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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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I found out that someone that my brother knows smokes ciggarettes and i think im just going to stay out of it but i want a second opinion!

I suggest you do stay out of it. If the person comes to talk to you about it, then give your opinion to the person. Like, how smoking is awful and people die from it.Hope I helped!
~Brina~

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im 14and 2 months old and im a guy but i still havent had puberty is that ok or should i be worried i really need help and if someone would no what would be the normal penis size for a 14 year old that hasnt had puberty and does your penis get bigger during puberty

That is normal that a guy hasn't gone through puberty yet. Some people, boys and girls both can start puberty at older ages. About the Penis size, didnt know much about it since i'm a girl so i looked it up, usually your penis size stays about the same, it can get bigger but not much. It does change from birth to 14 years obvioussly lol. haha. Well, you'll probably start puberty soon... hopefully... And if you dont it is still normal, unless your 25 and you havent yet lolol. Good Luck I guess with your Pubertyness..... hope i helped!
~Brina~

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Can someone explain to me what Tapas is?

Well, there are a few definitions:

sobering up, penance, austerity, voluntary suffering to vanquish impurities and to achieve the higher.

Tapas means devoting oneself single mindedly to spiritual practice and it is often translated as spiritual austerity or penance. When Shri Swamiji uses the term tapas, he usually refers to meditation in samadhi for at least twelve hours every day. He explains that such tapas is necessary if one wishes to attain God realization.

"Heat" or "fire." Denotes religious austerity, intense meditation, penance, bodily mortification or special observances. Connotes spiritual purification and transformation as a "fiery process" which "burns up" impurities, ego, illusions and past karmas that obstruct God-Realization.

Spanish appetizers that can also form an entire meal when many are ordered together. Tapas dishes are generally quite small and can be both simple (fresh olives served with cubes of ham) or elaborate (snails in a spicy sauce). When ordering tapas, it is best to combine a number of dishes together and allow everyone in your party to sample each dish.

Tapas are essentially snacks. In many regions of Spain they are often included in the price of drinks (beer, wine, not spirits) served in bars. In this case, they amount to as little as a few olives, a piece of cheese, etc. Bigger portions that are ordered to make up a meal are also called tapas. It is customary to share them. In lieu of dinner many Spaniards go out for tapas, the equivalent of "bar hopping" but instead eating tapas and having a copa at each bar.



Hope I helped! Well, hope the website i found helped lol.
~Brina~

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15.f-
ive never made out or kissed a guy or anything. im not prude, ive just never really been in that situation. people tell me all the time that im pretty, i was a model, i am not a bitch, and i dont understand why guys dont like me or anything. it just seems like everytime i meet a guy i dont have a chance to do anything. i met a guy on vacation that i really liked and he liked me, but i met him on the last night i was there. stuff like that always happens and guys at my school dont ask girls out because theyre all idiots. i go to a private school and theres like 100 people in my grade. 300 people in the high school. i dont really hang out with my school friends over the summer. how can i meet guys??? this is seriously pathetic and dont tell me that i just have to wait for the "right" guy. im sick of waiting and i dont want to be a sophomore in highschool without ever even kissing a guy...helpp

Hey, i know some tips that i can give you that i saw in a magazine...
How to start conversation in an appropriate way?
It's really very simple. Just go strike up a conversation with him. You probably know something that the two of you already have in common, so go talk to her about that.

That is assuming you two already know each other a little and aren't complete strangers.

If you are, then I would suggest a simple introduction at first.

Then you can follow that up with a few casual flirt smiles; and then go strike up that conversion. Simply put, the worst thing that can happen in the first place.

On the other hand, the best that can happen...

Well, that's an entirely different subject...

So in other words, you've got nothing to loose and everything to gain. So just go for it.

When talking to him, don't worry about making any kind of impression. Don't try to think of what you'll say before you say it. Just be you 100% and if that’s what he likes, then you'll get that date.


Steps to staring a conversation from the ground: top

First,

1. Take the initiative.

For instance, don't wait for someone to start talking to you, introduce yourself.

People are usually relieved when you take the initiative. In those rare cases when they are not pleased, you know you did your best to be friendly, so the problem must be with them.

Either way, you avoid feeling shy because you are doing something, and focusing on something outside yourself.

2. Second, focus on the situation around you

You have to give up worrying about what impression you are making. You will create a much better impression by being engaged than by saying something clever. If you have to start talking on a new topic, talk about something about the immediate situation.

Try to make it positive.

If you speak in negative terms, people you do not know will tend to worry that you will be talking negatively about them next.


2. Here are some good ideas "how" to start:
- Ask for activities (such as dancing or roller coaster rides) where you'll have mandatory physical contact (in a natural way, without having to think about it first)

- Start with momentary incidental contact, like a touch on the shoulder or arm.

- Start with easy things. That doesn't mean too much for you, so you'll communicate easier.



What if you don't know him?
Well you'll have to rely on some romantic ingenuity to throw some signals his way. Whatever you do, DON'T do a "secret admirer" act. Maybe the first time, ok. But if he's not interested and you carry it on too long, you'll be disappointed.


Each person has a different way of interpreting things.

Well basically there are the two options:

1) Not to do anything, OR

2) Be initiative - in which case there is the danger of rejection.


Hope I helped!

~Brina~

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first of all i rate high. also i no i always ask the same question but i never get a good enough answer. no makeup suggustions please. ok so the thing is that i have a big nose brown eyes a long face light brown hair a tan and a really really small upper lip. i always keep my hair down. but my question is how do i make my lip look bigger nose smaller hair better face prettier. thanx and i rate HIGH

The only way for all of that is to get a nose job, lip job and hair transplant, which your not old enough to get. Sometimes you cant always fix everything about yourself. Sounds to me like your self conscience. And if you dont like that answer oh well, tis the truth.I usually am not mean on here and i wasnt trying to be on your answer but that really is the only way without makeup. Hope i helped.
~Brina~

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I have the first symptoms of an eating disorder (yes this can be in Mental Health, it's a mental problem not a physical problem) and I'm really worried

I might sound crazy right now but there's this constant battle in my head. One part of me is saying not to do it that I should go and eat and the other is saying no! don't eat it's not worth getting fat.

I have no one I could talk to and except for parents and they would go crazy.
Ughh It's driving me crazy! I don't want to go and eat for then to realise I shouldn't have done and then go and binge and bring it all back up. Please help me.

I know how it is with battling things in your head, its actually just thinking things through its not having battles, you know? I am uncomfortable with my weight and i have thought about trying a eating disorder but i realized that there are so many other ways to stay healthy and loose weight in a healthy way and not with an eating disorder. It's great that your trying to stop this. It really is soemthing that should be stopped because the side affects of it are really bad:

Weight Loss-Often in a short period of time. At least 15% of original weight
Cessation of menstruation
Paleness
Complaints of feeling cold / low body temperature
Dizziness and fainting spells / low blood pressure
Bone mineral loss, leading to osteoporosis
Irregular heart beat which can lead to cardiac arrest
Loss of muscle and body fat
Hair Loss
Dry skin
Behavioral


Restricted eating, sever diets, fasting, â??vegetarianismâ??
Odd food rituals, food combinations
Avoidance of social situations where food may be present
Compulsive exercise
Dressing in layers to hide weight loss, or keep warm
Bingeing (may be secretive or infrequent)
Distortion of body image (seeing self as fat even when emaciated)
Intense Fear of becoming fat, regardless of low weight
Use of laxatives, enemas, or diuretics
Interest in cooking and feeding others
Attitude Shifts


Mood shifts / depression / anxiety
Perfectionistic attitude
Insecurities about capabilities regardless of actual performance
Self-worth is determined by food intake
Social isolation



Those are all side affects of Binge Annorexia and Bulimia.

You should just forget whats going on hin your head and just choose to eat. Just, eat healthy, become a vegitarian! Start doing things to keep your mind off of eating, but still eat breakfast lunch and dinner, well usually i dont eat breakfast but it's actually healthy to. Start working out! That will keep your mind off of it, and you'll feel good after you run a treadmill or lift some weights. If you eat healthy and exercise daily i'm sure you could loose probably at least 30 pounds in 3 months. But! If you are like 90 pounds, then you might not want to do that lol, maybe just work out a lot but still eat healthy.

Do people make fun of your body and thats why you want to stop eating at times? People used to make fun of me and i got so mad. But i sucked it up and told them to go screw themselves. I'm just trying to find out from you where it all started...

And, How old are you? A healthy weight coudl be from 90- 130 pounds for a 13- 19 year old girl. Usually its higher from 16-19 year olds.


If you ever need someone to talk to you can always talk to me.

Just remember that there are always teen hotlines and guidence counselors in your school and if no guidence counselors in your school you could go talk to one from a different school, and they will help you best they can.

I really hope I helped and if you ever EVER Need anything just IM me on BreenzyWeenzy7
Good Luck.
~Brina~

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ive been goin out with this lad 4 nearly 3 years on and off n we split up bout 2 months ago and he got a new gf so i found some1 i liked i started havin sex with him n he asked me ut n i said yes but then my x asked finished with his gf n asked me bk out n i said yes so im goin out with both of them i love the 1 that ive been with for nearly 3 years but i think im fallin 4 the other aswell help me plz

Well, i would stay with the one your "falling for" because you had sex with him. It's not a good relationship when you brake up on and off for 3 years! Even though you probably dont want to hear this, its time to move on hun, your old boyfriend either wants to be with you or doesnt. Its not good when you brake up and go back out with the same guy. Go for the new guy in my opinion. You better brake up with the old one or new one soon, whichever you pick because tbat would be cheating on them if you do go out with both. How old are you? You had sex with the new guy before he even asked you out???? And about the old bf, i think that your just confused with him, so go with the new one.. Good Luck. Hope I helped. Srry if you didnt like my answer....
~Brina~

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Online I was talking to a close friend of mine about guys. He said theres alot of guys who would like to date me except they see me more of a friend than someone to go out with. I drop hints to the guys I like but they just dont get it it since their clueless lol. What could I do to make myself seem datable but not act like a slut at the same time? thanks , I'll rate.

Yea, your right, acting like a slut is no way to get a guys attention. Just, start flirting with them. Tell a guy that you think there hott or something. Ya know? My best friend is having that problem, she's like one of the guys and is friends with them, but she likes one of them and wants him to realize that... Hope I helped.Good Luck.
~Brina~

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Where do you get backgrounds for your advice column!!?!?

You go to column settings and then scroll down to "Your column Colors" and there is a link http://www.advicenators.com/backgrounds.php
It's a clickable link, then the rest is pretty self explanitory. Good Luck!Hope I helped. If you dont know how to get the background onto your site, feel free to ask!
~Brina~

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I know a girl, who i played soccer with and who was in 1st period with all year during school, and it seems like we have a lot in common. The only problem is that she is a senior, and i am a freshman. I've always been nice to her, being that she is an upperclassman, and she has always been nice to me. I think we could be really good friends, but i feel like something is holding both of us back. Could it be because of the age difference? If anyone wants to know more to answer the question better, comment me back.

Hmm, it could deffinitly be an age difference or it could be that neither of you had suggested being friends. Ask to hang out with her sometime. It's cool to have older friends. And its good to make new friends no matter the age. Good Luck. Hope I Helped!
~Brina~

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hey..well on IM all of a sudden this guy told me he loved me but the only thing he knew about me was my name and i told him he didn't but he saying he does..but i don't believe him should i?

Hm. Are you asking if he was lieing about who he was or if he loved you....? He might know more about you then you think he does. Do you even know who this guy is? My advice is find out more bout this guy and see if he is lieing or whatev. Hope I helped.
~Brina~

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My sister asked me to ask the following question since she is too young to go on this site...
My sister got a gerbial(YUCK!) but anyways.. she doesnt know what to name it! Its a brownish/tan Male.
Could someone give us some idea's for my sisters pet???


-Luv-
Meg


P.S. Please no websites.

Hmmm.What about Albert. Or, cinnamin, Gerber
{ for Gerbial lol} . Hope I helped.
~Brina~

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ok there is this really good and i dont know how it is by or what it is called because i usually dont listen to that kinda music but the words go:

you wanna know more more more about me
im the girl whos kicking the coke machiane
im the ones thats honking at you 'cause i left late agian
hey hey hey
could you see i want you by the way i push you away
yea
dont judge me tomorrow sumthing sumthing really fast

hey hey get tangled up in me


if you need more of the song just tell me!!

Sure i know who that is! Took me a while to find it but lol... its by Skye Sweetnam and the song is called "Tangled up In Me". Took me a while to find it so please rate me high lol.
~Brina~

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Does anyone know of any quote/poem sites?

Sure I know Tuns!

http://www.lovepoemsandquotes.com/
^All different types of quotes and poems^


http://www.links2love.com/love_quotes.htm
^More of Romantic Quotes and Poems lol ^


http://www.friendship-poems.com/
^Friendship poems and quotes^

http://lovequote.com/love-poems-quotes/love-poems-quotes.php
^Famous Quotes and Poems^


Hope I helped!!!!
~Brina~

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Ok my name is Shannon, Im 15yrs old and im inlove with a boy named Steven see he lives away from me moved last yr to another place but I met this cool new kid thing is he is only 12 but he is turning um 13 july 31st he is really mature for his age first time I met him like I thought he was my age cause he was same height and acted mature and everything. And like I really love my x I realllly do but the thing is I hate like doing that cause I love him but at the same time I wanna be happy and not miserable? What should I do like I dont wanna hear something like well you love em you dont wanna hurt em I hear that to much and like I dont wanna hear stuff thats just I dont kno I really am gettin to like this kid I met but is it wrong or right for me to do that go out with a 13yr old sad thing is my brother is 12 lol its kinda embarresing, what should I do ? Help!

-ShannOn-

It's not bad at all to like a guy thats younger! I kinda got confused when you said i really love my x i really do.... is the guy that lives away your ex boyfriend or current boyfriend. If he is your current boyfriend its alright to brake up with him even if you are in love. You like meeting different types of guys of age. I think it would be a great exspirience to date this younger dude. First find out if he likes you, if so then you could consider braking up with your current boyfriend ONLY IF YOU WANT TO! No one can tell you what to do. If the younger dude doesnt like you, you might re-think things over and decide to stay with the guy that lives away.I know what you mean how it's odd to like a guy your brothers age, even though thats never happened, but i know where your coming from because i liked a younger dude, i'm now 14 and i liked a guy that was like 12. Well, i hope my answer helped, and i hope everything works out well for you. Good Luck Hun! Which ever conclusion you decide i'm sure you will be happy with.
~Brina~

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So I have the worst stomache in the history of man. Now, thinking back to elementary school, the Nurse always recommended a saltine cracker or two. QUESTION IS: WHY was that? Was is something SPECIFIC about the CRACKER? And is there any other food the average household stocks that can beat this intense pain? I will be soo thankful of helpful answers - this pain is sooo bad it could ultimately take my life. =/ gr.

Yea, the nurse gives crackers to kids because they might be hungry and thats why there stomach hurts.lol. Well, you didnt specify if you were a girl or guy but if your a girl it could be your period... Pretzels might help you stomach ache. I always have chicken noodle soup if my stomach hurts. Or, any other type of soup... I hope you feel better! If you dont then you should deffinitly go to the doctor. Good Luck.
~Brina~

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ok, so i have been with m bf, for a month now, but ive know him for like ever, (not forever) but, everything is wonderful, but it seems like i have a feeling and i don't know what it is..its been going on for like 2 weeks, and my friends seem so worried about me, I don't know what to do...

I rate high

Well, is it a good feeling or a bad feeling. If its a good feeling it could be because your so happy you found a great guy and that its going so well. The bad feeling could be that your having second thoughts about him. Do you know why your friends seem worried? Could it be possible if he did or is doing something bad? Maybe your friends being worried for you is why you have that feeling. Good Luck.
~Brina~

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ok i don't know why i feel so angry my x b f who was very rich had a party! Something my friend called a health party i personally think he had it to show off. I am really angry because he never invited me i really don't know why i am angry!! I think its because he once told me i was his bestfriend.He invited my friend because he goes to her school and i heard he invited 4 boys who are also rich and my friend said the 4 boys don't like him.Am i correct to feel angry i now think i hate him because i was always there for him and he was never there for me.What shall i do now?

Some guys can be but holes sometimes. But, Maybe he thought that you wouldnt want to go if he invited you since you two broke up. He probably invited the 4 boys because he wanted them to like him. You have every right to be mad about not being invited. Hate is such a strong word to use against someone, how about more like you dislike him very much. Dont worry about it, if he isnt a good friend towards you then dont be a friend to him. He'll regret not having you as a friend and will most likely ask you to be his friend again. If he treats you rude and not inviting you places then thats just immature and stupid.Hope I Helped! Good Luck.
~Brina~

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i want to go on a diet. every is like "no you are so skinny!" which is true, but i want to stay skinny! im not trying to loose weight, im trying to maintain it! so please help me out on ways to do that!

NO NO NO. Going on a diet is not the way to stay skinny. To stay skinny you just need to keep on eating healthy. Going on a diet will make you skinnier. Start exercising at least 40-60 minutes a day. You just have to keep in shape and you'll maintain your weight.Good Luck. Hope i helped.
~Brina~

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i had this best friend named ryley when i was about 5 years old years old!! we lived next door to me and we did EVERYTHING together!but then when i was 8 he moved and i never saw him again and now i am really starting to miss him. My boyfriend goes to his church and a few weeks ago he said his best friend ryley from church asked if he knew me!he said yes and ryley told him we used to be best friends!now i really want to call him since i know now that he remembers me! but i dont know what i would say!i sure did change alot from when i was 8 til now im 14.i dont even know if he cares or wants to talk to me..what should i do?

Deffinitly call him! You will most likely regret it if you dont. Just say hello and say that its you and that you want to hang out. He probably changed a lot too but i'm sure he'll be happy to see his past time buddy. Good Luck!
~Brina~

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