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Meany!
So my friends which are like a group of 10-15 people all hate this one girl. This girl keeps talking about all of my friends and my friends fight back by making fun of her. I know its not right but thats wut i do to.We've been teasing her about everything like her bushy hair, her possey of 2 people compared to ours, her outfit, and pretty much wut every girl finds offensive.Shes also been making fun of us too(not like we care but still)shes been pissing us off. So then one day she started crying and started cussing at us and screaming about being all mean.Now of course we're being all soft to her and saying hi. But she's stilil talking behind our backs. So my question is wut do we do?? And "tattling" is not our style. I rate high for good but not cheesy answers.
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well what you have to do is to go up to her yourself and say that you are sorry about what happened but you know that she is till talking behind you back and ask her to hang out with you and then she will stop being such a jerk and become soft like you and stuff and finally there will be peace among all of you if you tell your other freinds what is going on.
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Dear Meany,
Sounds to me like this girl cannot take what she dishes out. She used her crying as a way to manipulate you and your friends into feeling sorry for her. She must be one hell of an actress.
When something like this happens the best thing for you to do is tell her how it is.
You can talk to her directly or write her a letter in pen, not pencil, this way she cannot erase anything and use the letter against you.
Talk to you friends and tell them that NO one is to make fun of her anymore. Then talk to her or give her a letter telling her that the only reason you make fun of her is because she does the same to you and your friends. Tell her that her childish display of emotion was academy award winning and will not work on you guys again. When she stops, you will stop. Don't degrade her or be rude to her this will only make the situation worse.
The bottom line is neither parties should treat each other that way. The only way to get it to end is to call a truce. If she refuses to end the name calling and rude behavior, then find ways to make her realize that she made things worse. I can give you ideas, harmless ones that will get the point across, but I will only divulge them in private.
Hope this helped. Write me if you need anything, I am here! :)
Sincerely,
Honestymatters
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I don't really care what your style is. I'm not saying that you need to tattle, but if making fun of people back just because they say things about you is your style, then you and your friends are immature childish people. No matter what you do, you will never be able to go through your life without being talked about or critisized. Thats just the way it goes. But do you think that you can spend your whole life defending yourself? Heck no. That is what you're doing right now, defending yourself over and over and then making fun of the person as if they will eventually quit. Have you ever thought of simply saying, "well, you know what, she called me a slut, but I know that I am not a slut, so I'm going to ignore her comments because I have a life to live of my own that doesn't include her."? You should try it, because then she will stop because she'll notice that none of you are listening to her, so she'll make fun of other people.
Oh and let me see, you said this, "Shes also been making fun of us too(not like we care but still)" YES YOU DO CARE! If you didn't care, you wouldn't be coming back at her and making fun of her back! So don't act like you and your 'posse' don't care, because it is obvious that you do. My advice is to do the mature thing and set the example of ignoring the girl, and if that just isn't your style, good luck with you and your life, because you'll be defending people all of your life just because they say something about you.
-TheTeenGirl
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alright well first of all, if you want her to start liking you guys back...DONT TALK ABOUT HER
then, maybe say your sorry b/c you obviously hurt her feelings...then maybe she will notice that you really are nicer, and she'll be sorry she's said such mean things about you too.
xoxohelpachick
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