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Sex is ruining my relationship?
I'm 21 years old and in a six month relationship with a boy I adore. The problem is the sex, it's fantastic, but there is suddenly way too much of it. It seems like all he wants to do, and he can last and last. It's just not the way I want to spend *all* of my time with him. (I also wanna sleep sometimes.)
I find myself avoiding him even when he is around just cause I don't want his hands on me every second...
Anyways, I feel really guilty about rejecting him but I'm just sick of sex! Anyone have any ideas how I can approach this without making him feel unsatasfied?
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Why is it so hard for you to just tell him that you physically can't handle this much sex? You need to just cut back....if you word it right he'll take it as a compliment.
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ok if this goes on without being talked about..yes it will end up ruining the relationship..i think you have some options here:
-you talk to him..tell him how your feeling but make sure you let him know that YES he turns you on and YES the sex is fantastic..but you want to enjoy ALL aspects of a relationship with him..not just the intimate parts.
some comprimises that could be made is to:
-stick to some forplay and skip the sex for a night..
*instead enjoy a dinner out, movie, (rent one or go out) take a romantic drive, go to the park, go sightseeing, play tennis together, etc etc*
have sex when it isnt late at night..this way you can sleep AND you can have some intimate fun.
try for the morning , or an afternoon if your free
i hope i helped..remember dont let this go on without talking about it or eventually the relationship will become damaged..not the same..etc
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understand that your in a RELATIONSHIP.this mean that you both should get what you want. you cant let him have you however he wants and you have no say.you have to be honest.thats the key to all relationships.be true to him and you'll be true to your self.if you dont want to do it all the time just say"i really would like to be with you and not be with you only in bed"
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Like the person before me, just be honest. Tell him, "Hey, can we slow things down a bit??" If he truly cares about you, he'll understand. But try not to be mean about it, say it in a way that'll help his poor male ego. Be like, "You're wonderful in bed, but you're wearing me out. Let's slow down a bit, okay? A girl needs to sleep once in a while." Say it in a joking manner and hopefully he'll get the hint. :)
Good luck.
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Tell him you want to cut down on the sexual activity for a little while. The honester you are, the more he will respect you. Also, some guys think its "sexy or hott" when a girl plays hard to get.
xO' alison
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