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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo.
"i refuse to sink."

advice

any time i like a guy at all, the closer we start getting to each other i automatically become unattracted to him for no reason at all. even if he is my type and there's nothing wrong with him and he's really sweet to me and he likes me a lot, i become unattracted to him the closer we get.

why does this happen and how to i stop being like this?!?!?!

I understand how you're feeling, it happens to me too, even now, with my boyfriend. For me, it's because the closer I get, the more vulnerable I am and the more attatched I become, so I think that involuntarily, my mind tries to get me to think that i don't like him as much as i did to get me to not let my guard down. Or in your case, it could be that you just like the chase and now it's done and the real emotions come out, and that may scare you or make you freaked out so the way YOU deal with it is by becoming less interested in the guy. This is a very hard subject because there are millions of reasons why you could be doing this, but you have to figure it out for yourself. You can try to stop by tricking your mind into liking him, or looking at other guys and thinking, "im so glad i like the guy who is so sweet to me, not some random guy." Or, I suggest talking about this to HIM or maybe a really close friend of yours. many people feel like this, it just depends on the person, or the guy you like but have stopped liking, and if none of this works, you have to find a person that will keep you interested, yuh know ? sometimes it's all about finding yourself and figuring out .. life. :]
hope I helped, good luck and don't worry, you'll figure it all out soon enough. feel free to inbox me if you need anything else ! xxo :]

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DO you think its ok for your boyfriend to have a girl "friend", where he went to her house ONCE,without your permission,and you never meet her before?

Okay, heres the deal, my boyfriend has girl "friends" and half of them harassed me when I started going out with him, because they are all best friends with his ex girlfriend who made my life a living hell when it all began, so I guess it depends on the friend.. I mean, I don't like it, but I'm not some "obsessive" and controlling girlfriend, so he can do what he wants. as long as you trust him, it should be okay :] but make sure he doesnt do it behind your back on PURPOSE because that's a little sketchy. I honestly don't think he should ask for permission to hang out with his friend, but making you aware of the fact that he's gonna be hanging out with a girl would be great :] and put yourself in his shoes, would you like it if he wanted you to ask for PERMISSION before hanging out with one of your guy friends.. no. so it goes both ways in a relationship.
That's just my opinion though. So I think it's okay :] and fine. Don't worry about it. Good luck, hope I helped ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.

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I know little bit. I just want make sure.. what the different between Flarting and teasing.. Teasing in a good way

Okay, so it's not really that complicated :] but here are my definitions..

Teasing: when you are deliberatley leading a person on, making them think that you want to do something with them when you really aren't planning on it at the moment.. or ever, for that matter haha. Or playfully teasing them in a friendly or flirty perspective.. which brings me to my next point..

Flirting: when you are interested in a person and you want them to know that you're interested in them so you make it clear [in a cute way] that you're into them by different things you say or your body language and such.

Hope I helped clear that up for you :] if you have any other questions, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.

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I totally love playing the Sims (I have the original just Sims, Sims 2 + expansions, AND Sims 3) but I was wondering if there are any other games like the Sims that I could look into playing. Does anybody know of any?

Doesn't have to be on the computer either! :D

People have told me that this game is similar to the sims..
- secondlife.com

I own this one.. and it's SO much fun ! totally like the sims. you should read the review.
- The Movies
http://compsimgames.about.com/od/gamereviews/gr/themovies.htm

good luck, have fun ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo :]

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umm, i live kinda in the woods, so i think when i invite him to my house we can "take a walk" for it. is it a good idea? or is it gonna pretty obvious why i invited him to "hang out"?

Well, boys are kinda oblivious to the world, so no, it won't be obvious. It's actually a really good idea ! very clever. good thinking :]
have fun :] ahh. im excited for youu. good luck and im here if you need anything, tell me how it goes :] ! xxo

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I wanted to make some brownies so I bought the box mix from the store. It calls for a 1/2 cup of regular vegetable oil, 2 eggs, and 1/4 cup of water. I thought of taking coconut oil and warming it up a little (as it's sort-of solidified now but when it's warmed up it's very, well, oily) and using it instead of vegetable oil. Is that acceptable or does it ruin the recipe on the box mix of brownies?

I HIGHLY suggest you don't use coconut oil, you can, however it makes the brownies taste kinda funky. Try other alternatives like..
-canola oil
-melted butter
-applesauce [i know it sounds gross, but its not!]
-melted shortening

hope i helped! If you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] good luck and have fun. xxo.

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so, do i want to kiss my guy first? i mean, we have been friends for quite a while, and we went out a lot to movies, and to the water park together and stuff, and i like him, but we never really kissed. (hugs don't count for much lol)
and btw, i've never kissed a guy, so i dunno where to start off even.
THX! -Charlotte, 15

I say why not ?! go for it. If you like him and you think he likes you back, then kiss him :] It doesn't matter if you don't know what you're doing, it's kind of a natural thing, just go with the flow :] which is the best advice I've been told. But if he doesn't like you the way you like him and you DO wind up kissing him, don't make things awkward or let a kiss ruin the friendship.. all is fair in love and war .. yuh know? Sometimes you have to try kissing a person to know if you really like him/her, because if you do, there will be "sparks" and for the kissing part, honestly, don't be afraid, it'll just kinda happen, lean into him and look at his lips, he'll get the hint eventually. :]
hope I helped, good luck and have fun ! if you need anything else feel free to inbox me. xxo.

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I just moved into my new apartment and I'm really nervous to be alone! It's a stupid fear, I'm sure, but I'm having a hard time falling asleep now. Are there any ways to cope with nervousness? Can anybody say something to make me feel safer alone in my new apartment? I know I live in a good neighborhood but... :\ IDK!

moving is always quite the experience, and it's gonna be hard until you get used to it. So, here's a few ideas to get over your fear :]
- listen to music, dont be afraid to blast it throughout your apartment, so you here noise and not eery silence.
- go on the computer and maybe keep it on, go on facebook [if you have one] or a site a bunch of your friends are on, so you know that somewhere in your house you can reach people you know quickly.
- call someone on your phone and have a nice little chat :] or maybe invite a few friends or one friend over for lunch or dinner and a movie. [but no scary movies hahaa, not the best idea right now.]
- before you go to sleep read a book or watch some tv, it'll calm you and then you can fall asleep more easily.
- cook something and i heard that getting vanilla scented candles can calm you which would also help your anxiety and help you sleep better.

I know it's gonna be hard, but try not to think about it and just be calm and at ease, it's okay. you'll get used to it in no time with a few of the tricks i gave you to make your fear go away, for now, at least :] ! hope i helped, and don't sweat it, you'll be fine. if you need anything else, inbox me and let me know. xxo !

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I have this boyfriend and we have been together for 1 year and 5 months...Wright now we are fighting about somethis crazy...I told him I love him and he told me to prove it, and I dont know how...Can u PLEASE HELP ME????

Don't you hate when guys say, "prove it." Because it's like, "hey, why don't YOU prove it also." I mean, you shouldn't have to prove that you love someone, loving someone isn't about proving anything, it's about KNOWING in your heart that whether you're in a fight or not, you love eachother and just that fact keeps you guys together. yuh know ? However, it would help a little bit if i knew what the fight was about, but i can work with what i got :]
Try calling him, even if he sends you right to voicemail, leave him a message, a long message saying that you care about him. Then just keep aologizing, usually guys don't get mad over nothing, it's us girls who are known to overreact more than the guy in the relationship, so apologizing profusely is key. Maybe you could make him a mixtape of all songs he likes or that describes the way you feel about him and one that apologizes, or funny songs, a mixture of all of those, and then give it to him. It will show that you really thought about it and care about him to make something meanigful liek that. then make the cover a picture of you two or something else that's meaningful. He'll love it, trust me. And since you guys have been going out for so long, it's , most likely just a "rough patch" or "phase" sometimes people just need space and some time to cool off. But if none of that helps, tell him that you shouldnt have to prove anything because you love him and that should be enough and that if he doesn't believe you, than he's the one who needs to prove it. Also.. you could make him cookies or something. guys love food :]
Good luck ! Hope I helped, if you need anything else, help with anything at all, feel free to inbox me. It'll be alright, don't sweat over it too much :] xxo.

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i've been with my bf for three years. and he was just told that he has to move across the country. and we both don't believe in long distance relationships.

what are some good songs that go well for this situation?

Here's a few that refer to that.. :]

-ryan cabrera: i will remember you
-The killers: read my mind
-nickelback: far away
-michelle branch: together
-KC and the sunshine band: please don't go

hope i helped! If you need anymore, just inbox me :] I have plenty. xxo good luck and I'm sorry, this situation is sucky :[

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Im a 16 year old girl and the guy I like is 17. We've known eachother since I was 7, but he moved away when i was 10. He always used to ask me out and then he got a girlfriend and didnt talk to me for a few years... then i went to see his cousins and he was there with his gf and he wouldnt even look at me. The next time i went he was drunk and hed broken up with her and he was asking me to go out with him, but i didnt know if he meant it since he was drunk, so i turned him down but i said i still wanted to be friends. After that i didnt talk to him for awhile, and the only time he would talk to me was on msn when he was drunk. This really upset me, and then i just got mad and i told his cousin that i didnt like him anymore. I didnt really mean it but she TOLD him and now when i saw him again he wouldnt even look at me and he definately doesnt talk to me anymore. I just want him to talk to me again, but i dont know if i should apologize, just ignore him until hes ready or try to make him jealous or what?
Sorry this is soo long!
and Thanks!

I'm gonna straight up tell you that this guy seems like the biggest asshole. I know you like him, but let's be honest ... do you REALLY like him or do you like the IDEA of him ?
I was in a similar situation with a guy, and I understand how hard it is to get over it and move on since you want what you can't have, or something along those lines, yuh know? You feel like a backup plan and that's not okay. You need to find someone who will treat you right and want to be with you sober or not, and you deserve a person who is going to ask you out and MEAN IT. I'm 16, and my boyfriend is amazing. I finally got over the "asshole" who tried to keep me hanging on because he thought he could fall back on me when he needed the support, but you have to realize that he is not the only guy on the planet. Do you honestly and truthfully want to keep hanging onto a person who treats you horribly? Let him talk to you if he wants to, hes missing out on a great girl anyways. You have absolutley NOTHING to apologize for, so there's no need for that, trust me. Just try to move on, no matter how hard that may sound [and i know it sounds really hard, but if you actually try i can guarentee a PHENOMINAL result, take it from me, i would know :)] You can do much, much better :] and you deserve that !
good luck, hope I helped, hang in there :] ! xxo

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do you guys believe when you have a dream and its kind of bad and you dont tell the person it was about then it will happen. or if you tell them what happened in your dream it wont happen... for example. hmm. ashley has a dream that her boyfriend tommy was cheating on her with valerie and she doesnt tell tommy then he realy will cheat on her. but if she does tell tommy then it wont realy come true? someone please help me. thankyou in advance

Some of my dreams tend to come true, or the general idea of it comes true, and I've told people about it, so no, I'm not a big believer on this. Saying your dream outloud is just getting it off your chest and seeing what other people think about it or hearing their comments on it. It's fun to share dreams because the whackier they are the funnier it is :] people like to laugh, so go ahead and share your dreams, give everyone a good chcukle if it's funny ;] that's just an old myth. Don't worry about itt, it's totally finee.
hope i helped, good luck, have funn and dream onn ! xxo :]

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what are some really random questions i can ask a guy i like to keep the conversation going??

Haha, my boyfriend has problems with making conversation, so to keep it going i ask REALLY random things or bring up really random things, so here's some I use..

- "what's the top 5 things you want to do before you die ?"
- "Have you ever broken anything?"
- "What's the craziest thing you've ever done?"
- "What's your favorite season, why?"
- "What do you want to be when you get out of school?"
- "What do you like better, coke or pepsi?" [this question can pertain to anything, like cats or dogs or whatever haha]
- "Would you rather go skydiving or skinny dipping?" [this is a fun game to play, you both just keep making up random 'would you rathers' it's really funny and gets silly conversations started]
- "What if you were to die tomorrow, would you be satisfied with the life you live?" [what ifs are alwasy fun too :)]
- "What kind of music do you like?"
- "Do you like to ________ ?" [fill in the blank haha]
- "If you could, would you ever change your name?"

just get creative, it's not that hard, being random is fun :] and if they guy cant keep the conversation, guess you're just gonna haveta show him how it's done. hahaa. hope I helped, if you need anything else or want any more random questions/topics, feel free to inbox me anytimee. good luck and have fun ! xxo :]

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What's the deal with Jon & Kate Gosselin!?
I heard something was up and their marriage was ending but I never got the story or the truth. Please tell. I don't know is reliable sources and I trust Advicenators to be honest with me.

Yes, they are getting a divorce. If you watch their most recent episode of John and Kate plus 8, they announced that it is certain that they are no longer going to be together. So, it's from a direct source and the show will go on, but for now it's put on hold so that the divorce can be settled.
hope I helped ! xxo :]

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Michael Jackson died today and he was only 50 years old. It really took me by surprise, but it wasn't as if I didn't expect it sometime fairly soon. There have been rumors flying around for some time now about his health problems. As a matter of fact, when Michael was on trial, one day he was late because of health problems. Obviously, the judge didn't feel that Michael's health was all that important because he threatened to have Michael Jackson jailed unless he made an appearance in the courtroom. Michael showed up in his pajamas. Does anyone else remember that?

People made it out to seem as if he was faking. Some people even made it seem like he was crazy and would do ANYTHING as he was suddenly "extremely unpredictable" and all. I guess he wasn't kidding or faking about having health problems, huh?

I'm going to miss Michael Jackson. He was a man who set out to hurt no one, but the world seemed hell-bent upon hurting him. Michael Jackson was seriously the King of Pop in so many ways. Maybe he's better off wherever he is since we trashed his good name without even giving him a chance to speak. I choose to believe that he is now seated up in Heaven, seeing God for the first time.

Does anyone feel like me about Michael Jackson or am I alone in this? When I was growing up Michael Jackson was such a big role model. Sure, he was a little weird but he seemed to care and love. I'm really hurt that Michael Jackson is dead :( almost like a large portion of my childhood has been abandoned.

I didn't even KNOW he was sick because he
has been away from the media for so long. I didn't "grow up" with him, I'm only 16, but his music was catchy and good. I pretty much knew him from the point where he went whacky and on from there, so I can't say that I'm going to miss him, but everyone has there own opinions. It must be devestating for the jackson family, yes, and he died at a generally young age for someone to pass away at. I fond it very surprising and shocking, and sudden more than anything. Maybe when it settles in I'll be a bit more sad, but I can't say that I'm depressed about it. He was a big part of your childhood, which is why this would sadden you more than other people, like me, who never had "crushes" on him or swooned over him, yuh know? It's different in every person's case, you are perfectly normal to be feeling this way, and it'll get better, dont worry :] !
hope i helped, and good luck! xxo

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Alright well I had this friend. She was younger than me and was in a lower class. When she moved up to my grade [which was in a different school], she changed a lot and started ignoring me. She would always give me this weird look that made me think she hated me/had no idea who i was. she would hang around with different people [not to be rude, but "ghetto" people] and she ditched me on halloween and made up this stupid excuse that she cant go out [later i found out she went out with her other friends]. Well after a while it was really starting to piss me off so i asked her why she ignored me and lied to me and stuff and she said she would stop and that she had now idea what i was talking about. But she kept ignoring me. So me and her arent friends anymore. That was about a year ago. Now a new school year is starting, and i guess i kinda wanna be friends with her because she used to be a cool kid.
I dont know what i should do.
Should i forget about her,
or try to be friends with her again?
Help please?

Well, that is completley in your control and up to you. She might have been a "cool kid" at one point, but obviously, she has changed. Think about it, do you want to be friends with someone who lies to you, ignores you, ditches you, and is mean to you ? I wouldn't. She chose to leave you, and if she chooses to come back, well then, you can decide what will happen. This doesn't mean that you shouldn't be friendly with her, I say go for it ! :] But don't expect that she has changed her ways, if she even attempted to, she would have reached out to you and SINCERELY apologized to you, and PROVED it. Lying, ignoring you, leaving you.. doesn't prove it. The choice is yours, but in my opinion, you're better off without her and can find much better friends who DESERVE your great friendship :] !
good luck, hope i helped ! xxo :]

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i am tired of this life.i am a student.should i commit sucide? i dont know what to do...
nikhiladkar@yahoo.com

Everyone gets tired of things in their life, but you should never get tired OF your life. You have so much to live for, and so much more living to do. Just think about the things you'd miss out on if you commited suicide and the people who care about you would be devestated. Really, there are other alternatives. Go get professional help, like talk to a therapist or tell your parents that you think you need to talk to someone. You're not alone, many people feel this way, and many of them get help and live on to lead great lives. You were given this life to live it to its full potential, and you should do just that. Don't give up because you're tired of your life. Look, I know you're probably going through a rough time, but ending your life is not what you should do, honestly, if you are asking us here on advicenators what to do, then you really don't want to go through with it. Please don't. You can talk to me if you want to, I'd love to help you :] I mean, I can't say that I can relate to what you're going through, but I can say that I know you are strong and can work through it. Don't let anything break you, you can do this :] I promise that if you seek help and find that you want to live this life and make it a life that you love, you won't be having these suicidal toughts. Just think about it, and please, please think about it hard. You have so much to live for, don't give up now ! :]
if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, good luck ! I'm always here if you just want to talk. xxo :]

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does anyone know what that quote is where its like "you love until you stop, try until you can't, laugh until you ..." and so on...does anyone know it?

You're young until you're not
You love until you stop
You try until you can't
You laugh until you cry
You cry until you laugh
And everyone must breathe
Until their dying breath
You peer inside yourself
You take the things you like
And try to love the things you took
And then you take that love you made
Ands tick it into some
Someone else's heart
Pumping someone else's blood
And walking arm in arm
You hope it don't get harmed
But even if it does
You'll just do it all again

hope that's what you were looking for ! :] xxo good luckk

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My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost a month. We hang out almost everyday and we can never really find anything to do so we usually just watch movies either at our houses or at the theaters. It's really starting to bore us and I was wondering if anyone had some good ideas. One other thing we do is go exploring, like walking around in the woods and stuff if that helps with any ideas. I'm 17 and he's 18 by the way.

Yeah, that does get boring after a while, I know whatcha mean :] here are a bunch of ideas to spark some inspiration..

-go to a park and have fun. go for walks, maybe even have a picnik?
-go to a theme park for a day, that's always so much fun!
-take a walk around town, maybe a different town nearby you.
-go out to dinner or take in and invite some of your friends over to have like a group date :]
-you could go hiking, which is kind of like exploring.. haha.
-have a scavenger hunt or a little surprise thing with riddles or hints. for example. you both get eachother a present or something along those lines, and you put it somewhere, and give eachother hints where it is, or put things around that will lead you to where it is. [it's a good time waster and really fun and flirty] plus it's different.
-you could cook something together. maybe a cake or something. thats always fun and guys LOVE food :] hahaa. sometimes it even leads to flour fights ;]

i have a few other ideas, so if you need anymore or are interested in any more, just feel free to inbox me! xxo. have fun and good luck :] hope i helped!

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Hi there!

I have an idea for a book series, and I honestly really like it, but my agent would like me to try it out on others to see, what the reception would be like. So here it goes.

The girl Hadley, has discovered a time machine left to her by her mother (who recently died of cancer) and she decides:
In the first book: To go back to her mothers childhood and spend more time with her mother.

Second Book: Go back to a historical event that changed history to see how different the world would be..

so let me know how you like it, or if you have any suggestions. Thanks!

The historical element is the asassination of John F. Kennedy

And Hadley's mom will not know who Hadley is. She will only find out on the day of Hadley's birth

oh wow! I'm a big reader and I would TOTALLY read those books. they sound wicked cool. Seriously. and I love the name Hadley. It seems like it would be a huge emotional rollercoaster for the readers, which is good, because honestly, most of us don't want to read boring books ;] hahaa. but wow. such a great idea! I vote to do those ideas, and I hope your series gets published, I'd love to read them, so keep me posted please!
good luck, have fun, and write on ! :] xxo

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