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im dating a jerk, but ive known another guy in my school for about forever now, and i think i am starting to like him. i told him last night that i think i rlly do like him. because we always joke around about liking each other. things arent weird today in school.. but im still clueless on if i should follow through. lets call him jay he is a senior at my school, he is friendly, cute, jokester, amazingly funny, and the sweetest guy you could ever meet. But the catch is.. him and my best friend Bree were together a while ago they werent dating but they kissed and stuff. i dont think she would be mad at me yet im not so sure.. any advice would be lovellyyy (link)


Wow...


Hun you have fallin in the exact same boat as I have. In fact his name was "Jay" also. lol

I think you need to follow your heart decide what is the best thing on your behalf. If you feel that there could be something great between the two of you and you like each other I say go for it. If your best friend isn't with him then it really doesn't matter that much. I would try too talk too your friend and maybe see how she feels.

-BahaiMa22


what are some very early signs of pregnany, like 2 weeks in? i'm due for my period any day and i'm really freaking out. i know i need to just wait it out but im so scared and i cant get a test. the only pregnancy symptoms i have is sore breats and constipation. but i did have unprotected sex when i was ovulating. (he never came though) help. :( (link)


Early signs: Tender Breast, Fatigue,Frequent Urination,Nausea,Food Cravings, or Aversions to Foods,Morning Sickness,Mood Swings and Irritability

I suggest to take a test hun.


BahaiMa22


hello. so i have around 200 dollars from graduation that i would like to spend, plus i could get a couple hundred more by trading some of the gifts i got. i don't know what to get myself!! i just graduated from high school.. i'm a girl. i live in austin, tx. and i'm going to UT next year. i already have a digital camera and i'm planning on getting a laptop. any ideas on what to get? (link)


Don't be in a rush to spend it, Put it in your savings account and don't touch it. Once you spend the money remember it's long gone...If you save it at least you will always know it's there.


BahaiMa22


I got my tongue pierced on friday. That night I went to a free house party.
I did the exact opposite of what I was told.
I drank a lot, mostly vodka and Jack Daniels.
I ended up making out for about 2 hours with my boyfriend.
And then finally I gave him head.
He has a Prince Albert piercing.
This all irritated my piercing.
I feel really stupid.
And it feels like there's a whale in my mouth.
What can I do to make my tongue better.
Don't tell me to take it out :)
I know there's other options. (link)


You might want to try mouthwash, I hate to say this...but they tell you what not too do for a reason. I would highly suggest getting it checked out because it is possible your mouth could get an infection. If they say you should remove it then perhaps it's the best thing too do. It's better to be on safe than sorry.


-BahaiMa22


alright so i went to the dermatologist about a week ago for my acne problem, i had it all over my chest and back, and she gave me these pills to take, im guessing some sort of antibiotics. now Ive been taking them and at first everything was fine, but lately like starting 3 days ago i started to feel sick. not in an emergency way, just very nauseated like i was about to throw up. i know that some acne meds have side effects such as nausea but i dont know if this one does or if its something else. and well my question is, how do i stop it!????? thanks! =) (link)



Perhaps, Pro-Active would be the best solution I could give you.

I'm sorry I couldn't be much more of help.


Best wishes.

-BahaiMa22


so this guy at work doesnt tell me he likes me or anything but he does smile and look at me and im not sure if he likes me but id like toknow how i can find out im a cashier so is he and we sometimes see each other he likes to read books bc he always has a book with him but i was in a relationship w a guy for two yrs we broke up its been a couple books and now i dont think i know how to flirt or what to say to him please help me out im lost...thx in advance everyone (link)


Everyone has there own way of flirting. Try smiling back at him or maybe when you have the time go up and approach him say "Hi, How are you" a big part of flirting is body action and often commenting. Ask him out for coffee or something on day when you both have the free time maybe even exchanging numbers. ;)

Good luck!!

-BahaiMa22


How many points do you get a day for weight watchers?? (link)
It depends,


Weight watchers gives you a point sheet, The points are based on your heigh and your weight.


hello. im 20 yrs old and i jus had sex for the first time.My partner and i had protected sex. What i want to know is he pulled out before he came even though he had a condom on. He then ejaculated and the sperm or watever ended up on my upper thigh and also in my pubic hair i immediately wipped it off and went to sleep. Is it a possibility that im might get pregnant. Oh and i just finished my menstrual cycle the night we had sex.
(link)


You should be on the safe side, but if you are nervous you can always take a pregnancy test.

-BahaiMa22


this question is directed towards people on the Depo Provera birth control shot or people who are very knowledgeable about it. 16/f i have been on the shot for about two months, and everything that i've read about it said that a condom is not necessary while taking the shot, so recently, i haven't been using one. is this unwise? ALSO, my boyfriend and had sex and then i went upstairs and i was bleeding A LOT! it could just be that he ripped me a bit, but if it was spotting, i wanted to know if you have sex while your spotting on the pill can you get pregnant? i think not but i just wanted to be sure. thank you so much, (link)


I was on Depo Provera for 4 years.

Depo provera is said to be 99% effective. There is always that 1% chance you could possibly become pregnant. I don't know who told you that a condom is not necessary a condom is ALWAYS necessary and don't ever forget that. Depo Provera does not protect you again STD (Sexual transmitted disease)I would highly recommend you use a condom while having sex with your partner. The bleeding you have could be spotting which is very normal while on depo provera. If you are bleeding heavily it is possible that your boyfriend may be thrusting to roughly and may have ripped your hymen but if that is the case that will heal.


Good luck

-BahaiMa22


16/f
my boyfriend has trouble trusting me. he says he trusts me but i know he doesn't. he freaks out anytime i even talk to another guy. i used to have so many guy friends now i don't anymore. i love my boyfriend to death and will not breakup with him i just need your help with a way to make things better.

this happens a lot about different things but i'll tell you what is going on now. he is constantly scared that if i talk to another guy i'll like him. my boyfriend is always asking me who i talk to in my gym class (meaning guys). i hardly talk to any of the guys, mostly just the girls. i told him that and he was like give me all of the names of the people you've had conversations with. and he started freaking out. then i told him that there is no way i could ever remember that and i'm crying so much and he thinks i'm hiding something. he always thinks i talk to guys behind his back.

like he always looks at my phone at my texts and calls. i know he just loves me so much and never wants to lose me but idk what to do to make all of this stop and just have him trust me!

thanks so much! (link)



Relationships are all about trust, If you can't trust the person then there is really no relationship. I would try to sit down and exsplain to your boyfriend how it makes you feel that he has all these assumptions about what you do or what you might do. Tell him how you feel about him and reassure him that everything is okay and that you love him. If you hang out with a guy friend maybe include your boyfriend into hanging out and maybe he will realize that everything will be okay. Remember communication is the key.


Good luck

-BahaiMa22


anybody know of any other perfumes that smell like japanese cherry blossom? or that smell kinda like a clothing store. not too sweet, but yeah...like japanese cherry blossom haha. thanks (link)


Cherry Blossom - Bath and Body works.


Hia again ,
I just wanted to know , what guys like to get as a bday gift from the gf's? because my bf's birthday is coming up and I have no idea what to get him..

please help ,
thank you so much ,
Betty (link)


Find out what he likes and what his interests are.


I normally go for the gift cards...


So, i'm like, a sexaholic with my boyfriend, and he used to be the same way, but we've been together for over a year now, and sex has become rare. MAYBE once a month, if i'm lucky. I constantly want it, once i get it i'm good for a day or two, then i want it again. idk if it's because it makes me feel attractive or because he's so good or what it is, but it's driving me NUTS that he doesn't want to do it anymore. he's always too tired or has to work in the morning or is sore or spends all night on his video game and doesn't get off of it till he's ready to pass out. I want him to want me! i've tried sexy dances, sexy clothes, talking sexy, everything! i even bought whipcream and handcuffs..... what can I do to bring his sex drive back? he says it's not a personal issue, no depression, nothing wrong with me, but idk. i don't know what to do.

:( (link)


Okay,


It sounds to me that maybe you and your boyfriend might have has sex so much it wore him down. He may need a break. You can still kiss him, cuddle with him etc.. but the sex thing might need to hold off at least for a few days! The same thing has happened to me before. Slow things down a little bit ;)


I usually weigh around 125 pounds (which is normal for me), but during the last month or so, I've been stressed out over exams and unintentionally lost some weight due to stress and poor eating habits. I weighed myself yesterday, and I was 116! I noticed my jeans are quite a bit looser now, but did not expect my weight to have gone down by as much as it has. So now, I'm trying to gain back the weight, so that I am between 120-125.. I am 23, F, and am about 5'5"-5'6"...needless to say ,I do miss the curves! I have a tendency to loose weight when I'm super stressed..i loose my appetite, skip breakfast, or even dinner...definitely not healthy.

But anyway, for those who know, what is a healthy way to gain back the weight? I don't want to have a fast food overdose, but still want to gain back around 6-8 pounds. I want to eat healthy, and get back in the habit of walking and doing yoga (long overdue!). Any tips are appreciated :) (link)

Okay,


*Gets out her weight watchers book* ...

The minimum healthy weight for 5'5 would be 125 lbs

The maximum healthy weight would be 150 lbs.

The healthy way to gain your weight back is too make sure you eat right! and they always say breakfast is the most important meal of the day. If you feel stressed try to eat meals anyway even if it's just a banana or whatever. Watch your intake make sure your portion sizes are what they should be. Try to advoid any carbs they tend to get too you the most. You can excersize but make sure you don't over do it! If you avoid meals your body will think you are starving yourself and it will eventually build excess fat. If you want to snack try buying whole wheat crackers, bowl of mixed fruit, carrots etc. However like I said try doing the portion sizes. ;)


Good luck!

-BahaiMa22


I need hepl on figuring out what giving head means (link)



Basically sucking on the penis, Oral sex.


16/f


me and my bf had sex for the first time and i was on top at one point but i had noo idea what to do. so basically how exactly am i supposed to move on top? (link)



Hun there is no wrong way to move! Do whatever makes you feel comfortable. However, My most helpful advice I can give you is pretend you are riding a horse. Just hop up and down but move foward and backwards slightly. That always works for me. Don't worry I had the same problem when I first had sex and TRUST me eventually you will get the hang of it. ;)

-BahaiMa22


Is there any type of vegan cheese that melts (particularly brands available in the UK)? Im not a vegan but have a friend I often cook for who is. He is wanting me to make a pizza, but a pizza without cheese....isn't a pizza! The only ones I have found dont melt at all.... Any ideas? (link)



You could buy soy cheese.

Also nutrional yeast works well with butter and milk mixed together (That's what I do) I know it sounds disgusting but it's really good! I believe you can find the recipe online. ;)

Good luck!

-BahaiMa22


i got my belly button pierced 3 months ago and its still all red around the hole thats above my belly button. i clean it everyday with soap and it never gets infected, and i have a hoop ring so its easier to clean but the redness wont go away. how do i get it to stop being red and when can i change the ring? (link)
Whatever you do, You do not want to touch or play with it. Some people can't peirce there bodies because it either gets infected or it doesn't work out. You might want too use cleaner that the peircing place should have giving you if not I would suggest First aid lubricant. If the redness keeps up I would go back to the peircing place and see what they suggest.


its my future sisters birthday and i desperatley need gift ideas! shes 25, easy going, and has a lot of stuff already.
it has to be good though because she got me lots of nice things for my birthday.
any answer would be appreciated please.
thanks xxx (link)


Maybe a gift card and some flowers?!



- BahaiMa22


15/F


I've been getting my hair cut from one stylist over the past few years. He's a very good haircutter - I've been pleased with most of his cuts.

Well, this time I told him what I wanted but he misunderstood me and he gave me an atrocious pixie cut. It looks pretty damned awful.

I can't look at myself in the mirror without crying. I have never looked this ugly in my whole life. I've been wearing a wig so people don't see what I look like.


Here is the hair I have right now:

http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g164/risingloafer/100_1901.jpg
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http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g164/risingloafer/100_1899.jpg



Here is the look that I wanted to achieve:


http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g164/risingloafer/100_1629.jpg
http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g164/risingloafer/100_1621.jpg
http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g164/risingloafer/100_1632.jpg
http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g164/risingloafer/100_1624.jpg
http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g164/risingloafer/100_1642.jpg
http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g164/risingloafer/100_1738.jpg
http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g164/risingloafer/100_1737.jpg
http://i56.photobucket.com/albums/g164/risingloafer/100_1747.jpg
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I told him exactly what I wanted. I even showed him one of the pictures (the 7th one). I told him that I wanted a stacked, graduated bob that really poofs out.

He saw one of the pictures and he said, "Oh, I see! You want it super short!" Well, yes, the haircut I wanted was about jaw-length, but I DID NOT WANT A PIXIE CUT!!!!

I asked him whether the cut he was planning to give would puff out on the sides, and he said yes, so I assumed that we were on the same page. While he was cutting away, I was starting to see the direction that my hair was going, and I asked him again whether my hair would poof out in the end and he said, "Don't worry, this is just the underlayer. It'll poof out in the end"

Yes, the cut he gave me was stacked and layered but I DID NOT WANT A PIXIE CUT!!!!


He sensed that I was unhappy and he later gave me a phone call. He said that in a few months, he can re-do my hair free of charge.


So, what I need to know is:


1. How long will it take (link)



Hair normally grows about an inch and a half each month.


Sorry I couldn't be much more of a help..

-BahaiMa22




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