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yea i am a muslim. well..i talk to some of my friends but they are not that friendly with me like with thier other firends and how can i talk to people who are not my friends?

sweet! im glad i know another muslim, yay
im 16. and i have moved a lot so obviously i need to make friends.

this year i moved across the country and to a new school, (i'm the only one in the school who wears a scarf) and i can help you

so really what i've learned is you just have to be friendly. seriously, smile a lot.
thats how it starts. (this is how i meet ppl)
all i do it smile (say in class when they look at me or if i have to sit by them)
ask them little questions, like "what did the teacher say?" "or whats our homework?" dont annoy them w/ questions or you can commpliment them like "oh, wow i love your shoes."
then when you get into a small conversasion with them then introduce yourself. like "oh by the way my name is..."
this is how it starts, this is how you meet people, all you do is smile and be nice

if some people act rude towards you, just ignore them or even smile and turn away. dont get into a fight or argument. if you talk resonably w/ them then do that.

now for the friends you already have, be a better friend and then they will too. so get them gifts on holidays (i dont mean expensive individual gifts but like a bag w/ assortment of candy and things) also invite them to the movies to see something or even invite them over. because when you invite them places they will eventually do the same :)

thats all i can say now, but if you are still confused w/ somethig feel free to ask. yu can also ask me questions in islam or family or even other things that bother you :)

btw, where do you live? (me, WA)

14 F and I was wondering.. what are some activities I can do outside of school.
I cant do a sport in school,because its just complicated but I cant. So what are some things i can do with my life besides being a boring person. Things like modeling, karate, and stuff like that. I really need to find something.

well there a lot of things

-you could hang out w/ friends
-join a club (this is great cause you can try new things and meet new people)
-volunteer (if you find the right place its fun and it looks good
-read
-go to the liberary
-play outside w/ people
-creat a movie w/ friends
-write stories
-write a list of things you like to do and go on form there

I'm a freshman in highschool(i'm a girl) and i've ALWAYS wanted to play some kind of sport in school, but nothing seems right for me. I mainly want to because i want to start being more active and stuff. Recently I've been thinking about soccer, like maybe joining the jv girls soccer team? i used to play soccer and few years ago, but i quit because there were other things i wanted to try like tennis (which didnt work out). Everyone told me i was really good at soccer, but even if i was really good, I'm not sure if i could pick it back up again. I'm probably really out of shape too since i haven't done anything in a year or two. So i'm wondering...could soccer be something i could do? what do you have to do to be a good player? another thing....i'm also in band, and the marching season can get pretty hectic. so should i just not join a sport at all????

you can do anything you want.

you have a good chance because soccer is in the back of your mind somewhere, you have the skills you just need to dig them up again

practice and train and you will definetly be able to do it :)

so my problem is that i can't make friends is it becuase i wear a scarf or something? I don't know what's the problem but i just can't make friends.
Help please!

scarf? are you a muslim? (i am)

can you please give me more info. because i have no idea whats goin on, like what have you tried to do to get friends, how do they treat you? etc.

with more info i can help more :)
im good with these types of questions so if you tell me a bit more i will seriously help you

send your question to "Ainne1992"

Yesterday me and my friend were play fighting and i think he accidentally hit my thumb the wrong way and it hurt very badly. now i can still bend it but it hurts when i do (not THAT much though). could it possibly be sprained or did i just bruise it?

well, you could have jammed you thumb because if you can bend it thats a good thing

ice 20 min per hour for the next two days, if the swelling or pain starts going down that good

but if it doesn't go and get it checked.

also you can wrap it

14/f what were some inventions created in the u.s. during the industrial period like mid to late 1800's ? also how could I advertise a certain one?

here is a very good site w/ all of them listed

http://members.aol.com/TeacherNet/Industrial.html

to advertise them, simply create a poster,
foe exapmle the steam engine you would say all the good things of it and what can now be achieved

I need to lose 50 pounds by June. I have already stopped eating any junkfood... what else can I do? I need things that REALLY work for someone on a budget.

go on a jog

maintaining your food intake is great! now you just have to worry about loosing that fat and that is by exercising.

my favorite thing to do is, when im doin homework and i get bores, i turn some music on and danse (or whatever as long as you are moving)

this takes time but will work and you will look great!

I have troubl cleaning my room and I will just lay on my bed and watch TV I dont know if there is a fun way to clean because I hate cleaning please help!!!!!!!!!!!

yes, i was going to say the same thing

because sometimes when my parents tell me and my sisters chores to do, we go on youtube and crank the music really loud. this helps alot cause it distracts us from the real work. itune works good obviously

also writing a list and crossing off what you did is good too cause when you start to cross things off it makes you feel better to feel like you are actually doing and completing work.

well good luck

I was just wondering like what are things from the greek we use in everyday life?

here, look at this link

http://www.e-telescope.gr/en/cat05/art05_021129.htm

is this for a progect?

Alright, I'm turning 16 in June.

I first got my period when I was 13, I think it only lasted 2 days.

I didn't get it again until I was 14, and I think it ran a normal course (somewhere between 5-7 days)

Then I got it about 3 times last year, one was really heavy, the other 2 were normal. The second one was around 28 days after the first one, so I thought it had finally become regular, but the last one was a few months later.

I also got it once at the start of this year, and it was really heavy.

Anyway, my question is, it's been nearly 3 years and my period is STILL irregular. I understand when you first get it it's irregular, but after such a long time is it normal or should I go get medical advice about it?

well, actually mine was just like that.

like it started at 12 but then i didnt have for such a long time. then it came once in three months and its still a bit irregular (im 16).

anyways, dont worry. it happens.

but if you are really worried then write a list of when you have it (when it starts and ends) then show your doctor so they can analyze it and confirm things.
also talk to your mom because it could be genetic (maybe thats how hers was)

Alright here is my situation.. first of all im not sure what section this was supposed to be in so im sorry if its in the wrong category. Anyways I moved from New York to Illinois after i graduated. I moved for my now ex boyfriend. He promised me a life and he would help but as soon as i got a thousand miles away from my family he changes and starts hitting me. So me and him break up also because it wasnt me and him in a relationship but me him and his mom he wanted me more like a mom than a girlfriend.
So now since i dont want to go running back to New York im trying to make it on my own any suggestions. It is so hard Im scared that i will fail. I so far have been able to get around with the help of my new boyfriend he is my knight in shining armor he has the same background as me but that isnt important right now. How do i make it on my own.. i just i dont think anyone can help or im just asking an odd question that i dont know how to put it in words. HELP.. thanks

(i lived in IL before but i moved here, I used to live in Desplains, then Naperville)

i think the best for you to do would be to call your parents. not to move back or anything but for help. ask them what you should do and what your priorities should be. becuase obviously they've gone through this and im sure they will be more that willing to help :)

good luck, try your best :)

ok sorry i couldnt find a good category to put this in and i know its a stupid question but what does isle stand for or what does it mean?

isle is an island but especially a small one

I was just wondering if I consistently eat 1500-2300 calories a day, but do not eat after 4 pm--then go to work for eight hours, then sleep, will it slow my metabolism? It is a physical labor job--medium intensity. I have been losing a bit of weight while doing that, but I was wondering if my body will adjust and slow the metabolism down. I have a naturally fast one so I do not want it to slow down. thanks for your help

actually, i've read that you should eat little amounts all throughout the day, like 6 times but not an actual meal. the reason for that is that your body is constantly working to break things like this down. your matabolism wont slow but its better to eat all throughout the day. dont worry, it wont slow down :)

Ok, the girl looked at me for 3 seconds 2 times in language arts and sort of glanced at me a couple times. I tried to talk to her in math class, because, she has a tooth that is loose, and it sounds like gum whenever she moves it and I asked her "What is that noise you are making?" So, she does this, "It's a loose tooth," She pauses and looks down at her paper, "It does this whenever it moves." She was talking to the paper, which makes me think she was nervous.

She also never looks at me at lunch, and we sit only 1 table away from each other.

I AM CONFUSED???

just leave her be, i think you are thinking about this waayy to much. just talk to her as a friend and if there is something special it'll come. ignore it for now till you are sure because this isnt very bad, it sounds normal

Can anyone help me convince my parents to let me be me? They are like trying and telling me to live a decent life and doing what's proper for me to make me happy, but the problem is I don't like it! I wanna have fun and do what I wanna do. My style is emo by the way and my parents don't know that and I don't think I wanna tell them cause I don't think they will ever understand. Right now I'm trying to get a mohawk and color it blue but my parent's say no and I don't understand why. One, I don't care what people will think of me, and two just cause I'm looking like those teens that they see out in the streets doesn't mean I'm gonna be like them! And if I become one then it's their own fault. I mean not all teens are like that, there are some who have cool parents who let them do what they want and plus only reason I think they are out on their own is cause probaly their parents are probably like mine so maybe I should go out on my own if I have to. I just don't understand why my parents are like that. I know what they are doing think is gonna make me happy but it's not. I basically need help fighting for my independence and ways to convince them to let me have my god damn mohawk LOL. Sorry but I seriously want them to let me live my life my way. I'm already sixteen and I wanna live my life to the fullest and while I'm still young.

wow, well i can see both of points of view. i mean i understand why your parents say no and i understand why you want to.

one reason i think that they dont want you to do something like that is because of how other people will look at you (i know you wont care what people say but they will) plus them being born in a time so long ago, this is like hugely rebelious.

what i would say is that if they say no, listen ( i know that not what you want to hear but hear me out). instead ask them if you could do something else (like piercing?)

see if there is something else you can do because trust me if you dont listen to them now, they will only get more strict and that wouldnt be good, now would it?

try your best and for the time being "give up" or maybe take is slow mo (one thing at a time)

Ok, which one of the following stores is most likely to have hair dye for guys? CVS, Walgreens, Shaws/Star Market, or a local haircut salon? Also, how much do they usually cost? Are the prices different if you find them at a pharmacy store or a local haircut salon?

CVS and Walgreens both have them and you could get them for a pretty cheap price, other than that you can get them any other drug store. drug stores are way more cheaper than the hair salons. and the drug stores like walgreens has a good color selection

So my hair is naturaly wavy. well i just want to leave it alone one day let it dry by itself and have it be curly not frizzy and not huge! for some reason i cant do that anymore. i used to now i cant. and it will not dry like that like with a hair dryer so yeah. any ideas? thanks. any home potions that actually work where i dont have to go out and buy anything. i have herbal essences gel stuff for scrunching, i dont think its working.

i have curly hair! like you wouldnt even believe

here is what i think works best

brush hair b4 a shower (use conditioner as you are brushing, it makes it easier) then take a shower, put shampoo, condition and brush again. it worked for me.

how do u get rid of like the black-ish spots your old acne left behind? without having to buy products and all those stuff?

yeah, thats hard becuase they take time to fade

but till then just use cover up and wait

(ppl i know go to the make up counter in the stores and the like completly cover them up, lol)

Hii :) 16/f. Sophomore.

Well okay. I'm an honors and A.P student...and over the past few months or so, my grades have dropped. I've gone from straight (or nearly straight) As to Bs and Cs. It's making me really worried. The reason for this decline is obviously the distractions that came with this new "social life" I developed. I was very overwhelmed by all these new friends and I let my education sink. It sucks. But I was just wondering...my GPA is 3.7 right now...and I'm really getting my act together. I've let the whole social thing settle down...so it's not TOO distracting and I'm shaping up. Improving.
However, some of the distractions still kind of remain..even though I try to keep them at a min..some subjects aren't going to be As. And I KNOW for SURE I'm gonna do a LOT better next year. It'll be my goal.

I was just wondering whether anyone was in the same situation...and did you manage to get out of it and pull your grades up?
Any advice or anything would be appreciated.

ok well it all depends on the distractions

my biggest right now is IMing because i'm on the comp all the time and well, i have lots of friends in other states that i hardly ever see, and so that is our only form of communication. But i found it very helpful to just tell them im busy and work strongly for some time, then for 10-20 talk w/ them.

I'm currently still trying to get my grades up because the new semester started and my "lovely" teachers decided to put quizzes in as the first grade so they lowered it. but i know i will get it up. i just have to get prioratized!

seriously, make a to-do list. it sounds dumb, but it helps ALOT. then you feel better when you cross things off.

also, put in some breaks while studying
like 10 min for every hour
(i find it helpful to do my work and when i start to get sleepy i put some music on and do my own workout, its good for me and after i fell more awake and better over all)

im possitive you'll get your grades up because of your attitude towards them. try your best and it will pay off!

There is this cute in my class and he sittes right across from me in reading . I like him but i don't know how to make him like me . He has the featers of cute blond hair blue eyes . Need advice fast dance coming up!!!!!

just talk to him, ask him question when you get the chance ( not really personal tho). it might take time for you guys to get to know each other but thats fine as long as it works out in the end right?

also, smile (no obssively, thatll be creepy) and help out if you can

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