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Cute Nicknames
Me and my GF (yes, i am a lesbian, though i don't prefer that term) have been doing pretty well. She always knew she was a lesbian, but i have dated more guys than girls. One of them was my best friend (Jake) and me and him still hang out. We used to talk about getting married when we were kids, and i've known him for really long. We have nicknames for each other, but me and my GF, don't. My GF is mad at me, and thinks because of the nicknames i'm cheating on her. Can you help me think of a nickname for my sexy GF, to show her i care for her. The only reason me and Jake are close is because we are best friends, and touchy feely ones on top of that. I really don't want to see her sad, but don't want to have to give up Jake either.
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Nicknames aren't going to solve your problems. Nicknames are just naturally given anyways.
She has no evidence that you're cheating, she just simply doesn't trust you. Without trust, the relationship won't work.
So that's where you actually need to talk to her. Sit her down and ask what you've done to make her think that you're cheating. If it's just the nicknames with your friend, then she has some serious issues. Maybe it's self esteem issues, but it shouldn't be taken out on you.
Besides that, you could probably try to not use nicknames for Jake around your girlfriend and not be all touchy feely with him. That one I can understand her being uncomfortable about though.
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There's more problems dear than a nickname will cure. It doesn't matter if you gave her 10 nicknames and still used one for Jake, if she has it in her mind that using any endearing terms with another person means you love someone else like you love her and are possibly cheating on her, then a nick name won't cure it....distract her for a short time but not make it go away. She needs to have some counseling and discover why she feels so threatened in the relationship. Theres a possibility she has a low self esteem.
You have dated guys in the past. So either you were denying to yourself all along that you were lesbian, or perhaps you are not lesbian at all but bi-sexual instead whether you've had sex or not with men. Perhaps your girlfriend senses this deep in her subconscious and so she fears losing you to a guy, whether Jake or someone else that may come along.
Not allowing you to have friends outside your relationship is not a way to deal with her insecurities and an unfair thing to ask of anyone.
Even if you stopped seeing Jake, it will be only a matter of time before she sees something else as a threat.
But don't take my word for it...go ahead and make up some nicknames...time will tell if it works for good or not.
In a nickname, choose something that refers to a favorite food, favorite animal, a habit of hers, u a hobby, and it becomes quite easy,
example:favorite dessert=cream puff, Punkin pie, favorite animal=Kitten, Bunny
I know a gal who over used the phrase, "We'll see" and her boyfriend started calling her "Weesy"
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