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Why are things so weird now that my GF and I moved in with my parents?
We moved in with my parents about a year ago so we could save some serious money for our future. When we got settled in my mom started cooking A LOT and has been piling up our plates. My GF went along with it and started eating A LOT. She started to put on A LOT of weight. Then about 6 months later I watched her start wearing slippers and stretch pants instead of jeans and heels. By now I've put on weight too. So, I talked to my GF privately last night:
Me: Hey honey, I feel like I'm getting fat. Wanna start dieting with me? GF: I think you're confusing "fat" with "happy" we're living like royalty.
Not sure what's going on, but it's weird. On the other hand, our savings account is not laughable anymore.
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if its YOUR mom that you guys moved in with, cant you talk to her about making healthier foods? if your mom cares about how you feel, see if you can as a FAMILY start making healthier meals so youll feel better in general.
Usually eating healthier food, will make you FEEL better not only because its good for you but its not so hard on your stomach and digestive system either. tell her to make LIGHTER meals, add more veggies to your morning eggs and rice. small changes like this will slowly get the whole family eating better and over time youll see the changes. your mom can still make lots of food if it comforts her to feel like she still cooking for a large family, but that doesnt mean it has to be unhealthy!
have her start buying more yogurt, less white bread and more whole wheat stuff, frozen veggies to add to rice, or eggs, avoid anything white. like sugar, white bread, etc. have her buy bulk plain oatmeal in the morning for everyone to eat for breakfast, it keep your poop moving through you regularly, and you can add anything you want to it like fruits, or spices like cinnamon and honey. (((these are all very small changes that will get them headed in a healthier direction where youd like them to be)) good luck
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You know what's going on: You are both eating more.
You also know that it's bugging you, and that it doesn't seem to bug her.
So what can you do? Well, you could go on a diet yourself if your own body is important to you. That might inspire her if, on some level, she's not happy with her own. You could also start offering to cook sometimes, and preparing healthier meals for the whole family.
What you can't do is say "You're a fatty and I don't like it."
Well, you could, but you'd be an asshole.
So stop blaming your girlfriend for choices you have, up to this point, made together and start making some changes towards the kind of body you want to have. You'll be in a better position to show her that this important to you in general, (and not simply an insult of her weight) then to encourage her to make healthy changes as well.
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she's just a lot happier and is getting comfortable theirs nothing wrong with that however if you have a problem maybe its time to move out? or you can talk to your gf or mom about making healthier meals for you that will probably convince her to eat healthier to.
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