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okay..my friend.she gets treated soo bad..and her boyfriend just dumped her and seh cried for like a whole day..and other people..there so mean to her..and im just bout sick of it..i hate seeing her like this, and now..sehs saying that seh cuts herself..and seh does all this stuff..and ive tried talking to her..she just says that everythings messed up and will never be the same..she just does all of this over a boy that doesnt like her..ive talked to her plenty of times..i just dont kno what to say to her anymore..what should i do?

I'm sorry to hear that. But, thats good that you are trying to talk to her. Just tell her all the positive things about her. And when people talk crap about her, stick up for her (which I'm sure you do), and tell her not to cut herself that can cause a lot of problems. Tell her to put a rubberband on her wrist and whenever she feels like she wants to cut or something to snap it (I've had friends who have cut). And for the boy problems, err they make me mad lol, take her to the mall or a party or something and introduce her to guys. She shouldn't be cutting herself over a guy. Just be like "I know how depressed you are, but don't cut yourself over a guy, he isn't worth it, there are so many guys out there for you who will treat you well, and I know that you're going through a tough time, but everyone goes through it at one point or another and most life learn lessons are learned from pain, and this will only make you stronger, and don't listen to the people who talk crap to you, they're just dumb and don't know what they're talking about." Just say stuff like that. If you still need help, just ask me I'll try to help!!! =D Good luck!!

xoxo Kourtney

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i have a problem with trusting my friends. i know it sounds weird but its tru. i mean like i know i can trust them sometimes but then they have times when they are so hyper they tell everyone everything about me and wut i have told them. wut do i do? i dont think i should trust them anymore but i want to.

Yea, I have problems trusting people too it takes me awhile to tell them things, but I trust my friends. You should try talking to your friends by saying "You guys are my friends, so therefore I tell you guys a lot about me and when you guys are hyper you go off and blab about me and I don't really appreciate it, it makes me NOT want to trust you guys and tell you things." Tell them something like that and how you feel about it. They should understand if they are your friend. Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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i dont think im grl friend material. i dont know why i guess i just think that. does anyone have any ways that i could become more grl friend material. im 14.

You have to always be yourself. Don't be someone your boyfriend wants you to be. Be truthful, honest, caring, someone he can run to if he needs someone. He should return the favor. And when you guys get in a fight, don't always yell back it doesn't help the situation, try being calm, and fixing the problem instead. Hope those help =D

xoxo Kourtney

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ok i put up questions about how a guy asked me out a while ago and i sed no but no regret it. and everyone sed go for it.but now the only question is when? its summer i dont see him that much. should i say to him over im or and away message cuz he has an away message up like 24/7. wut should i do? how should i ask him?

In his away, tell him to call you, that you have to talk to him about something. Or if you catch him online, try talking to him that way! Good luck hun! Tell me how it goes okay!?

xoxo Kourtney

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im 14 and this may sound weird but i've liked one of my best friends ive known since kindy, since 2nd grade. i told him i was in love with him and he didnt really seem to care. then he started dating this one chick, and it bothered me but what could i do? so when they broke up i asked him out and he turned me down. and now hes got this new girlfriend who hes like in love with. and i love him with all my heart but he just wants to be my friend. what should i do? should i just be his friend or continue competeing for his attention and his heart?

Maybe he doesn't believe you that you actually do love him. Try writting him a letter and telling him all your feelings and how long you have liked him. But don't try to intrude in his and his girfriend's relationship, you wouldn't want someone to do that to you would you? But, just be like "I know you have a girlfriend, but you dont know how long I have liked you, I've tried telling you, but it seems like you just don't care." Just say something like that. And just basically telling him how you feel. Hope this helps and good luck. Post back if you still need help!

xoxo Kourtney

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Hey, I've liked a guy for about 2 years now. He's taken, he used to like me, I think he's over me now. But I fucking love him. To death. Omg, help me.

If you love him, fight for him girl! You'll never know if he doesn't like/love you unless you ask! So go for it. And just be like "I know you're taken, but I can't help it, but I love you so much!" Just tell him how you feel for him you never know he could possibly love you back! But, you have to ask him in order to know. So just talk to him face-to-face, through an e-mail, on the phone, or on AIM/AOL. If you still need help about what to say to him, just ask me I'll be glad to help =D

xoxo Kourtney

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I LOVE SOCKS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! im so addicted to sock sometimes i wear 4 pairs at a time . also i like the smell of them especially right after my mom washes them they smell so fresh. i even put a pair under my pillow i always bring an extra pair of socks when i leave the house even just to got 2 the grocery store i put them in my purse every one thinks this habb it is weird but i cant help it

SOCK LUVER

The smell does smell nice lol. But what exactly is your question? There isn't really anything wrong with it, you just really like socks, everyone likes something that much. Don't worry! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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my sis moved out sometime after christmas. well she didnt exactly move out. shes was 17 at the time and she kinda ran away. but she stayed at her friends house during the last half of her senior year of high skool. now she is in college cuz shes taking summer courses. i miss her so much and only talk to her like every other day on the internet. what do i do? i miss her soo much and i dont know wut to do. i havent seen her alot this year. and it was her senior year which is important to some ppl. that and i feel like i wont see her anymore. wut can i do?

Aww I'm sorry to hear that. When you two are talking on the internet, just be like "I really miss you and I want to see you, we barely see each other" And just tell her how you feel and how much you miss you. Since, you do talk to her every other day. You can talk to her on AIM or trying e-mailing her if you like. Just ask her things you want to know and tell her things you want her to know. Hope this helps =D

xoxo Kourtney

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i just won tickets to go and see the "special sneak preview" of "I, robot"... are the tickets for a PREVIEW? or for the movie itself? please answer this soon soon soon! (i rate people)

The sneak preview is when it comes out for one day (whole movie) and then when it's suppose to really come out in theaters, is when it does. Hope thats not too confusing its kind of hard to explain lol, but you're seeing the whole movie. Thats so cool you won! YAY! lol. Oh and also you don't have to rate me, I don't really care lol I just like helping people out! lol. Have fun at the movie, tell me how it is!

xoxo Kourtney

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Are monkeys really cool? or is that just your opinion?

LOL. Monkeys are cool. My one friend, she looooooves monkeys lol. Her sister even calls her Monkey. HAHA

xoxo Kourtney

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i started to like one of my guy friends...we flirt alot and he has said that i was hott but i guess i just dont wanna break our friendship. that and alot of my friends already think i like him which i always deny,just cuz we r close. but wut should i do. i dont wanna like him but its hard to tell urslef that?

You can't control who you like, it basically controls yourself. Its not wrong for you to like your friend. You should talk to him about how you feel and see if he feels the same about you. I mean you already know he thinks your hot and he has to like your personality afterall you guys are friends. So now all you need to know is if he has feelings for you like you do for him! Just be like "I know we're friends and all, but I've began to develop feelings for you, I'm not too sure how you feel about me" And just tell him that if you two DO go out that it won't ruin your friendship. You'll always remain friends. Just tell him stuff like that and how you feel for him! Hope this helps!

xoxo Kourtney

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ok idk how to say this. i read my sisters away message the other day and it sed "my life is so perfect. so dont try to ruin it" and i feel like my life is crap cuz of everything that is going on. how it her life so perfect and mine so horrible? wut am i missing?

Well you need to be positive about things. Thats my saying lol "Always be positive, negativity gets you know where" You have to live your life, after all you only live life once...right?! So go out and have fun and live your life the fullest. Go hang out with your friends, go to partys (but dont do the wrong things, if you know what I mean!!), go to the mall, anywhere that is fun in your neighborhood. Hope this helps, if not just post back!!!

xoxo Kourtney

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ok well ill get rite to the point. my friend asked me out like 3 weeks ago and i sed no. but no that i come to think of it i think i should have sed yes. but my sis says that i should just go ask him out but i told her that its to late and he prolly doesnt like me ne more. wut should i do? i dont wanna ask him out cuz i gess im scared that he would say no.

Your sister is right! Listen to her lol. Just go up to him and be like "You know what, I was thinking about it and I shouldn't have said no, so my question is will you go out with me?" Just say something like that! There is no way he can get over you LIKE THAT! So just go for it!! Good luck hun!!!

xoxo Kourtney

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Hi school is just getting ready to start and i've been homeschooled for the last year,or so . How can I get my mom to put me back in school???
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help needed

Hey! Try sitting your mom down and saying you want to have more friends, you want to experience what school is all about again. And that you really liked it when you weren't homeschooled, just tell her how you feel and she should understand. And make sure you are serious and looking in her eyes and give her the puppy face lol. It always work! lol. Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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ok well i reli like this great guy n my friend likes him 2 but hers the thing : she never stopped lykin him. so now i think he likes her more then he likes me and she dosnt even care that i like him a lot too. me n this guy still tlak n stuf but im s0o0o0o confused n idk what to do

hmmm. This is a tough one, so I'll try and help you out! But, she is your friend and friends come before guys. And what do you mean by she never stopped liking him? Did she go out with him or something? BUT! Try talking to her about this whole situation. Just be like "You like him and I like him. What do you want to do about this?" And if she doesn't really like him that much, then you should go after him. But make sure its okay with your friend first. But, first thing to do is talk to your friend. But, still be friends with that guy, I mean after all you guys can be friends, can't you? But, just be more detail about this situation and then I'll try to help you =D

xoxo Kourtney

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I really like this guy, lets say his name is anthony. Well me and anthony hang out alot. And we flirt a lot too. But he dont like me he likes my friend and my friend dont like him. And it hurts so much cuz i kno he likes her. And hes told me he thinks im hot and that i have a great body and that im koo to hang out with stuff like that. But he just tells my frieend that he likes her and that it. Idk wut it means or what todo. So basicly wut i wanna kno is how to get him to like me, and anyother things you guyz might think help?????

Well, atleast he said you're hot, you have a great body, and you're fun to hang out with! Look on the bright side. But he needs to know that your friend doesn't like him. Once he knows, he should get over her! And move on to maybe YOU!!! But you can't just get a guy to like you, you don't have that kind of power, which would come in handy sometimes huh?! lol. Well, just flirt with him, show him how great your personality is, and get to know him more, and hang out with him ALOT! But ALWAYS be yourself, never be someone you're not. But just hang out with him a lot. Good luck hun! You'll get him, just be positive!!

xoxo Kourtney

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I'm sorry if this is long, but please will someone answer this. all right, normally i'm really cool about boys and stuff. i don't let them walk all over me, and i don't get all -head-in-the-clouds-ish. but theres this guy named Tyler that i have heard off from my friends. they say he's cute and super sweet, but i've never talked to him, and never seen him. well i got a new dentist and its his dad. and you know, me and his dad were talking about him, and stuff, and i left, but when i got home i felt so weird. i mean...i feel as if i like Tyler. but thats not possible is it? cuz i've never even met him! but i feel anxious and excited and nervous, and i just want to get to know him so much! but i don't just want to instant message him, 'hey, your dads my dentist, and i feel like i like you!'

its so weird, and i just don't know what to do! and he's online right now, and i'm just stressed is all. thankz to anyone that helps.

Aww thats so cool!!! Just IM him and get to know him and be like "Hey whats up my name is _____" And then he'll introduce himself and just be like "Your dad is my dentist haha" and once you guys actually get to know each other and you still like him then tell him. Once you two know each other better and you still need help telling him exactly how you feel, just post back I'll be glad to help =D but for now get to know him! IM him!!!

xoxo Kourtney

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Okay i use to go out with this guy..we started going out in nov. of 03.....well he was ALWAYS there fer me!! always...i know he loved me n i still do love him!! well we had been going out fer 2 1/2 months..well see his best friend is my ex...n at tha time i was still crazy for my ex..i would flirt with my ex allll tha time in front of my b/f..n i would go to his basketball games n stuff...although i NEVER cheated on my b/f i did hurt him..i was soo into my ex that i told my b/f that i thought we should.."take a brake" we took a brake fer 2 weeks n then got back together!! He was sucha a sweety!! but....then afta a month i broke up with him...tha was in march....tha last day of school(june 9) i invited him to come ova n go swimming in my pool...we flirted n flirted!! then we were outside alone n he had told me that he liked me after we broke up..a month after we broke up..n that he had still liked me when he was going out with his ex girlfriend Katie...but right now he doesnt wanna be in a serious realtionship..he told me he missed us hanging out n talking n he wanted us to be close friends or be friends with benefits but other then that he didnt want ewnthing more...well that night we hooked up n then after that i talked to him on tha phone once(he was in a really bad mood) n i havent talked to him since (so like i havent talk to him fer a month) i miss him soooo much...he would come ova when i would get sick n watch movies with me alll night long instead of goin out with his friends...he spiled me he gave me everything we wanted n we basically never really had a big fight bc he ALWAYS let me have it my way..i noe he loved me n im pretty sure he still loves me..but i want him back i miss him so much!!!! i've been thinking of calling him but i dont really know what i should do...PlZzZ help! Thanx!! xo0ox!!!!

Wow you guys seem like a cute couple! I'm sure you like hearing that huh!? lol. But, you guys are suppose to be friends and just call him up and be like "Hey, we haven't talked in a long time and I really miss hanging out with you, you should come over." And when you guys are talking just mention to him like "Why did we stop talking?" And just tell him how you feel, that you miss him a lot and you still love him and you want to know if he still loves you also, and that he was like the perfect guy for you. Just tell him how you feel for him and just ask him whatever you want to know. It seems like he still likes you and still loves you! So go for it girl! Good luck and tell me how it goes!!

xoxo Kourtney

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I really really like someone but i dont think that they would go out with me so .. what am i supposed to do ? i really wanna tell him but he likes other people..?

Don't say that, that he would never go out with you, you never know! You may have a chance! He may like you also. But you'll never know unless you find out!! But, guys are they usually play hard to get or something lol. So, when you're talking to him, just be like "I know you like other people, but I like you too, is there any chance we could ever go out?" Just say something like that. Maybe he'll want to get to know you first. Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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What should i do to get MOnEY faSTt!! i need it by Aug 8th to go to the beach with my bestest friend =) .. Thanks.. o yea i cant baby sit lol*

You can always have a car wash in your neighborhood, a garage sale of stuff you guys dont like, sell icee's or something, do stuff around the house (like clean it), clean other peoples houses (if you can), see if you can work at your parents work. Stuff like that. Hope that helps... Good luck!! =P

xoxo Kourtney

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