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I'm not sure what is the right thing to do. I'll be honest, I know a lot of people don't like my boyfriend. We're both 22. He's difficult, can be very blunt/honest, which seems mean, and he went through a period last couple months when he was depressed; you know how it is to be around people who are depressed. He hasn't exactly been the funnest to be around. He lost a lot of his friends and even my friends know that he wasn't doing well. A couple of times that he was at my friends house he sort of acted antisocial and sat in the corner. They told me this was annoying and created a poor atmosphere and that they miss hanging out with just me. I told them he was having a hard time, and they seemed to understand, told me to talk to him about it. There was also a conversation we had unrelated to him in which they told me that they didn't want me to invited random people to their house unless I asked.
Now about the event, these same friends who are two sisters and one other girl just graduated. Their family of the two sisters who are good friends of mine is in town and the day of their graduation they invited me to a party at their house after, the same day last minute. Since I asked who was going and they said them their family and boyfriends and our other friend I didn't think twice about not going with my boyfriend (since I had already made plans with him before they invited me and felt bad telling him to go home because I had other plans). I talked to him before and he promised he wouldn't act antisocial or badly. Well I live 30 minutes away and it was 10pm at night when they said to come over, I already was tired but I thought these are my good friends, I'll go for them. We started driving and as soon as we got there we were about to walk upstairs and they found out I was with him and told me that they never invited him and they thought I was clear not to bring people over without asking them.
This is true I should have asked, but I honestly thought they were talking about random people not my boyfriend who I do a lot of things with. I knew they felt like he was kind of creating a bad time but I didn't think they didn't want him around. I told them that. And then told them I could turn around if it was a big deal. And they responded "We didn't think we had to spell it out for you, we don't want him here because of what we talked about before and my family is here so you can come but not with him" so I had to turn around and drive back home 30 minutes lost a total of an hour and my feelings are really hurt. I would never do that to someone.
Am I wrong? Were they wrong? I'm not sure how to feel... Yes I understand it is their party and I should have asked, but I can't help but feel really upset that I drove there for them and they told me to leave. I know he's not the most fun person, but he is not an asshole, he is not disrespectful to other people. He is just quiet and doesn't talk that much because he is not that happy in his life. He doesn't want to be this way. He has made progress and he is afraid of ending up alone because people don't like him. He just has a hard time with relationships, but he is a good person. I feel like I am losing my friends because of this, it is really frustrating and I'm not sure how I should respond to what my friends did. Talk to them, don't talk to them, what is the best thing to say to them, should I let them know in upset and what is the best way to handle this? I could really use an outsiders advice on what seems right.... (link)
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mmmMMm ive had this happen to me by other friends and ive been on both sides of this situation.
Firstly, if your a friend who doesnt like you friends boyfriend, its totally understandable that they wouldnt want him around while hes going through the things hes going through right now.
Secondly, if their used to hanging out with JUST YOU, and now youve made your whole life about your man to the point where you wont go anywhere/do anything without him, your friends around going to be annoyed even MORE and then just not want either of you around. From your side, your \"sure\" hes a good person but if you havnt introduced him and brought him into the picture with your FRIENDS in a smoothe way, they may just not be in love with him right away like you are. try to be patient with them.
And lastly, it DOES sound like they tried to say in a NICE way before the incident that they did love him right now and didnt want him around, it sounds like you maybe just didnt pick up on the hint, and maybe you could have asked them if you could bring him before you came over to their place so they would have a chance to say no before anyone got hurt or turned away at the door so to speak. That only leads to more hurtful feelings and burning of bridges between people. Try to remember that they dont know him like you do, but that doesnt make them bad people. Like the poster above said, their just reacting to how HES acting in public around others. if they feel he doesnt act right then OF COURSE their gonna say \"dont bring him!\"
bottom line, try not to wrap your life up around your man because you may start missing out on things like your friends giving you subtle hints like this because your too focused on being in tune with him and not enough on your friends as well. There your life, his life, and then theres your lives TOGETHER ok. you had friends and people in your life BEFORE him that you treasured, and im sure he has had them too, he may just not be as expressive about it. The people that care about you will be there while your with him and after hes gone as well, so try to create a happy balance with it comes to friendships and relationships. in the end thats what its really all about. ; )
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So, this weekend just gone I had sex with a guy. Him and his girlfriend were split up at the time and he said they weren't getting back together so I didn't see much of a problem. But the next day he said they sorted things out but he didn't tell her about me and him.
I'm really not comfortable about this as I'm friends with alot of her friends so I'm gunna see her about alot and I hate keeping secrets and lying.
I've tried persuading him, but said I won't say a word until he says something to her 'cause she should really hear it from him not me or someone else. But this also means I can't talk to any of my friends about it, which sucks.
He won't tell her though as she has alot of family problems at the moment and doesn't think she'd be able to handle it and isn't sure what she'd do (guessing he means self harm etc).
Some sort of help would be great as I'm really not keen on this situation and can't chat to anyone! Thank you! (link)
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Yeah, see by doing this youve now gotten yourself into a bit of a precarious situation, because you and the other woman run in the same social circle. anytime you talk to any of the mutual friends you have, anything you say could trickle down to her, so i would be VERY careful about what you say to any of the other females that know her.
I think the best thing to do here is focus on other friends that dont know or care about her (maybe friends from high school) or people you know still care about you but have faded with you friendship wise not because something went wrong but because life took over. ((people/friends can get drawn apart sometimes once you graduate and start your own lives but it doesnt mean that their caring about you faded any)) i would start hitting them up or trying to get away from people that will most likely tell her anything.
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my heart has been doing weird stuff so i was looking what can be wrong with the heart and it said "coronary artery disease" but i don't know what that means. can some one please explain so a 16 year old can understand? (link)
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if you think your heart is doing weird stuff then you should go to a doctor, or tell whoever is taking care of you whats going on. they\'ll decide what to do. drink more water though, its good for you over all.
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Hi I just wanted to ask should I go to college if I already know what I want to do and it doesn't involve college? And my family is forcing me to go to become a teacher nurse or doctor and I don't want to do that... What should I do?... (link)
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I agree with the other posters here, about going to college if the chance is handed to you because someone else is paying for it. i have alot of friends who had to pay their way through and dropped out have way through because it wasnt what they thought it would be, and they were not prepared mentally. they ended up with alot of debt and still no degree.
You should also remember that those who have jobs they love feel that their jobs dont feel like a job at all! = )
you have a long life ahead of you and theres no reason why if the chance is given for you to expand your horizons that you shouldnt! its always a good idea to have a back up plan like the others here have said.
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Hi there,
On one question, you said:
"id tape record some of the things she says to you and then tell her boyfriend..."
The problem with this is that in many places that would land her in jail.
You give great advice, usually, and so I just deleted the answer and am sending you a friendly alert to the potential problem that would cause.
All of the moderators agreed you should not be banned for this is light of your other advice.
Thank you for all you do,
DN. (link)
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wow, i didnt know anyone felt that way im sorry. i wish someone would have told me sooner.
I also didnt know that tape recording someone and innocently telling the person thats been cheated on could land you in jail. Its usually not admissible in court and i didnt assume there would be a court case over it. lol.
I thought people here were looking for REAL life answers from other people BASED on what their asking. we are supposed to be totally bias right? and in that post she didnt say she planned on taking anyone to court over it. Its realistically something people would think of AS an option. and as in recording something someone said i meant AUDIO, not illegally recording them visually.
Also if all the other mods feel this way then why havnt they kist contacted me about it and said so? i will gladly discuss anything people might have a problem with anything ive said.
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So there's this guy, let's say his name is Alex, and I really like him I just don't know if he likes me. We go to Karate together and he's always looking at me through the mirror and smiling. We text almost all the time and our conversations never die. But I just wanna know if he likes me. He's always calling me his little monkey and sending me monkey emojis, but he doesn't act like he likes me. What should I do? We only started texting a week ago but I've liked him forever. I don't wanna scare him away by telling him I like him. (link)
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yup i agree with the other poster. it sounds like he likes you but he may not be ready to take it to that next level yet. some guys will get right up to that point making you think their ready when they may not be. just keep playing it cool and wait until he suggests something or asks you something that MIGHT hint at him secretly asking you if you like him or \"what kinda guys you like\" you could try that. theres tonsss of subtle little hints you can give a guy to let him know you like them. like if he has light colored eyes, you could mention that you like guys with light colored eyes. (he may not realize it right away) but once he does he will probly get really excited. ; )
but i would just keep playing it cool like your really good friends and see how far HE takes it. see if he invites you out places to do things with him or anything.
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I was talking to this guy since January of this year and like a week ago we got into a fight. It was something stupid, I wasn't texting him back fast enough and I got tired of him complaining to me about it n I told him to get over it. He freaked out basically n I ignored him for the rest of the night. The next day came and I answered him. I was still butt hurt about the night before so I wasn't very nice. He made me talk about it though and eventually he said he'd leave me alone for a couple days. At first I said okay but he kept talking and was really nice n I told him he didn't have to go for a couple days. After that he said ok and that his dad needed his phone back (his phone had run out of minutes) and he hasn't said anything since. It's been basically a week and I don't know if I should keep waiting or move on because he just might not come back. Oh and his dad let's him have his phone every night so him not saying anything isn't because he can't get ahold of me. So what's your opinion? (link)
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maybe you should try talking to him on the net or phone rather then texting. lol
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My boyfriend is ready for sex and I'm really scared about loosing my virginity what should I do about this? And what does it feel like to loose your virginity? (link)
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Im also going to agree with the last person. its not all its cracked up to be and \"beautiful\" and \"precious\" i gonna be honest. the first time (even if its with a guy you really love and you know he loves you back) its alittle awkward and weird, and really doesnt feel that good because his penis is going to feel like a large tampon going inside you for the first time. Now if you guys are PREPARED, youll have some lube on hand to make sure that in the process of him moving in and out of you having lots of lube will make things a whole lot easier and you can just lay there, let him do the work, and try to just enjoy it alittle more.
Really what it comes down to is making sure that the person you gonna do it with is someone that your TOTALLY AND COMPLETELY comfortable with, emotionally and physically. Ideally, the first time at least for me was in my mans room, in his bed, under the covers, and he had condoms and lube already there for the just in case moment. Well that moment happened and i didnt regret it because i thought to myself, even if things dont work out with him in the future, at least my first time was with someone i really felt deeply for and i could tell had the same feelings for me. ((and was hott!) hehee
good luck and just try to make sure your both prepared. lube will be your best friend for the first time around as well as condoms.
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I've tried creams and pills for several years and it doesn't help. I've tried all kinds of face washes, pills, lotions and gels. My acne is very bad and embarrassing. What are some other procedures and how much would it cost?
My acne is like this:
http://3.bp.blogspot.com/eIj3oI3EdaU/UBh6vqr4ECI/AAAAAAAAAeI/Oooy36j6bPc/s1600/cystic+acne.jpg (link)
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ok heres one cost effective NATURAL thing you could try. get a little bit of honey from your cupboard, and some cinnamon and mix it together with a spoon. Make a nice paste out of it and then start washing your face with it everyday.
this soothes and kills bacteria without irritating the skin further. i have a brother in law that did it after even using that pro active stuff and it worked like a charm over time. try looking up the effects of the honey and cinnamon method online.
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I'm 14 years old and I started master bating its really starting to hurt but I can't help it ,it feels so good and I don't know if this will effect having children in the future .Someone please help me. (link)
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this will not effect you having children and its totally a normal urge. we all have needs, and you sound pretty normal to me, and when a guy jacks off too much YES it will start to hurt. try buying some lube or hand lotion and use moreee then enough of it. try to give it a rest for a couple days if you can so the skin can heal first.
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My boyfriend is really depressed and is always telling me he's going to kill himself. It makes me soo upset because my sister has a mental illness and always tries to kill herself. I don't know what I should do about this as his friend told me it was my fault he cut for the first time. Can someone please give me advice? (link)
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Ok, first off most people that SAY their going to kill themselves, is just a cry for attention. ive known people over the years and who both said they were going to kill themselves and people who ACTUALLY did it. i can tell you now that most people DONT just keep on saying their going to kill themselves, they just do it. MAYBE sometimes mentioning that their depressed or feeling that way to one maybe TWO people at the most but they are usually so busy wallowing in their own misery that they dont have time to make someone ELSE feel like its that persons fault and all this.
Secondly, did you ask what it is your doing thats making him what to supposedly kill himself? if hes cutting you should talk to one of his parents immediately and just go over his head and tell someone that you think can get him help. No matter what the reason, even if its YOU (which probably isnt true anyway) he needs help.
Also i would try telling the boyfriend that with everything you go through with your own sibling trying to kill yourself, that you really dont wanna hear him playing games or adding more stress on you because you already have enough to deal with. Sometimes you just have to put your foot down with people and not let them tell stories to get a reaction out of you if that is what hes trying to do. if anyone is talking to you about killing themselves, you should immediately go over their head and tell whoever is taking care of them and is in a better place to decide what kind of care they need. your in no place to be able to do that for them, and you cant love someone past some of these issues sometimes either. sadly it just doesnt work that way. good luck though. ; )
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So I am a sophomore in highschool and I take honors chemistry (not by choice) and I made B's for the first two quarters and had a B average for the semester. The quarter that just passed I failed honors chemistry by two points, but I had shifted all of my focus to bringing up my honors algebra grade which has been a C all year. I made a high B in algebra, but at the expense of chemistry and now the school wants my mom to meet with my chemistry teacher.... I don't know what to do. My mom is gonna be really mad at me and I've already been really depressed lately (before failing chemistry) and having her scream in my face won't help me I'm already suicidal (again before failing chemistry. My mom doesn't know). I am also a girlscout and selling cookies after school made it impossible to get after school help because some nights I wouldn't get home until ten thirty with school the next day. What should I do? (link)
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yeah i agree, i think the time management thing and being pushed to take classes you may not be totally ready for isnt ok. Try talking to your mom or whoever and telling her that with the girl scouts going on that its distracting you from the honors classes because their harder then originally thought.
You cant be doing honors classes and girl scouts at the same time. i was in girl scouts and it can be demanding. So can honors classes (which my husband tells me can be time consuming) because you have to study alot.
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We moved in with my parents about a year ago so we could save some serious money for our future. When we got settled in my mom started cooking A LOT and has been piling up our plates. My GF went along with it and started eating A LOT. She started to put on A LOT of weight. Then about 6 months later I watched her start wearing slippers and stretch pants instead of jeans and heels. By now I've put on weight too. So, I talked to my GF privately last night:
Me: Hey honey, I feel like I'm getting fat. Wanna start dieting with me? GF: I think you're confusing "fat" with "happy" we're living like royalty.
Not sure what's going on, but it's weird. On the other hand, our savings account is not laughable anymore. (link)
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if its YOUR mom that you guys moved in with, cant you talk to her about making healthier foods? if your mom cares about how you feel, see if you can as a FAMILY start making healthier meals so youll feel better in general.
Usually eating healthier food, will make you FEEL better not only because its good for you but its not so hard on your stomach and digestive system either. tell her to make LIGHTER meals, add more veggies to your morning eggs and rice. small changes like this will slowly get the whole family eating better and over time youll see the changes. your mom can still make lots of food if it comforts her to feel like she still cooking for a large family, but that doesnt mean it has to be unhealthy!
have her start buying more yogurt, less white bread and more whole wheat stuff, frozen veggies to add to rice, or eggs, avoid anything white. like sugar, white bread, etc. have her buy bulk plain oatmeal in the morning for everyone to eat for breakfast, it keep your poop moving through you regularly, and you can add anything you want to it like fruits, or spices like cinnamon and honey. (((these are all very small changes that will get them headed in a healthier direction where youd like them to be)) good luck
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Don't try changing my mind, I want to die and I will.
Everyone hates me, I get bullied at school cos of how I look, what I like, my stupidity... pretty much anything about me. Even my family hate me. There's nothing to live for.
I just wanna know if there are any quick and painless ways to die, just so I don't have to die a horrible slow death cos I'm just a pussy...
If I get any lectures about how "life is precious", or "don't die, you'll be missed", or "suicide is selfish", I wil ignore them and if I don't find any quick and painless ways to kill myself, I guess I'll just have to stop being a pussy and die the hard way. I won't feel the pain when I'm dead anyway I guess... (link)
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No one is going to help you commit suicide here, and killing yourself is never \"easy\" or \"painless\" so thats out of the question.
you need to tell a counselor at your school, and see a doctor to get some depression medication. Its the school counselors JOB to take care of any issues students might be having, they see this kinda stuff all the time, so tell them how your feeling and they\'ll know what to do. say everything you just said to us on here to THEM.
If you were really gonna kill yourself you woulda just did it instead of coming on here and saying or asking anything at all.
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Hey guys, there is this guy, named Matt. And he is really shy, but he talks to me online all the time. He seems really funny and nice, and I want to be friends with him. He normally takes the intiative to message me. Today was the first time we talked in person, face-to-face. I was the one who talked the most, and he seemed like he didnt want to talk to me even though he told me he wanted to. Now i'm really confused... he says online that he wants to be friends, and that he likes me and stuff, but in person he hardly talks.
1) Is this like a shy-flirting thing?
2) What should I do about his shyness?
3) also, i've heard from many people that he has a crush on me... he's really outgoing yet he doesnt talk a lot.
Thanks for the help guys. :) (link)
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this is common in guys who dont have alot of \"experience\" with girls. hes probably just being really quiet because he doesnt want to say the wrong thing or come off sounding stupid. my now husband was the same way.
when i a guy really likes you, he\'ll be shy at first and intimidated. Hes letting you do all the talking so that he can get to know you and understand your thoughts on things and how you view the world so that he can feel you out a bit and see if your the \"the one\" for him, or if his feelings for you are just on the surface.
try asking him things too and MAKE him talk but not in a mean way. ask him about his job, or hobbies he has, or what he likes to do etc. just say \"but enough about ME, what about YOU? tell me about you more\"
things like that.
Does he stare at you and smile alot and then look away? thats a huge red flag that he likes you and just cant even stand to look at you because your so pretty. ; )
good luck sweetie.
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So, I'm a 14 year old girl and I honestly can't cope with the way my parents tell me to live, I feel like I am trapped in my home and I can't do anything!
They have these rules that I cannot go on my iPad/phone until 8pm every night, even at weekends I'm not aloud to use them. They say I'm to antisocial and I need to get out more, I go almost everywhere with them! I do go to town with friends aswell. They won't let me out of my town, I live in Barnstaple, devon and I'm not even aloud to Exeter or Bristol to go on a shopping trip with friends which is only about 2 hours away. Also I'm not aloud to be friends with a few people I know, one of them because there is a rumour going around that her mum is a prostitute and the other one who is my best friend and I still hang out with her secretly because she said something rude on Facebook like 2 years ago! It annoys me how I can't be friends with who I want to be friends with. My parents won't let me go out after school and I always have to be back home at 4pm if I go anywhere, which means I can't go out in the evening or at night and have a laugh :(
They also won't let me use social networks other than Facebook and Twitter, I want to be able to use snapchat, Instagram and tumblr but I'm not aloud to have it on my phone, another thing is that my dad still reads my texts and my messages with friends online!!! I'm 14 and I literally have no privacy! It's really annoying I want to just tell him "no, I won't give you my phone" or just not tell him the lock to my phone but he always makes me! :(
This is really annoying me now how I feel like I am stuck with nothing to do and no privacy at all :(
Anyone know what I could do? (link)
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ok lets go over a few things. first off, your parents DO have the right to worry about you. you will always be their baby and speaking as a parent i know that i would worry about my young teen going out an HOUR away from home with other minors. THAT part IS a bit worrisome and i myself was not allowed to do things like that as a 14 year old either.
BUT i DO understand feeling like you need more privacy. maybe when you feel its the right moment (and without arguing) YOU COULD calmly TALK TO THEM and say that you are really starting to feel like you need more privacy now that your getting older. (if they are understanding of your feelings, and remember being your age) then they will need some time to think about it. ask them if they want to drive you away from home sooner rather then later, because when your parents smother you the way they are, kids will want to leave home and NEVER come back as soon as possible. ask them if they WANT you to come home for holidays and birthdays when you ARE older enough to move out?
what they are doing now will only drive you away as an adult and never make you want to be around them because of the way they are acting now. they need to cut you a little slack, and have some faith in you that you can make at least SOME choices on your own. tell them that if they have faith, and believe that they\'ve raised a good, smart child then they should have little no fear that you can take care of yourself out there in the world, at least when you go out with your friends. try to start re-assuring them that when you go out if anything happens youll call right away, and that your aware of the rules but you feel like their not \"age appropriate\" because they seem like rules you would give a 10 year old, not a teenager.
((remember once they DO actually give you some space or room to do things you will still need to prove that you can be trusted, so that they\'ll continue to give you more)) and ask what you can do to get them to give you some space and room to grow.
and them telling you \"its not you i dont trust its the people out there in the world\" is a poor excuse. they might as well keep you in a padded cell your whole life, or in a cage like a hamster.
((i know what this is like ive been there))
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Is there like a list of rich people's houses? I just want to see how famous people and rich persons even if I never heard of them live. I know, shallow right? Sorry. (link)
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if you want to see the most rich and famous peoples house, then just go to LA and drive down mullhulland drive in hollywood. famous and rich people LITERALLY live, next door to each other over there.
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Hi! I am from India 22/f. I have a bf.we are together since 2010. He is much older than me. He is sweet. But i cannot find any match between us. He is very orthodox by nature. I am littlebit modern than he. He cannot like girls/woman, except his mother and sister.he has a negative point of view on women. But he had a relation before me.and he also proposed me.so i can't understand his mentality.also he has a big issue with working women.he thought that those who(woman) work in office,she cannot run a family and grows child.his idle woman should be stay at home after marriage,bt do household work only.i am educated and want a good career.also a husband and child.i think woman can easily handle both the thing easily.but he can't accept it.although he never force me to do so,but when we discuss such thing.he told me this. I love him so i remain silent always.what should i do?? Does his point of view is normal??plz suggest me. Thank you. (link)
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you should tell him that you\'ll marry him if he wants but that you have certain conditions and life expectations or goals for yourself that you\'d like to reach. Now you can do those with or without him but since you love him, it\'d be nice to have him along for the journey, if not tell him you understand and that you can parts ways.
You cant let someone else rule yourself, you may look back years later and have regrets, and end up resenting your husband for never letting you at least TRY to reach your full potential. He should at least let you try and if it doesnt work out then you can do whatever after that (LIKE staying home to raise kids)
I would also address his view on women with him before you agree to marry him. if he hates women what if you marry him and he ends up to be a wife beater, or abusive because you have no value to him? is that that kind of person you want to end up with??
these are all things you should ask yourself and try to sit him down and REALLY, seriously talk to him about before you go through with a marriage. try to do it in a respectful way to show him that you CARE but that you value yourself and your dreams too. good luck sweetie.
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Hi I am siva from India , I m 22 old ... I am having a habit of manstrubation . . I have started it from my 17th year stil am doing it ... At 1st it could be monthly once but nowadays I do it daily , sometimes 4 in a day :( ... More over I ask my gf to talk hot in phone ., I.e phone sex pls help me out to stop it ... And to stop manstrubation using my gf :( I feel bad .... And I want to know whether this manstrubation leads to problem in giving birth ... Wil it make any problem in future to my child or to my wife or to me , pls tel me (link)
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ok first off, its TOTALLY normal for a person of your age to want sex or pleasure alot. especially if your a male (like im thinking you are based on your mentioning of a gf) males peeks sexually around 16 or 17 years old so you will be sexually active until your 70\'s men produce sperm their whole lives pretty much. Theres no harm in it, if your not exposing yourself to anyone or raping or forcing anyone to have sex with you ive your urges.
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My best friend(Danielle) is sort of ignoring me. It's been a really long time since she asked me to hang out after school or on the weekend. We still talk to each other every day. We sit by each other at lunch and on the bus, but lately she has been hanging out with this girl Luisa. Luisa isn't mean or anything, but its just that since she became friends with Danielle, Danielle has been practicly worshiping her. She always needs to ask for Luisa's opinion on everything. Every weekend she's with Luisa.
Danielle has also been trying to be emo. Its sooo annoying!!! Whenever she says that she went to hot topic or when she tells me she downloaded some song from a band I never heard of she thinks she so cool. I try to tell her shes not emo but she thinks she is!
BTW: I don't want to tell her I feel left out or something and shes like my only friend sooo....??? (link)
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I think we\'ve all kind of been through this at one point or another. This girl is basically just the new squeeze thats all. and Its probably not a good idea to down on the new girl or else it might just make your friend think your jealous.
Just give it time, be \"civil\" with them both and wait until your friend gets tired of her. If youve really been a good friend this whole time, then its only a matter of time before theres a fight or something of that nature to break them apart. just keep being friends with YOUR friend, let her call you, let her tell you things she doesnt tell anyone else things like that.
kids in high school or junior high usually go through that \"i dont know where or with who i fit in with yet\" stage. your friend could just be feeling the same way and sooner or later the fascination with her will wear off. I would also just keep mentioning when ever you can that youve \"always been here for her even through all her rough times and thats what friends are for\" things like that. she should pick up on it, and realize shes probably been leaving you out a little.
But also try to remember that YOU need to grow as a person too, and its actually not totally healthy to have just ONE \"best friend\" that you wrap your whole life up in. its ok to have more then ONE really good friend. so go hang out with other people too, try new things, and do stuff you dont normally do so your not sitting home alone while thinking about how your best friend with probably hanging out with that girl.
((((the most important thing here, is try not to be mean to the new friend, your old friend will most likely turn on you and think your \"just jealous\")))) pretend like you dont care that they are hanging out and that its \"not a big deal\" just for now at least. ; )
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