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i know this may sound really gross but i dont know if something is wrong. When i masturbate, i usually use a electric toothbrush or one of those things you use to massage your back and stuff. It feels so good and i love doing it but after im done, i start bleeding from down there, like i have my period when i KNOW i dont. is this normal, does it happen to anyone else?
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That's not normal. That is a problem. These things are not made for you to be using to masturbate and are harming you. There are sex toys that will give you similar sensations without breaking your skin, please please please invest is some.
Also know that using anything that has come into contact with blood, even your own, down there with out completely sanatizing it can be a health risk.
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I started my period about 2 years ago but my bust still isn't that big. I thought your breats started to get bigger around the time you start. I'm just wondering how fast your boobs grow around the time or after you start. I get all my genes from my mom and my mom is big in the chest. I'm also wondering if you still grow taller when you start and when you stop growing taller.
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You can't possibly get all your genes from your mom unless you are a clone.
Anyways the idea that boobs grow the most around the time a girl starts her period is nonesense. Some develope early, some later, alot of girls breasts aren't fully developed untill they are well into thier twenties, so don't rush yourself.
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is there any program that I should use to make remixes of some of my songs? & how would I use it? or really, how are they made?
thanks!
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Most music editing software is highly expensive and very difficult to learn to use, the two pieces of software used in entertainment industry (movies, tv, theatre ect.) are ProTools and Nuendo. Both are worth serval hundered dollars if not more.
I really don't know if there are less expensive version of these programs or ones that do the same thing but I do know it's impossible to run protools illegaly and extermly difficult to find an illegal copy of Nuendo. So, if you want to remix your songs plan on spending a good deal of money on the software.
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Im 15/f. At the moment I'm a Christian, but I'm considering becoming a solitary witch. I've got some questions I'd like to know the answers to from people who actually practise witchcraft and aren't just writing a book
1) Do I need to start praying to the God straight
away?
2) Do I definetely need a separate altar, goddess
shrine, god shrine and lunar shrine because I
only have a small room
3) Does being a witch cost a lot of money?
I'm too young to get a job so I don't have
much money
Don't get me wrong, I really want to become a witch. It's just that the books I'm reading just aren't answering all my questions as they are written by older women dedicated to the craft completely, not a young beginner. Any sources of information or tips on becoming and being a solitary witch are also welcome.
Thanx to the moon and back xxx
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Sometimes people's advice just disgust me. If someone asked this question about Christianty or Buddhism you might get a few serious answers but because the question is about a pagan religion you make ignorant jokes.
It's a very serious decision if you raised in one religion to begin to practice another and something you shouldn't take lightly. It is definately not something you should do without talking to other practicing solitary wiccans. There is a community aspect to all religions even those that are called solitary. Find local groups, appraoch them with respect and learn! DO NOT CALL YOUR SELF A WICTH JUST CAUSE YOU READ SOME BLOODY BOOK. You devalue the religion and yourself if you do that.
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My friend, Lisa, means a lot to me, & we've been through everything together. Recently, I've been drinking a lot, & my life has been all over the place & whatnot. She called me during one of these "intoxicated spells" & we kind of got in a fight about something or another.
I don't even know how to approach appologizing for what I've done, because I barely know WHAT I did. The hardest part is that she seems to want nothing to do with me any longer.
Should I just let her go, or what should I do? Please help.
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You are really confused and in a bad place right now. That's no excuse, if I was your friend I might be getting sick of it too. But it does help explain.
It might be best to ask her first what you did that made mad. It might be a silly little thing or it just might be that she cares for you and is really feed up with you treating yourself badly.
Please know it's hard for people to care about you when you aren't caring for yourself. Look for some help for your drinking, you have so much life in front of you, don't waste it.
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ok, my grandma always makes me do ALL of her dirty work for her. she makes me do EVERYTHING! i hate it and today i just blew up on her. i yelled at her and then she called my mom and told her. so ofcourse my mom took her side. now im in alot of trouble with my mom and my mom doesnt belive me.
ill rate high to anyone who gives good advice and doesnt tell me to sit down and talk to them....
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Tough luck. Sit down and talk to them.
What else are you going to do? Run away? Give them the silent treatment? Plot thier untimely demise? Real mature.
If you are feeling abused then you have no other recourse then talking to them. Yes, you will all be angry and upset, but if you don't keep your cool then you aren't giving them any reason to respect your feelings.
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ok so tomorrow im going horse back riding. ive done it like a million times but i just recently found out about that thing that pops (forgot the name srry) when u horseback ride or bike ride. wut if it happens??? nd does it only happen once in your life? can i prevent it from happening?
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Female Horseback rider here.
It is completely possible to break your hymen while riding a bike or a horse or any by doing any number of other sports. I'm rather sure I did it myself.
More active riding, jumping, bareback or cross country increases the chances. But don't worry the funny thing about breaking it that way is that you barely feel it and it's just a little bit of blood on your panties.
It WILL NOT make you loose, and YOU ARE still a virgin, it just means that a little bit of skin that was protecting the deeper part of your vagina as you matured has broken.
The only way to prevent it is to sit at home and not run, ride, swim, jump or dance. It's not worth it.
Many young girls break thier hymen these days because girls are a lot more active then they were a century ago.
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I will be frank. I usually find myself with psychos or jerks. So I have a hard time not being skeptical about a guy who approaches me or when I have allowed my friends to hook me up. I haven't been in a relationship for about three years and have only casually dated if at all since then. I find though, I have ended up dating guys who are at least 30 and I am 22. I like the fact that the maturity level is above that of a 5 year old. I don't care about the money or anything like that but I become more relaxed around guys who are older and they often share my interests more then with guys my age. I have a good relationship with my father, he even approves and my friends think that I am crazy. Is it normal for me to find a relationship with an older man easier or am I just crazy? What are somethings that I need to watch for when I am dating an older man?
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It seems that dating older men is normal for you, and I certainly know alot of woman around your (and my) age who prefere older men. There are alot of biological reasons I've heard for it, but in my opinion you are not dating outside of a reasonable range (for instance you are not dating someone old enough to be your father). These are the men you find attractive and the ones you have the most in common with. That's plenty of justification for a relationship with one.
As for watching out with older men, I'd give you same advice I'd give anyone. Keep your eyes open and listen to your gut. Don't invest in anyone who is shady or disrepectful to you.
Good Luck Babe!
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ok so the past school year i was a freshman in high school. most of my teachers were disorganized and really mean. does it stay like that all throughout high school or does that change when you get older?
MizzNiceGirl
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There are good teachers and bad teachers just like all other sort of peoples. Sounds like you got a bunch of the bad ones. I can't really say that they get better as you get older but I do know teachers are often harder on the younger kids because they are trying to set the standard of proper behavoir.
(Teachers really are just people, if you are nice and respectful to them, they will nice to you, even when you break thier rules)
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my parents keep asking me why im so sad. the funny thing is im as happy as i normally am i just feel kinda sick, and when i tell them that they think im trying to get out of going places with them. it is so stupid. they keep asking me if i was in a break up or if i got in a fight with my friends and it is so stupid. can someone please tell me how to convince them im not depressed? i rate thanx
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Well that's kinda silly. Tell them you want to see a doctor, (if they think you are depressed they will probably let you) and don't let them come in with you.
Tell the doctor how you are feeling, they can probably help, or at least help convince your parents that you are depressed.
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I'm 15/f and I've had a boyfriend for about a week who has been my best friend for a while. My problem is that he's been trying too hard to become close with my friends. I know that sounds stupid, but I just don't want his relationship with them to be as close as his relationship with me. I like that he's a separate part of my life than my friends are and I really just want it to stay that way. I'm just used to my friends stealing my close friendships away and I don't want that to happen with him. Am I being too paranoid? How exactly do I tell him how I feel?
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He is probably just trying to impress your friends cause he thinks you want him too, so just tell him you don't need him to be super close with your friends and you rather that you and him just focus on being close to eachother. He'll probably be flatered and relieved.
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ok im sorry this is long: my dad makes fun of EVERYONE!!!!! my friends, my teachers. ok, so if i come to him for help, with like friendship and say some negative stuff about people for example: "dad, _______ has been doing some rude things lately blah blah blah" and then hes like "oh is _______ the one with the monkey face/really fat/rat hair" and he can go on forever!!!!!! even when im not asking for help!!! like sometime he says stuff like "oh do u know that girl teresa in your class? she has the most annoying voice" I BEG HIM TO STOP THISS BUT WHEN I DO HE JUST DOES IT MORE!!!!! JUST BECAUSE I HAVE PROBLEMS WITH SOME PEOPLE DOESNT MEAN HE HAS TO BE SO MEAN ABOUT IT! I mean i come to my father for advice. not critisism.please dont say ask your mom cause she doesnt help. please what can i do to stop this!
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My dad was the same way for the longest time. He'd call my problems idoitic or meaningless. It was the most annoying thing in the world.
Anyways, you need to tell your dad just what you told us "Dad, I come to my father for advice. not critisism." Tell him he is not helping, tell him is making you feel worse and you don't apperciate him talking like that, and then STOP asking for his help.
I know that sounds harsh but if he wont stop it is the only way to make it clear how much you hate him talking like that. Leave it for a little while, and the next time you ask for help if he starts insulting agian, just walk away from him. Don't get angry, just don't take it anymore.
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Okay well i want a horse really bad my whole family has horses except me!! my sister has 2 and shes 3 years younger den me! i really sorry i know this sounds ver selfish...but i just really want a horse and i ve been riding my whole life so i think its time. im almost 14.my families not rich or any thing but were not poor either...can any one recomened a website where i could look at reasonable price middle age horses. How can ui convince my muther!!
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I'm really curious why you don't have one if your sister does (specailly if she is younger). In order to convince your mother you really need to know what her issues are so you can help her and prove to her that you are ready for a horse. Stay calm and listen to her before you get mad for not getting what you want.
I owned two horses until I went away to university and personally think the best way to find a good horse is by word of mouth, talk to your friends, your coaches, boarders at your barn and others. When you are looking at a praticular horse it's good to get the opinion of a really horse-smart person, even a vet if you can get one.
Good luck!
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Hi
I was going out with my bf for about a month again. We were broken up and then gotten back together. We hung out lots as friends then decided to go out again.. Anyways we only had sex a couple of times and now we kinda are going through a rough patch again..The thing is I was stupid and never used a condom either time..I know I am 23 and should be responsible enough to have known the difference. It was about 3 days before I started my period and then again toward the end of my period about 2 days before it finished ,when it was really light and barely noticable. What are the chances that I could be pregnant? I read that you are most fertile when you are onvulating which I wasn't I am pretty sure because I am pretty regular and my period is between 28 and 30 days each month and I read that you ovulate about 12-16 days before your next period starts..Even though I also read that it's possible to get pregnant pretty much anytime of the month.I read that the sperm can live for up to a week inside of you but if my ovulation calendar is fairly correct I wouldn't have started ovulating until after that so I think I should be okay. I won't have my period now until a couple weeks so I have to wait.
Hopefully it works out and I am not pregnant in case it doesn't work out with my boyfriend but if I am then I am old enough to take care of myself and my responsibilities.....sigh...the stupid things you do sometimes....How soon can I take a pregnancy test? Do I have to wait until I miss a period? This is stressful but I have been stressed out alot lately with other things so I won't be able to tell if I am feeling sick because of stress..I don't think I would feel sick yet this soon if I was pregnant..I haven't been throwing up or anything but have been sick to my stomach sometimes but I think it's the stress and not sleeping. I haven't been sleeping much lately..only getting about 5 hours sleep a night and then sometimes if I manage to get a bit more I have been waking up throughout the night so it's still not restful.
Anyways I just need to know if anyone knows my chances of not being pregnant? Any feedback would be appreciated..thanks
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Of course theere is a chance of being pregnant but if you are regular and don't think you were ovulating that at least helps.
Most Home pregancy tests aren't accurate unless you test yourself around the time your period is due (about 2 weeks after you ovulate). Most tests suggest you wait three days after the first day of your missed period.
(When I get really stressed out I can be as much as three weeks late on my period. Bad eating and sleeping will mess you up big time so make sure you are at least eating right and drinking lots of water.)
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hey i was wondering if anybody knew that jergens natural glow daily moisturizer actually works no matter the skin tones and how long does it take for it to work.-thank you
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I haven't used Jergans but I really love Coppertones sunless taner, its about the same price and I think you get quicker results honestly. I just use the lighter colour since I'm deathly pale. Make sure to exfoliate the skin before you apply it or you get streaks and bloches.
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My husband cheated on me and left me for 4 weeks, now he has come back and I'm trying to get past this, but I feel so betrayed and cant stop thinking about them together. I think I still love him and want us to work out, he tells me he loves me and he made a mistake. I thought we were close. The sex has been great since he came back, but I just dont think I can move on. Any advice would be greatfully received.
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That is an incredible betrayal of trust and you have every right to be upset. Four weeks is not a momentary laspe of judgement but a huge mistake.
Have you discussed his reason and rational for cheeting? This might give you some clues as to how likely it is to happen agian, but my opinion is once a cheeter always a cheeter, even if he never cheets agian you both will always carry this experience with you. Can you deal with that? Take sometime apart and consider your own happiness first and formost.
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Hey. I want to have sex with my boyfriend but I am afraid how much it will hurt. I can't wear a tampon, it hurts so much, does this mean that it will hurt when I first have sex? Should I wear a tampon to get used to this feeling?
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Sex can hurt at first that's why it is really important to have a caring and understanding guy. Don't expect to get it right the first time. Sex is often a little awkward untill people get used to eachother.
If you are really tight it might take some work to streech you out. Either your boyfriend can help you with that or you can work on it on your own. If you are really worried about how much pain you are feeling you'd probably be best to see a doctor.
Good luck!
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what does it mean to be high matenince?..people tell me i am but i dont know what they mean!...some one tell me what it is and how you know if you are??..thanks so muchh!!!
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It basically means you take alot of work to keep happy. Some people will just call you high maintenance if you take good care of your apperance, other people call you high mantenance if you demand too much of your friends or boyfriends and are a bitch if you don't get it.
So it can be a compliment or an insult, depending on how it is said. If you spend a whole bunch of time on your apperance every day then you are probably that kind of high maintenance. If you find yourself punishing your friends for not doing what you want you might be the bitchy kind.
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I got my hair dyed like in March professionally, and the hairdresser said to come back every 8 weeks and I can get my roots fixed up for half price. Well it's too late now, because it's 3 months later and my dyes faded, my hairs soo screwed up because i dyed it wayy to many times so it's like 5 different color shades. My mom got her hair dyed professionally, too in about May. She just told me today that she's going to get her hair dyed again, and I've been asking her for sooo long. her hair doesn't even need done, it's like her roots are showing slightly, and my hair looks stupid and she even said it! I help soo much around the house, I'm not really spoiled, I don't ask for much. What's something that I can say or do to my mom to try & get her to let me get my hair dyed NOW!!
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Be polite about it. Professional colouring is very expensive and I'm not surprised your mom doesn't feel like shelling out if you keep dying your hair over and over in just three months.
Tell your mom calmly that you will take care of your hair this time, use the right shampoo and conditionors and not dye it agian untill is actually needs it. Maybe offer to do some extra specail chores to help make up the cost.
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this guy i recently broke up with wont leave me alone. he is making me feel really bad for him like saying without me he feels like there is no point to living. also he is constantly asking me out but i keep saying no. why wont this guy give up. someone please help me get this boy to leave me alone!!!
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Cut off all contact with him right now!
He's desperate and he is trying to bully you into dating him agian which you should not do under any curcimstances.
If you have been clear with him that you no longer want to date him then it's time to stop talking to him and stop listening to him. You can't help him through this pain because you are the source of the pain and you shouldn't have to.
I know it sounds really harsh but neither of you will be happy untill you end this completely and it seems like he wont let you do that unless you stop talking to him all togeather.
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