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I'm a 27 year old female.For the first time in a long while I'm actually happy to be single. I have my own appartment and a part time job, and was thinking that if I was dating someone I probably couldnt affort to have all the nice things like movies, cd's, and nice furniture, because I would be spending it on my bf. I was also thinking how nice it is not to have the responsiblility of looking after children. A lot of the ladies I work with at the store have kids and they are always so stressed out. I have it made- I only answer to myself and can come and go as I please. The money I make is spent on myself and doesnt go to pay for anyone else.
I am selfish for feeling like this? And is it just I phase? I want to have a family SOMEDAY, just not now. I'm having too much fun!!

No it is not selfish at all to not be ready for a different lifestyle now. Go out! enjoy doing all the things you love doing. I have 2 questions in regards to your question though....lol #1 Where do you work to only have a part time job and be able to afford everything? lol and #2 Having a boyfriend where I'm from means he helps foot the bill most of the time where do you live that the girl pays for everything? Just curious-

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im 15 years old, i no im not old enough to have sex yet, but if the opprotunity comes i have a question...im really worried, im not big enough to wear a tampon. and its been that way ever since i started my peroid. i flirt with guys a lot, and i want to do more then just flirtin somtimes, but im afaird, that if i start doing more than just flirtin suck as fingering or actually sex that it will hurt me a lot, bcuz im not big enough.. i was wondering if maybe someone could tell me if it would hurt bcuz im not big enough or if im just worring for no reason?! please help. thanks a lot.

ok, you may think im bull shittin' ya, but I'm 23 years old and though that does not mean you know everything, it does mean you've had a lil bit more experience with such things so here goes...there's no such thing as "not big enough" Women can wear a tampon. If you feel like it doesn't fit properly then chances are you are not using it right. Yea having sex the first time does hurt but obviously not to bad or women would be virgins 4ever or only have sex just that 1 time lol just relax, read the "instructions manual" in the tampon box again lol and give it another shot. P.S. regardless if you use tampons or pads, it wont make a difference when the time comes for you to loose your virginity.

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The other day I fried my hair. I was in a hurry so while my hair was still slightly damp I straightened it. Now it feels like straw, its breaking off very easily, and I cannot style it. I've used several products and conditioned it several times but it will not go back to being soft and healthy. Is there anything I can do?

OMG i can so relate to you...Every single day I have to straighten my hair just so it dont look like what i call "nappy" lol! Yea, they do make a miracle concoction for "us" lol it's Aussie 3 minute miracle it'll run ya about $5 and totally worth it, you'll agree once ya' try it.

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16/f

I have alot of stuff on my mind lately. A little over a month ago, me and this guy (we'll call him Ed) broke up. We were together for 5 months. They were best 5 months of my life, but at the same time the worst. I've tried for a whole month to get over him and move on. I was "talking" to this other guy (we'll call him Bob). Four days ago, I had sex with him. Now it turns out, at the same he was "talking" to me, he was "talking" to two other girls. Now, this other guy (we'll call him George) wants to go out with me and I think I may have led him on. Not purposely. See, i thought I was finally ready for "commitment"..an actual boyfriend. But I'm not. I just want to have fun. I'm almost positive I'm in love with Ed, and I'm never going to forget Bob. I need to stop hanging out with Bob because he's been lying to me. But I can't, it's like I'm addicted to him. I have feelings for him but in a different way. It's like I just want us to be "friends with benefits". Tonight, George is supposed to come over but I'd rather sit at home alone and think about everything. So I have to tell him I don't want a boyfriend. I need advice (obviously). What should I do about Ed? Should I stop hanging out with Bob or just talk to him about it? How do I tell George I don't want to be with him, or anyone..for a long time? If someone could give me their AIM screen name, that'd be appreciated. I need someone, other than my friends, to talk to.

Damn Girl, you got a lot of guy problems consider yourself lucky...in a way i mean. Because some girls cant ever get 1 guy let alone someone who has what did you say 3 on there plate? lol OK first off....the guy that broke your heart...The general rule of thumb is 1 week of morning for every 6 months you were together Now I realize thats just a cliche but it's way past time to forget and move on and theres no easy way to do that. Now this 2nd guy....your booty call? lol I think you deserve more than that, sex with another guy is not going to heal your "broken heart" from the 1st guy anddddd this last guy you mislead, just explain to him you consider him a awesome friend but that that's all your ready for at the moment. best of luck wit your man probs

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I have been having a problem with staying erect lately I dont seem to have any problem getting it up but when its time for intercourse it seems to go down I still feel excited but the equipment does not want to corporate. any suggestions please help

There could be several possible explanations for your problem, so let's try and rule em out as we go...Number 1, Is your penis big? as in bigger than normal {normal is 5 - 7 inches) OR is it really thick? If so, that is your problem right there. When a penis is to big and it get's erect, not enough blood get's to it in time which causes it to go limp. If that's not your problem... then stress, guilt, work or family problems can bother you more than you realize which might be causing your problem. Try talking to your doctor. Also, just go with the flow, Dont put pressure on your self to perform, that will almost assure you that this problem will happen again. Take your time and RELAX. Good Luck!

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I have this friend that has a cancer but I dont know wut kind and he was doing really well untill the day of my uncles b_day.
We got a call on the phone that said he wasnt doing to well and that they gave him some medicine that they usually give people who are about to die.
I am so worried wut if he dies and we will never be able to see him again.
He is only 17 years old

HELP WANTED.

The best thing you can do for your friend right now, is to just be there for him. Don't let him see you cry, be positive around him. Check into what kind of medicine he was given, look it up on the net, that will help you understand more about his situation. People with cancer can survive. It is not a death sentence anymore. There is now great medicine's and Chemo-Therapy for cancer patients. Be strong for him, that's what he needs most right now.

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After begging my mom to take me to the doctors, she's finally going to (because I currently have a soar throat). I've been asking her to take me to get tested for anemia and ADD. Everytime I asked her she would say "I highly doubt you have ADD" and she would just snicker. So I have a soar throat now and I think she's making me drive to the doctors on my own (usually she goes with me). So for sure I'm going to ask about anemia and ADD. The only thing is, how am I supposed to bring it up.? I don't want to just say 'oh yea, I think I have ADD'. How should I bring it up without looking stupid? Should I tell her my situation first (about how I can't stay focused, etc) or should I ask what the symptoms are, or what? And what will they do to me (sometimes I think I have ADHD also) as far as tests and stuff, and will they do it then, or is it a process where I have to come back? And how will my teachers get notified? Will I tell them? Doctors note? etc... and since they'll know, what exactly will my teachers make me do because of it?
Please help...

If you think you have it, then yes tell your doctor.

Both adults and teens with ADD / ADHD may exhibit behaviors that include:

Excessive talking
Shifting from one incomplete taske to another
Fidgeting with hands or feet
Being easily distracted
Difficulty awaiting turn in games or group activities
Difficulty staying focused on what is being said in conversations with others
Forgeful behavior (losing keys, forgetting necessary information, etc.)
Interrupting or intruding on others
Engagin in physically dangerous activites without consideration to possible consequences

If this turns out to be something you have, Your teachers will not make you do anything, they will be more understanding and give you more 1 on 1 with helping you stay on task.

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Im terribl at askin people out. girls. And i wanna know how to do it. And i cant talk to beautiful people eihter. help

you say you are terrible at askin ppl out...first rule in that is dont be shy. most girls are really excited when a guy "finally" asks them out! Dont think of beautiful ppl as innaproachable. Everyone is beautiful in there own way. Just remember to be confident! a confident man is a sexy man!!

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ok so i became freinds((wit benifits))wit this realli hott new kid at our scool, we wer pretty cool for a while, then all the sudden he like stopped callin me as much i rarley ever see him on the weekends ne more, but wen he does call he seems so into it, and wen i talk to him at scool, some times hes like all sweet and cute, but sumtimes he;ll just walk by like he doesnt no me...and today i saw him talkin to this chic that i absolutly despise...cuz she took one of my boyfreinds from me,..and she gives me the worst looks, and i dont even no her..But apparently like NO one likes her...but i saw my guy gettin all close wit her today...Erg wat should i do..everyone tells me to get over him, but wat f theres still hope....but its driving me crazy cuz i reallllllllly want him!!Wattu i do?

You cant expect a "friend wit benefits" to be with you and only you. if that was the case he wouldnt be labeled that ya know? tell him how u feel, if he dont feel the same way stop givin him the booty girl!!!

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last night i had this really weird dream that my x kised me... i am totally over him because we broke up a while ago.. and i am also in love with my boyfriend now.. but i was just wondering if any 1 would no y i dreamed this?

Don't stress about a dream such as yours, it is no sign that you want or still could have feelings for you ex. When you go to sleep at night, your brain doesn't...It just sits there bored as hell lol and dreams to keep it entertained till you wake up....lol no lie...look it up, I just broke it down in lamen terms for ya'

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my bestfriend always calls me fat and everyone else tells me im not she is just jelouse what can i do to make her quite callen me fat it really bothers me?

shaiina

Sounds like a good best friend! haha Talk to her and tell her what's up and how it hurt's you when she says those things. Maybe she's just jokin' wit ya'?? If not, then find a new friend.

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i have this friend who is so selfish. she told me that if i went out with his guy named matt that shed hate me more then her friend olivia. i really like her as a frind..but i want your opinion..thanx

She would hate you MORE than her FRIEND?? Am I the only one that thinks that sounds retarted?? Damn gurl, my advice.........Go out with the guy and find a new friend.

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First of all, I would just like to say I think you are really cute. Second, I want to be bald, I cant wait for it to all fall out so it would make shaving easier. Im a guy by the way. Ive tried straight razors, gilletes, electrics, nair, some stuff thats kinda like nair but is for black men, and Ive even gone so far as to wax it. Nothin works, How do I keep it smooth and shiny?
Thanx in advance
Guy with Hair In Jville
P.S. I flat out think ur gorgeous

awww lol thanks for the compliment....anyways, about your prob....I looked it up on the net, and came to find it would be easier to make a bald man grow hair than to make a man WITH hair go bald...lol but here's a webist I found..not sure if it will help ya or not thou......... **Ultimate Tool for Shaving Your Head As seen in Playboy, Maxim, Men's Health, Men's Journal and more. This razer will shave your head, easier, faster & ALOT CLOSER.
*www.wellnesspartners.com*
Click on the "men's health" tab then click head blade on the column to your right.

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My brothers friend is threatening to kill us and himself about something he can't prevent. He is upset because he thinks his friend told us his "secret" which is not true. We need major advice as soon as possible. He told us not to tell anyone or he would kill us and himself. WE NEED HELP! PLEASE!

Yea you need to tell someone. This boy needs some serious help asap! BTW, People that actually come out and say "Ima' kill myself!!!" are only drama and attention getters. If they were gonna' actually do it they wouldnt sit around and talk about it. There's not much advice anyone can give you other than telling you to talk to someone about him asap. Him threating to kill ppl is a cry for help. How bad could a secret be that he would threaten to do something so retarted anywayz?

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omgosh i want to be an interior designer. that is going to be my major and i am minoring in physcology...since the way a room is can affect your mood and your outlook. is there any way that you can give me info on state universities with an interior design department?

Go to: www.interior-design.us.com

There you will find Universities located in Buckhead, GA
London, England
Long Beach, CA
San Diego, CA
Tampa, FL
Orlando, FL
Multiple Locations in CA, CO, IL & TX
Las Vegas, NV

* Browse through the site to find educational articles about the interior design field and accredited interior design institutions that will provide you with an exceptional education and open the door to your future.*

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Theres this girl i met online. Her attitude is awesome and she is gorgeous. I really like her. but she keeps givin me one word answers to my questions. Its hard to keep a conversation goin. I think im goin insane over this girl. Id really like to meet her but im afraid ill come on too strong. What should i do? Do i Need Mental help? or should i keep on tryin with this girl
Please write me back
scared and confused in Jactionville
im 20

First off let me say awwwwwwww! No you don't need mental help lol. Sorry to hear that the girl you like was kinda stiff on the conversation lol. I bet the reason she wasn't typin that much to ya was maybe she really likes you to. She prolley has a bad habit of sayin the wrong things lol so she just doesnt say much at all. I think she likes you too. Just as much as you say you like her. She also prolley has been hurt before and is scared b/c most guys just want one night stands and stuff and she doesnt want that, so she's scared of gettin hurt. Don't give up on her. She's probably a girl that will be like no one you have ever met.@};--- Good Luck wit her!

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i have always had issues about the way i look..i worry to much about what people think because i think I look horrible in a bathingsuit. i told my boyfriend i didnt want to go swimming with him because of it. im not fat or anything i weigh 100 pounds...but i have to freckles on my stomach (i know its weird) but they are the only two on my body and I hate them! also I have hair on my back(it sucks) and I dont want anyone to see. please help me kristen22...you have given me excellent advice before.

Thanks for comin' back for advice! I don't really see where you think you look so bad because you have some freckles?! Girls worry more about that shit than guys ever will. He probably wouldnt even know you had freckles even if you stood in front of him butt naked! hehe I can tell you right now, he wouldnt be starin ya down lookin for freckles! lol. Be comfortable in your own skin! It's only when you start to look at yourself as the beatiful person you are, that you'll begin to notice other people lookin at you that same way.

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I am 6 years out of high school and I am still with my high school boyfriend. We are not married but have a child together. He has never cheated on me or anything, but now he is saying we should get our own places so that we can save some money (because this way I would get help from the state). He wants to do this for about a year, and he also says we need a little time apart because we've been together so long and been through so much. I don't agree with it, and I don't really understand it, but we've talked about it and talked about it and I really don't have a choice in the matter. He says he'll be over all the time and that I can keep EVERYTHING at my place, that he just wants to keep his clothes in his place. He's not as affectionate as he used to be, but he still wants sex. Guys, help me out here, what is he trying to tell me, is there any hidden agendas I should be concerned about or should I just believe him that he wants to try and save money and work on getting new things like furniture and/or car(s)? He says he feels we're going nowhere fast right now with his two dead end jobs. So I'm guessing he thinks this will be the easy way out? I'm not sure how to read him right now. What would you guys think if your guy wanted to do this...also, if any guys know what this means, please I need some insight. Should I trust this??

No I'm not a guy, But it's clear to see what he's trying to do. Spair your feelings as easy as possible and move on! Being with you his whole teenagae and early 20's....he prolley feels as if he missed out on alot. That doesn't mean he doesnt love you he just wants some time to see what's out there. Give him this time. Sorry but...........

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ok, see there is this boy that i dated a while back and I really liked him until he broke up wit me, but now i am back with another guy and I am completely in love with him and our relationship couldnt be better. but everytime my friends like my ex...i get so jealous and mad...why is this? i really need some help

Best friend's are OFF limit's to our ex's...that's just the rules! But if she asked you first, then that's a whole 'nother story. Assuming she's not a bestfriend and just a friend to ya' then it sounds like your suffering from "I dont want him, but dont want no-one else to have him either" disorder. {lol} It's very common, every girl at some point in her life has felt that exact same way! Just focus on the wonderful thing you and your new love have and forget the past!

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I know that this might sound stupid but, today my mom was just telling me stuff that I don't know about my family, and she told me my sister got pregnant at the age of 21 (shes 28 now) and got an abortion, because she got pregnant not from being raped or anything, just with her boyfriends baby n stuff. I've been brought up to believe women have equal rights, and I have believed in abortions up until now. Knowing that I could've had a nephew//niece, and I don't because my sister got an abortion is really weird. I'm only 14, and I know I'm going to get a bunch of life altering situations, as this one. But, if my sister asks me one day if I believe in abortions, should I tell the truth, and say, no. or yes? Thanks.

If your sister asks you, it's because she want's to know the truth, not what she wants to hear. Be up front with her and tell her no i dont believe in them.

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