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Gender: Female
Occupation: Microbiologist
Age: 24
Member Since: May 3, 2006
Answers: 670
Last Update: September 8, 2006
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I just registered to this site, and this is my first question type thing, so i dont really know what to put as my "subject" or what to put it under.
so.. this weekend, im goin to see some1,&i want to look good, so i picked out an outfit& everything, the only thing is.. i got my period this morning and i dont wear tampons,and the pants im wearing are pretty tight, but i dont want my underwear line to show?and i dont want to pick another outfit,so if any1 has any suggestions on what i should do.. i would really appreciate it... sorry if its a stupid question.! (link)
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You really need to learn how to wear tampons and get comfortable with them, that'll help you out a lot in the future. For now, why now a skit (not tight) with boy short underwear?
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i might get some really stupid immature answers to this but whatever
i was wondering what guys think about girls who are naturally a bit more hairy than other girls, like darker hair on their arms for example. usually among girls its understood as being beyond your control since its because of your background, but i dunno if guys only see it as like 'eww, gross, shes hairier than me'. i just wanted to know if they are, in general, bothered by it or if they dont care. (doesnt only have to be guys who answer this, by the way)
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Sweetie I'm a female (aga 24) and I don't like hair on guys at all...or on myself...or on other girl when I see it. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion so here is mine. I'm Italian so I have to wax and shave everyday....I just think I look and feel cleaner and more beautiful when I do. When I see other girls or guys with bosy hair, I find it to be a turn off. In case no guys answer you, I know that my boyfriend and male friends (age 21-29) also are turned off by body hair on a woman. I would advise you to check out some nice razors (Venus is good) and wax prices at your local hair or nail place.
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I think my boyfriend of 4yrs is racist. And i think the race that he hates happens to be mine. I've been crying about it for hours! Is that even possible? What should i do? (link)
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I'm sorry but that really made me burst out laughing. If he hates your race then why is he your boyfriend? That doesn't make sense. Ask him straight up if he has a problem with you or anyone and why. Maybe he makes comments and doesn't realize that you are taking them this way. Or maybe he really is racist, if so then you need to find this out.
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My mom won't let me talk to boys on the phone. Whenever my cellphone rings, shes like "Who is it??!?!?" When I actually tell her she rolls her eyes and then asks my 20 questions about the person I'm talking to.
I know like trying to "protect" me, but I have to pretty much "hide" in my room when I talk on the phone.
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I'm 24, and I remember my mom being totally overprotective and treating me like a child when I was a teenager. I hated it. Let me tell you something though, I'm thinking about having my own kids soon and I know I'll be the same way. I could tell you that you'll understand when you are older and she is just trying to protect you and blah blah blah....but I know that isn't what you want to hear. She doesn't want you to get knocked up and develop a crack habit and kidnapped by a internet preditor child molestor. It happens way more then you think, trust me. Just put up with it for a few more years. You really will understand when you have some experience to your name.
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ok.. well i like this guy and he is morman, im christian , and well i was wondering what i can do or not do around him and what the differences are?
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Why not ask him?
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there is this eight grade dance in a month. and it seems like all of a sudden guys are asking girls to go. no one as asked me yet and like i don't care if i don't go with a guy but maybe i would like to... i don't want to ask the guy i want to go with and i don't hink he would ask me cause he's shy about those things. how could i get him to ask me? is it fun to just go with your girl friends? do people who bring dates usually hang with them the whole time? (link)
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Wow, I remember those days....
Guys this age are very shy...and even if you did get asked then it's unlikely that it will be the night of you dreams or anything. It's perfectly ok to ask a guy yourself, but a lot of guys are shy and don't want anyone to know that they like a girl even if they really do. If I were you I would just go with my girlfriends and hang out with everyone.
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okay i seriously think i have a problem in the love life area. im a very down to earth girl and im attractive and popular at my school i guess you could say. there are plenty of guys i could have if i wanted them but its like i'll like a guy for a day or two and then the next day im like what was i thinking? and i'll avoid them by all means possible and i hate it bc i feel mean and im not a mean person. for an example i met a nice guy last saturday but today at school i went down a completely different hallway just so i wouldnt have to see him and i feel like hes getting too clingy too soon. i cant ever like a guy for more than a day or so. but i really dont understand bc i'll flirt with a guy and then they think i like them and i hate to lead people on. what could possibly be wrong with me? and what could i do to try and stop that feeling
please help!
i'll rate =] (link)
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You're just not ready to date, you just want to have fun. Believe me, you have the right idea. There isn't anything wrong with you, just be up front with guys if they ask you out and tell them you don't want anything serious. Then go have your fun.
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Well, today I asked my bf if he'd told everyone about us (we've been together 6 months today) and he said he had except one girl. When I further probed him about why, I found out she was a girl he had asked out (but she refused) before we got together. Well, he won't tell her because her parents seem to think he's a suitable candidate for her to marry and he thinks they would be hurt if they found out he was in love with someone else. I feel really hurt by this, because even though I know he meant well not to hurt them, I feel this shows he has feelings for her still, or at least is trying to save has as "Backup" in case things don't work out.
Am I justified in feeling this way ? Or could he have genuinely wanted to spare their feelings? Or does this mean there are some genuine problems in our relationship?
I will rate. And thank you. (link)
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I would feel exactly like you do, a little hurt and suspicious of his feelings. It's a weak excuse and you should point that out to him. He needs to be more honest.
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I am so in love with one of my friends. I can't stop thinking about him. He is a good friend and shares his problems with me. He always cracks jokes and we always have friendly arguments. How can I let him know that I actually fancy him? I want him to see me as a girl and not just a mate. I'll never flirt with him. How do I tell him that I want to be more than friends?
i dont want him to see me just as a buddy......plz help..........
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Just tell him, it's the easiest way to find out, I promise.
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I have always thought it would be a cool idea to have a movie theater that ran only horror movies. It would play new ones, old ones, all the classics (such as Rocky Horror Picture Show). I am just wondering what other people thought of this. Would anyone out there be interested in going to a horror theme theater (link)
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I love this idea, you could set it up like a haunted house as far as decorations...like halloween all the time! I would be all about it.
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My girlfriend of two years recently lost her father to cancer. That was about two months ago and it was a tough time for her but in the last week she has begun to bounce back and smile agian.
The problem is, we haven't had sex since her father passed. I don't want to sound like an ass or anything, but we used to have a really active sex life and now it feels like there is this wall between us I can't get past.
Anyone know how I could bring this up without offending her? Do you think it's too soon? I miss the sex of course, but I can live without if she's not ready. (link)
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Let her know in a very no pressure way that you miss being "close" to her. Then just let it go. She knows what is going on, I don't she doesn't realize that you're missing that entire party of your relationship. Let her know, but then drop it. If in another month nothing has happened yet then let her know again. She needs you right now.
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My husbands’ best friend, Bill, dated this girl for 4 months or so and then she started acting weird. My husband and Bill were also very good friends with Josh, the three of them were always going out together, etc. The three of them were each others best friends. Anyway, this girl, Ashlee, was pretty nice, but one day Josh came up to Bill and said that - Ashlee has been cheating on you with me. I love her and we have been together for a month now. After this there was a fight, and now no one is friends with Josh or Ashlee. Bill was very hurt, he couldn't believe that his best friend could have done something like this, couldn't believe he was stabbed in the back by two people he trusted. I don’t know what to do or say if I see those two, and I know I will see them no doubt. How should I act towards them, next time I see them? What could we talk about to keep the waters calm, or should we talk at all? (link)
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I was dating another man when I met the man who is now my boyfriend (who was his best friend). No, there was no cheating involved because I broke things off with guy #1 before even even considering starting with guy #2. Obviously that is what should have happened in your friends' situation, along with Josh asking Bill if he minded. Since they handled it the way they did (i.e. wrong)they it puts friends like you in a uncomfortable position. I would avoid the couple for awhile while Bill gets himself together, and even then never invite all of them out in the same place. Of course if you don't want to be friends with them anymore, you certainly don't have to, but if you do make it clear to everyone that you refuse to take sides and refuse to gossip about the others.
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I've been married for a year. We're both 21 years old. My husband has thiss gross habbit if picking his nose, rolling his bugars up, and then flicking them somewhere into the house. I've nagged at him to put them in toilet paper and put them in the trash or flush them down the toilet. But he wont. I've turned a bit of a blind eye on it, but today has been the last straw.
When we were in bed, I saw him pick a really big, really gross bugar. I told him it was gross, got out of bed and told him to dispose of it. He didn't. I've tried talking to him, telling him it was gross. I've tried telling him that since he doesn't care about the house, then I wont either(I wont do dishes, etc). How do I get him to understand, and to stop putting them all over the house. (link)
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This is why children shouldn't get married.
Ok, I'm sorry for that, but you need to realize how immature this is. His behavior is completely unnacceptable and disrespectful to you and your home. If he refuses to chance when you talk to im calmly the get outside help or therapy for your marraige.
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I'm 21 years old and in a six month relationship with a boy I adore. The problem is the sex, it's fantastic, but there is suddenly way too much of it. It seems like all he wants to do, and he can last and last. It's just not the way I want to spend *all* of my time with him. (I also wanna sleep sometimes.)
I find myself avoiding him even when he is around just cause I don't want his hands on me every second...
Anyways, I feel really guilty about rejecting him but I'm just sick of sex! Anyone have any ideas how I can approach this without making him feel unsatasfied? (link)
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Why is it so hard for you to just tell him that you physically can't handle this much sex? You need to just cut back....if you word it right he'll take it as a compliment.
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I'm a twenty-one year old girl in love with a forty-seven year old man. We met at church, went back to my house on only the second time of meeting and had sex. After that he has been distant but kind. He says he feels afraid of his own disconnection. I don't know why, but I feel more for him than I have felt for anyone in a long time. I miss him when we're apart, even though we're not dating and I play it cool, determined not to crowd him or drive him off. But do bachelors that age remain bachelors? (link)
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He just isn't interested in you honey. It isn't worth thinking about any more then you already have.
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My boyfriend has just moved into a house he shares with a group of friends, including one girl he has a bit of a history with. I don't particularly get along with this girl because she still harbours feelings for my boyfriend. Till now things have been a bit akward between me and this girl, but there haven't been any real outbursts. A few days ago though, I visited this house and when I went upstairs this girl hid my shoes. This is obviously ridiculously petty and bitchy of her, but I don't know how I should deal with it. I'd confront her, but I assume she'd just deny it and I don't want to create a lot of tension in their house. Part of me thinks I should just take the moral highground and absolutely ignore it, but I feel akward going back there wondering if she's going to do something similar. I guess my question is, does it sound like it's worth confronting her and potentially creating a drama about, or should I just leave it be? (link)
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Are you kidding me? Your boyfriend moved in with a girl who he has history with? I don't even care what the circumstances are. Oh girl, prepare yourself. You are in for it.
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ok i asked this question earlier but i didnt see it posted. anyway i am a 25 year old married woman, i have 2 georgeous children. my problem is when i am at work i have access to a computer and for the last 6 months i have been talking to a really great guy. sometimes he calls me also, we talk about everything and he makes me feel really good. i feel like if i wouldnt of gotten married he is the man i would want to be with. to make things more complicated, i am falling in love with him. we have never meet, i want to but he knows i am married and only wants to be a friend, i did to at first, but my feelings are changing. i dont want to destroy my family life ever, but i know it is also not fair to my husband, me sitting there thinking about what if im supposed to be with this other guy. what should i do, follow my heart or do what society and everyone else would say is right.please help (link)
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Don't be ho. What you're doing is wrong. If you aren't happy with your husband, show him and you family enough respect to at least separate first before youo any further. Sound drastic? Especially if you don't know what is going to happen with the new guy? Oh yeah! It is! Get yourself together and stop giving all of us woman a bad name.
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I have been dating this man for almost 2 yrs. We met on the internet and he was just getting out of a bad divorce. We were dating for almost 3 months and he left me. He said its not me its him and he had some things to clear out of his head. I was broken hearted but I understood. 2 weeks later we got back together and 2 weeks later he left-still confused-i still understood. 3 months passed and i missed him so and we started talking again-we got back together. He sold his house and moved in with me and my 2 children. He has also has a son. Things were very good and in April he asked me to marry him-of course i accepted. Ii was planning the weeding for 2007 and he moved it up to 2006. I was ecstatic so i was planning our wedding. There were times when we argued and yes i take blame for some of them. The last argument we had was b/c of the internet and things i found him going on. Well he kept saying it wasnt him and he did not look that stuff up-cookies did it--whatever. Well things escalated from there and one day he said he cant do this any more its not me its him,he doesnt want to be engaged or get married or be with anyone and he left. I was never engaged before so of course i will be all excited. He was married for 10 yrs and yes its scary for him,but why did he leave? The week he left he got distant from me and i knew something was wrong but i didnt think he was going to leave for a 3rd time. He moved up to his parents like 10 minutes from my house. I still talk to him and off and on he comes over. I miss him so much and ask him to come home--but he says its not that easy it was hard to leave he cant just come back.I understand that kind of but if he loves me why is he not coming back? what does he need to think about? I miss him so much but he wont tell me he misses me unless i ask-or he wont tell me he loves me-sometimes he does when i say it other times he says "I know". I am so confused and i know i need to let him go and let him be but it is so hard. What do I do?He knows i want him to come home,he knows i love him,he klnows we can move as slow as we need to we dont need to rush,but yet he wont come back. What can I do? Please help.
thank you
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It's messy, but it's over. Cut off contact and start to heal.
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hi, i need some advice, i gave my now ex boyfriend a lend of some money& said he would pay me back , but hasnt yet/ i dont want to get his parents involed/ i need to know how to get the money back soon. (link)
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That is the stupidest thing I have ever heard. You don't deserve to get that money back. If it was significant then go to small claims court. I hope you learned your lesson darling, I really do.
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I consider myself to be an independant woman, but my bf disagrees.
Well I am 27 and have my own appartment that I rent. I don't have any student loan dept, or credit card dept. I pay my bills on time and have been living in the same appartment on my own without any help from family or roomates for the last 4 years.
I have a car that is paid for that I maintain in excellent condition. I just replaced the tires and always make sure it is serviced regularily.
I work part time at a store that is UNION. Before I got that job I had been collecting a small disabllity pension for having a mental illness. Everyone has said how well I have done for myself considering I have this condition. They (my family and friends) are all very happy for me that I got the job.
My bf, however, is being a total jerk. Well before I got the job, even though I was managing to live on my own and be responible on my disability pension would say the meanest things, like that I was living off the system and how broke I was.
Now that I have the job, he is saying things like "so I guess it's working out for you,", in a negative tone.
Well he has no right to do this to me. We arent living together and I NEVER ask him for any money. I could understand him being mad if we were living together and I wasnt working and spent all his money, but I live ON MY OWN and can look after myself. I think considering everything I've been through he should give me a little more credit.
Why do you think he is treating me like this?
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He is treating you like this because you let him. Simple as that.
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