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I'm 19, just graduated from high school. I have a boyfriend, his name is Josh, and I love him. I am pretty good at giving advice. I'm just not ever any good at taking my own advice. haha Always have been. I can help everyone else except for myself.

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I'll try and condense this. There's been this guy who I've been chatting to online for years (nearly 3) and we are really, really close and truly do love each other. We are planning to meet soon as well.

But here's my dilemma. He was going on today about some girl who he is really worried about because a guy has been pestering her. He was asking me what to do about it and kept going on about how he thought the guy was objectifying her and she deserved someone great. I finally asked him whether he liked her and he confessed he does have a bit of a thing for her. This is not the first time this has happened either - 6 months ago he liked another girl and it started lots of problems for us. Then he thought he was just confused and it wasn't really a crush at all.

I can't help but think that he would drop me in a heartbeat if a girl liked him back in real life. The other girl he liked told him she didn't like him, and this one doesn't seem to either. I feel somehow I'm just there as a backup. Do you guys think I'm being paranoid? I know we aren't together and I'm really not usually so defensive - I encourage him to have female friends! But I feel really torn up inside over the fact that he likes this girl when he tells me every night that he loves ME. I understand that guys are always going to be attracted to girls even with they are with someone else, but it's really depressing me and I don't know what to do. Should I say something to him? Am I justified in feeling this way? Is it alright for him to do this?

Thanks a lot for your help.

You aren't really justified in saying anything to him in the first place. You aren't dating, right? And you've never met him, and the only conversations ya'll have are through the internet and maybe the phone. That's not really a relationship... if he wants to like someone else, that's his choice. True he could love you... but love comes in many shapes and forms... You just have to go with it.

Don't get mad at him just because he likes someone. If you really care about him, you'll let him live his life.

Good luck.

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My friend asked this guy what he thought aboout me, and he wouldn't answer her, he just tried to get away from her.

Does this mean he doesn't like me?

It sounds like the guy was put into an awkward situation and didn't exactly know what to do about it.

He could either A) Like you and it embarrassed him for someone to ask him about you... or B) He doesn't like you and was just trying to get out of the question so he didn't have to hurt your feelings.

More than likely it's A though... if he didn't like you, chances are he would have said something like, "Well she's a cool girl... she makes a great friend" or something like that. It just really depends on the guy.

good luck.

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Hi

I have a question about guys who wink.
When a guy winks at you, does it mean he likes you as more than a friend.?

The reason I ask is because I got winked at by a guy and then I later found out he is married.

I've also been winked at in different ways. Some guys wink really fast and smile in front of others, and other guys wink at me really slow when no one else is looking.

I've been winked at since I was about 13 and now I"m 27. I'm really curious what it means.

sincerely
buzzie

.... Winking is winking... that's all it is. lol I wink at my best friend and my brother but that doesn't mean anything.

don't worry so much about it.

And chances are the 40 year old is not a pervert. lol

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Ok, so this guy that I am in love with and yes I am positive it is love, well he is being a total jerk about it. He doesn't want to open up and share emotions, he never wants to be around me anymore, he has girls as friends, but tries to like hint that they are more... I'm not sure what he problem is, he has said "I love you too" or "I love you" to me before but lately we have been bickering because of stress on both parts and its just dramatic and we both hate it... I try to tell him how I feel, but he thinks that its stupid infatuation and virgin attachment (he was my first). I think else wise because of the way I am... its hard to express in words how it is. He makes me heart flutter fast but slow, Im thinking nonstop about him, I've stuck up for him with friends and family... Ive battled my best friend over him and now no longer am talking to her. Im starting to think he is not worth it, but I cant fight the feeling of how much I care for him. It keeps bringing me back to him. What should I do?? Just forget him and move on? Crack down and be a hardbutt and make him open up? Oh and forgot to mention, he is moving on Saturday, 3 1/2 hours away... my mother knows this and says its a challenge but one we can tackle if I love him.. so she is with me on this. Frankly my whole family is, they adore him. I'll rate high!!! I'm desperate for help and please I want some help from people with at least some expierence in this..

This guy... he sounds like a jerk... and it sounds like he's trying to get rid of you, in little ways... by making you mad and stuff like that. And virgin attachment? What a dick. I'm sorry, but geez. I'd say drop him. Let him hurt for a little bit. Because trust me, it will... he'll realize what an idiot was. And if he really loves you... he'll come back to you.

good luck.

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This guy at school called me a b**** and I was with my friend who happens to be a guy and he fought him but the principle came and they both got suspended. When they were allowed back in school today I told my friend he didn't have to do that, but he said he did it for me and could'nt stand what that guy did to me, then after school he asked me out and told me that he's always like me, I didn't answer him I just said I had to go and kind of ran off. He's a really good friend and I don't want to rruin our friendship, but I think I may like him. I mean we go places and hang out and stuff but I have never considered us more than friends.
PLEASE HELP ! I rate 5's

Hmm... it's rather sweet what he did... Most guys wouldn't do that.

What you need to do, is seriously think about whether or not you like him as more than friends... because right now, keeping him waiting, is just hurting him... Can you see yourself going out with him?? If you can't, chances are... then no, y'all shouldn't date... but if you can, take the chance. If y'all are as good of friends as you say you are, then chances are, if y'all break up, y'all can regain that friendship back.

good luck.

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short back story, im in love with a friend. im 19m she is 18f

she talking to me, asking me on advice on whether or not she should break up with her boyfriend because she has feelings for another guy. what am i supposed to tell her? im generarly pretty good at giving advice in these sorts of situations but im worried anything that comes out of my mouth, or rather keyboard, will be serving my best intrest and not hers, and im not even sure how to do that. i just told her to see how things work out with her current bf and not to rush anything. any better advice i could give her?

Just ask her... "Who do you like more?" And tell her to really think about it... who makes her happier...

She'll get the answer she needs soon enough.

good luck.

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I met this girl Stacy on an online RPG, and we were good friends, then we realized that we loved each other, and things were really great. Don't tell me it was teenage infatuation. I know love when I feel it! So anyway my parents won't let me on it anymore. Crap, I gotta go, so I'll hurry. Basically, I miss her, she misses me, we have no way of communicating, and I've got another girlfriend but I still miss her soooooo much. Thanks all! (smartasses get 1s)

I'm not trying to be rude or mean... or whatnot...

But you have a girlfriend now, right??? Why not stick it out with her? Someone you can actually touch and talk to... but if you really want to go to your internet girlfriend, use the computers are your school or go to the library. you can get on for free. Send her e-mails or something.

Ooh... and be sure you break up with one of these girls. Having two girlfriends is never cool. And neither one of them will think it is either.

Good luck.

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im a 16/f and i went on a tubing trip with my team this past weekend and i hung out with this really nice guy. we were together the whole time. we were constantly all over eachother and he held my hand and talked with me the whole time. well people who saw this misinterperted the situation and now everyone thinks i like him. well no ones paying any attention to what he does cause he has a gf...which i didnt know when we were together. he is a really sweet guy and he was so easy to talk to. the thing is that im starting to like him. i see him everyday at practice and he always grabs my waist and gives me small hugs. my best friend keeps telling me that there is no way that he doesnt have feelings for me since he held my hand the whole time and he kept asking me to get on his tube with him. is there anything i can do in this situation to get people off my back and is there any way that he likes me? (even if he has a g/f)

It sounds like maybe this guy is a player... He has a g/f yet he's all over you??? That's just not right. Your best bet is just not get involved with him. If he does it to his now g/f... what's going to stop him from doing it to you if y'all do get together??

And for those people who won't leave you alone, just flat out tell him he's not your boyfriend. That he has a g/f and that you two are just friends... and if they still won't leave you alone then just ignore them. They'll stop.

good luck.

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theres this boy and he liked me last year and asked me out.i told him i was taken but i would still like to talk to him.i broke up with my boyfriend over the summer and he knew about it.then he agian asked to go with me.i told him that i see him more s a friend.now is the new school year and my friend Diane thinks this boy is kinda ugly.i dint think he's ugly and neither do my friend Brittany.now i kinda like him and he's is still trying to go with me.even though looks arent important to me at all i dont want my friend Diane saying shit about him or me. should i just forget her and go for it or do you think a friends opinion is important

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To answer your question... it is a little weird, but don't worry so much about what other people think... if you like this guy and he likes you, go for it. Trust me.. you could regret it later on.



You're the one that's going to be going out with him. Not her.

Her opinion shouldn't matter.

If you like him, go for it. If she doesn't like it, or talks junk about the two of you then she's not a real friend and you need to let her know that right away.

good luck
xoxo

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I am a freshmen male in high school. No one really liked me at my former middle school. Now since I have made new friends in hi school I have figured out that girls really like me. I really don't want all this attention. I feel really overwelhmed by how many girls that like me. I am not even sure if I really like any of them but, there are a few that I might consider dating. How do I narrow the list down, do I even narrow it down, what do I tell the ones that I don't ask out, how do I know I really like someone? I am so confused, please help me.

Well... pick the one that seems most interesting and get to know her... if you like her, go out with her. If not, move on to someone else. Girls get crushes, but they fade quickly, trust me. Just go with it.

xoxo

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I'm 21 years old and in a six month relationship with a boy I adore. The problem is the sex, it's fantastic, but there is suddenly way too much of it. It seems like all he wants to do, and he can last and last. It's just not the way I want to spend *all* of my time with him. (I also wanna sleep sometimes.)
I find myself avoiding him even when he is around just cause I don't want his hands on me every second...
Anyways, I feel really guilty about rejecting him but I'm just sick of sex! Anyone have any ideas how I can approach this without making him feel unsatasfied?

Like the person before me, just be honest. Tell him, "Hey, can we slow things down a bit??" If he truly cares about you, he'll understand. But try not to be mean about it, say it in a way that'll help his poor male ego. Be like, "You're wonderful in bed, but you're wearing me out. Let's slow down a bit, okay? A girl needs to sleep once in a while." Say it in a joking manner and hopefully he'll get the hint. :)

Good luck.

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Ok... for neone who has a clue out there-

if a guy plays with your hair, WHAT does it mean?

Some guys just like to play with hair... it's not that big of a deal... haha

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Ok, so I was like in love with this boy last year and I played a harmless prank on him and he totally stopped talking to me. This year he has not said one word to me and he is my chemistry class. It's 2 weeks into the year and he hasn't said a thing. He's on football and I'm in cheer, so we see each other a million times a day. I really want him to talk to me and he just won't. Instead, I'm starting to believe he's trying to like telepathically talk to me or something because he will not stop staring at me. In the morning, he full on stares at me and does not even care if I notice. Sometimes in chemistry, he'll stare at me and I'll look at him and he'll look away, vice versa. These staring games are pretty silly. Other times at lunch, he'll stare and I'll ask my friends to block his view and he'll actually move to get a better look at me. I thought maybe he was staring at some other girl but all of my friends say hes lookin right at me. At football, when the cheerleaders run around the track, he gets so distracted by me that his coach tells him to pay attention. Why won't he just talk to me? He doesn't respond to my emails or nothing. He apparently just enjoys staring. What the heck does this mean?! I really need help. I feel like a celebrity getting stalked by the paparazzi and want to know why he is doing this! Help please!!

Hmm... this is a tough one. I don't necessarily think he's doing it because he likes you... I think he's trying to figure something out... like whether or not to talk to you again... or maybe he's trying to figure out a way to get you back for the prank you played. If he liked you, he'd respond back to the e-mails you were sending him and such. Next time he stares at you just ask him what's up. You can be the first one to talk ya know... just say hey or smile or something. Be friendly about it. Good luck.

xoxo

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PLease some one answer this question! ok so theres this boy i saw the other day i had not seen him for 6 months because we had an argument. We went out before the argument but then we kinda broke up. Well after seeing him the other day i realised i still have feelings for him the thing is im not sure if he does for me? he said my friend told him i was beautiful and he agrees. He seemed to be interested in who im going out with, what ive been doing since not seeing him. It just seemed strange because he never hugged me, kissed me or anything he just smiled at me. The thing is what do i do now!! Shall i wait for a text? wait for him 2 phone me? he tried to break me up with my bf.when i was 16 im now 17

It seems like this guy is curious about whether or not you've gotten over him. And maybe he still has feelings for you. That's what you need to ask him. Maybe you should call him up and tell him it was good seeing him again and that y'all should hang out sometme. Let him know you're still interested without going overboard. Know what I mean??? It definitely sounds like he could very well be interested in getting back together with you.

xoxo

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I had an boyfriend in 6th grade but he left for Canada. But before he left (like 2 months before) We has a huge physical fight. I talk to him like 3 times a week on MSN and i totaly forgive him. I love hime and he loves me and i'm planning to move to where he is. But the problem is, his absece has made me depressed, i love him so much!! And my school grades have dropped significantly.. is there any way to cure that missing ingredient??

So... you two had a physical fight, meaning he hit you? Chances are... you need to forget about him. He hit you, what's to say he won't hit you again... and besides you're in the 6th grade... you'll find someone new, trust me. Just wait it out... in a couple of years if you still feel the same way about him, then go for it. But for now, just see what else is out there. It'll definitely make you feel better. Good luck.

xoxo

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My husbands’ best friend, Bill, dated this girl for 4 months or so and then she started acting weird. My husband and Bill were also very good friends with Josh, the three of them were always going out together, etc. The three of them were each others best friends. Anyway, this girl, Ashlee, was pretty nice, but one day Josh came up to Bill and said that - Ashlee has been cheating on you with me. I love her and we have been together for a month now. After this there was a fight, and now no one is friends with Josh or Ashlee. Bill was very hurt, he couldn't believe that his best friend could have done something like this, couldn't believe he was stabbed in the back by two people he trusted. I don’t know what to do or say if I see those two, and I know I will see them no doubt. How should I act towards them, next time I see them? What could we talk about to keep the waters calm, or should we talk at all?

Well... are you mad at them??? They didn't necessarily do anything to you, so yea, at least be civil to them. You can ask them how they've been, talk about your life... and such... just don't mention Bill.. haha Good luck.

xoxo

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is it possible to get pregenant even though ur hymen isn't destroy can sperm still swim an reacj the eggcell?

does it bleeds when the penis enter gently into a intact hymen?

Yes you can still get pregnant if your hymen is still intact. Sometimes during sex the hymen doesn't break... but most of the time it does... and yes it will bleed... It won't necessarily bleed a whole lot (depends on the person)... but if the guy goes slow about it, you probably won't feel much pain. :) good luck

xoxo

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My vet keeps sending me postcards wanting me to bring in my cat to get her yearly exam and shots. Is this really necessary? When I was a kid, we never brought our cats to the vet. We live in an apartment, so my cat never goes outside or is exposed to other animals. So I don't see a purpose for these vaccines. She was just at the vet 2 months ago for an eye infection, so they know she is in good health. Is it really that necessary that I bring her?

Yes it's necessary. It keeps your pet safe... If she got an eye infection, just from being inside, then she can get other stuff as well. There are all types of parasites living in the air... trust me... it's best to have your pet get it's shots..

xoxo

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ok heres the situation..my parents said i can only get a cat if i can find a place for the litter box so my puppy wont get into it when nobodys home. i cant think of anyplace to put it, any suggestions?

The bathroom??? or your bedroom?? keep the door closed... or cracked...

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i'm getting a dog next week that is a black lab border collie mix and i'm not sure what they look like. i tried googling pictures and got pictures all labelled as "black border collie". so i'm not sure if thats close to what my dog will look like or not, so if anyone could find pictures of a true black lab, border collie mix, that'd be great. thanks!

Could look something like this

http://www.frrproducts.com/returns/a310540.jpg

http://www.examiner.net/images/021605/7786_512.jpg

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