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okay..my friend.she gets treated soo bad..and her boyfriend just dumped her and seh cried for like a whole day..and other people..there so mean to her..and im just bout sick of it..i hate seeing her like this, and now..sehs saying that seh cuts herself..and seh does all this stuff..and ive tried talking to her..she just says that everythings messed up and will never be the same..she just does all of this over a boy that doesnt like her..ive talked to her plenty of times..i just dont kno what to say to her anymore..what should i do?
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tell her how much her friends and family care about her. convince her to talk to someone about the cutting because that isnt healthy for her. and tell her how everything WILL get back to normal it just takes some time to get over things.
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Let your friend know how much you love her,and that you're always there for her.Remind her of all the reasons life is worth living.For every jerk or rude person out there,believe it or not,there's a really nice person out there too!Help her to learn to appreciate the little things in life,like a gorgeous sunny day,and the fact that she has such a great friend like you who loves her so much.Each day is a blessing.If she continues with the cutting and the talk of suicide,it's time to get an adult involved,as much as you don't want to.Tell your parents,her parents,a guidance counselor,or trusted family friend,anyone who can help.Because some problems you just can't fix on your own,she may need some professional help.And you're not ratting her out or betraying her by telling someone and helping her to get help,you are showing that you truly love her and want to see her happy and enjoying life again.Remind that no boy is worth all of that pain and suffering.It goes back to that old saying "No man is worth your tears,and the one who is won't make you cry"! Best of luck sweetie,write me back and let me know how your friend is doing.Best wishes!!!
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Tell her that cutting herself over a boy is definitely not worth it and that there are sooooo many other guys out there
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I've been through that. Even worse, it was because he cheated on me with my best friend before he dumped me, and i didn't know about either of them. What you need to do is reassure her, and talk to her about everything, even if she doesn't want to listen. About the cutting, if she doesn't stop you need to get someone she trusts or someone who is responsible to talk to her and help her get through that, maybe even get a counselor, because that is a HUGE problem. Also, make her promise she won;t do that again. Take her out to the mall, parties, and chat up with some guys she could be interested. You could also arrange a group outing to take her mind off everything.
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well i think the only thing u can do is keep talking to her. does her parents know? that or u could try to find her a conseling place or something to help her b/c if she doesnt get help in the long run she could do something alot worse....
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I'm sorry to hear that. But, thats good that you are trying to talk to her. Just tell her all the positive things about her. And when people talk crap about her, stick up for her (which I'm sure you do), and tell her not to cut herself that can cause a lot of problems. Tell her to put a rubberband on her wrist and whenever she feels like she wants to cut or something to snap it (I've had friends who have cut). And for the boy problems, err they make me mad lol, take her to the mall or a party or something and introduce her to guys. She shouldn't be cutting herself over a guy. Just be like "I know how depressed you are, but don't cut yourself over a guy, he isn't worth it, there are so many guys out there for you who will treat you well, and I know that you're going through a tough time, but everyone goes through it at one point or another and most life learn lessons are learned from pain, and this will only make you stronger, and don't listen to the people who talk crap to you, they're just dumb and don't know what they're talking about." Just say stuff like that. If you still need help, just ask me I'll try to help!!! =D Good luck!!
xoxo Kourtney
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try finding someone better for. try finding someone who will treat her right. she shouldn't be doing that ot her self over someboy. i was going out with this guy 4 almost 4 months and then he deciedes he doesn;t want a girlfriend. i was depressed for like 2 days. it sucks but the i reailzed how much a a jerk he waas and moved on and you need to show her that she doesnt need someone who treats her like crap. and for everyone else who is making her life suck try to show her the good side of things like how you are a good friend to her and show her all the plus sides to her life. and for the cutting.... inflicting pain on yourself does not make anything better it just hurts you and leaves scars of all the things that make your life stink so when you look at them you will remember how your life is. hope i helped
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