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I just found out my husband has been cheating on me. We agreed to separate for a while because we can't live together right now. But he is still sleeping with this woman who is also married with children. He says he is not sure weather or not it is going to work out with her, that he doesn't know her, he is just living a fantasy right now, replacing what was missing in our relationship. He is getting attention he hasn't gotten from me in a while because our lives have been so busy. It doesn't make it okay, but our relationship is way to special to throw away and I want to work it out with him. We are going to couples counseling in a few months. I am having a hard time convincing him to stop sleeping with this woman, and I am thinking about sending this woman's husband the e-mails she and my husband have exchanged along with a letter I have written to him revealing the truth about what his wife has been out doing. But will this push this woman further into my husbands arms or will it make her and her husband focus on their own relationship instead of her focusing on hers with my man? Please help, I don't know weather or not to send it without everyone's advice out there!! Will it only cause more problems that will work against what I want (my husband back in my arms) or will it end the affair my husband is having?

her husband will probably leave her if he find's out. It's funny how women will put up with a man cheating on them and breakin there hearts, but a man won't put up with that shit. Wake up! he's sleepin with a woman that aint you, if he cared about you sooooooo much he would be with you. sorry but the truth hurts.

**additonal*

HEY GIRLFRIEND, THIS IS THE MOM OF THE GIRL THAT WROTE YOU THE ADIVE ABOVE, I AM 45, MARRIED RECENTLY AND HAVE LOT OF LIFE EXPERIENCE UNDER MY BELT, LET ME TELL U YOUR LETTER WAS DISTRESSING TO ME, FIRST OF ALL, SOUNDS LIKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP W/HUBBY IS ONLY SPECIAL TO YOU, NOT HIM,TELL HIM TO GO FOR IT, U DONT CARE, IF YOU LET HIM KNOW U CARE HE WILL SURELY NOT COME BACK TO YOU. AND NO 2 TELL HER HUSBAND, ITS ONLY FAIR AND HE HAS A RIGHT TO KNOW.dONT TRY TO TELL HIM TO STOP SLEEPING WITH HER, IT WONT WORK. IM SORRY TO BE SO BLUNT,BUT YOU NEED TO GET A LIFE THAT DOSENT INVOLVE HIM, AND IF SEES YOU HAVE MOVED ON HE WILL COME CLOSER TO COMING HOME THAN IN ANYOTHER DAY, BY THE WAY, IF YOU CAN "GET" THE OTHERS HUSBAND THE NEWS, DONT LET ANYONE KNOW YOU TOLD IT,. BUT I WOULD DEFINATELY MAKE SURE HE KNOWS. HOW MANY KIDS DOES SHE HAVE AND DOES SHE WORK,.? ANYWAY, I WISH YOU WELL, DONT LET HIM MAKE YOU HOLD YOUR HEAD DOWN, YOU ARE WORTH A LOT MORE THAN THAT, THERE IS LIFE AFTER A ROTTON HUSBAND AND BELIEVE ME HE IS ROTTON!

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ok well i was talking to this guy, were friends, not even friends and we were talking about his friend who had sex with his new girlfriend. then hes like shut up, my dads home. so then we stopped talking about it. then a little bit later it sort of came up again and i made a comment about it. then he didnt respond for like 10 mins. then he said: i hate u, u got me grounded, i told u that my dad was in the room. he didnt tell me that he was in the room, he had just said that he was home nad i had no idea that he was reading the conversation. now the guy (paul) is grounded for 2 months. he says hes never gonna forgive me or ever talk to me again. i feel so bad, theres nothing i can do about it.
help! what do i do?

Girl don't even stress it! It was his fault anywayz. You were trying to be a friend and be there for him to listen to his troubles. How were you supposed to know his dad was reading everything? And what was he grounded for anywayz? lol being on the computer? or telling you about his troubles? thats so retarted. He's just bein anal lol Here's you something to use for future refrence, me and my best friend would do this when we were younger. When your on the phone or the computer, and someone is near you and you cant talk about something you were previously talking about say "L E" which means listening ears...your friend will get the drift and drop the subject.

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OK my best friend went out with this boy four about a month, and he broke up wid her....well now hes asking me to go out wid him and i really like him and he really likes me. But, i dont kno wut to do.... I mean she says its ok if i go out with him becuz hes been askin me everyday if i will but i keep saying i dont kno. If she says its ok should i?¿ PLz help me...... i RATE very well....
~*~Confuzed~*~~

Congrats for askin your friend first before goin out with him. that was the right thing to do, as we all know bestfriends are forever. She said it's ok....so go for it! You like em' and he like's you so what are you waiting for? lol good luck!

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i'm 5'1 and i'm really short compared to my friends, its kinda embaressing since i use to be taller than most of them.. what can i do to grow taller? no pills or w/e

I definately know where your coming from. I'm 22 years old, standing at 5"1...lol There is nothing you can do to grow taller. My advice to you....embrace it! dont be ashamed of it.

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hey

i want to spice my look up a little bit. can you give me ideas for make-up and hair? i have dark brown hair and im from greece so i have medditeranean skin...although i get really pale in winter because i get soo soo tan in summer. but anyway i have brown eyes. could you please please help me?

Dark hair always looks best with dark eyeshawdow's...like silver, charcol colors. Always wear 2 shades of eyeshadow...1 color is just to plain. Myabe get a hair cut, like not cut any length just add some layers to it to spice it up. Also, Lip gloss is a must have for any girl.

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Okay so my boyfriend was fingering me and like he saw that there was blood on his finger [not much just kinda around the bed of his nail] I thought maybe I had started my period but just a few minutes I went to the bathroom and I didn't. But it kinda burned and there was like brown stuff [like discharge]. What is wrong?

No he did not pop your cherry, but yea he did scratch ya'........lol

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I have a pretty big emergancy...
My boyfriend gave me a hicky like 30 minutes ago and I was wondering if theres ANYWAY to help speed the process of it disapearing?
please help if my parents see this then i'll get killed!

A hickey....It comes from busted blood vessels. One way to help speed up the process is to keep ice or something cold on it. Other than that just keep foundation on it till it's ummm better? lol

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hey

umm im 14 and im small for my age. i havent gotten my period yet and i have no boobs. im really skinny too...but im definitley not anorexic...AT ALL!! so yeah i have two questions. #1...what should i do about this? like how should i make myself grow more. #2...is this why i havent had true bf yet? i mean im not ugly...just not developed.

Sorry Hun, but there's not much you can do to speed up the growing and devolping process. Don't think that the reason that you havent had a boy friend yet is because you have small boobs. Would you want a guy that was with you just becuase you had big boobs and 4 no other reason? I didn't think so. The worst part of answering your questiong it tellin you that the only thing you can do is wait. I know that sucks, but in time your body will devolp more. It ususally starts around the time you start your first period, which can be anywhere between 13-16. {depending on your weight...the thinner you are the longer it will take.}

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my room is really lame and i hate having friends in it because its not cool. i have basic furniture, tv, computer, but its so boring to be in. any ideas? help!!!

Oh there is so much you can do to your room! What you want to accomlish is making your room very personalized, adding your chracter to it to make it very unique. First step, step back in your doorway and look at your room and try to figure out a way to move ALL the furniture in your room around the way that you like it, plus to make it different. 2nd thing, Initals are soooo in this year, Put your Initial on your wall or cover the whole back of your door with your intital. You could buy some blacklights to go in, {depending on your financial resources lol} posters, anything that you like. Pictures out of magazines, buy a white posterboard and cut out magazine pictures and cute sayings and make a collage to put on your wall, there are tons of ideas I could think of. Good luck and Have Fun!

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okay, so im 13 and im really small like my body is and im only like 5"4 i weigh bout a little over 100 pounds and im not trying to be arrogant but im really fit. The only thing is my boobs are really big. I wear a D cup bra and even when i wear sports bras they like look really big anyways theres a lot of problems. Im majorly into sports and they get so much in the way and they make my back hurt really bad. Second of all I always get hit on by like way older guys and I dont want that because im a really christian person with a strong faith and its just wrong. Then theres also the problem that like a whole bunch of guys like me and the only reason is because of my boobs, and theres been like a whole bunch of rumors that i had a boob job which is NOT true at all and a lot of girls dont like me because of them because they get jealous that the guys at our school really like me even though i tell them i dont like any of them. Then i also have stretch marks and i dont know how to get rid of them??? can someone please tell me about any really good bras that will like hide them or help support them, cause ive talked to my dcotor and they just gave me this pain medicine to keep them from hurting when they put strain on my back and stuff and also to hide them from perverted guys that im tired of dealing with?? please help me

I know what your going thru, i to was and still am well endowed in that department lol! The greatest bra I have everrrr found was by "Curvation" you can buy it at any Big Dept. Store or like a Wal-Mart. Also, pick u up a bottle of Palmers Cocoa Butter Lotion, they make the stretch marks on your breats not go away, but fade into the regular color of your skin.

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me and my boyfriend has been dating for a week now and he hasnt call me in 5 days. when we first started dating he got my number and dont have his, and we really hit it off good.and it is not like him to not call me, am so worried about him,because i like him alot,what should i do.

Let me get this str8, yall have been datin for 7 days, & he hasnt called you for 5 of those days? that's retarted! Why don't you have his digits? the next time you do talk to him get his number girl!

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Everybody I've asked has said different things about it but when is the best time to have sex so you wont get pregnate, alot of people say to do it when your on your period because its less likely, is that true? thanks a ton!!

No that is not true, you can get pregnant at any time of the month, Wether your on your period, wether it's raining, snowin, lol you get the point. The best way to not get pregnant is to go get on birth control or use a condom.

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i'm a 15year old female...and i think my mom knows i masturbate. help! how should i handle this! thank ya:D

How is it that you think she knows? Did she walk in on you or somethin'? {lol} Don't stress it, yea it is embarassin if she does know, but you can trust me on this, as disgusting as it may sound, she's done it before...lol

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I'm trying to figure out what's wrong with my boyfriend lately. I've been with him almost 6 years and we have 1 child together, our 1 year old son. My boyfriend is usually an all around nice guy who is family oriented and fun to be with. He is a dedicated worker and family man. But lately he seems self-destructive. Keep in mind he works two jobs so he is working 17 hours 5 days a week which he's been doing over a year now. He gets NO sleep, maybe 2 hours a night. That could be what's getting to him. But he is unwilling to make a change. I told him he either needs depression medication or a job change or both. So he's been extremely mean to me lately, turning everything I say upside down and picking fights with me in front of our son. He seems to not be caring about anything and he's so cold and hard inside. I prefer not to say exactly what, but he's been getting into something substance related, he's having like a relapse of our old party days or something, he's got the wrong friends. He actually took something out in front of our child and I had to pull him from his high chair and take him in the other room. He's like, "what, he doesn't know what's going on." and I'm like, "it' doesn't matter it's the act." Also, he smokes cigarettes and I hate cigarettes and we have an agreement not to smoke in the house. But he's been smoking in here anyway after I go to bed. I don't believe me and my child should have to suffer for his bad habit, he should take it outside. He knows my wishes but goes behind my back anyways. He would normally never do this. I'm not a mean girlfriend, just a good mother. So this is totally not normally him and I don't understand what is happening here. All he does is bitch about life and say how he's going to die early and stuff and I'm so sick of it now. He never wants to do anything anymore with us as family. I don't want our son growing up in this environment, but also, I really love and care about my boyfriend and know that something deep inside him is really wrong and I would hate to turn my back on him, but am tempted to kick him the fuck out, he's really pressing my buttons, it's like he's seeing how far I will go with this. Also, our sex life is nothing to complain about, just so you know. Is this something we may be able to get passed or is this an ending he has created and he's going to lose everything that's good in his life? I know it's up to him to make a change, but how much should I take? Once it's over with us, that's it, it's over, that's why I am putting off the end until whatever sets me off, sets me off. Please help.

Whoa, what a change he has made, first off him workin 17 hour work days, then only sleeping for 2 hours and then still supposed to be a "family man" and physically be there with you and yall's child is alot on him. {im not saying he shouldnt be expected to be there with yall as much as possible, but simply that this is alot on any one} Try and help him find another job with lesser hours and maybe even you working to help loosen his work load if that's possible. Also, yea I would see about gettin him some help, like first off, someone for him to talk to...You may not realize exactly how much pressure there is on him to support his family and still be there with you all. A little depression medicine might do him some good. Talk to him but not in a way that he feel's backed in a corner. let him know how much you love him and that you want him to get some help and that no matter how much you love a person, there's only so much that you can take. maybe that will get him to get the help he needs. My advice? He don't change and soon, show him the door.

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okay well i have been talking to this guy online and on the phone almost every night for about a year and 1/2 and even though i have never actually physically met him i think i have fallen in love with his personality. we only live about an hour away and i am friends with his cousin who lives near me, so its very possible that we could meet whenever we wanted to. well i do want to meet him to maybe try to start a relationship, but the problem is that i sent him a fake picture of me. not just one fake picture, but i have sent him websites..TONS of fake picures saying that they were me. so now he has this image of a beautiful girl in his mind. its not that im afraid he will think im ugly at this point, but i am afraid to admit that i sent him alllll those pictures. its extremely embarassing.. and i didnt do it just once, ive done it ALOT!!! i dont know what to do..if i never meet him then it will break my heart and i think i will be missing out on something really great...what should i do? i know this is pathetic..please dont be rude i just need help!!

OK, not to bring up again what you done or whatever lol but why send him the fake pics? You are who you are and you can't change that. Just be honest with him, the longer you string this on the more it will hurt him. He may not talk to you anymore for lying to him but that's just something you will have to accept. Start off by saying I got something to tell you and before I do, I want you to know how terribly sorry I am.......You know the rest. Good Luck.

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i know its natural but there any thing help hair growth in a month..
thanks

Yea, there actually is a few things you can do to help your hair grow a bit faster {my mom's a beautican} Buy you some vitamns A, B12, and B6, they help speed up hair growth, also if you want thicker hair, use some Main N Tail Horse shampoo, I don't know if that works b/c I wouldn't use it..I hate thick hair lol but yea the vitams do work, ya just gotta give them time, it worked for me.

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this isnt the same guy thats been saying he wants to kill himself but i do have the same problem i go to your school but you probably wouldnt know me im just some loser that has friends that make fun of me.my family has turned thier backs on me and i cant seem to find a way out except to pull a trigger.

this is my cry for help can you please help me i will be very thankfull.

Pulling the trigger? That's the easy way out. You will find thru life that it is a struggle. You have to keep on and keep up, that's just life. You were put here for a reason, and killing your self is not one of them. There are great things in store for you during your life. No matter how bad thing's may seem for you right now, trust me...there is someone else out there who has it 100 times worser than you, and there still here...Why? Because they choose to fight. Not give up. Best of luck to you in making the right decesion...Not giving up.

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ive never been popular at my school, ive never been asked out by any guy (im thin, and gorgeous) and ive always been average and i stutter everytime i talk and i dont no what to talk about and there always bored of me and i hate how i act different at school then i do at home

my question is

* can someone give me tips to flirt
* can someone tell me what to talk about so i can be a little bit more popullar

desperatee

Maybe the reason you've never been asked out is because your ego is wayyyy to big, I mean look, you described your self as thin and gorgeous...
how about, im petite and think of myself as a good lookin girl, or im average, or ok, or beatiful, but GORGEOUS, no guy wants to date a girl that has a ego that big. I'm not saying to think of your self as shit or nothing lol but im so gorgeous and i dont know why ppl dont want me?
Think about it.

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any good colors for braces please list them like this
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2
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and etc..... need advice freakin here

Braces are out, and what's even more out is COLORED ONES! I remember colored braces when I was in like the 5th grade...{im 22 now} Go with INVISALIGN or how ever you spell it. There very discreet, no one will even know you have braces. The last thing you want to do is brodcast to the world that you have croked teeth and a mouth full of bright colored metal would certainly tell it ALL...
Additonal: Your comment? loved it...lmao, Answer this, how many ppl have you seen with colored braces? can you count to ZERO?

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i have an older laptop, i just got it its somewhere from '85 to '92 and I accidently deleted some files and now it wont even let me get on the computer. it wont let me get to microsoft windows. how do I get on there and undelete the files if possible? it keeps saying error....

Sorry hun, I know where your coming from, I did the exact same thing! Call a computer shop, and see about having your computer put in to be fixed, It's gonna' run you about $65.00 to have Windows installed back onto your computer.

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