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What there to say about me? I'm 27 and a graduate of UCSD. Throughout my life most of my close friends have been girls so I have a unique perspective on relationships and sex. I know a lot about computers as well as random stuff in general. Feel free to ask me anything and I'll answer it to the best of my knowledge.
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On facebook do you just like add people that go to your school that you may not even know? Because I made one like last week and so far have only been adding my friends and right now I've got like 26 people (at my school) and a few of my cousins out of state. Then, I look at other peoples and see they have like 180 people at my school and wonder how they know everyone on facebook that goes to our school.I also noticed how some people don't even have the "how they know eachother" under a lot of people, so its like they dont know them. So do you just add people that go to your school? Or your not supposed to do that? (link)
its your facebook, you can do it however you want. on mine, i only have people i know, and im still over 200. some people add random people at their school, most dont. i tend to add people as i meet them, even if i dont know them that well.


hey. i have an honesty box [application] on facebook & i was just wondering, if you sent a message to someone via honesty box & then sent them another one [NOT replying to the last one], will it show up as a new thread? or will it be on the same thread because the same person is sending a message? thanks! (link)
i havent tested it, but the way it works, it should show up as a new thread.



ok i just bought a camcorder from the pawn shop, and it didn't come with instructions :/ it has a tape in it and the tape has something on it but i don't know exactly how to start recording, the tape doesn't have much stuff on it but do i need a new tape? it came with all the cord's and stuff but i don't know how to work the thing. site's would be helpful, much loveeee:]

k'laaaa (link)
well it would be nice if you also included the model number, since all cameras are different, but really it should be incredibly simple. most cameras have a nice red button, push it, and it will start recording. there might be a switch around the button that you need to move up or down. unless you get more specific no one will be able to help you more.


I feel terrible for needing to ask ths but does God really exist??

My family (and i??) are christians but lately i doupt that God really made us the earth and everything around us. If so WHY did he make us and the earth EVERYTHING!!!

please don't tell me he doesn't exsist b/c in the back of my mind i believe but then agian?!? (link)
so you are asking "does GOD exist" but you dont want people to answer no? what exactly do you expect to gain? i mean, i personally believe He does, but what good does that do you? your best bet would be to listen to arguments both for and against. you can check out literature from other religions for some fresh perspectives. you can check out an atheist vs theist group on myspace if you have one. theres lots of literature out there on the subject.


I sorta want to get my tongue pierced :]
Does anybody have theirs done? How much does it hurt, and how long does it take to heal?
I mean, is it kinda wierd, because I'm kind of known as a prep, but I want to get it done...
Also, do guys prefer tongue pericings for kissing? (link)
Well youve gotten some opinion on the pain, so for the other part of your question, yeah kissing a girl with a tongue ring is pretty fun.


How do i put little comment pictures as my myspace captions? (link)
its actually
theyre right about tinypic though, its pretty much the only way to get a url that is short enough.


If you're on AIM or any other site such as myspace, unless your password is saved on the computer, if the computer is shut down, are you automatically logged off? So the next time you turn the computer on, you have to retype in your password? Thanks!! (link)
with most sites, yes you are logged out. with some it even logs you out if you just close the browser. some sites have an option to keep you logged in.


Hmmm, so I'm 15/f and I have like 10 friends? I don't care, though, because I love all of them like whoa. The problem is that out of those 10, like only 2 are girls. I'm not a slut or being friends with the guys because I wanna go out with them. It's just that I can be myself comfortably around them since they don't care about what I say or how I act or any of that stuff. There's little to no drama or rumors among guys & they're much more relaxed and friendly and more fun to hang out with [for me anyway]. One of the 2 girls is my best friend ever & I love her like whoa [still do] but my mom banned me from her [Don't ask. LONG story] The other girl, I'm not close to that much? I mean I still love her but I'm not as close to her as I am with the first girl. Like I would barely hang out with her at the mall or movies or even bring her over to my house just so we could hang out.

The thing is that my mom is...strict and set in her own little assumptive ways. She NEVER lets me go to a guy's house even if his parents are home b/c I'll get raped and pregnant. And I can't go anywhere with just a guy unnless another girl is in the presence [I can't go to the mall or the movies and what not]. And I'm afraid to bring people over my house because my mom will most likely ban me from my friends [Again, long story but I promise you that my mom will not like them and ban me form them] So basically all summer long, I've had like 2 outside human contact [Andrew b/c he popped out of nowhere one day and decided to come over...he's now banned for a stupid reason. And another time was in the morning when I snuck out to meet Angela [the girl I'm banned from]] And I'd really like to go shopping or to the movies with Brandon or Curtis but my mom will be like "OMG!! DO YOU LIKE HIM? ARE YOU GUYS GOING OUT??" [Ironic thing--they're both gay. And my family is a big, big homophobic one] So I dn't know. I guess I'm asking what should I do? (link)
Well. I'm a guy, and most of my friends are girls, and I have occasionally run into the other side of this problem. Luckily for me, I'm good with parents, so if it is a problem, I meet the girl's parents and talk to them. After that it usually isn't a problem. You can try the same thing. Maybe invite one of your guy friends over for dinner, so your mom can get to know him.

Or you know, you can always lie and say another girl will be there.


Is it possible to be allergic to mosquito bites? Because I think I am, whenever I get one, it swells up to the size of like two quarters and its hard and red...What do you think? (link)
actually yes. in fact, its incredibly common, its what causes the bump and itchiness. its pretty rare not to be allergic to them, some people have no reaction at all when they are bitten. it seems that you are just more allergic than most.


hey i have motorolla roker i dunno if you people are familar with that phone. it has itunes on it like the slvr but for some reason it won't show up on my itunes. does anyone know how to help me thanks in advance. =]]
-livestrong- (link)
like you have itunes installed and when you plug in your phone it doesnt show up? mine had issues too, and for me, it was a problem with the actual physical connection. i jiggled the cord, and it connected.

you should also make sure that the memory card is in the phone correctly, and that the usb connection settings are correct. my phone broke so i cant check it, but its somewhere under settings, there will be two options for when you connect to a computer.


If you have sex the day before your period and sperm enters is there a strong possibility you could be pregnant? (link)
with sex, theres always a possibility you could get pregnant. sperm can live inside a woman for around a week, so it doesnt matter too much when you do it.


Last school year I took AP US History at my high school. My final grade was an 87, a B. However, on my AP exam I made a 2. Our teacher told us a 3 was passing but some colleges (like technical colleges) will accept a 2 and the class will count as an elective credit.

I don't really mind if it doesn't count as a credit because it wasn't a history credit anyways, but do you think I'll go through any trouble with colleges that see I only made a 2? I don't want to hurt my chances of getting into a good college. I've never failed a big exam like this. I'm an A/B student and I have at least a 4.0. I'm about to be a senior.

Will my GPA make up for the bad exam grade? I really hope so, because I'm seriously depressed about this. I can't believe my grade was so low, and I'm starting to wonder if I'm college material after all. (link)
dont worry, it wont hurt you. you just most likely wont get the college credit for it. you should still get the weighted gpa though.


On facebook how can you make your profile so that only your friends can see it? (link)
you can change the setting under privacy. it should be private by default.


So right now I'm in a dance intensive that consists of 3 hours and 15 minutes (roughly more or less depending on the day) of actual dance classes. 5 days a week.

And I was eating 1200 cals a day but I've stopped that and i'm taking it up to 1400 now b/c i couldn't maintain 1200 and it was too low. Is 1400 too low?
(5'2" and 154 lbs)

How much weight do you think I will lose by the end of the summer? (after the dance thing ends in 3 weeks i'm going to continue working out 5 days a week)


I've hit a really bad plateau recently, i've been 154 (and fluctuating 2-6 pounds around there) for about 2 months. And I've kept my eating and exercise habits the same. I can't lose anymore weight it seems. So help.


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Yes 1400 is far too few calories. Even if you were doing nothing but sitting around watching TV, 1400 would be too few. I find it hard to believe that you could be maintaining an active lifestyle with so few calories. If you have only been doing this for the two months, that would explain your bad plateu. You might lose weight with this regime, but it wont be healthy, youll lose muscle, not just fat. you will also put the weight back on as soon as you are off the diet. 2000 calories per day is considered healthy and normal. Witht he average lifestyle, that would keep you at a constant weight. Now you are active, so with 2000 you would losse weight. you could take it down to 1800 and still be healthy, but i wouldnt recoment going much below that. the most important thing is to have a nice balanced diet, getting all the servings of everything that you need.


so i was in the doctors office and i was reading this magazine called more or something like that
and it said what is it like: listed a bunch of random topics and one was to give birth to your own grandson. of course it really meant a womans daughter had lupus after 4 miscarriages so they planted the fertilized egg in her but this made me wonder.. could somebody get their own mother pregnant?
i would think you could but i wasnt really sure (link)
A few suggestions:
"giving birth to your own grandson"
"getting your mother pregnant"
"interesting article"

But anyways, yes, boy could get his mother pregnant, and a man could get his daughter pregnant, through natural or artificial means. however, the child would most likely be deformed in one way or another.


Is there a way to report a user on facebook? Like there are a lot of seventh graders on it, and they're not allowed to be. And seriously no one wants them on facebook. Can you report them? (link)
you have to be able to see the profile and they have to not be on your friends list

there will be a link to "report this person" at the bottom of the page


ok well i noticed that a few people had top 3's instead of top 4's on myspace....how do i do that???? (link)
Aside from special code sides, most people have it happen by accident. if someone in your top 4 deletes you, or cancels their account you end up with a top 3.


How do scientists prove that mater is not infinity? That there is a certain number of planets and stars on our universe? (link)
Well because of the very nature of infinity, you cannot have an infinite amount of something in the real world. It is simply a mathematical that was made up to make equations work right. Now, the number of stars and planets in the universe is probably incredibly large, and given the fact that we cannot travel faster than light, might as well be infinite, since we will never reach the end, but it is still not infinite.


Ok so im like really in to tarot or whatever and i really want to get a some cards of my own but i dont really know were to buy them. I hurd you could get them at spencers or hot-topic but i went to spencers and i couldnt find them of course i was too shy to ask but if any one can tell me were i can buy them and around how much they caust thanx oh and i know it depends on what kind of deck you get so i want the one that kinda looks like the playing cards you know what i mean (link)
ive seen them at boookstar and barnes and noble for around $20


I've been friends with this guy Brandon for two years. I honestly love him, I mean we haven't just been friends we've been going out and sometimes things stop us but this time nothing is getting in the way. My mom doesn't like him at all, she doesn't know that we ever dated. I love him and I know I'm too young (16) to be making the decision of who I want to be with for the rest of my life but I know I love him. Last night I told him that I can't be with him anymore because my parents don't want me to marry out of my religion (I'm a muslim and he's Christian.) He was crying and so was I. I want to be with him more then anything but my dad said if I marry him he's going to leave my mom and I love my mom and don't want her to be alone because I'm being a selfish snob. I don't know how I can make them understand that he means absoluely everything to me. Any suggestions on what I should do? (link)
Why do you have to get married anyways? I know it is imporant, but really, its just a piece of paper. You can be together, and even live together and have kids, but not officially be married. Or you could call your dad's bluff. I mean, if he would leave your mom over something like this, then he obviously is already thinking about doing it. Even if he does actually leave her, it wouldnt be your fault.




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