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can't stay attracted
any time i like a guy at all, the closer we start getting to each other i automatically become unattracted to him for no reason at all. even if he is my type and there's nothing wrong with him and he's really sweet to me and he likes me a lot, i become unattracted to him the closer we get.
why does this happen and how to i stop being like this?!?!?!
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This is funny because I have the exact same problem ... I've dated a lot that I don't even want to mention it because of the number and I broke up with all of them... Because I'm so interested and then when we get close to each other, I loose interest.
I've never been in love, I've never gave anyone the opportunity so i can fall in love, I've broke all my boyfriend's hearts, and the guilt always chases me but I just can't understand why I did it. I'm always so sure that I like this guy and sometimes so sure I might be falling in love and then it goes away.
It's really unhealthy and most of my friends and family tells me to see a doctor but I just don't think it's serious because now I know how to deal with it. You see...
You're just the type that is hard to handle, no guy can handle you or your interest, and I'm not talking about you need a perfect guy, no but you need a guy that can handle someone like you or me.
And how did I know they exist? Because I found one but I left the country after that for family reasons. But at least I am sure they exist and I'm telling you that.
You can't fall in love easily and sometimes you find it difficult to even believe in love but you always want to be in love. You don't like it when guys are doing too much for you, that's when you push them away.
Sense of humor turns you on... And you like a guy to chase, when he ignores you and you chase him, but then you like him to chase him and so on...
So I found a solution, to just date without serious relationships... I've been in open relationships so many you have no idea and you can just go out on dates and have a good time with someone without officially being girlfriend/boyfriend... Because in the end you'll figure it out.
So just give yourself time...!
Good Luck =]=]
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I understand you , and must agree
that its you not him.
I relate with you in this topic alot.
sometimes you believe the guy is just too good
for you and you just dont know why and you seem to let go of it because youre confused and start
questioning yourself thus making him unatractive
because maybe your not looking for somebody so perfect, because it doesnt exist
" PERFECTION IS FLAW "
or maybe your smarter than you think and
you know theres something about "that guy"
that turns you off
well ....... somehow i know this might sound
all confusing but think about it.
- MSunbelievable
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believe it or not, i can actually relate to you. you probably dont want to hear my personal experience but ive been waiting for the perfect guy and just when i found him, i find that i dont want to fall in love with him, have that "picket fence" future, or even date him. lol. but the other night he told me something important. he told me that maybe i was afraid of getting close to him because im afraid of getting hurt. and that actually made a lot of sense. hope that helped :)
sarah catherine
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I understand how you're feeling, it happens to me too, even now, with my boyfriend. For me, it's because the closer I get, the more vulnerable I am and the more attatched I become, so I think that involuntarily, my mind tries to get me to think that i don't like him as much as i did to get me to not let my guard down. Or in your case, it could be that you just like the chase and now it's done and the real emotions come out, and that may scare you or make you freaked out so the way YOU deal with it is by becoming less interested in the guy. This is a very hard subject because there are millions of reasons why you could be doing this, but you have to figure it out for yourself. You can try to stop by tricking your mind into liking him, or looking at other guys and thinking, "im so glad i like the guy who is so sweet to me, not some random guy." Or, I suggest talking about this to HIM or maybe a really close friend of yours. many people feel like this, it just depends on the person, or the guy you like but have stopped liking, and if none of this works, you have to find a person that will keep you interested, yuh know ? sometimes it's all about finding yourself and figuring out .. life. :]
hope I helped, good luck and don't worry, you'll figure it all out soon enough. feel free to inbox me if you need anything else ! xxo :]
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