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i've been a binge eater and bulimic for years, but i never recognized it. My best friend did and she tricked me and made me go to a shrink... it was confirmed there. After a long time, the shrink finally told me, that subconsciously i had started when i started realizing i was a lesbian. Around the time the shrink told me, i started falling in love with another best friend... a guy. Is this just a reaction where i don't accept the truth, and why am i so afraid to follow this when the guy had asked me out before? is it because i dated his sister?
i've been his best friend since i was two... i really do feel like i love him, because throughout the process finding the issues i was hiding, the best friend who found them for me left, but he stayed. i have confirmed over and over that i am a lesbian, but i feel like i only need his love to survive now.
I'm not that good girl, i have an attempted suicide on my list of things done, and am trying to play my problems down for everyone... but my friend is just confusing the process of finding myself.
Why and what is happening, and what do i do? (link)
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I think you're just trying to figure out yourself. I actually know a few people who don't even identify themselves because they don't have a preference.
All you need to do is embrace it. Just because people tell you that you are a lesbian and you've always told people that you are a lesbian doesn't mean you have to stay that way. People change.
So embrace it and explore your feelings.
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My boyfriend and I were fooling around, which I haven't done for awhile and I'm a bit worried. We did not have sex, however he did finger me but he did rub his penis on my vagina, and I know it sounds a bit dimwitted to be worried when obviously nothing occurred, but I just need some reassurance! My period is due around this week, and I'm just worried, would that affect it to come late? (link)
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I mean there could possibly be a chance just because he rubbed it on your vagina, although it's extremely unlikely. It's just because precum alone can get you pregnant. But like I said, it's highly unlikely.
What would affect your period coming late is worrying about it. Stress and worrying causes periods to delay.
So don't worry about it. You should be fine.
I'm also going to suggest to get on birth control. Even if you don't have sex, you don't want to risk it and accidents do happen. It's better to be safe than sorry.
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Alright first off I apologize in advance and please reply nicely.
I'm very nervous. I've been taking sooo many preg tests and I'm beyond paranoid. I've been getting cramps and some soreness in one breasts.
Had sex and he wore a condom. Didn't break!
I took two equate tests and both negative!
I also took a bunch of cheap ones and a bunch of them were negative. I also stored one in the car and since it was cold later on I looked at it then had another line. Test not to read after ten minutes.
I took another this morning and it was negative.
I also took a different one and read it within the 2 minutes it said then I think I saw another line.. Not sure
I'm so confused I thought you shouldn't read the test after so long
Please say I'm not pregnant!! But good thing is I've been getting cramps (link)
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There's a good chance you aren't pregnant since you took a bunch of them and they came out negative.
You didn't say how long ago you had sex but since the condom didn't break then you should be fine.
Once you get your period, you'll know for sure lol. But the reason why you probably missed it is probably because you're really paranoid. Stress causes missed periods.
Anyways, condom didn't break and tests came out negative. You're fine.
If you're going to continue having sex, get on birth control. If you can't handle this kind of stuff, you shouldn't be having sex.
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So there is this boy at school who I would say is fairly shy around girls and I'm not sure whether he likes me or not (I like him a lot..). Basically I always catch him subtly looking in my direction and staring at me when he thinks I can't see. He also kind of comes over to stand with me when we're waiting to go into a lesson. About 2 months agp he asked me to go to the prom with him (I said yes) but apparently it took him about three weeks to pluck up the courage to ask. His friends tease him about me and him an awful lot and say that we're a good couple and make heart shapes at us.. Whenever this happens he gets annoyed with them and calls them things which are not very nice. I don't know if he likes me because he's never asked for my number, we don't hang out outside of school (although his friends have invited me to go to the cinema with them) and recently he's stopped replying to facebook messages I send him :( I'm confused as I think I'm sending pretty clear signs that I like him and I'm not sure what to do now? (link)
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Well it could be a 50/50 chance when he looks at you a lot and stands with you. But since he asked you to prom, then there is a much, much bigger chance that he likes you too.
I think since he's really shy, you're going to get mixed signals. So you might as well take initiative. Give him your number, I think his friends will bug him about texting you anyways if you do. Or you can ask him for his number.
So I think that's your first step. Or you can make plans with some of your friends and invite him along like his friends did.
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All my friends went off to college two years ago and I stayed home and I commute to my college. I work a lot and get good grades but my social life is lame. I get so depressed when I see my friends are partying every week and I'm watching tv with my mom. I beat myself up over it but honestly nothing makes me feel lower than that feeling.
Has anyone else ever felt like this,? (link)
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I have felt like this when some of my friends went to college away.
I think you really have to make the best out of your situation and fix whatever is bothering you.
Like adviceman said, it's up to you on how your social life will be. You are choosing to stay home and watch TV with your mom. So get out there and do other things that interest you instead if you're not happy with your social life.
Go online and look for some things around your area.
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Ok hey guys
I was wondering if it was a bit weird that I like it when my bf gets a boner
I mean when he hugs me from behind I can feel it and it feels so good
I'm 14 and my bf is 15
Please no comments about age
Should I say anything to him about it and if you have any suggestions what could I say
Thank you for answering🎀🎀🎀 (link)
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No, it's not weird.
I don't think it's necessary to say anything to him. He's only 15 so a lot of things can get him hard. Even looking at girls or thinking about them will make him hard. Even things that don't even have to do about a girl can possibly make him hard.
So unless it's bothering you, then I don't think you really need to say anything to him about it.
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Me and my GF (yes, i am a lesbian, though i don't prefer that term) have been doing pretty well. She always knew she was a lesbian, but i have dated more guys than girls. One of them was my best friend (Jake) and me and him still hang out. We used to talk about getting married when we were kids, and i've known him for really long. We have nicknames for each other, but me and my GF, don't. My GF is mad at me, and thinks because of the nicknames i'm cheating on her. Can you help me think of a nickname for my sexy GF, to show her i care for her. The only reason me and Jake are close is because we are best friends, and touchy feely ones on top of that. I really don't want to see her sad, but don't want to have to give up Jake either. (link)
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Nicknames aren't going to solve your problems. Nicknames are just naturally given anyways.
She has no evidence that you're cheating, she just simply doesn't trust you. Without trust, the relationship won't work.
So that's where you actually need to talk to her. Sit her down and ask what you've done to make her think that you're cheating. If it's just the nicknames with your friend, then she has some serious issues. Maybe it's self esteem issues, but it shouldn't be taken out on you.
Besides that, you could probably try to not use nicknames for Jake around your girlfriend and not be all touchy feely with him. That one I can understand her being uncomfortable about though.
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Hello,
im freaking out, cause one day after my period my bf and i were on the bed with underwears only, and we ended up grinding on (dry humping)
that makes he cum on my lower tummy, like after belly button, so he had on his boxers, on my panties and on my top...
oh im on the pill, but needed to start again with my period. so the question is
theres is no ways im pregnant nope?
as there wasnt any penetration, and im on the pill..
its just im freaking out a lot since that...
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It's extremely unlikely that you're pregnant. If you both were wearing clothes and didn't have sex, you're probably not pregnant.
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17/ female. Hey there so Im going to try not to make this long, so here goes. Me and this guy have liked each other sense 5th grade we just didn't really get to talk that much in middle school, because we went to different schools, but we would still keep in touch and when we did text off and on 6-8 grade it would still be flirting and us still liking each other. Well the summer of 8th grade going into freshman year came and that means both middle schools combine so I would be with him. Anyway that summer I met the guy who would be my first true love and I would have all of my firsts with. Turns out he lead me through an abusive relationship my whole freshman year and got me mixed up in some big situations and cheated on me the whole year but that was my first love, so I kept ignoring all of it, well finally in May the last month of school he broke up with me because I finally confronted him about the cheating, and the guy lets call him Jack the one im writing about text me one night saying he knew what happened and he would be there for me always. I really needed a friend so I took him in and he would come over and hangout every week we would go walking to our old elementary school and talk about memories and then facetime every night for a long time. The more and more we talked the more and more I really fell for him, he was the sweetest guy ever and would do anything for me I asked and helped me and said I was beautiful even when I felt the most ugly and he was the only guy I didn't feel nervous around. Well I liked him too except I knew I wasn't ready for a realationship and he was well one night of hanging out, he really wanted to kiss me and I mean I wanted it too, but I was still so touchy and he kept wanting to and asking and everytime I would move he would try to kiss me and it made me nervous and violated because I wasn't ready and my past realationship got to my head, well I finally gave in and did it but because my past relationship was still messing with my head it made me feel like horrible so i went a while without talking to him because it scared me and so I went from july until about almost a month ago not talking to him. I thought about him a lot and around September I was finally 100% over my ex in the past relationship and becoming emotionally stable so I text Jack but he woudldnt take me back like i thought we would text for a couple days and just argue and then we would hangout and he would be pretty sweet but not text as normal and its still like that two weeks later, I know hes still hurt but i would never do that again to him and ive told him and expressed my feelings I just want him to believe it because I realize now he is the perfect guy for me. He has treated me better than any guy has ever treated me and I want to be more than friends with him now I miss him so much! please help me! (link)
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I agree with Dragonflymagic about this not being texting material. You should talk to him face to face.
He's obviously hurt and felt rejected but maybe he didn't realize that it wasn't him, it was the fact that you weren't over your past relationship and he possibly felt like you were just leading him on.
Did you tell him straight up that you weren't ready because you're not over your past relationship? If you didn't, that's where you should start when you talk to him. If you did, then this guy obviously didn't care about your needs and only his. But I'm assuming you weren't straightforward and telling him how you were feeling about the situation.
If you did, then he's probably not that great of a guy.
So take it slow with him. Talk to him face to face.
If your past is still causing you problems, get counseling.
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I really like this guy and he likes me back. Yesterday my friend asked him to make a list of things he likes about me *ikr soooo cuteeee* and he asked me if I looked on the back but I didn't so I looked on the back of the paper and it said " can you be my girlfriend please" and he said reply by Friday and so it's tomorrow and I'm freaking out please help! (link)
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Do you want to be his girlfriend or not?
If you want to be his girlfriend then just say yes. If you don't, then just let him down easy.
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this girl said i was mean after making a playful comment to her which kinda came out wrong... lol. what should i say to her if she ever brings up me being mean again without sounding like a bitch. thanks (link)
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You should just apologize to her. Let her know that it came out wrong and it wasn't meant to be hurtful. I've said some things that hurt peoples feelings when I had no idea it even bothered them until they brought it up again. I ended up apologizing to those people.
I'm also very sensitive. Sensitive people talk playful comments a little too seriously sometimes and don't realize it wasn't meant to be heard that way.
So the best thing to do is apologize.
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so my bf and I have planned for ages that he would lose his V-card on his birthday.
However, I will be on my period then, and I don't fancy doing it.
How do I tell him, when he's been looking forward to this day for weeks, without making him feel disappointed? (link)
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Just straight up tell him you guys will have to plan it some other day.
He'll be disappointed no matter what. As long as he doesn't get angry or really upset or something, then everything should be fine.
Just tell him.
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Hi, I'm 13 (obviously a girl) I have had vaginal discharge for almost a year now. I have had pubic hair for 3 years. No armpit hair. I have a lot of mood swings, like one second I think that I look so great and the next I'm crying about how every one looks better than me (I'm in a good mood right now). I have breasts but just but if I wear a big shirt I look flat. I have also had pimples/oily skin for 4 years. I have had them for 2 years. I often get cramps were I'm pretty sure my internal girly stuff is. My mom isn't really a help cause when I say that I have gas. I know I shouldn't be this concerned but all of my friends have periods and boobs just feel really out of place. I'm afraid I'll never get it. I just want it so I can stop worrying that I'll never get it. I really don't want to get it when I'm in high school cause that will be way too embarrassing. I know that people will always say just wait its not as great as you think, but I only want it to stop worrying. Is there any way I can make it come faster?
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You're just going through puberty. That's why you have pubic hair, vaginal discharge, growing breasts, acne, cramps, mood swings ect. Those are all just things you get when you go through puberty, the period is also just one of those things and you'll eventually get it.
You can't make your period come faster. It's just natural stuff.
Most girls get it during the time their mom had first gotten it but then a lot of other things factor into it. Stress can cause it to be delayed even longer, so you're really not helping with stressing out over this.
It's honestly, not great at all. I mean you're going to have this happen to you every month until you are about 40-50..so there's no rush.
And periods don't make your breasts grow.
All your period does is get rid of the lining inside your uterus because there is no baby there.
Honestly, if you really are concerned, just go see a doctor.
I do have a friend who doesn't get her period. She is taking medicine every month to make her period come. But you're still super young and I know girl who didn't get their period till they were 17.
Your period just gets rid of the lining inside of your uterus. I don't know why you want it so bad. It won't give you boobs or anything. It'll just give you worse cramps, fatigue, headaches, ect.
So don't stress out about it, it'll come when your body is ready. If you're concerned, go see a doctor.
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Okay, im 8 months pregnant, im the third babys mother, and for Thanksgiving BF mom invites BF and i to spend time at her house where baby mother#2 will be there and #2 makes it very clear that she does not like me, attitude and all. BF's mom went as far to tell me shes like a daughter to her, when I explained why I didnt feel comfortable going, so instead of planning a whole day trip there, she said she'll pick us up and bring us there for an hour.... I dont even want to go for 5 minutes. A little background on me an BF, we used to date when we were 20, he cheated on me with a girl so we broke up, I looked him up, found him down the road in a prison work release, he says hes not with anyone, he LEAVES work release to spend 4 dayys at my house says he Loves me, goes back to prison, I find his phone that says wifey on a contact name which turns out to be #2, call her, shes a wreck to hear that hes cheated on her again, says I can keep him, so just before he.gets out of prison for good my ex talks with me and I ended up getting drunk and we slept together and I told BF about it, and said I didnt think we should be.together, I was confused and didnt want him to move right in, he said he still wanted to, but the worst part is I blatenly told his mother what happened to so maybe she could talk him in to not coming to my house.. then now that he did, I tried to make it work, we got pregnant, and stuff has been a mess ever since. What should I do? (link)
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This guy does not sound like the type of guy you should even be with.
But if you do plan on staying with him, you should put some effort into his family. I completely agree with Rahzie. I understand why you don't want to be there, but she's family. You want to be apart of his life and his family is included.
There's nothing wrong with what his mother said to you. It's good for his mother to be close to his ex because she does have a child with him. She's the child's grandmother and it's smart of her to keep a good relationship with her. There's nothing wrong with that at all.
So you either don't stay with him, because you can't handle what comes along with dating him, or you suck it up and go.
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So ive been through a break up with my ex boyfriend and well after a month or two of me arguing and persuading him to give our relationship a try again he sai that we should meet up at the temple where we first met and that i can try to win him back again. So that day we figured that we still Both had feelings for each other and so we kissed and were inimate with each other. And 6 days passed and i felt like our relationship or well our interactions and conversations greatly improved because we began to joke around. Until yesterday night. I asked him what he was up to and he said that he was smoking and watching tv. Well he made it seem like he was joking but it wasnt clear if he was serious or not. Well smokin was te one thing he promised me on the first day we were together that he wouldnt do again. So i kinda just said how i feel and told him that i trusted that he wouldnt betray my trust and smoke again and that id be more hurt than mad if he did. And so he asked me are you guiltripping me? GG im out. So he was just pissed off. But i have heard from many people that he has smoked while the two months we were broken up. Pretty much ive been hasing after him and i feel like weve made progress the entire like 6 days but i feel like im back to square one again. And now im just wondering should i keep chasing after him to win him back? Because it just feels like im the one who's putting my feelings on the line and its so easy for him to just get up and leave me and result in me being hurt again. Im just scared. And what would happen if say we do get back together again? I dont want itto be just me doing everything i could to be with him. What do i do? Keep trying? Keep mysel motivated? I really love him though.. (link)
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No, don't keep chasing him.
You should never have to chase him or win him back in the first place. A relationship takes two and it shouldn't just be you doing all the work.
If you don't like it that he smokes, you just shouldn't be with him because he straight up told you what he was doing even when he knew that you don't like it and he had previously told you that he wouldn't. So he doesn't really care about your feelings.
This guy doesn't sound like the right guy for you. He gets mad over you bringing up a topic that you guys have talked about before, he tells you that you're the one who has to win him back, that's just not how things work.
So just forget about him, move on. There are guys out there that are so much better and will treat you ten times better than he will.
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I'm a sophomore he's a senior and we started talking over text a little over a week ago over a period of about four days. We haven't talked since then. His friend that I'm friends with and I hooked up awhile ago we don't really talk anymore but he just randomly texted me and said I should text his friend and I said no tell Him to text me so eventually he did and we get along fine and everything I've just never said two words to him in my life so he asked me to hangout with him and I said sure. He was going to a party that I wasn't and he said we would hangout after because he said he was going for only a little bit so I got ready and as time went by I was getting more and more annoyed because he texted me almost at 12 and expected me to just come and meet him and I said I could but I'd have to wait ( to sneak out because my mom wouldn't let me out then) and he said well I don't think my friends are. gonna wanna hangout later and I was like whatever and he said if we wanted to hangout just us we could but I didn't want to do that like I barely know him and I just said that I was in a bad mood so do whatever you want and he was like ok lol that was like a week ago and we haven't talked since. I know I over reacted but I was just pissed in the moment because I felt he stood me up in a way and now I don't want to text him because it will make me look desperate and clingy especially after our last conversation even though I would hangout with him still so I don't even know what to say or do (link)
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I'm not getting the best vibe from this guy. Only because of like you said, he pretty much stood you up and wanted to hang out that late.
It was fine to be in a bad mood, but what you texted him probably wasn't the best thing either because you don't know him that well and he'll probably think different of you, not in a good way. You already know that though.
So anyways, if you do plan on hanging out with him again, don't do it so late. Do it during the day. If he doesn't want to hang out during the day, then he's really not that serious about getting to know you..unless it's in a different way than you'd like to get to know him.
So if you think he's not that bad of a guy, and you'd still like to get to know him, then just text him. You can go ahead and say sorry for what you said even though he should also be apologizing but hey, you can't make people do that so just tell him you'd like to hang out.
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I just bought these really cute blue jeans that are skinny jeans would but I dnt know what kind of shoes to wear with them. I also bought this really cut top but the sleeves are long sleeved and the sleeves are sea through and it shows my back would it be okay to we're the shirt to church as long as I wear an undershirt so my back won't show and a strapless bra so my bra straps won't show or would it show to much to wear to church? (link)
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You can wear any shoes with skinny jeans. Flats, flip flops, sandals, boots, ect. Any shoe looks good with them.
I don't know how your churches dress standards are but I'm sure if you cover your back with an undershirt, it should be fine as well as not seeing the bra straps with a strapless bra.
So everything sounds good to me.
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15/f and he's 17 I've had a class with him since last year and I didn't really pay any attention to him. I know he thought I was attractive last year and still does and him and all his friends would talk about me. He's physically not my type but the more I get to know him the more I find him attractive. Our personalities are very similar and we do get along well and I would say were friends. I'm supposedly one of the few girls that he actually likes (whatever that means according to his mom) and he had all his friends over for his birthday and did not personally invite any girls except me. His mom really likes me and suggested inviting me and she told me that he was scared to ask me so his friends told me I could come and I did and I even gave him my number and this was a month ago and he Never texted me but I still went and we talked and shit but he we didn't really spend any time together alone because his friend wanted to hook up with me so he kind of just left us. We still talk in school but he is kind of shy and I feel like he feels that I could get any guy I want so why would I want him but I'm not a bitch like that. Like yes I like the jocks but I also like his type. Ever since his last relationship he has been like over girls cuz she broke up with him twice I think. But I really don't like to make the first move but I still wanna see if something will happen (link)
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Well obviously, nothing will happen unless you make it happen. You can't just sit there and wait around because who knows if it will ever happen.
You should just go up to him and talk to him. Become his friend, get closer. Eventually you can just ask him for his number and you can text him.
And if anything, you can get something together with your friends and invite him along. If he goes, he's definitely interested.
But go talk to him yourself.
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14/f So I had this friend let's call her "Jo" and since we got in a huugeeee fight after we graduated Elementary school, she's been messing up my life... She stalked me on social media and talked shit about me.. But now that highschool has started, I barely see her so when my friend (let's csll her Amy) came up to me and said Jo was gossiping about me I grew concerned... Obiviously in life people are going to talk behind your back, gossip and spread rumors and no matter what anyone says about them not being affected at the end of the day, they are. So when I heard Jo was talking about me, I told my mom who wanted to solve this problem once and for all, She called Jo's mom who arranged for us to come over and talk.Long story short, Jo said she wasn't talking shit about me (she's a liar btw) and her mom believed her. But after another friend had a party this weekend and didn't invite me bc maybe it wss last minute but anyways I'm not convinced she's stopped tskking about me and I feel like she's out to ruin my reputation... am I being paraniod or a narcissist? (link)
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This is all just unnecessary drama. If she is talking bad about you, it's just because she is bitter and holds grudges.
The only way to show her that her talking about you isn't going to get to you or bother you is to ignore it and act like it's not a big deal, if it's just petty things she's saying about you.
Now you'll never know if she's gossiping about you or not. You'll just hear what other people tell you and you choose to believe them or not. You'll never know unless you hear it come out of her mouth.
So you honestly can't make her stop talking about you. You don't have control over other people but you do have control over you and how you handle the situation. As long as you don't go off and try to get back at her or do something immature, you should be fine.
If someone comes up to you asking if these rumors are true. It's more about how you act than what you say. If you freak out or anything like that, they'll assume and Jo will get the reaction she wanted. Simply tell them that it's not true and it's a dumb rumor.
It was good that you talked to your mom.
I'm also going to say that even though you should ignore her, it will be hard and whatever she says will hurt you, but if she does go to the extreme and says things that are really harmful like anything sexual, anything at all that is really bad, you need to tell an adult.
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14/f Hi, I've just started highschool so I'm just a minor niner... But I still have my same friends from Elementary school but lately I've been feeling lost/unsure if I still belong. .Like my friends have been making other friends and so have I but I feel as if our relationships aren't the same and u don't matter as much bc they don't talk to me all the time and they've been busy around the school... But day I felt like one if my friends who I'm not that close to tried to shake ne off of their tail when searching for a teacher.. I feel alone and have no one to confide in now that I no longer have a bff.. I feel not that close to anyone really and I never quite know what to sat or if they even want me around. .What do I do about this? (link)
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Once you get into high school, you start losing and gaining friends. At this point in your life, you and your friends are finding new interests and people who share those interests. On top of that, you all are changing and you won't always keep the same friends.
So it's fine to keep in touch with the friends you have now. But don't limit yourself. If you feel like they've been trying to push you away, speak up. Tell them that you've been feeling a little left out and see what they say.
Besides that, you should go make some new friends. It's never bad to have more friends anyways. I made most of my friends in high school by sitting with them in class and talking to them in there.
Also, joining clubs that you are interested in will really help because it will give you a bond with those people who are also in it.
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