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Q: okay so i always tell my best-friend everything. I told her that i liked my ex-boyfriend keenan still. But all 3 of us are in 2nd hour together. I asked keenan if he liked my best-friend and he said yes he made me cry. I tell my bestfriend not to flirt with him in-front of me. And she says its not my business to tell her/him not to flirt with other gurls. He does have a girlfriend and his girlfriend says he cant talk to me because she doesn't like me. Well everytime i tell my best-friend who i like she always goes and flirts with them, and then she gets them to like her. She has a flirting problem and i just want her to stop because i still really like him... the weird thing is is that he knows that i still like him and he likes me but he likes my best-friend also.. does anyone have any advice on how i can get them to stop flirting i talked to keenan and he just said fine i wont talk to her if you think talking to her is flirting. And my best-friend just wont listen. So is there any way i can him to hate her or something or flirt less. Please!

Your best friend is being really immature to you, which is why you should stop telling her who you like from now on. I know you need someone to talk to about it, but you'll have to confide in a friend who won't try to go after a guy you like. Your friend doesn't have just a flirting problem, she knows exactly what shes doing to you. About Keenan, if his girlfriend doesn't want him talking to you, then don't talk to him first, if he is ok with having a overprotecting controlling girlfriend, then let him be. Your friend is really rude for doing what she is doing, and the next time she tries to tell you how it's not your place to tell who not to flirt with who, you just say, "I'm not telling who should flirt with who, I thought I could trust you enough to tell you that I liked someone, but here you are going after the guy I like when you know I like him." You can't get people to stop flirting, Keenan sounds like a guy that needs to make a decision, and you should just leave him without you as a choice, because this is a big mess, leave your friend and him, and his girlfriend clean it up. Truly, they don't sound worth talking to, none of them do. I suggest that you get yourself out of it so that you can get on with your life and find some new guys, your friend is just going to have to live without your secrets.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: i am already getting discharge for 5 months and i want to know when my first period will start

Well, you don't know exactly when your period will start, nobody has no idea. And it doesn't matter how long you've had discharge, thats not much of a sign telling you your period will start soon. But, trust me, you'll want to just be patient and wait for it to come, because periods are a pain. It's gross, it smells, it's not something you'll be excited for after a while you've had it, but everyone is excited when they first have it because you're becoming a woman. Just keep waiting and it will come when you're well developed for it.

Ask me if you have anymore questions.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: Have you ever thought that you had a true best friend??? And then one day you guys are both hanging out and she/he sees there other friends and then diss you???? Dont you think thats really FUCKED UP???? Well that happened to my other friend and she got really mad. {her and another girl were hanging out and then others came and she left}

Everyone goes through good and bad friends. You just have to do your best at learning who they really are by looking at their actions in life and how they react to things. Like, for example, if you had a friend who always gets into fights, don't be their friend. Why? Because then it's putting you into a corner, if it turns out that you don't want to be this person's friend, what do you think will happen? They will fight you first. If you see that a friend you've made is ditching other friends, don't plan on being a close friend of theirs, because you'll be one of those friends getting ditched later on. What your friend needs to do is just to tell her friend that she doesn't want to be left out again the next time her friend wants to hang out. I'm not sure exactly what you're asking, but except if I think that it's messed up that a friend would ditch you, and yes, it's wrong, but again, you have to learn from that and it helps you watch out for anymore new friends.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: I'm really confused about a lot of things. I think that I may be bisexual, but I'm not really sure how to tell. I wonder if telling myself I am is what's making me that way. I've never done anything with someone of the same sex, but I've talked to people about bisexuality and I think about it a lot. How do you know you're bisexual? I know it's probably different for different people, and please don't say "you just know". Thanks in advance, any serious answers will be helpful.

You're most likely confusing yourself with being bisexual and being curious about bisexuallity. Likely, you're very curious with it. Every girl is curious about having sexual contact with someone of the same sex, but it doesn't mean that they want it. But, I can't actually tell you how you know when you're bisexual, all I know is that you should not ever try to define yourself when you're only about 15 or 16. That is a teen phase where you're putting your finger on who you are, and you need to just live your life, and you'll find it easier to discover yourself later on when you mature and are an adult.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: So my friends which are like a group of 10-15 people all hate this one girl. This girl keeps talking about all of my friends and my friends fight back by making fun of her. I know its not right but thats wut i do to.We've been teasing her about everything like her bushy hair, her possey of 2 people compared to ours, her outfit, and pretty much wut every girl finds offensive.Shes also been making fun of us too(not like we care but still)shes been pissing us off. So then one day she started crying and started cussing at us and screaming about being all mean.Now of course we're being all soft to her and saying hi. But she's stilil talking behind our backs. So my question is wut do we do?? And "tattling" is not our style. I rate high for good but not cheesy answers.

I don't really care what your style is. I'm not saying that you need to tattle, but if making fun of people back just because they say things about you is your style, then you and your friends are immature childish people. No matter what you do, you will never be able to go through your life without being talked about or critisized. Thats just the way it goes. But do you think that you can spend your whole life defending yourself? Heck no. That is what you're doing right now, defending yourself over and over and then making fun of the person as if they will eventually quit. Have you ever thought of simply saying, "well, you know what, she called me a slut, but I know that I am not a slut, so I'm going to ignore her comments because I have a life to live of my own that doesn't include her."? You should try it, because then she will stop because she'll notice that none of you are listening to her, so she'll make fun of other people.

Oh and let me see, you said this, "Shes also been making fun of us too(not like we care but still)" YES YOU DO CARE! If you didn't care, you wouldn't be coming back at her and making fun of her back! So don't act like you and your 'posse' don't care, because it is obvious that you do. My advice is to do the mature thing and set the example of ignoring the girl, and if that just isn't your style, good luck with you and your life, because you'll be defending people all of your life just because they say something about you.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: I'm in a group of friends...like 4 of us but now theres 5...appearently one of the guys wanted to hang out with us. He liked me but I told him that we're just friends so we're cool and everything but then he asked out one of my friends because he "needed" a person in his life. I don't have a problem with that either until now I don't get to see my friend as often and I swear he's taking her away from because according to him his list of people hating him is growing by the day...What can I do?

Second my friend that is dating him is totally different now..I swear she's being like me. I'm a more dramatic person and I would sqeel a lot if something bothered me...well she's been like that lately and I'm not comfortable with it..How do I deal?

This whole situlation is just making me mad and I dont know what to do...I feel like ever since my friend has been dating her bf no one is the group really cares for me anymore. Thanks for your help.

The only way you can get an idea of what's going on is to ask her and talk to her about this. Tell her that you don't mean to offend her, but you feel like this guy is hogging her to get to you and that you really miss her. Besides, let me tell you that this little thing between your friend and him may not last for so long because he said that he just needs someone in his life, he didn't actually say that he wanted to be with her. Honestly, I'd probably leave it alone until she notices what hes really doing to her. Try to have a girls night out with her and invite her to stay over for you and her only and just tell her that you miss her very much. I don't think it will work out if you start telling her that shes not with you enough and that hes hogging her, because lets face it, any girl will get upset if their friend talks about their boyfriend hogging them or any of that. Your friend will get it soon, don't worry too much, and just keep trying and stay strong.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: my ex and i havent been together for a year now, but he poured out his feelings for me 5 mos. after they were together. Now last night we got on the subject of belongings from our past. (pictures, gifts, etc.) he told me he got rid of mine 5 mos. ago. I finally confessed and told him that i still have all his things in a container in the basement. He said,
"u lied then". I told him he would have done the same if i had a new boyfriend. He said "no".
I then told him it still hurts when i read his notes, and that it digs up feelings that i had put away. He said, "youre feelings are already gone so it doesnt matter".
i told him that my feelings havent gone anywhere! He said,"y do you lie?" (since the breakup, because of the fact he took on a new girlfriend 1 week later, and still has 1, ive NEVER told him that i still have feelings for him)

Ok, thats not the problem. now at achool today we are picking senior hall of fame nominations, and 1 of the categories is, "biggest Liar" and my boyfriend told people that i am. (because i told him that i threw all his things out) and his gf called me up at work tonight telling me to stay away from her bf and to quit talking to him. She says he doesnt want to talk to me, but, we talked until 12:45am, not 20 mins like he told her. she wanted me to send her deadaim so she could see what we were talking about, and i told her NO!
Why didnt he tell her that i still have feelings for him, and why did he say that i bitched at him for throwing my stuff away.(when i didnt, i just asked him)

Listen, your ex boyfriend sounds like a big jerk. And whether that be the case or not, you should leave him alone even though you still like him. The whole time he calls you a liar, so why bother with him? And you also need to leave him alone because he has a new girlfriend,and shes upset. Wouldn't you be if this had been happening the other way around? You wouldn't want your boyfriend talking to a girl until midnight. If your ex doesn't believe you, fine, he doesn't, move on with it. You have a life to live and it shouldn't include him anymore. Hes lying to his own girlfriend, and what do you mean why didn't he tell her you still like him? What would that change? Absolutely nothing, if he told her, she'd be upset, and it sounds like to me she already knows about your feelings for him if you talk to him late. My advise is to leave them alone. It doesn't matter, you told him you still liked him, so move on now, he knows now.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: ok my bf just dumped me but he still flirts with me in class. he tells all his friends he likes me but he wont tell me that he likes me. today i even herd him talking to the other guys saying how i have a nice ass and every thing. do u think i should care about it. plz help.

He probably likes you, but it's not in a very good way. He comments on your body and not you as a person, so I think you should ignore it, and try not to care even if you really do. I think you just need to move on, he dumped you, so you should reject him back.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: My EX boyfriend flirts with me. I Think becuase he walks me to my bus (which is odd) and he talks to me more now. We play fight and stuff. And I still like him ALOT. I Dont know what to do or say to him. Please dont say "Talk To Him About it" Thanks Smarts Will Be Reported!

Well, I wouldn't have told you to talk to him in the first place, but the only thing left is to go with the flow. You like him, he likes you, you'll have to wait until he makes the next move. If he play fights with you, do it back. You don't have to say certain things, say what you would normally respond to flirting and play fighting.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: Ok this could be long! I am in 8th grade and last year there was a kid in my class. EvEryone made fun of him and he was bipolar and had some mental problems. Well, yesterday 11/3. He attempted suicude for the second time. He jumped from the bak of a moving school bus and he is now in acoma. He broke his arm and probably his bak and neck too. He isn't dead though. ThEre was BLooD everywhere. The first time he tried to stab himself with scissors. I feel really bad because I was one to make fun of him. How can i make myself not feel so bad? ALl my freinds say im different since but im really scared for the kid. He seems like he could be nice. Plese help will rate. _-HeArtbreaker-__

I know you probably feel really bad. But I guess you know now that people with problems and are made fun of have feelings too. Now you see that this person is suffering because of everything that is being done to him. I don't think you should suffer for making fun of him, but I do think the way you've written this question seems a little self involved here. You want to know how you can make yourself feel better about making fun of a kid who is suicidal. Why? You just want to get the guilt off of your shoulder and move on with your life? Or because you've learned that making fun of people does a lot more than you think, and now you know? Whatever the reason may be, I hope you did learn that making fun of people does more than you think. I think that from now on, you need to know that, there isn't much you can do but forgive yourself and learned from your mistake.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: ok ive been having a major problem for the past month or so over these two guys. i have been with one of them for 2 years and we broke up the week school started. i just recently met the other guy like 2 months ago. i still love the guy i dated for 2 years but i also like the one i just recently met. they both found out that i like them. it has caused some problems. i really dont know what to do. i dont want to lose either one of them and i definately dont want to make a decision now. i really dont know what to do.

If you want at least one boyfriend for sure, then you will have to make a decision. Base your decision on the guy that gives you the most time. If you just don't want to deal with the decision, then tell them you aren't making any decisions at the moment because you need time to yourself. So, that way they'll leave you alone for a while, take that time for yourself, and go from there.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: Sorry it's sooo long but I really need help

ok I got a 65 on my social studies test last friday. I got it back on monday to get signed. Well it was Halloween on monday so I forgot to get it signed that night. The next morning before I went to school I told my mom about it. My mom told my dad and my dad totally flipped out on me. He told me that I couldn't go on any of the computers in my house cause I go on and talk to people a lot.(I'm grounded pretty much but I still go on.)I told him that half my class did bad and other classes and people had lower grades than me. So a day or two after my sis comes home with a 68 3 points higher than mine in bio.(almost all of her class did bad she says) My dad doesnt even yell at her. Yet my sister doesnt get in trouble and she is always doing her homework with the tv on which I'm not allowd to do. She also does homework with her ipod mini on. I flipped out on my mom the other night when she was sick because she told me that I shouldnt be IMing people. Mys sister is always making fun of me and telling me I should do this or that better(I'm the youngest) The other day my sister comes in the room while I'm doing homework and starts going through my candy for halloween and asking me if she can have like everything that she can eat. I told her go eat your own candy and she says I barely got any candy and I couldnt eat half of it(shes allergic to nuts) and I told her well thats not my fault. My parents are always making me do chores and not her. They are always buying her candy and crap. They always play favorites and I'm not gonna take any of this shit anymore. My annoying bratty nosey sister and my yelling parents I can't take it. I just want to run away I want my sister to get out of my life but we have to share a fucking room.
What can I do about my parents playing favorites?
I want to tell my dad that its not fair but he hates that. What can I do? Please help!!!!!

f/13

I'm not saying that I don't believe you, but I want you to actually think about if what you're describing is really what's happening. Is this playing favorites really going on? Or do you think that it's going on? Do you ever think you're blowing this out of proportion? Take time to think about that. If you are very sure that this is happening, then you have to talk to one of your parents about this. Don't tell your parents something isn't fair, tell them you feel hurt when your sister isn't grounded for recieving a D on her test, yet you are punished when you have one. Or better yet, ask them why. Say, "Mom/dad, why did I get grounded for having a bad grade on my test, and sis didn't when she came home with a bad grade?" Your best solution is being calm when you talk to them, yelling and screaming how they are unfair makes you look like you're overeacting and they won't even care to listen. Turn your anger into calm words to them so that they can actually have a fair and respectful response to you.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: this has two questions in it s0o0o it might be a lil long....so0o0o i have this boyfriend(2weeks) and i like him a lot but i dont know if he likes me. im in 9th grade and he is in 10th....but he doesnt talk to me all he does is kiss me and hold me ....no talk...just touch...s0o0o0o i dont know what to do ..do you think he is just going out with me for the ass or do you think he likes me?(question one)

ok here is the next question....i dated my ex boyfriend for 7 months and 5 days and i know he still like me and i still like him like kinda a lot(please no comments on the whoreishness of that PLEASE) and my boyfriend and him HATE eachother LIKE WOAH!!! but today in the computetr lab we were flirting like we ALWAYS do and we ended up holding hands and when we are on the phone we always say we love eachother and still flirt.....and he calls me his undercover lover...and he says im cheating on my boyfriend with him...s0o0o0o my question is what do i do....???? IM SO00O0O0O0O0O0O0 confuzzled!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i will rate fives for good answers NO SMART ASS ANSWERS

~confuzzled and torn~

Your ex-boyfriend is right. You are cheating on your boyfriend. So you need to make a decision, and it sounds like you need to go back to your old boyfriend, because you do not want something really bad to happen like a fist fight between him and your ex, and your boyfriend to end up finding out instead of you telling him it's over. I know this answer seems short, but you should break up with your current boyfriend.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: Okay, as childish as this might sound, I needed to ask it anyways. I'm 15 female, and this other girl named; Rachael is 14. Rachael rides my bus & she was my first friend at school. I just recently moved here, she was/still is a loner too! After about a month she really started to annoy me, & I guess you could say I really don't like her AT ALL. But, she still follows me around, talks to me, etc. I'm not mean to her though - Seen as; I'm nothing like that. I'm seriously one of the nicest people alive. I really don't like to yell at people but if it becomes necessary, then I do. Today on the bus she took my purse because stupid me left it in the seat while I went back to my locker to get a book. When I got back she said, "I threw your purse out the window! Your love took the purse I don't have it!" Which really pissed me off. I asked her nicely for about 5 minutes, then I just lost it and totally flipped out, I really wanted my purse back & I knew she had it. She gave it back 10 mins after that and I ignored her the rest of the way home. When she asked if I was mad at her I said no, because I think it might seem childish if I were to say yes because she stole my purse & I defintiely didn't want to be the immature one in the situation. I was wondering, if I did right? Did it seem childish of me not to talk to her, or do you think that I did right? Thanks!!

Sorry this is so long, but I really needed to know.

I think no matter what you would have done was right, because anyone would get mad if someone always seemed to disrepect them and then took their purse. Those types of friends really can be annouying, but I do really like the fact that you didn't the mature thing, you did something so many girls your age wouldn't do. Thats what really makes a person mature, when they take in the fact that this friend is younger, and even though they can be annouying, they aren't trying to be. You really did handle this the mature way, but either way, it would have been ok.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: ok i have alot of guy friends,...but a little less girl ones,...anyway, i'm kind of violent...like if someone does something to me i'll beat the crap out of them and today i was with my guy friend's girlfriend((also my friend)) and he was like "YOU BETTER NOT BE MESSIN WITH MY GIRLFRIEND!" and i just gave him a strange look and then he goes "please dont hurt me" like he was a helpless dog,...how can i like not be so mean and violent?

You need to think about what you're doing when you beat people up. Are you resolving the issue between you and this person? Heck no. You're bullying them because of something they probably said about you or to you. Are you aware of how bad it makes a person looks when they fight people over something somebody said? That is why you don't have very many girlfriends, they are afraid of you, they don't want to risk having a disagreement with you and getting beaten and threatened over it. The only people that are friends with you are friends that aren't scared of you......boys. Now you know the truth, you are violent and a bully. If somebody says something about you or to you, don't go and pick a fight with them. Insult them back or something else and move on from that person. Use your head rather than your hands to fight, because I'm telling you that if you keep this as a method of solving problems, you'll be defending yourself all of your life. The best you can do is worry about making friends rather worrying about the enemies, and worrying about who you are mad at. Tons of people will be mean to you in your life, but do you think you can keep this up? Probably not. You do not know how bad it is to beat people up. You need to start just making friends, and not gossiping, or talking about beating someone up. Look at some of the other girls you know that have a lot of friends. You know why that girl has so many friends, shes nice to just about everyone, and doesn't worry about the downside of bad friendships and how she plains on making a friend suffer. That is your biggest reason to quit the violence. For other people's sake. When someone is mean to you, don't be the one who gives them their punishment, they'll get it, in a matter of days months, or years later. Don't be the one to decide what happens to them, or it will just bite you instead.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: My girl and I have been together for 2 years we have a 1 yr old the past yr has been hard for both of us we have been fighting very verbally and sometimes physically about 2 months ago her mom who we lived with told me to get out my girl and I agree that we need the space and have been trying to work things through. We both started seeing counslers and since then things have been alot better well to make it short last week she decided that she doesnt want to be in a serious relationship with me and that we can be friends and need to be friends before we can be anything else she says she loves me and will still support me and let me see are son we hung out yesterday and had a great time but i am confused because we was all over each other in a good way. My question is should i try doing the friends thing and show her that I am responsible and continue to do what i need to do (she wants to marry me and be a family one day still but right now we need to work on are own mental issues she says) I just feel that everything i have done recenlty to show her that i love and care about her was not good enough i have stopped the name calling and am not so moody thanks to the counsler and some meds. Has anyone else broke up becasue of problems and worked it out in the end??? Her and my sone mean the world to me and I love them both dearly and want to be in a stable family home with us together (she says she wants this to but we cant becasue of are problems) is there hope??? thank you for readint this and respnding

First, stop proving to her that you can be responsible. Don't do it out of proof. Do it because it is what you do as a person and you live responsibly. That is what will make her notice. Don't push the friendship into love, don't rush it, go at the pace she wants so that she knows you'll stay right where she is until she wants to move up. You just need to worry about your son, and how you can continue to fix yourself and your actions when it comes to how you talk to her when you fight with her. You're being impatient, if you suddenly don't call her names and aren't moody anymore, then it's obvious that you two are apart for now. She has to know that even when she takes you back again, that your attitude will change with her. You have to think of it this way, shes saying that if you two get back together, it won't be ok, it will be back to this. She is absolutely right about this, and you're great for trying so hard at making things better and not using verbal abuse toward her, if you continue that through out a love relationship with her, likely you won't be back in this mess, because then she will learn to talk to you instead of yelling and screaming. Learn to talk out the problems, be a listener and consider her feelings and what shes trying to say, you just have to have her do the same with you. If something is bothering you, let her know calmly that it's bothering you and why. If something is bothering her, listen to why and help find a way to not have you both happy with the resolved issue. Don't expect to be back together anytime soon, love and have fun wit your son, and help support your girlfriend's decisions as she will yours eventually.

-TheTeenGirl

Q:
To be honest A part of me doesnt want a boyfriend right now and another part does. Ive been going out with my bf for two years today.. I'm still young and my boyfriend is two years older. I dont realy know what to do or say right now but ive felt like crap today. Its hard to expalin..When he kisses, hugs me, or anything i dont feel butterflys or somthing special. But.. When this new kid that i just met yesterday (ive hung out with him all day the last two days) if i just think about him i get butterflys and i can feel my heart pounding...

Signed,
Confused

13/f

P.s The new kid is only a year older and is in my grade.. My bf is 15 1/2 and is in 9th..

What you're feeling for other guys is normal. You feel butterflies, and all of that when you think of other guys because it's new, it's different, it's exciting. It doesn't mean that you are no longer into your boyfriend. It's just what happens when you are with someone for that long. Does it mean that you should dump your boyfriend because you don't feel anything for a while? No, you might find yourself full of regret for that, because things will likely change back with your boyfriend. I agree with you that you're very young to have a long term relationship at that age, but the only way you'll discover the truth is if you try something new with your boyfriend. Something over the weekend that you've never done, something fun. A little romance, no not sex. Get outside with your boyfriend a little, you'll probably notice thats why. It's the same thing over and over. Go to the movies over the weekend, come over, go to school, and thats the end. Try things new instead of sitting around and cuddeling. I think after that, you'll know what's right.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: I know this girl who is popular but nice at the same time. Everyone likes her. So i decided to talk to her and everything went fine. We became friends, until this month when i became suspicious. She never laughs like usual w/ me and she only laughed w/ other people. When I speak to her all she says is mumbles. I've never been mean to her. I've never spread a rumor about her. But today when I supposedly did something wrong (not really) she immediatly began hating me and gave me the silent treatment. I am soo confused. Any advice?

You have two options with this friend. You can either ask what's wrong by letters or to her face, or you can go on with your life and just wait until she comes around and talks to you again or ignores you. What do I think you should do? I'd probably try asking her first what's going on, and if she didn't answer, I'd just walk away and then just ignore her. She sounds like a spoiled brat to me, to you should probably stick to ignoring her.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: Hey...I need help agian! If you have never had a boyfriend, you are in 8th grade, 13, never even kissed a guy...Then do you get one! I like a guy but I wouldn't know how to act AT ALL (everyone says to talk, but what if you don't know what to talk about!?)I don't even know how to kiss! (that is embarrasing!) I want a boyfriend but no one has asked me out...I don't even think anyone has ever liked me! SOME of my friends say I'm really pretty..but when I go out with them they always get the guy(!), and I get jealous (but don't show it) I don't wanna tell her though...I guess that ended with 2 questions...PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE!
Amy

Everything that is going on in your life is so normal. If you're thirteen and never had a boyfriend, thats very normal. The thing is, a lot of girls your age go through tons of boyfriends, but they don't really mean that much, the serious boyfriend when you're older matters more. So, you're still very normal, it doesn't matter if you are called pretty by friends or not, you will get your kiss, and a boyfriend. Never been kissed is very common too, a lot of girls don't get kissed until maybe sixteen. A lot of girls save first kisses for someone more serious. So, if not ever been kissed is common, so is not knowing how to, just normal. Your friends probably go through a lot of different guys, and maybe that is because they are more social and louder when it comes to boys. You might be a little more silent when it comes to that. It doesn't make you ugly or anything, it makes you a normal girl. Just have fun, sometimes you'll wish you could go back to the time where guys just didn't exist with you and your friends. You have to just act like the girl you are in front of guys. You'll be more confident if you're comfortable in your own skin around guys. You'll find it a lot easier and you'll have a better chance of getting a guy that wants you for you.

-TheTeenGirl

Q: My boyfriend was sick previously for a couple of days. One of the nights that he was really sick I happened to be with him. I didn't leave him all night, I was constantly making sure he was okay and if he needed anything. He told me he appreciated this a lot. The downside of me being with him that night is that he got me sick too. So, all day today I've been pretty sick. You could see it in my eyes how horrible I felt. He commented on that a few times throughout the day. I constantly told him I felt pretty bad. He said sorry. Tonight I called, told him I was feeling very sick. He was watching T.V and was kind of ignoring me, so I just told him I'd call him back with an 'I guess' at the end- hinting how I wanted him to stay. He didn't.
It kind of bothers me how I was waiting on him hand and foot and not letting it bother me that I was practically a butler for him for a night, but he couldn't do a simple thing such as stay on the phone and comfort me.
Is this selfish of me to want comfort and attention from him?

This is your boyfriend being pretty selfish. I know you aren't selfish, you stayed with him when he was sick, it's ok to be upset because hes not doing the same. But, think about it, not only did he get you sick, but he wouldn't even stay on the phone, or even say comforting things at all. I know you mentioned that, but I just want you to know that he is being the selfish one. I know this sounds hard, but maybe you should call him and tell him that you need him, because you just don't feel good, you could do that, or just tell him that you feel confused about this and explain your feelings. But, thats the only way yo can get to the bottom of it, tell him how you feel, if you just want to forget about this and try again, tell him you need him. You are a really good girlfriend for what you did for him. You deserve the same.

-TheTeenGirl

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