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hi im 16 f and hes 14 m. the other week we only just started talking (on msn) and we got very close and he seemed very caring and loving towards me, he then asked me out and i said yes..he lives close by and we get along very well but my only question is...does it matter whether hes 2 years younger than me?

No. If you guys love each other and want to keep pursuing a relationship, go ahead. Don't listen to what other people think. You're the one going out with him.

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♥ SiMA

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are gas prices so HIGH? someone please explain that to me. I just saw the news and he said $5.00 a gallon coming soon! what in the world are we coming to?

Mainly because of the OPEC [Organization of Petroleum Exporting Countries]. And because of the strong demands for oil in Asia.

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What does masterbating means ? I don`t think I spelt it right.

Google it. Type 'define: masturbation' and you'll get your definitions.

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any good books you would like to suggest on about dealing with drugs and like teenage life and what a teenager goes through? like go ask alice, a million little pieces and stuff like that

I read this really good book called 'Harley' about a year ago. If you look for it at your library, it should be in a purple and neon green colored cover. It's about a girl named Harley who has a really tough life and is trying to find her father. She gets into drugs and starts smoking weed after she meets this stoner-type of guy named Evan. It's a really good book.

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♥ SiMA

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Where can i buy iron on clothing labels? (So my child does not loose any clothes while she is at summer camp.) thank you

Try looking at craft stores like Joanne's or Michael's. Or, you can try looking in the crafts section at Walmart.

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Alright, so i have extremely dry skin,and i also have acne prone skin. I have been trying different moisterizers out forever. And honestly, i am sick of it cuz i have not been able to find one that works. They ALL seem so greasy and shiney afterwards, and if they arent, then i have dry skin after i put them on. I already know what to look for Oil free. and all that. My skin is retarded

I need help!!

thank you

I've found that Olay's moisturizers work really well. Try Olay Complete Defense SPF 30 Daily UV Moisturizer. It's about 13 bucks. Olay products tend to be a little more expensive than regular facial products. Moisturizers with sunblock are great for your skin, especially since its summer time, and you're out and about all of the time, so it protects your skin while moisturizing it.

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♥ SiMA

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okay, well i made a DIV layout, well, a few. does anyone know an easy way to code it, or would anyone be willing to code it for me? i would really appreciate any kind of help!

This site gives you a few premade codes to try.

http://inobscuro.com/tutorials/read/29/

All hail Google. If that's not what you're looking for, look for more sites on Google.

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♥ SiMA

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God, I have a real problem. When I first came to Jr. High last year I was myself 100%. I didn't give a care what people thought about me, or who my friends were. Then in the middle I started changing my looks and the way I talked, and I found myself ditching my old friends (who were kind of geeky) to be friends with newer and more popular ones. And it worked! Some of the popular people hang out with me now. But I feel really bad now. Now that im friends w/ the popular kids, I feel like I dont even need my old friends. I even LIKE my new friends more than my old ones. So tell me... am I a total selfesh jerk for ditching my friends? And am I weird for changing myself?

Hun, your popular friends have just found out about you. What happened before when you were still with your self-proclaimed 'geeky' friends? They were too busy paying attention to themselves, let alone pay attention to you. Your 'geeky' friends were the ones that were with you in the beginning.

Changes happen every day. Everyone changes, even though they say that they'll stay the same way that they are for the rest of their lives. To tell you the truth, you were a little bit rude. I'm sorry if thats not what you wanted to hear. I'm being honest.

If you really want to stay 'popular', then go ahead. But, think about your old friends. I'm not trying to bombard you with guilt. What will happen when your popular friends dump you? Don't say that it will never happen, that you will remain 'friends forever' with them. Half of the time, you don't. Your friends will be the ones there for you till the very end. Think about it.

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♥ SiMA

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Okay i'm 12/f about to turn 13 in 2 weeks =] ! I really like this boy and yesterday i went to his house to hang out and i d k if this is slutty or what ? Well we was over there watching the Grudge and i was just laying by him, then we like moved to the floor and all the sudden he leaned over and we started making out. I like got on top of him and we like started having dry sex with are clothes on. Well he knew my turn on spot is my neck so he was kissing my neck and i just got really in the mood so he rolled over on top of me and we kept on doin it. Well then we stopped cause we heared someone upstairs so we were just laying there. And i let him finger me. And i was giving him a hand job all night !! Like every minute. Then hes like how bout you suck it for meee ? and i was like omg i never sucked one before soo yeah.. but we went downstairs but then we came back up after we did some more stuff.. okay now heres where it gets bad. We were laying on the couch and i like sucked his dick about 3 times and he wanted moreee. but we didn't have a condom . Well he fingered me again and left a huuuge hickey on my neck. Wow thats alot of stuf. Do you think thats slutty and just give me some advice on what i just told you . I feel slutty and guilty and i feel like hes useing me.

Hun, get off this site. Go see a therapist. You are way too young to be doing this.

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Please answer only if you have experince in ballet or know someone who does...
I am a female, age 14, and I weigh 140lbs (about). Do you think I am too fat to do pointe work? Am I too fat to have a partner? What can I do to ensure that I will be able to start pointe in the fall? (I have to please my teacher and it is totally her choice wether or not I can take pointe) Do you think I need to loose weight for this? Thank you so much

My friend weighs about 135, the same as you, and she's taken pointe for about 4 years now. People that weigh a little more are no different than people who weigh a little less. Everyone is different. It doesn't matter how much you weigh, it matters if you have skill and the determination. However, if you want to lose weight, [[ which is optional ]], eat healthy && exercise.

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♥ SiMA

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how do I stop sunburn that itches?

Put aloe vera on the spot where it itches. Get a lotion that has aloe vera in it, such as Aveeno. Or, you can try an itch medicating cream, like Gold Bond. Try not to itch it, it will only make the sunburn hurt even more.

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♥ SiMA

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i know this boy seen 4th grade. we was good friends all. in 5th grade we went together and when i went to a differnt school we started to drifted apart. im in the 8th grade know and he's in the 10 we use to talk and then all of a sudden we stop, for what reason i dont know. we didnt break notfin off. well i moved on and started to meet new people. all of a sudden he called my cell and leave a message saying i should meet him tommorow. and now all this question running through my head. i think the reason he want to meet me is to get back on track with our realationship , but he may just want to use me for a back up girl. i guess my question is that should i meet him or not.

Well, you can't really judge someone unless you get to know them. In your case, you've kind of known him off and on. It all depends on what YOU want. Do YOU want to meet him? Do YOU want to have a relationship with him again? If so, then I say, go for it. If you truly like him, and want to start up a relationship again, meet him.

Good luck!

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♥ SiMA

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Hey,my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my granny is ruining my life I know that she is 88 years old,but I don't think this is an excuse for what she is doing to me and the rest of my family.my granny tells me that iam to fat for my own good and talks really bad about my mom and my sisters.on my 17th b-day she made me cry becouse she told me that my mom didn't love me or care about me.I know it's not true,but it still bothered me that my granny would say something like that to me her youngest granddaughter.my 36 year old cousin helped me feel better when my granny made me cry.my granny also tells my aunt how to do things in her own house even though she is 68 years old and she stands over my couse like a hawlk while she folds dirty clothes.If I don't make my bed or fold my dirty clothes she yells at me what should I do.I have to deal with this every weekend all weekend and Iam fed up with her nonesince what should I do?

The best thing that you can do is talk to her. Tell her that she is really hurting your feelings. Elderly people sometimes don't realize what they are doing. Tell your grandma that what she is saying isn't nice and that you don't want to argue with her over the silly little things. Be calm, and mature. If you whine and start throwing a temper tantrum, she's not going to take you seriously. Also, try talking to your mom if you haven't already.

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♥ SiMA

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hey, im a 14/f & im desperate for redecorating my bedroom. its been looking the same for like 10 yrs. the thing is that i spent all my money in clothes, and i have no money to redecorate. so do you guys have any ideas or any websites that can help me? thanx. =]

Well, you can get some simple stencils at Walmart, and paint polka dots or a certain design that you want. Or, you can use that blue painting tape, and paint stripes.

Also, try looking at PBTeen.com.

Walmart has some cool new things for your bedroom. The other day, I saw this really cute bedspread that had a black and white 'asian floral' theme. They have rugs, curtains, you name it. You don't have to spend big bucks to make your room look good.

Get creative. Look for some DIY stuff online. You can redecorate a lamp shade, and lots of other fun stuff. Try craftster.org.

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♥ SiMA

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Is it weird to have a 3 year age difference between me and my boyfriend? Like 15 and 18?

I don't think that its weird. I've sometimes seen bigger differences. Don't worry about what others think.

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♥ SiMA

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On myspace, I know how to make Html hearts (&hearts)but i was wondering if there are any other codes like that. I am wanting to make stars and clovers and anything else there is. I was wondering if anyone knew a code for these.

Thanks a lot!

myspace.com/contacttables

I know that they have a lot of codes.

Or, type in 'Wingdings Chart' or 'Webdings Chart' on Google, and you should come up with lots of different, and fun symbols.

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♥ SiMA

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I'm not a good friend. I don't do it on purpose but I let friends go easy. They like, move to a different school and we say we'll stay in touch...but then I don't call.

If friends want me I'm like there for them and all but I dunno I find it hard to meet new people and speak to them cos I'm quite shy so I'm losing friends and can't make new ones so I'm left out a lot and feel very lonely.

What can i do to get new friends and be better at keeping the old ones?

Hun, you're not a bad friend. Everyone is like that. People say that they'll stay in touch, but more than half of them don't.

I have not kept in touch with my friends this summer. However, my friend went to Malaysia and New York for the past summer. I finally just decided to call her and ask her if she wanted to go ride go karts with me. It's as simple as a phone call.

I know how you feel. I used to be very, very shy when I was about 13/14. You have to show people that you're willing to talk to them. Don't be shy. Be loud and happy. I fooled around with my friends and was a little crazy, LOL. I made tons of new friends because people saw that I wasn't the shy person sitting alone.

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♥ SiMA

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I (13) share a master bedroom with my sister(17). I want to decorate the room. It's diffcult for us to agree on ant thing since we're so diffrent. How should I decorate if she can't agree on any thing?

You guys can look at PBTeen.com for some ideas. Or, you can like, paint stripes or polka dots or stencils in your room with colors that you both like. However, if you decide to do the 'half and half' tip that the users below suggested, make sure that its colors that look good together. Not like, red and green, yellow and brown, ect. It's hard to agree with your siblings. Just make sure not to argue with her. Everything will turn out okay. Don't fret.

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♥ SiMA

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