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Confronting people about petty behaviour
My boyfriend has just moved into a house he shares with a group of friends, including one girl he has a bit of a history with. I don't particularly get along with this girl because she still harbours feelings for my boyfriend. Till now things have been a bit akward between me and this girl, but there haven't been any real outbursts. A few days ago though, I visited this house and when I went upstairs this girl hid my shoes. This is obviously ridiculously petty and bitchy of her, but I don't know how I should deal with it. I'd confront her, but I assume she'd just deny it and I don't want to create a lot of tension in their house. Part of me thinks I should just take the moral highground and absolutely ignore it, but I feel akward going back there wondering if she's going to do something similar. I guess my question is, does it sound like it's worth confronting her and potentially creating a drama about, or should I just leave it be?
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Are you kidding me? Your boyfriend moved in with a girl who he has history with? I don't even care what the circumstances are. Oh girl, prepare yourself. You are in for it.
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your right it does sound petty, and you have every right to want to bitch slap her, but on the other and less violent hand, have you ever heard the saying kill em with kindness. strangely it really works. shell get bored with no response and realise you arnt even there the see her or react to her childish ways, you are there to see your man. and if he sees you retailating to childish behavior he may want to see less of you in that house, so just enjoy your mans company, and ignore her
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I recommend a firm kick to the throat. This will definitely do either of two things.
1. Severely hurt the person
2. Get you your shoes back
Try it and tell me how it goes.
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well you should tell her can you not do that again and if she says she didnt do anything maybe watch her very close or take all your stuff where ever you go
hope i helped
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I'd say to leave it be for now.
If you go to the house next time watch your things, hiding your shoes is stupid but she could get worse and steal your cell phone out of your purse or something on that order. Hiding your shoes is just plain childish and if she wants to do it let her but if it gets worse I suggest you tell your boy friend about it in private. Just say that you're having some trouble with this girl and what she is doing. If he's and understanding boy friend he'll talk to her about it.
I think confronting the girl could be the worst thing possible. Thats asking for a fight (since it seems this girl is begging for it) and she'd probably play miss innocent and that could start a lot of fighting between you and your boy friend. Don't risk it. Just be as nice and friendly as you possibly can with out being nice to the point of rudeness.
Good luck with everything and I hope this girl learns to grow up soon.
AG
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