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16/f. Well my boyfriend and I have gone out for about 7 months, and we were good friends before that, and we have a wonderful relationship. We started fooling around about a month ago, but we're not going to have sex, at least not for a long time because we're not ready. I discussed this with him and (separately) with my mom, because I told her I'd always tell her if I was becoming more intimate in a relationship, and she was fine with it. Well, the other night my boyfriend dropped me off at my house and we were both extremely tired and we fell asleep on my bed, we didn't do anything at all. And my parents came home and flipped out, called his parents, now he's not allowed to see me for a very long time, etc...
And my mom says she doesn't trust me and she thinks we've been having sex. She fully knows my views on this and both my boyfriend and I are very ambitious academically and would not do anything that might jeopardize our education or futures. But there is mutual trust and understanding in this relationship, and I thought there was between my mom and I, and I'm very confused. Does anyone have any advice?
Sorry this is so long. Thanks.

It sounds to me your mom and you really have a special bond.For you to be able to tell her your becoming more sexually active and for her to say "ok" is a big thing! *to me anywaay*
i think your mom will come around..you have to admit it doesnt look so good to find you guys asleep with each other lol.
explain to her "mom, i told you i would let you know when im going to have sex. why would i talk to you about all the other things and not sex? we have trust in each other right?" try that..let me know how it goes

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I know that when in a relationship 'Trust' is the key element. Well, I trust my boyfriend with everything I am, but that's not the problem. I know that he thinks other girls are pretty and that he looks at other girls like that upsets me. I know, I know. I probably sound really immature, but I know that ever since I've been dating him I don't really look at guys that way anymore because I don't need to look- I have him. I haven't got upset over this, but I can't help but think he's checking girls out while he out with me. Any advice?

You,me, and lottts of other girls feel the same way!
Advice i can give you is this :
hes with you! there will always be a prettier girl out there to flock to..but theres not another you! your something special to him obviously because you two are going out.

i know its hard sometimes..but keep that in your head
-melissa-

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Okay, i like this guy and ive liked him ever since i met him. well, i liked him last year and he found out. He was all like i like you as a friend. Okay, well i like him still and hes in the grade above me and like were friends and stuff. I kind of have a deadline before the school play ends (jan. 22) to get him to like me, how do i make him like me more than "just a friend"?

Dont do anything but be yourself. The only thing i can suggest is just get to know him more..spend time with him..that kind of stuff. Dont lose hope! i liked one of my guy friends ..he didnt see me that way for awhile and now we are going out! so..you know, dont lose hope. just make sure you dont act fake
FAKE IS NOT THE WAY TO GO

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Hey all... i'm 17/f and usually i'm one to dish out advice but in this case i dont know what to do! I met this boy this summer, who lives on Coronado Naval Base in San Diego, and hes going on criuse for the next 9 months. We used to say up until like 3am every day talking to eachother telling each other how much we like each other, and text message all the time, and now that hes leaving i just dont know what to do. Should i forget about him or try and keep in touch with him, and see if we still feel for each other when he comes back? I would appreciate any help because holding myself together when i talk to him, is getting kind of hard because i know he is leaveing so soon. Any advice would be so helpful. thanks :)

alright..9 months is a really long time! i mean who knows what will happen in this time period. your a senior in high school im assuming? its your senior year! if you find someone new, go with the new person. i know its sad..but people move on and long distance is very hard to keep up with. keep in contact with him as friends,but i wouldnt turn down other dating opportunities ..if its meant to be you will end up together remeember that. im not saying it will never work..the future is uncertain. Who knows, when he comes back you two might end up together..keep an open mind.
-meliss

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mah friend used to like this kid named billy, she liked him forever but he never liked her back. Now she has a boyfriend and I like billy. She doesnt know, and she still likes billy also. I think that she cant have her cake and eat it too.. since she has a boy friend she should get over billy. what should i do? billy said that he likes me and might wanna go out with me, should i go out with him and for get about mah friend or what?

please i rate well!
Jackie

"she cant have her cake and eat it too"

^ i definately agree with you...man i know how you feel...girls thinking they can take up 2 parking spots!

well anyway, i think you should go for him because she does have a boyfriend! it would be a little different if she didnt have a bf..if she was single i would talk to her about it first..being that shes with a guy, i would go out with him.

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alright so me and my boyfriend have been together for a month. but we don't tend to talk a lot wich kind of upsets me,i was thinking on ending the realtion ship but i truly do like him a lot. we went out once over the summer for quite a period of time but broke up over a silly reason. but now were together again and i don't want it to get messed up again.how could i talk to him about this?

Try this...make plans to hang out with him. Maybe like one on one time..or in a group..your choice. I suggest something like the movies or a quiet night just cuddling up watching tv. I think if you make more of an effort to hang out..you will naturally talk you know? because maybe the problem is you dont hang out enough. maybe go to one of those online websites where they have surveys about facts to fill out about yourself..and ask him the questions on there and talk about the story behind it, you know?

so if you try this and things still arent working..express your concern to him about how you dont talk enough and suggest getting to know each other better..asking each otherr a million random questions.

-meliss

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I am dating this guy. Totally opposite from what I have ever dated and completely different from me. Although I hate to say this but I am a "preppy" girl... according to this guys friend. And he is NO WHERE near from being a guy who likes preppy girls. Apparently I am one lucky girl. I really like him and everything.. I mean I not thinking about breaking up with him. but before we started dating I had a thing for a guy that is a Soph (I am a freshman and my boyfriend is a Jr.) I mean I REALLY REALLY liked him. I learned he liked me too and was gonna ask me out. I was excited and everything.. but nothing ever happend... so I gave up on him. Then I began to like my boyfriend. A week later he asked me out. 3 days later I found out that the guy I really really cared for did like me and he was gonna ask me out the night that he grabbed my hand 2weeks before but he didn't know what my older brother (also a Jr.) would say. So he didn't! I was like Oh,Great that is nice to know NOW! Then 2 weeks after me and my boyfriend started dating I learned another guy liked me and was gonna ask me out.. (that is just more info not really important though cuz he is something I WOULD NEVER DATE! He's a PERVERT bad! which sux on Friday's because I am a cheerleader and we are still in playoffs) Well for my question.. I don't know if I am completely over the Soph. but I think I am but I am not for sure. How can I know for sure that I am? because I really really want to be because I really care for the guy I am with now.

You will just know..you will look foward to seeing your bf..hanging out, being close..just thinjk..yeah probably if this other guy got his act together and asked you out before the current guy your with...lets face it you would be with him..but now your with another guy and this other guy *the one your not sure if your over*...well he kind of missed his chance..didnt get to asking you out. I say just leave hiim in the past and enjoy building something with your current bf.
you will just know your over the other guy..little things like cant wait to see him..hang out with him..you will be thinking about him..that kind of stuff
hope this helped!

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I don't know what my problem is. I talk to other guys constantly, and hang out with other guys alot. I'm around hott guys every day. Everytime I start to either talk to a guy, like a guy, or kiss a guy..I think about my ex-boyfriend (we broke up a few weeks ago). And it's like I want to call him right that second. Just to see what he's doing, or where he is. Why is this? When will this change? And when will I stop thinking about him when I kiss other guys? Is this normal to think about people while in the process of getting over them? sorry for so many questions at once. But can you please try and answer them all.

Why is this? because it takes time for people to get over someone...when will it change? - only time will tell sweetie.there is no fixed time..everyone is different. you will stop thinking about him when your about to kiss another guy as you get over this guy you keep thinkin bout. its very normal to think about them as your trying to get over them..i know how it feels to be thinkin about someone and wanting to talk to them..see what they are doing..
it will take time..and soon there will be a new guy in your life who you will be thinking about instead :) :) you know... ;)
-meliss

hope i helped!

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I am a sophmore in highschool and I have been thinking about careers for my future. There has been one thing that I have been interested in for a while now. I want to become a sex therapist to cousil couples about their sex lives.. Sort of like Dr. Ruth? (Short little lady that talks about sex alot). The thing is.. I'm not sure how to approach my parents about it, because they would probably think it's a horrible career choice and wouldn't agree with what I'd be doing with my life. In my personal opinion I think it's admirable career.

So, I have a few questions here. One would be how should I approach my parents about this subject? The other is what colleges would actually have that course? Or is it made up of multiple courses?


If you have any helpful websites about schools and programs that would be great too.. Thanks if you can help!

unfortunately im not that knowledgable on the college part of your question..but i can help you out with how to tell your parents. Well i agree it will be awkward and whatnot..so if i were you i wouldnt tell them just yet. your only a sophmore. if they ask you what you want to be..reply with "some kind of counselor or therapist. when the time comes..like into 11th grade ..around there..and if you still have the same dream, then sharee it with them. tthey will respect your choice *they should anyway.* look at it this way, its your life..your career..it will pay good..tell them you want a job you will enjoy and really want..and this is your dream job. by the way...excellent job..its something im even thiking about !
if you decide to them now, shoot for it! and keep me posted :)

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I have gym and I am 13 and dont know who to ask, anyway gym class you know how girls go through theire monthly surprise and I dont know what to do! and i cant miss a class or I have to make it up and do like 40 laps alone!

hey it shouldnt be a problem hun. I guess just change your pad/tampon if you need before gym class..bring some spray..wear comfy clothes and do what you gota do. the other girls who got their periods already are going through the same exact thing dont worry.

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Hey what if someone wanted to have sex and u didnt want to and they layed you on his bed should you have sex of call for help?

you definately dont let it just happen! that would be rape! you should tell him NO no no and try to get away. if hes forceful..you call for help

you gota use common sense hun..you dont let someone rape you..any unwanted contact like that when u say stop is wrong

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alright yesterday i was at this park with a bunch of my friends and this kid that i started to like started flirting with me and i was freezing so he was like.. come down here we can cuddle and keep each other warm im like alright so i moved down and he put his jacket on me and was rubbing my tummy and stuff and then he started going up my shirt im like alright oh well nothing big really and then they had to leave and so did i so when we were walking up the path thing to get to the road he stopped me turned me around and started kissing me yeah sounds cute and shit i know i thought so too and then im friends with the kid that is living in his house now and was talking to him on the phone and stuff and then he was telling me how the kid was saying he didnt know if he liked me and that if he stuck with this other chick that was at a party we were at early he probably would've gotten more shit from her and then this morning i talked to that kid thats living with him again and he said that the other kid wouldnt wanna hang out with that other girl and stuff and would wanna hang out with me and i was like well .. then why did he say that last night hes like i dont know he was being stupid he doesnt wanna show his feelings or whatever and now i dont know what to believe.. please help .

x3 brooke

sorry soo long

this guy only wants to do sexual things with you. wait for the guy who likes you..will go at your pace and have no problem with it ..even if hes ready for more. wait for the guy who will respect you and appreciate you. good things come to those who wait for it
-meliss

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Okay, im only 14 and i wanna have a baby SO bad. My parents dont really love me((ive been told)) so i think this would help me alot. i've babysat for YEARS and LOVE children. I wanna feel loved when i come home and a baby would do that, and i think teen moms are closer to their kids. I plan on gettin pregnant in 10th or 11th grade.Am i making a mistake by wanting to do this.

you most definately are. i can tell you will be a wonderful mother, but not in 10th or 11th grade! its important to get a good education so you have a good job with good support so you can raise your family. wouldnt you want the best for your children? having a baby so young is NOT the answer. You wont be able to get an education, enjoy some of the greatest years of your life, and the father probably wont be around your whole life. dont you want to have a happy family? no divorces or being a single mom. being a mother is a hugee job! it takes a lot of time and money. 10th and 11th grade is NOT the time to have children. focus on having great years in high school and college..and when you find the right man , then think about having a family if its a serious enough relationship where marriage is being considered
-melissa-

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well, my best friend is a guy. here's the deal. you see, i liked him for a while and he knew it. so he kind of led me on because he knows me well enough that i'm willing to do anything for love. (yes, i'm very dumb...) he also has a girlfriend and for a long time, he tried to make her jealous by also hanging out with me. of course, i found out everything that he was doing (a little late). and i was really mad at myself for letting him do that because all he was doing was using me to get her to want him. so now they're madly in love and i've moved on. i even put in my two weeks notice at my job because they both work there. but here's the problem...lately, i've been getting along better with my other guy friends and he has a problem with it. he keeps telling me he doesn't care and it's my life, not his, but i can tell it bothers him. what should i do? it's like he uses me as a back-up "girlfriend" just in case he loses her. what do i do?

definately move on..be strong. i mean this guy is using you! and he has this gf he "loves" but is mad at you for talking to other guys? this guy wants to have it so your obsessed with him..even though he isnt going to be with you.
move on and dont look back

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my best friends boyfriend likes me what should i do ?

you definately tell your best friend!! shes your best friend..yuo dont want to see her hurt..so if he likes you..you need to tell her so she can deal wiith that. i bet if your bf liked her, you would want to know.
good luck

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ok, there's this guy that I really like...he's in one of my classes and we're pretty good friends. I think he knows that i like him, but it seems like he likes me too...i'm not exactly sure though. When i come in class, he always meets me at my desk and we talk...then we talk at lunch and we talk about personal things too...but he does the same thing with other girls to! I'm getting total mixed signals!! does he like me or not?!

Yeah its a possibility..but maybe hes just a nice guy with a lot of female friends. What im saying is dont get your hopes up soo high..but dont doubt that he likes you...because he could. Get a friend to ask about you..or if your more of a 'do it yourself' person..ask him how he feels about you being more than just friends. Keep this in mind..you just wont know if you dont do anything about it..so I would gather up the courage and find out.,who knows..it could turn into a great relationship :)

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I have a boyfriend that I've been datinf for four months. I most certainly am not getting tired of him in any way, shape, or form, but I am getting upset with him a lot easier.
(IE: He went over to this girl's house to watch a movie. I didn't like that at all because it was just her and him.
He wasn't able to do something today like he said he was able to. He kinda ditched me, again.)
So, yeah, I've been getting upset really easy with him and it's taking a lot longer to get over things. Is this just a phase? How will I get over this phase? He's wonderful and I don't want to lose him, but I know if I keep this up he'll realize how sucky he has it. I want to change this before he gives up on me.

OK I can understand where your jealousy is coming from, its normal..but you two have a good relationship right? *(ex)..you not fighting all the time and stuff* In my group of friends we are all really tight so if one of my friends was over my bf's house just him and her, it would be all good you know? of course i would be wishing to be there with him lol..but what im saying is time apart is good..and trust is very important. So if hes with a girl ..go make plans to hang out with someone...if its just some girl that hes hangin with..and shes not apart of a tight group of friends..i would probably be a lil more..shaky on things. so if thats the case..talk to him and stuff. Talking and communication is the only way to fix stuff..keeping it inside wont make things go away ..remember that
hope i helped!
-meliss

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Ok I have really really thin lips. Like my ring finger covers my lips if I put it on them. I've never actually kissed a boy before except in a truth or dare game and that was just a quick peck, so I'm not that experienced. The boy that I'm getting close to now has really big lips, maybe the size of your middle+index finger put together. I really want to kiss him but I'm self-consious about how small my lips are. Does anybody have any tips on what I should do?
*remember...ring finger+index & middle finger=???
thanx...
i rate high....

hey it doesnt matter! i bet he feels a little weird that his lips are so much bigger. dont sweat it though..it will all be just fine. My advice is to not stress over it..enjoy the moment..dont stress over something so minor
-meliss

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I get mad when people just annoys me at school. They think I'm doing something that I'm not and I hate how they embarass me. I think that they are being racist to me. I'm a senior in highschool. I don't even have anyone to hang out with there they all just rejects me. they think I copy them or trying to be in their group that I don't like.And they also make a point that they are just so perfect and they act well and I'm not. People that I don't even know also avoids me when I'm not even going up to them to talk or whatever. I can't take it anymore. What do I do?

wow your school sounds pretty messed up. I would forget about making any friends in school for now..how about llooking for friends who go to a different school but still lives locally ? like 10 minutes away or somethin. You never know when and where a great friend will pop up in your life. So my advice is to forget the losers who are mean to you..trust me after high school they will be nothing! if they are going to be mean and stuff, how will they get anywhere in the world? so dont dwell on them, they are losers. I bet theres got to be one person in your school who will be your friend..stay optimistic is the best advice i can give you :)

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Okay I'm 13/f and I have liked this one guy scince last year. Me and my one friend talked to him about it. He said that I'm prude and weird to my friend and when I asked him about it he said that He loves me and never would say that. Then he asked if I could give him a hand Job. At first I said sure but I didn't really feel like doing it becuase I was neruves. After that he asked my friend if I would let him eat me out and let him finger me. Then my friend asked me if I would and I said I dunno and she told him IDK[I odn't know] and then he asked if I would give him head[blow job]. I wanna do this stuff to him. Like I've fingured my self before and like I want him to do it. I'm just kinda worried. Would he like it shaved. Would he like me after. Should I do it?
13/f

Your young, so its understandable that you dont understand this yet : THE GUY WILL NOT LIKE YOU AFTER DOING THOSE ACTIVITIES WITH YOU. Just because you hookup and do that stuff (which is major stuff) does not mean he will like you! Sooo sooo many girls make that mistake ..they have sex or go really far with a guy , hoping afterwards he will like her. Sweety im sorry but thats not how it works. The guy wants to do things with you ..and it doesnt sound like it means anything to him at all...all it is ..is pleasure. Dont make the mistake..please listen to what me and everyone else is saying. Save all that stuff for when your a little older and find someone you really care about, trust, can talk to..
-melissa-

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