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ok for my 8th grade graduation i need a dress...i want one thats not too dressy yet not too casual and isnt longer than my graduation gown so a little past knee length...can anyone give me suggestions of where to ifnd some for preferably under $100? some links would be helpful...tyvm

forever 21 most definitley.
everything there is so fashionable but
at a great price
:)

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Hey Kym, Its me again. He's really acting like he's into me lately, and I've been deciding what I want to do about it since last Thursday. I told myself i was going to take more chances; I said I'd take the opportunities so I wouldn't come home saying "I wish I did .. today." But I'm not. I really want to let him know i haven't given up on him. Why is it that I know I want him more than anything, but when he actually shows signs of liking me back; I'm too much of a chicken to show him.

&ROXiE;

Okay Roxie ..
As official duty of best friend I will do my best to answer you to the best of my ability.

You could just be like .. " okay, Look, I really like you. I dont know if you feel the same but when I see you my heart melts and I couldnt live with my secret much longer. "
So yeah you could be totally open like that or be more secretive about it and maybe doing the classic love note type thing. You could better express yourself that way; and maybe breathe easily.

Just remember; youve only got one life to live. Take the chance, you never know how he might feel back.


" No guy is worth your tears, the only one that is won't make you cry. "

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I would like teenagers to answer this one,

My daughter is 13. But the clothes she wears are not...happy. She always is sarcastic. She listens to strange, loud music. Is this the fashion these days? Should I let her be?

The loud music and "unhappy clothes" are somewhat the style these days. However; I think you should just talk to her and see if her onsomble is a reflection of her emotions and just see if something was bothering her.

If you've seen a drastic change [ such as her going from wearing bright cute fashionable clothes to these dark unhappy ones ] you might need to watch out for some signs of depression as that is a big thing with teenagers these days.

I hope I've helped =D

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I'm 13 and I've liked this guy for a year now, and I'm beginning to wonder whether I should tell him I like him. I doubt he likes me back in "that way", but I'm 99.99999...% sure that he likes me as a friend. We're good friends. Not like unseparably devoted best friends, but we talk a lot. I'm not sure whether telling him how I feel is a good idea. Can anyone give me their thoughts?

I had the same problem; I told the guy i liked, and the next day he asked me out.
I'm not saying your guy is going to ask you out, I'm saying if you have feelings for a guy, tell him. I mean you got a 50 50 chance of him liking you back, and if you don't you might go one thru life never knowing if he felt the same.

Take a chance =D

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Okay. This is going to be a longer entry but i'd really love the advice, i need some help on this one. So there's a guy at my school. this is going to sound incredibly typical, but i really do like him a lot. I have for a long time, i think its been about 5-6 years. We were together on and off for the majority of last year, but we had some conflicts and he said he didnt want a romantic relationship over the summer, but maybe once school started up again. This school year is almost over, and he's basically told me and some of my friends he liked me. We flirt with each other a lot, but every once in a while we just kind of stop talking, like for a week or so. I dont really know why, except that he's kind of shy when it comes to me. But with other people he's totally out there, and doesnt hold back at all. Recently, another girl has started to like him too. She's apparently really obsessed, and i do mean obsessed. She writes poems about him and basically freaks out everytime she hears his name. she follows him around and he's all she ever talks about. He knows about all of it, and has no interest in her. i feel bad for her, but at the same time i'm kind of annoyed. she found out he liked me and watches me all the time. her friends question me, him, his friends, my friends, and other people about our feelings for eachother all the time. One of this girls friends asked him if he liked me and he said if he liked me he'd ask me out. I was disappointed at first but just earlier that week we'd been flirting like crazy and his friends were telling everybody about how he talks about me so much and how much he likes me. I'd love to talk to him about it but the truth is i'm totally shy. I really need some advice, either on what i could do to get over my fears or what some of that stuff means. For those of you who read this far, thank you so much. Like i said i really need some help. ♥

Dear " So Shy "
You sound like a girl that relates extremley well to my best friend .. roxie, or is it casey? Oh jeeze I can never tell these days.

Anyways, you shall walk to publix, buy a frozen hot chocolate, pop a few balloons then go to the new movie theaters and get some chick-fil-a.

Soon enough your problems will be thru.
PS: If you can't do the math, stay out of the equation.

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this is probably going to be really long..
ok well im 14/f in 8th grade.
ok so the summer before 7th grade like changed everything. theres this boy, chris that i never really talked to until that summer. i dont kno how it started but one day we just started talking online and he told me how he used to like me and everything. after that we just kept talking throughout the whole summer, and that's when i started to like him.
we continued to talk online, but we never actually hung out. then one day, i told him i liked him. he said he liked me too but i kinda just shrugged it off and we didn't go out or anything.
so then 7th grade started. we hardly talked for the first couple months. then i remember in october, there was a halloween dance, and my one friend, who was really good friends with him at the time, was like oh you guys should dance together.. we didn't. i was stupid and just like stood there. i'm also REALLY REALLY shy, so talking to him online for me was easy, but to his face, i got like speechless. i know that after a while though, i'd become more outgoing around him. but that never happened..
so during november, he asked me out again. except it was online and through my friend. i, for the second time, was stupid, and said no. i regret it to this day. like the time before that, he didnt actually ask me out. but this time, he was, and it was soo weird for me cause he would've been my first boyfriend, so i just like freaked out and said no. i regret it soo much. i just wonder how things would've been =[
anyway, i think after that, he had this thing with like kicking me in the hall. lol not like to hurt me.. but yeah soo that was like our thing for a week or two, but then one day i went over to him to kick him and he was like "im not kicking you anymore" i dont know what exactly he meant by that. i dunno if he meant this is stupid, i dont want to get in trouble [cause one time a teacher yelled at us lol] or that he didnt like me anymore. but i duno
after that we continued to talk online still. but it was becoming more me iming him first and he didnt talk as much, it was usually me talking the most .
the rest of 7th grade was just a blur. towards the end he went out with different girls, and rarely talked to me. i still imed him online, but he acted like he didnt care.
i know this sounds weird, but i became kinda like stalkerish online. i like imed him everyday. i regret it alott .i guess i was just desperate for him to like me or something.
the summer was like that too..so then 8th grade started and i dunno what happened. we rarely talk except if he asks to borrow a pen or something. he's only in one of my classes. one time in like september i kinda just like let out my feelings when i was iming him. he told me that im shy, which i know i am..i think thats why he doesnt like me.. he liked me in 6th grade because he didnt know me, and now he thinks he does, but he doesnt b/c im not always shy.
anyway, i havent spoken to him online since september or october. i talk to him in school rarely, but its not even talking its like, him asking me for a pencil and me being like "here" ughh. i just wish things were back to the way they used to be. like the day before 7th grade he was like i cant wait to go to school tomorrow cause ill see you..=[ i miss that.
now we never talk. AND he has a girlfriend..they were going out since october but broke up in february like, twice, but not they're back together. i doubt it will last..
i mean like sometimes i'll catch him looking at me. iduno. i still like him so muchh. he probably doesnt even remember or care, about what happened between us. i just wish he would realize what it means to me. i dunno wut to do. how should i talk to him? i want us to atleast talk more again. i know i should get over him but ive tried and i cant. should i say something to him in class, and what should i say? should i try iming him again? or would that be weird since i havent imed him since september? im desperateee=[ thank you so much

I have the same problem with my first boyfriend, we haven't talked in months. What you need to do is, start takling to him online, if you see him in class ask him how his lifes been going and mention that you haven't talked to him in forever.

Start talking to him more and more each day; don't overload just ease your way into it. Try flirting with him, smile at him in the hall or try inviting him to hang out one day.

Things like this take time, I understand you don't wana wait, but thats just how its going to have to go.

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I have trouble communicating to people about problems and I don't like to complain. Well my boyfriend was an awesome guy and I liked him so much but with our busy schedules we didn't get together a lot. Even on days when we were both free we just didn't hang out. I didn't want to say anything about it because I didn't want to seem clingy but it was really bugging me. I wanted to be with him so bad but every time I called him it was always a "bad time" to talk. I got really frusterated and tired to fix the problem, I dumped him. Yeah, I think my definition of fix is screwed up. 5 seconds after I dumped him and knew I'd made a mistake. I tried to talk to him about it and I never got the response I was looking for. I told him how I felt about him and he told me what I'd done had made our friendship awkward. I don't know what else to do. I want him back so bad. Please help me.

-TroublesomeGirl

TroublesomeGirl,
This happens to pretty much everyone when they break up with someone. The feeling will go away soon, trust me.

Just give it a little time, and look for a new cutie to occupy you =D

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how does someone get raped/kidnapped over myspacve? i dont reallt get it? is it even true?

People give out too much info.

To stay safe:
Put up a Friends Only thing.
Fake your location ( or don't put one at all )
Dont state your age
And don't add people you don't know.

If crazy rapeists find this info out you could be stalked; thats what happens to people.

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Is it normal to start your period in gr.6? another question. If your start having periods in gr.6 and don't have one till gr.8 is the normal?

My health teacher's daughter got hers in 2nd grade O_o weird I know.

Anyways; It really depends on the person, you'll start when your body wants you to.

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where can you get those cute sweatpants that say "pink" on the butt? like i heard you can get them at victorias secret but idk. thanks and i rate!

victoria secret =D

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alright so i like the whole leggings under the mini skirt, not sure if you do but i got a question.. i bought these brown leggings from hollister and i have a light jean mini form american eagle..i was wondering what shirt would go with it? i thought brown would be like overload but maybe a pink shirt? or green? ahh, help. pleaseeee

I definitley love the look of the leggingings.
I'd say either go with that green or pink shirt.
It would also be cute if you had a shirt that was like longer ( Like some of the HCO and AF and AE shirts have quite a length to them ) Wear one of those and a denim jacket over it if you have one to complelete the style.

If you don't have one try just wearing the green or pink shirt you were talking about with some cute jewlrey like big fake pearls or something =D

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ok so i have kind of frizzy wavy hair. and it drives me NUTS.
ive tried using straitening gels and things like that but it never helps that much. I straighten my hair like everyday so it gets fried and gross.

i would wear it curly but i think it looks dumb becuase its too short and i have really short layers so it poofs out on the top and looks retarted.

so is there anything i can put in my hair to help with the frizz and or spilt/dead ends?

xo thanks.

oh jeeze; my hair is the exact same way, bleh.
When I want to wear it curly I use the Smoothing Milk that the advicer below me answered.

When I want it straight, I spray John Frieda Straight Answer ($5) On my hair, then blow dry it as straight as I can with a round brush. Then I straighten it with a Helen of Trory Ceramic Series ($40) To fix any bumps or wavy parts.

Hope I helped =D

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Is breaking up over the phone okay? Or should I make an effort to do it in person?

Breaking up in person shows him that you still want to be friends; and your not afriad.

However, if you do it over the phone just be sure to tell him that you weren't comfortable doing this in person.

Hope it works =D

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you have been a really great boyfriend and a relle sweet guy. im relle thankful ur part of my life. but as for our relationship, i need to be completely honest with you. i dont think its going to work out between us and i dont really see our relationship going anywhere. im really sorry, i just feel like we've reached a plateau and this is it. but we've been good friends much longer than we've been boyfriend and girlfriend and i would really like us to still be friends and i know it will be akward at first but i value our friendship and i really dont want us to stop talking and i hope we can stillbe good friends like before we were going out even though thats hard but i care about you a lot and i cant imagine not having you as a friend

aww thats so sweet; its great that you really care about yalls friendship.

I think that was a great idea for a breakup; as nice as break ups get! Hope it goes okay.

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There is this guy that i like but i dont know if he likes me. We talk like evryday for at least like two hours. We are either talking on the phone, texting, or talkin on MSN. But he is always asking me if i like him. But these past like two days i have been trying to talk to him but he wont pick up his phone or text me back or e-mail me back. What is going on? Does he like me or is he just mad at me for the moment? What should i do?

Just relax =D It sounds like he likes you to!
Maybe he's just planning on how to ask you out or maybe hes really busy with something for the past few days. Next time you see him ( like at school or church etc. ) just go up to him and be like,
" Did I do anything to upset you? Cause we haven't talked in a few days"
This may help clear up the fog and even help hint to him that you like him back!

=D

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OK so i really hate it when girls flirt with my boyfriend. But who doesn't. There is this girl who always seems to flirt with my boyfriend when im not around of course. She even tried holding my boyfriends hand!!! He was like what are you doing and pulled away. She just doesn't get the picture you know. She bothers me she tells me all the time that she doesn't like him only as a friend etc. But we haven't talked in about a week and then she started with all this. Then there is another girl who just flirts with him constantly. I hate it when other people flirt with my boyfriend when they know that he's going out with me!!! What do i do? Someone please help!!! ps. im not really good at telling people off either haha so please help!

I agree with the answer before me; Fighting will make the girl want to get him even more. It's great that your boyfriend pulled away from that girl, now you know his commited to you. You're going to have to remain in his trust and just know if he really likes you he won't flirt back. Trust is the key.

You must feel lucky however, all these girls want your guy so obviously you picked a great choice! =D

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Ok, so theres this guy, let's call him Cameron. I've been literally in love with him for over 2 and a half years. He's liked me that long too, but the problem is, one of his best girl friends (who is also my best friend) says that he likes five girls. Two of which are halfway across the country. Then there's me, and two other girls that must go to my school. On a scale of 1-10 he rated me a 9, and a girl in another state a 10. I'm getting really jealous and I'm not sure how to react to all this. He says he really likes me, and he even gave me flowers on Valentine's Day, but I'm just not sure what to do. Should I still keep my hopes up for him, or try to give him up since he likes 5 different girls? Any help is appreciated. Thanks.

He sounds like a player; If he is making you feel this way hes not really worth it. I know you don't like the sound of this but maybe hes trying to make you jealous so you'll do more to get him.

Just talk to him about how you feel. Communication is the best way to work this situation out =D

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Well okay, I have a friend named *Helena*. And she has this ex-boyfriend named *Kenny*.

They went out for a month and he dumped her. For that, I always thought he was a jerk.

But last night, I spent time with him and some more of my friends and my ex-boyfriend [who I think I still have feelings for]. Me and him [*Kenny*] were wrestling and he pinned me down all the time. He was being really nice to me [something I didn't think he was capable of].

Then my ex-boyfriend slapped *Kenny* with baby powder. *Kenny* pushed my ex and he [my ex] tripped and went crazy. Him and *Kenny* started fighting. And one thing my ex said was "What the $%#% *Kenny*?! You pushed me in my own damn house?! In front of my ex-girlfriend?! GET OUT OF MY HOUSE!"

I don't know what that means. But my ex and *Kenny* were friends again minutes later.

I think I have feeling for *Kenny* since he was really sweet to me. But I don't know if I can go for him since he is one of my best friend's ex-boyfriend? Can I go for him?

You can go for any guy you want =D
Just talk to your ex and sweetly tell him that you have feelings for his best friend.

Then go right for *Kenny* =D
Best of luck!

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I had a very busy day. I got up at 5 and rode in a car for 2 hours to the airport. Then I went on 2 planes, one of which had a 3 and a half hour delay. Alos, I had to eat alot of disgusting fast food. I'm home now and exhausted. I just feel like I'm still on the airplane, my mind is wandering, I feel sick, and I am restless. Does anyone have any ways that I could relax? Or that would make me feel better?

Oh you probably have jet lag.
There are some medicines if you feel sick.
Other then that try taking a hot bubble bath =D
or try listening to soft music; watching tv; or just laying down in bed.

Try to avoid loud things right now, I hope you feel better.

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first off is there anyway to get an STD if you dont do anything sexual? cuz my friend has never done anything like that and apparently she has an STD...how does that work? T H A N K S !

Well you can get AIDS/HIV through blood transfusions and blood donations from an infected person. Other then that I don't think you can =D

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