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how can i ..
A. get taller in a short period of time
B. grow my hair EXTREMLEY fast. i cant order anything
over line. i can only go out to like stores like
target, walmart, cvs, and get some type of pills.
C. grow my boobs fast. if possable.



thank you soo much. =] !!!!!

You can't grow any time fast. It all depends on your genes.

A. You can wear high heels or boots. But you really can't get taller in a short period of time. Look at your parents. Somewhere in between, will be your height when you stop growing.

B. You can't grow your hair fast but you can buy extensions from Sally's. You can buy a track ($30) of hair that matches your own and glue/clip them in. You can go to a salon and get it done (which is expensive). There's a vitamin called Biotin that makes hair healthier and seems to make hair grow a tad bit faster. [4 to 8 weeks you see a difference] /My hair was above my shoulders, now is noticeably past/ You can buy Mane N Tail shampoo. It was made for horses and is now used by humans, because it's packed with lots of proteins to make your hair thicker and healthier. I'm sure you can get it at any vitamin aisle.

C. You can't grow your boobs fast either.
Just get your nutrients. You can wear a padded bra though.

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oh my god, seriously, what has the world come to...? i read a question on here and a girl had sex at 10 YEARS OLD. i was watching the news a couple of hours ago and an 8 YEAR OLD HAD SEX. yes, an 8 year old. i didn't even think 8 year olds knew what sex meant! on the internet news a 12 year old had sex and killed her own child because she said she wasn't ready for a kid. really, what's wrong with the world? why are people having sex at such a young age? do any of you agree that this is absolutatly crazy?

The media.
Some ignorant parents.
High school students.

Lack of role models.


They don't see how badly it could ruin their life. But i don't see it as my problem. The media has messed up our younger generations. I don't care how far most people have gone or how cool it is. Because I don't think getting pregnant or getting STDS is cool.

There has always been young people who have had sex because of problems in their life or whatever.. but it has tripled since then!

It's just... so wrong.

They should do sex ED classes earlier!

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everyone at my school laughs at the number 69
i dont get it
what does it mean?? im pretty sure its something nasty, but im not sure what it is

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/69_(sex_position)


it has two pictures but it's not detailed or close up.

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I have a wonderful boyfriend! We have been going out for a week now, and he is very nice, sweet, and pretty funny. Except he smells really bad some times when I am near him, like I smell no deodorant or cologne on him at all. It's very dreadful! Especially since he has gym at school and it makes it worse afterwards.

I would really hate to say anything, so what can I do to give him the message he stinks?

You could always ask him what cologne he uses.

And if he answers.. you can tell him to try.. like Tag, blah blah, Axe. Something other than what he already uses.

Or you could always say.. "I love Tag[for example] blah blah. It smells so good"
Maybe he will buy it?


You could always carry a bit of bodyspray and spray yourself... and walk towards him. Maybe, it could help a bit.

You could always come out and say it. "Uhh. I smell BO." or make a friendly joke about it?

I understand how it is. It can be awkward and embarrassing .. to just say it. But he probably doesn't even notice it. Just make sure what you say doesn't come off as rude.

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Well I straighten my hair everyday because its really curly. But a few hours later it starts to curve inward. I see all these girls at my school with PIN straight hair and it lasts all day. Does anybody know how to keep my hair pinstraight all day.

PLEASEEEEE HELP.



THANKS A TON :).

Ask those girls what products they use.
Maybe they have a slight wave so it can easily be controlled.

But don't straightened your hair everyday, embrace your curls! Natural curly hair is to die for. I wish I had it. Pin straight hair is a bit boring.


It's probably your hair products or your straightener.

Do you have a CHI straightener? I've heard some good things about it.

Do you spray your hair after straightening? Too much heat can also make your hair go against you. So give your hair a break and rock your curls with some gel.

You should go to a hairstylist and ask for opinions too. They know the good flat irons and hairspray.


Browse around here--
http://www.folica.com/appliances/straightener.htm

They have some pretty good straighteners and before/after pictures.

You should wait about 2-3 days after you wash your hair to straighten it.. It seems to hold it better because your hair is somewhat dirty.

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do most girls finger themselves?

No, not most.
Some girls don't get off by fingering.

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What, exactly, qualifies as "gothic" or "emo" clothing in high school? I like a lot of different styles, and I like black clothes, skulls, chains and such but I'm not a gothic or emo person... I don't want to send the wrong idea or upset people by seeming like a poser and putting down their style or whatever... but I also want to wear the clothes that I like.
Are there rules to this that I should know about?

It's all different for different schools.
It's just mainly black/dark clothes. Lacy, frilly, dark colored clothing. Stripes, checkered, blah blah. Combat boots. Knee high socks. Wristbands. Chains. That's what it was in middle school for me.. High school.. it's just all different now.

You shouldn't care. If you like the clothes, then wear it. :D People shouldn't be upset about it unless you act like the stereotypical "goth/emo". It can be offending. I don't understand why others would be upset anyway. It's just clothing, it has nothing to do with them. They didn't make the style up. It's been around for years, so rock it.

You can start off small... just black shirts and dark jeans.. and work your way up so the change doesn't.. give you unwanted attention.. like 'poser' [but i'm sure, people in high school have matured]

There shouldn't be rules to what you wear.
Wear what you like
and what feels comfortable for you.

That's pretty much it.

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I'm not so good at the little html things for myspace the only one i know is the heart one but i'd like to know bold strikethrough, underline you know so if aany of ya'll know please tell :)

bold

strike

underline

italics

space

paragraph



center

text is aligned left
[works with right too]

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im think about getting my hair chemicaly straightened. is there antying bad about doing this? should i or is it a bad idea?

It really depends on the condition of your hair. The chemicals can be too strong and damage your hair like hell. You would need to go in to a salon and see your options for it.

It fries your hair, dries it out and it's unhealthy. If you previously dyed your hair or anything like that.. it's even worse. But if you are willing to condition your hair really well, it's good.


If your hair is slightly wavy then go buy a decent straightener. If it's actually curly, then consider getting it chemically straightened.

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my myspace, when i try to upload the picture, it comes up unknown error, why is this?

just myspace errors.

myspace has this new photo albums thing and they are trying to create it, which comes along with glitches.. so they want people to stop uploading pictures and making the problem worse.

so it's probably fixed by now

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I am getting my wisdom teeth pulled in a couple of days and I am really scared! If you have had yours out...
-does it hurt
-is going under weird, what does it feel like
-should i be scared
Thanks
Hal

It doesn't hurt because you don't feel it. The swelling does smart a bit, but that's why they give you painkillers. Going under is not weird. It happened way too fast for me. They put an IV on me and all I remember is looking towards my right... then I woke up.

Don't be scared, it will be okay. :]

Just stock up on soft food and soups.

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ok sorry if this is in the wrong categorie


well anyways i bought some red hair dye today, and my mom wont let me put it in.Wich(sp?) im sooooo pissed about.im sooo gunna put it in while shes out, but do you think its the right idea?

i wouldn't do it. she will get angry and not trust you.. and won't let you use dye in the future.

Just ask her again. Red fades the quickest. If she doesn't like it, you could just wash your hair with shampoo or do a dishsoap cap and it will gradually fade.

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my doctor says im underweight on charts and really overweight. 13/f 5'4 110 . my stomach is just fat. i do not look fat at all with clothes on but in a swimsuit or nothing over my stomach its just fat. he says to cal up and just to exercise. i eat alot well closer to normal. i run. my 2 bffs agree whats wrong so its not just me.
what exercises do i do?
im really confused im really underweight?
with a fat stomach and obese?
i dont wana be anorexic i just want a flat stomach mines plain fat and sick?
is there something wrong with mee?

Flat stomach's aren't healthy. If you have a round stomach, then you are healthly. It's not wrong to have a round stomach. You are not overweight and in any way fat. You may be slightly underweight for your height group but you are only 13. So just continue your eating habits and do some crutches.


There's nothing wrong with you. To you, it looks like your stomach is fat. But you actually need that bit of 'fat'/ 'meat' there, to hold your organs together. Many girls have eating disorders and have their ribs sticking out.. flat stomach, gross? Do some crutches!

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Well In my School There are TWO popular Groups.. I am In one of them.. Barley though.. I am not even that popular i dont even know how i managed that. I mean its not like anyone pays attention to me in that group anyways but sometimes they do.. You can basically say that im the least popular in that group.
Well In the other Popular Group Those Girls are like SOOOOOO PRETTY its not even funny I wanna be just like them.. I wouldnt say i am the ugliest out there and i dont think i really am that ugly but they are drop dead they can get any guy they want. ALL The Popular Cute boys are ALWAYS Hugging them and Talking to them and saying how hot they are.. Well i wanna be treated like that too.

So Does anyone have any advice how to be more prettier? Hair styles.. Make up ideas? or like outift ideas. Or like ANyway people would notice me more or like .. LIKE ME!!??
ANYTHING.. I just wanna be just like them.

Please Help it would mean so much to me you have no idea.

Be more confident. Talk a lot more. That's how you get noticed. But I don't think you really want to become of the popular girls.

There's so many girls going against another and it's too much drama and fake friends. Those guys may look hot but most likely, they care about looks. If you change yourself.. they won't like you for who you are. You don't want to be treated like that, believe me. Most guys like that are jerks and once you change your appearance. They might drop you like a hat. You want a guy that likes you for who you are and will say you are beautiful. When guys say you're hot, they usually want to get into your pants. Most guys that are popular.. are for the wrong reasons.. Like how many girls they've done it with, etc. Or because they look cute.

I guess you should experiment with looks. I don't think copying/stealing ideas from the other girls is good because they might call you fake. But if you usually wear your hair one way.. switch it up with curls or something.


Be yourself. Be happy about it.. and they will like you.

But if you change yourself, they wouldn't like you.. they would like the person you changed yourself into.. and that's not being true to yourself.

Youdon'thavetorateme.

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Well I always make up these fantasies that my crush and I will some how run into them somewhere! Like say at the grocery store or something. Or even if my dad was having some party for like football or something, and it just so happens that my crush had come because his had knew mine, and just happened to come up the stairs in my room or something and we start talking...I think about my crush all the time...and when I'm in bed I imagine those things then too. I think I might be bipolar because my friend says that one symptom of being bipolar is that you think anything can happen to you. Whats wrong with me?!

Does your friend mean paranoia? I always make things up too. Daydreams and whatever. I think it's normal. You want something to happen.. even though your crush may not fit in your everyday life.

I think your friend meant being paranoid. But you don't seem like it to me.

Unless daydreaming is bad..?

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well my boyfriend is really sweet the best boyfriend i have ever had.=D i am really happy with him. Im in love with him. But suddenly he seems kinda like wanting to have sex with me like when he comes over he takes off his shirt n my. like were about to do it but im not sure if i want to yet. Is not that i dont love him i do a WHOLE LOT. What should i do. just stop him all the time. should i just do it. i kinda want to sometimes but im scarde im still a virgen. pleasee help.

You need to tell him you aren't ready. If you are scared then you shouldn't do it. If you feel pressured then don't. You need to tell him no or he's going to continue it.

You should have sex when you are truly ready. [And financially] Because even if you get birth control and condoms, there's still a chance of you not being protected.

There's no 'should' when it comes to sex. It's because you want to and that you feel comfortable with it. No nervous or scared feelings.


It's alright to wait and he would understand.

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Does anyone know what word is it when someone tries to tell you something when they talk to you mimicking your voice. doesn't anyone find that very insulting.

Sarcasm

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&defl=en&q=define:sarcastic

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is it normal for a puppy, to eat its own wastes,(poop)?

Yes it is. But it's not really healthy so you should try picking up the poop. Brush it's teeth.

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I keep getting cavities and I never had any until about 2 years ago. I have braces (for a little over a year) and I brush my teeth about 3, if not more, times a day. I hate flossing because it hurts my gums and causes them to bleed. And when I was kid I used to eat a lot more candy than I do now.

What can I do to prevent cavities? I really can't stand getting them drilled or the feeling of having one.

thanks

You really need to start flossing. You should be brushing gently on the gums so they won't bleed. When you floss, you'll remove plaque from between teeth and under your gumline where your toothbrush can't reach.

If you drink soda, drink less.

If you chew gum, do it less often.
Some brands contain some type of sweetener.. the acid in it will eventually cause a cavity.

Always brush your tongue too, to remove plaque.

You need fluoride toothpaste. Nothing that will whiten, just mainly fluoride.

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so basically i straigten and blowdry my hair everyday. i use garnier fruitis the one for damaged hair. it used to work for like the first 2 months and my hair was like split end free and was healthy but now it stopped working. what are some shampoos and conditioners i can use so my hair can be much healthier and can grow faster?

Do you protect your hair with creme before putting heat on it? Give your hair a break, too much heat will end up with split ends either way. You need to get a trim or your hair will get super frizzy.

Look for Anti-Breakage Shampoos and Hot Oil Treatments. Pantene is good.

Mane N Tail makes hair healthier [so it grows faster] because it's packed with so many proteins.


You could always try taking a vitamin. It's called Biotin, it makes hair/skin/nails healthier. I used it for a month and my hair grew a lot. It will speed up hair growth.


Maybe you should airdry your hair instead of blowdrying and possibly.. straighten it later? Your hair might be fried.

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