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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.

I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.

Much love, Teza

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can someone please explain to me why guys are so obsessed with ?

I have no idea what you mean..? Why guys are so obsessed with what exactly?

okae. so i am a 13 year old female. and since i was 12 sometimes i would masturbate. but since i turned 13 i stopped. but idk if its normal for kids my age to do that. i use my fingers if that helps. but im so disgusted by myself sometimes. that i just break down crying. and i dont have a lock on my door my dad took it off for reasons [ family reasons ] so im afriad someone will walk in. ehrwsk - any ideas if its normal , and if it is where i could do it without anyone walking in cuz i have wanted to.

It's completley normal and don't be ashamed of it. If you don't want your dad to walk in on you, try the bathroom. I'm sure you can lock the door? So like I said, it's normal.

okay so im going to start out with the fact that my friend ashley is so awesome. but there ARE some bad points of knoeing her. she tells me everything and then when people ask if i know something that they dont they get real mad because the answer is so totally yes. shes my best friend. and some of this information is dangerous. im scared ill tell secrets that are supposed to stay unknown.
HELP
my best friend tells me too much,
victoria♥

Your best friends tells you this information because she trusts that you won't tell anyone. If you really are trust worthy, you will not tell any secrets of her and they won't just slip out of your mouth. It isn't your duty to let people know things that they don't. She's your best friend and of course she's going to tell [ you ] things that she won't tell anyone and it should stay that way. I don't really know what your question is,.. but I don't think that you'll tell her secrets. You're smart enough to keep them to yourself.

What should I do ?

Use carmax or lip gloss.

What is the difference? I never really got that (oother than the name and spelling..duh) haha. Please don't just slap down a link. I just want a few worded simple answer =]

Anorexia and Bulimia are both eating disorders. The difference is that Anorexia is when a person starves them self to lose weight. Bulimia is when a person eats, & makes them self vomit purposly to lose weight.

13/f
Well lately ive been thinking a lot about my past and what affect it has for me right now. and my sisters died a while back so i never met them. they died before i was born. so then my mom and dad had another daughter (which was me) and they never wouldve had me if they survived. so i feel like im not really meant to be here, they are. i feel like it's on my conscience and i messed everything up. i don't know...
I guess my question is...
How can I stop thinking about this? It just makes me depressed, help!

I can kind of ralate to your situation. I had twin sisters a year after I was born, but they also died & I never met them. Your parents had you because they wanted to & they love you no matter if you came first or last. It might not make sense but you're here for a reason and just be happy. Maybe talking to your parents would help a lot. You might feel uncomftrable talking to them about it, but they would be able to answer this question better than any of us. You're wanted here by your parents and you just need to keep telling yourself that.

14/f
lately, ive been having a few bad days.ive been threw alottt but im just really having trouble with my weight and consceince. im in cheerleading and i weigh around 118 (5'3). Im not fat, im musclaur, but not even like big. I just started to fly again and i am so upset because i cant do what i "could" do. if anyone has or is in cheerleading they know how stressful flying is and i am always watching my wieght so i won't be to heavy. people always joke about my weigh and flying because im the bigest flyer on the team and the oldest girl practially, and my best friends lift me so we joke around alot. but everyday i look at the scale atleast 5 times, if it says over 120 i want to cry, if it says under i am satisfied for a little while. I couldnt ever have an eating disorder because i love food to much. i love being in the sports i am in because its lest time to eat and i am never hungry when i work. but still at cheerleading i feel so fat and just feel horrible because im heavy. i try to run everyday but i never find myself dedicating myself. i hate the way my stomach is (its super musclar at the top but i look pregnant sometimes, like a huge glob of fat by my belly botton) and no matter how many situps i do, it never dgoes away. and i just want to not feel like a fatass. i need a drive to be dedicated to, and there just is none. i just get so stressed, i dont know what to do anymore.

Try to accept your body for what it is now, and start from there. First of all, you're not over weight & even if you are a bit muscilar, there's nothing wrong with that. If your friends hurt your feelings about your weight, let them know. It's not fair for you to keep listening to it and it shouldn't be funny. You also need to stop looking at the scale so much. Try to weigh yourself once a week instead of 5 times a day. You know that your problem is dedication and motivation. You could reach to your goal weight if you stick with it for at least 2 weeks. Even though you love food you need to cut down on the things you eat and you have to pay attention to what you're putting in your mouth. Eat healthy. There's really no other way you can achive your goal. Eat about 6 smaller meals a day. Veggies & fruits are important and make sure you don't eat junk food. Exercise for about 30-60 minutes a day. You don't have to run as your exercise if you hate it. Walking, jogging, polaties.. anything you would like. If you stick with this for at least 2 weeks, you'll see results and it'll make you keep going if you're dedicated.

simple enough...
he's a junior,
im a freshmen.
we hung out once,
but can't anymore because our friends broke up.
i never see him or talk to him.
i like him ALOT,
and found out he thought i was cute and wanted to hook up.
he had a girlfriend but broke up.
we never talked since then, and it's been a month.
how do i stop thinking about him?
thanks

You can't just stop liking someone and I can imagine how hard this is for you. Just move on. You guys should continue being friends, but you need to accept the fact that you guys won't be much more. Meet new guys and just don't worry or think about him. It may be hard for you at first, but you'll slowly start to get over him. Go out & just have fun.

May I still consider myself vegetarian if i do not eat chicken, turkey or beef, but I still eat fish ocasionally?

Fish is still meat, so no I wouldn't consider you a vegetarian.

I am wearing a kind of a fire-truck red dress to an event, what is a good color nail polish to wear with it. NOT a matching shade of red, or pink. Oh and I am wearing red shoes too

I'd go with just white tips or red tips but you don't want to match it. Gold looks good with red but there really isn't any other color that would work so it doesn't look tacky.

y am i attracted to pretty much every guy? i check out almost all of them even ones i dont even think are cute. and i cant stop liking other guys. i've been with my bf for 10 months and i love him soooo much, but y cant i stop liking other guys? i dont want to i want to be like fully commited to one guy or whatever. y cant i? and hes saying next time i do that he'll leave me. i cant blame him though because ive liked like 9 other guys while ive been with him. the reason i think i do is because my parents have always told me its ok to like other people. but that cant happen i love him too much. how can i stoppp?

I don't think that you start "liking" every guy. I just think that you're one of those girls that love to flirt and love attention and there's nothing wrong with that. If you really love your boyfriend as much as you say you do, you know better than to hurt him and I know that's not your intention. Another reason that you might want to go for other guys is because you can't. I know it might sound weird but you probablly like the freedom of doing what you want with guys and with a boyfriend, it's hard to. You should just talk to your boyfriend if you already haven't. Just let him know that it's natrual when you check out guys and that it doesn't mean anything. If you really wanted them, you would of broken up with him. People just go through phases and it's same with guys. It's just because you're attracted to them and you automatically think you like them. Maybe taking a break would be a good idea for the both of you. Just see how things will work out and take it slowly.

When should I start looking for prom dresses and trying them on? Because it's almost February and my prom is in May. I want to start looking but I have and will be loosing more weight.

Couple weeks before prom. You should just look around and maybe see what stores have good prices. Don't wait too long because everything good most likely will be gone.

My mom got mad at me becasue she thought I was trying to break the television. Well I wasn't breaking it. IT has a lot of channels and the remote is missing because I lost track of it because when we moved I had to be quick. The bag the remote was at is missing. She got mad at me like I was the only one in the world doing something wrong. She got mad at me too when she found out the remote was missing. I don't get why she had to get mad at me like that.

I don't think that she flipped out on you that much was only because of the remote. Your mom probablly has a lot on her mind and is just really stressed. When she yells at you, just listen to her and don't take it to heart. Don't argue back with her because that only makes things worse. Try to look for the remote and just talk to your mom. The yelling and arguing is making both of you misrable and it's a bigger deal than it should be.

last week we had a history quiz on the computer (like joepardy but with history) and i wrote down some dates about the civil war on my hand (just in case). so beore the quiz i studied it and i was talking to my firneds about how i wrote it on my hand for studying purposes. then during the quiz i never looked at it. then the next day in history i was the only one left in class and my history teacher cme up to me and asked me to show him my hands. so i showed him and it had all washed off by then and he asked me if i had anything on them the day before and i said no. then the next day in science my science teacher told everyone that we weren't supposed to write on ourselves and we would get a d-hall if we would.
does this mean my history teacher knows i was cheating or was he just following the rule to not write on ourselves? hes always liked me and chose me for student of the month but im not sure, help please!

I'm pretty sure he knew that you had something written on your hand or else he wouldn't of asked you. Someone might of sniched on you or maybe he noticed it. If he brings it up again just tell him the truth. You didn't cheat but it was for studying purposes. Just try and not do it again.

i was wondering. how many pictures can photobucket hold?

You can have over 500 pictures. If you can't hold anymore in that, make another album.

I have a deep fear of germs and getting sick. Even the thought of catching a regular cold drives me crazy. I was my hands for 10 minutes, and at school, I wear a bandanna that covers my nose and mouth to help keep the germs away. I mean, hey it's not my fault that kids at my school go swimming in 10 degree weather over the weekend, and then catch a cold. Basically Everyone is sick at my school ALL the time.

Some of my teachers get mad at me when I wear my bandanna, but if they make me sit next to, talk to, and help out sick people, why shouldn't I be able to wear it? I'm not going to get sick because of one stupid person. Last week, I skipped alot of my classes just because I sat next to sick people in them and I don't want to get sick. Mainly because I just started working out, and if I'm sick, I won't be able to work out. (yes, working out is REALLY important to me.)

Now my question, I guess my question is, is there anything else I can do from getting sick? Any healthy tips that you can inform me on? (Besides obvious stuff like washing your hands.) Do you think the bandanna is a good idea? I've actually considered wearing a surgical mask but then people would think I'm even weirder.

Also, how possible is it that I'm going to get sick if I sit next to someone sick, for about 45 minutes every day? (Keep in mind that I'm wearing my bandanna over my nose and mouth.) ANY advice you have would be helpful because I'm flipping out right now.

I'm not a doctor so I don't really know how to help you. I went on google and searched some things and I found this website.

http://media.www.maroon-news.com/media/storage/paper742/news/2005/02/18/Commentary/Prevent.Getting.Sick.and.Feel.Better.When.You.Already.Are-869147.shtml?sourcedomain=www.maroon-news.com&MIIHost=media.collegepublisher.com

hey teza its andrea, well tanjas sister got me contacts and likee... i dont really see a color difference. is there a sertain way u have to put them, cuz i think both sides are the same? ihave light blue and green ones, and my eyes are still.. BROWN ?

I don't have contacts so I don't know anything about them. Maybe it's just because of those certain contacts. A girl in my class wears blue contacts and it changes for hers but I don't know why it's not doing that for you.

hey! you are so pretty!!
what are some tips to tell if a guy likes you or not?
thank you so much! :]

Thank you ;]

There are a lot of things that guys do if they like you. Sometimes it's pretty complicated to tell because they give mixed signals. They'll flirt with you a lot and sometimes insult you. He'll try to talk to you a lot, he acts different around you. Just little stuff that's pretty noticable.

16/f
okay so my boyfriend and i recently split up(friday the 19th) and we're still very close. we are going to lunch on friday since we have a half day to talk about everything and possibly go back out. (we both want to we just have to get things straightened out) so what are some things we can do to please both of us? like compromises? it's probably hard since you don't know our relationship but like in general.. talking on the phone..hanging out with friends.. going out instead of staying in.. things to make our relationship run smoother than fightingg. sort of like guidelines to set.. any ideas would be very helpful thanks!

It is hard to answer this not knowing why you guys broke up in the first place but I'll try to help. Before you guys start going back out, you both need more trust. If you both can trust each other, there shouldn't be a problem. Have girl's nights & he should do the same with the guys. If you spend too much time together, chances are you might get tired from eachother but that might not be the case. If you guys do go back in a relationship, be honest. If something bothers eather one of you about each other, talk about it and tell the truth. That way you guys can fix the problem before it leads to break up. Try not to argue about stupid things and both of you should try to be more reasonable understand where you're comming from. I hope everything works out.

ok today my friend and this guy kissed in the commons of our school, getting caught she got a referal. now she must face her mother and shes not allowed to date. shes not dating the guy exactly but how is she supposed to explain to her mom that shes not dating anyone and yet she got caught kissing in SCHOOL!!!?????? i have to call her at 5pm tonite and help her through this and being me i need your help. she will NOT lie to her parents..any ideas on how to tell her mom without her going bizerk?

It'll be a hard way getting out of this but you can't really explain WHY you kissed someone. She could just tell her parents that the guy kissed her first & that she wasn't expecting it. There's really nothing else that she could say.

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