend has had unprotected sex with someone else or as I said; if he preformed oral sex on you and had a cold sore you could have gotten it that way.
Hi, I'm old enough to be your grandfather and while I cannot speak for your father I think I know what he may say to you.
First; my condolences on the loss of your dad.
Having not known your dad I really can't speak for him. I'm going on the fact that you are wondering what you dad might say. If your dad's views are as liberal as mine are towards teenage sex then he might say something like the following.
I understand that teenagers, especially boys have ragging hormones that need to be satisfied. There are many ways to satisfy these urges without actual intercourse. There is mutual masturbation, which is where you give the boy a handjob and he fingers you and there is oral sex as well. There is also anal sex but that is something that is as the saying goes an acquired taste for the more experienced lovers. There is also singular masturbation.
These acts satisfy the urge as they lead to a climax. They are also the safest form of sex as there is no vaginal penetration which could lead to an unwanted pregnancy.
Now if I have not convinced you not to have intercourse then you need to do the following for me before you have sex. You need to go to a gynecologist and be put on a proper form of birth control. You also need to promise me that your current boyfriend and any future sex partners will always wear a condom. I care less that you are both virgins at this time; it is best that you start properly. Condoms are you safest form of protection from HIV and STDs. So until you are married or in a long term monogamous relationship no one rides bare back. That is something you have to promise me.
Just below is a URL for a website that has answers to "Am I ready." It is about first time sex. I would suggest you and your boyfriend read it together.
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location).
Like I said I'm not your dad, but if I were these are the things I would have said had I found out or had you come to me before having sex.
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