about

Hi, I'm Brittney, I'm a junior in college. don't ever feel hesitant to ask me a question, I will never judge you. Be completely honest and I will give you the best answer I can give, 100% of the time. A fun fact about me- I'm a triplet!

advice

17/f


So this morning, I sent my tutor an email asking whether we were going to have a tutoring session tomorrow. He replied telling me to be on standby, because he needed to check to see whether he was busy, and he would get back to me later on today.


Well, I waited around, and it's nighttime now, and he didn't get back to me, and I need to know really badly whether or not I'm going to see him tomorrow so I can plan out my day accordingly.

At 8:57pm, I gave him a ring on his cell phone and left a message.

Was that an okay thing for me to do? Or was it excessive and disruptive?

That was definetley an okay thing to do! It was actually pretty rude of your tutor to put you off for so long, and still not get back to you.

[view]

k so today i was with my bf and he was saying all these nice things about me.like he was like "oh you look extra beautiful today i just dont know what it is"...then after he said all those nice things he goes "but you really do need to loose some weight,im sure you like to eat alot,your like my little sister she loves food" i was like ok WTF.he know that i go for jogs almost everyday.i told him that i go for jogs everyday and hes like yeah but thats not enough,you should join a gym and eat less.i was speechless.
ok let me describe my body size to you.i have a large frame,im smaller from the top(size12) and bigger from the bottom (size 14)...im curvy.is this fat?do i need to loose weight?i was so hurt that i teared up.he kept apologising and didnt even understand what he did wrong.he said that where hes from its not a big deal to tell a girl to loose weight and that hes sorry etc etc.
i just dont know how to get over what he said.i know he sat there for 2hours trying to explain himself...i almost broke up with him because of this but he was determined to make everything ok.
do you think he thinks im fat because he said i need to loose weight?oh i dunno,how do i get over this???

I understand you are upset, thats a very harsh thing to suggest to someobody. I think that you should sit down and talk with him about it, ask him how he would feel if he were in your shoes, or if you said that to him. He needs to understand where you are coming from, and recognize the fact that he should like you for the person you are, no matter how skinny or how fat you are. Then ask him to look around, how many skeletons does he see walking around? Because you are obviously human.

Try not to let it effect you too much, sometimes people can say things without thinking, just try to talk it over with him first. :-) Good luck!!!!

[view]

When making a chicken Caesar wrap how and what do you season or marinate the chicken with before you grill it?

I dont marinate my chicken with anything, only because the cesar dressing topping after it's grilled would be overbearing with marinade. :-)

[view]

16/f

i know sometimes people get tiring of asking these types of questions.. but i have to know to relieve my mind. no, at the moment i don't have enough money to buy a pregnancy test. but my period is supposed to come between december 29 - janurary 5 because my period is pretty irregular and whenever my period last started and ended is where it's supposed to be between ever time i start. yes, me and my boyfriend did have sex, safe sex. we checked the condom during the sex, and after the sex, we also change it if it feels weird. i asked him a whole bunch of times if i was pregnant and if he was sure, he said he was 100% positive, and the stuff on him was from me.. but it's bothering me that my period still hasn't came yet. i may have gotten him scared too, but he still said he's 100% sure i'm not. is it probably my diet change would that still skip a month or something?

honestly:
sex= chance of getting pregnant

YES, it IS possible that you ARE pregnant.

[view]

I own a dell laptop and when I go to the start menue and click shut down, log off,lock, restart, sleep, or hibernate nothing happens. Then to turn it off I have to click the power button everytime. But once I turn the laptop back on, it has the same time and date as the last time i was on it. Will someone please let me know how I can fix this? Thanks

Okay, well I think there is something wrong with your laptop, so you might want to take it back to where you bought it, or bring it over to a store to have them check it out. But try this first:

1. Take out the battery, and let it sit for a good 10 minutes. then put it back in and see if that works. if that doesnt:

2. Go to start, and type in the search box "restore" there should then be a link to a system restore coming up. Click on it, and there will be some dates that you can restore to. Restore to a date before your computer was having the problem.

Good Luck!!!
ps, I did a little research, and a website suggested to disable "MicrosoftAuto Updates"

[view]

So, we have two cats; a kitten and a 5 year old. We also have a puppy. The 5 year old, who we got the same time as the kitten, in September of 2009, is not a very happy cat. He makes a lot of loud noises, doesn't get along with the other animals, and poops on the floor. He gets along with me just fine! I'm wondering if he's sick, because he 'screams' at absolutely nothing; however my parents have the belief that cats don't get sick (ever).

Is there anything I can do to make him more comfortable in his new home, to help him calm down? My mom says we might have to give him back, and I really don't want to.

Theres a number of things that could be the problem. First off I think that you should bring your cat to the vet, he could be sick, or have a fracture in one of his bones or something. Second of all, try spending more time with your cat, he could just need alot of attention, especially because you have other animals.

Good luck!! I hope everything works out for you :-)

[view]

it has been a long time since i dating anyone or even approached someone. I am 21(not a nerd) and male and don't have alot of self confidence. What do i need to do to keep someone interested in me?

Love this question! I know where you are coming from. First off, dont be afraid! Start taking risks, and go up to people you are attracted to, and start socializing. Make friends who share the same interests as you, all you need to do is start out by introducing yourself. just say, hey, im "" and ask a question. also, always smile! the more you smile, the more comfortable you will feel, and the better ora you give out. You will come accross as approachable, which is definitely a plus! When you start making conversation, and start feeling comfortable around the person you are talking to, keep them interested by asking them if they want to hang out sometime! Also, make sure to ask questions about them and their life. This will show that you are also interested in what they have to say.
Good luck!!!!!

[view]

19/M
I have been a thumb sucker my whole life. My New Years resolution is to quit it for good. I am going to go cold turkey. If that doesn't work, what else can I do to help me quit?

I had the same problem as you, I went to a specialist who helped me. She tried to figure out why I did, which I never figured out haha but okay. Then she gave me a couple methods I used to stop.
First, try wearing a mitten or glove on the hand that you suck your thumb, even at night. This sounds crazy, but it works. Who wants to suck on a glove?
Second, I used a nail polish that was designed to taste bitter and sour when I put it in my mouth. its clear, so nobody knows its on, and trust me, it tastes HORRIBLE.

Good luck!!! hope this helps :-)

[view]

This isn't a cry for advice, I just wanted all y'all to have a Happy New Year!

thank you!!! Happy New Years to you too!!!!! :-)

[view]

So the title pretty much says it all. I feel like the earth is moving but I'm stuck standing still. How can I make life fun again. By the way I'm 15 so it's weird that I'm having this like midlife crisis. Please help I have no idea what to do!

honestly i love this question. I know exactaly what you are talking about! My solution was to start hanging out with friends more, I know that sounds boring..but if you were like me I had a period of time where I didnt want to go out because I thought it was going to be boring, but after forcing myself to go out I felt alot better. Try hanging out with different friends too, just to mix things up a little bit. Ask your parents if you could go on a little vaca or go somewhere exciting one weekend. Also, try to brainstorm ideas on different things to do with friends, like instead of going to the mall every weekend, go to a party or go ice skating, or bowling, or roller blading. When the weather gets nice you can go to the park or have a picnic outside. Maybe you can throw a mini party sometime this weekend?
Good luck!!!!

[view]

Yeah, after 3 years of not seeing him, my dad got arrested and I went to see him in prison. When he saw me & my sisters, he was so suprised. He said that he wanted to get back into our lives, and i'm cool with that. But, I'm worried that he will break my sisters' hearts by leaving again. I don't want that. I guess the question is, is it a good idea to give him a second chance, after he left once?

If your dad was a friend, that would be different and not as important, but hes a huge part of your life. I think that you should give him a second chance, everyone makes mistakes, and this is an opportunity for you guys to start over. But you need to tell him how you are feeling, and how you felt when he left, this will bond you guys, and it will show him how much of an impact it really had on you. Everything will work out, dont worry! Good luck!

[view]

soo a while back i texted a friend saying something inappropriate. not too bad, but i guess it'd be bad in a parent's point of view. i didn't think anything of it until he told me his mom read my text online... i was really freaked out. luckily she didn't say anything to my dad. but now i'm worried if my dad can read my texts or not online like my friend's mom. they had cricket or some cheap service. i have t-mobile. if i could get some info on this i'd really appreciate it. thanks :)

I used to have tmobile too, I can tell you right now that there is no way that they can read your texts unless they take your phone and personally read them. I havent even heard of any services that would allow them to read them without having your phone. so youre in the clear! :-)
Good luck!!!

[view]

There is a tattoo shop in town doing an anniversary special, any small tattoo for $35. I plan on getting something but I'm worried about under tipping. Should I do 15% of the special price or the price I think something that size would normally be?

If it were me, I would probably do the tipping for the discounted price, and then add a couple dollars onto that. :-) Good luck!!!

[view]

December 26th I ordered classic short Uggs boots from there website.
http://www.uggaustralia.com/index.aspx
Now it says the staff is on Christmas break and wont be back till the 28th, so I'm guess that's when my boots will ship.

Does anyone have any idea when my Uggs will get to my house?
I'm HOPING I get them before I go back to school, which is the fourth.

The last time I ordered uggs over spring break, they got back to me within 6-8 week days. so I would say if the 28th is monday, then it should come in around the 4th or the 6th. Every year I order something it inconveniently arrives while im in school. But be hopeful! Good Luck!!!

[view]

My girlfriend gave me head and I came. We whipped my penis off really good after then we grinded on each other naked we never actually had sex because I didn't go inside of her and only came when she gave me head 10 minutes before. Could she be pregant?

if any sperm got inside of her, yes there is a very good possibility that she is pregnant. But mostlikely shes not, i wouldnt worry about it, just talk to her, and use a condom! :-)

[view]

Is there anyway in the world that I could contact Justin Bieber? ANYWAY!?!?! Please, please, please! Email, Facebook, Myspace, cell, ANYTHING PLEASE!!!!!!

Unfortunately, I can just about guarantee you that theres no way you can get his cell number, but you can look for him on twitter and join fan groups on facebook. Celebs check that sometimes. Also, check on youtube for an official username of his, kind of like how miley cyrus and selina gomez have their own, you can comment on his videos and he will see that. Good luck!!!
ps get concert tickets, then you may be able to see him somehow :-)

[view]

Ok, I know it sounds like a terrible thing to tell someone, but I am very concerned for her, and my neices' and nephew's health and wellbeing. My sister has never been a clean person. She keeps herself and her children clean, but actually cleaning a room or her house is impossible for her. I remember as a child she used to close her eyes and wish for the "cleaning fairy" (me) to come and clean up her room. I would do it because I thought I was surprising her and making her happy. When she was a teenager our mother would beg, plead, and punish her to clean her room, until one day she went through with huge black garbage bags and threw EVERYTHING away. She ended up with three or four of them filled with mostly garbage and items that my sister mistreated. Now, at the age of 29 and mother of three children (one of which she only has custody of part time) things haven't changed much. I don't really know who does the minimal cleaning that actually gets done, usually when she knows someone is coming over to visit, so I can't really say who is pitching in to keep the house liveable, but here is an idea of what her (rented) house looks like even when she knows I am coming to visit...There are usually dishes in the sink, filled to the top. If the dishes have been washed, they are not properly cleaned, cups still have dried up drink in them, plates and silverware still have caked-on food on them and plasticware have an oily film on them. The scrubbie she uses to wash the dishes is always grungy and probably filled with germs. The carpets have ground-in food and liquid stains, not to mention clothes, toys, garbage, ashes (from cigarettes) and other debris on them. Her kitchen linoleum has years of caked on food and dried liquid stains, even after she claims she just mopped. Her bathroom sink always has toothepaste globs and soap film and dirt on it. (She hardly ever has soap at her bathroom sink either) The toilet is so disgusting I don't sit on it, there is usually pee or poop smeared on the seat. (She has young children 4 and 7 but she allows the 4 year old to go to the bathroom without supervision and if she goes #2 she doesn't know how to clean herself properly and usually gets poop on the toilet, herself, and sometimes the walls, sink, and other things in the bathroom) You can't even walk into her bedroom because there are clothes covering the entire floor, not to metion other debris. The children's rooms are just as bad, with toys and clothes, food and juice stains. The children do not respect their toys and I wouldn't doubt it if not one of their games is playable because of missing or broken pieces. Books are ripped and colored on as well. Her laundry room is in the basement and everyone just throws their clothes down the stairs, covering the stairs to the point where you would fall if you did not kick them out of the way. The laundry is not done often, unless it is desperately needed.

My sister seems to care about what people think about the cleanliness of her home, because it is the first thing you hear when you are on the way to visit, "My house is a little messy, but not too bad." or "I was going to clean the house but..., so don't be mad if it's not that clean." or "I just cleaned the house." (And then you get there and think "This is what you consider clean?") She just never seems to know what clean is, even remotely. But she puts on this facade like it is important to her.

Now that I'm done explaining that, I would like to add that just recently the family suffered a house fire and they lost everything. They did not start the fire, but the fire marshal said that all the junk around the house fueled the fire to rage on faster and further. I began a relief effort through friends and family that brought her truckloads of new things, not to mention all the help she received from organizations in her area. I drove all over creation to collect things for her...I called and emailed several people to collect things for her...I created donation tins out of old coffee cans and set them up at my job for her...I've donated my own posessions as well. When she got herself into a new house I went to visit her. I fully expected there to be stuff all over the place in boxes and bags, but I was very upset when I saw that every room in her house was the same as it always had been. Bathroom had the toothepaste globs and hair all over the sink, no soap, and the brand new towels that were donated to her were sprawled throughout the hallway outside the bathroom (not folded and in a pile) Her bedroom looked like a bomb went off, and the kids' rooms looked the same. I told her that I thought everything would be different now that she has gone through such a life altering event and had all of her current possessions donated to her. She screamed "What do you want me to do?! I keep getting all of this stuff and I have no place to put it!!!" I told her I understood that her dining room was filled from wall to wall with with things she had to sort through, but the room upstairs were so messy. I was so taken aback with her violent response I began to back out of the room when she screamed "Yeah get out of here!" I ended up leaving her house and eventually she texted me "You no longer have to worry about me, my family, or my house. I feel we should no longer speak to each other. Good luck iwth your life and family." I cannot believe she took things to that level. I sincerely believe that she is in denial about her problem and instead of giving me excuses like I said she would, she disowned me, my husband, and baby-to-be. I am very hurt but cannot bring myself to talk to her. I helped her so much when her house burned down and she also said she was going to send back the money and items I collected for her. I think that was very wrong of her as well. PLEASE HELP!!

you and your family need to sit down and have a talk with her. You have to try to explain to her calmly the reasons why it's dangerous to have such uncleanslyness in her house. To be honest, there is only so much you can do, it is her house, as much as I hate to say it, it's true. But she needs to be careful, one of my friends neighbors lost custody of their children because of the clutter in their house, im not even kidding. Everything will be fine, but you guys should have a talk. Offer to help her clean her house, this way everyone can "start over" Dont give up just yet!! As mean as she can be, she has an obvious problem, and its clear that everyone knows, herself included; a little time and patience can go a long way.

[view]

So I just started playing the guitar recently and learend 'Wonderwall' by Oasis. What are some other faily easy songs like that to learn on guitar? If you know any reggae songs that'd be great. Thanks! :)

my friend just started playing guitar too, and said that every song by lincoln park is pretty easy. He didnt even have an instructor, just learned on his own. Good luck!!!

[view]

But my dad doesn't take me seriously at all. He wants me to go to community college and get a business associates degree so I can take over his business. I don't think he understands at all that cooking makes me so happy and it's all I would ever want to do. How can I get him to take me more seriously? How can I make him see this is something I'm willing to be serious about?

Thats great that you want to do what you want to, not what your dad wants. Definitely take a course of some kind on cake decorating, that will show him you are serious about it. also, try entering into some local contests, and bake lots of cakes at home that you can decorate to get the experience. your dad will see that you are really into it in no time. Also, you can always go to community college and minor in cake decorating if you want to. Good luck!!!

[view]

hi, today i just found out that i got a job at the sports authority. the only problem is im being subjected to a drug test on this coming monday. the last time i smoked marijuana was exactly 7 days ago. I am a frequent user but this past month i have not been smoking as often as usual. (lately only 1 to 2 times per week) I bought cranberry juice (not cranberry cocktail) and i went to the vitamin shoppe and bought Herbal Clean Q Carbo maximum strength detox. Do any of you have any tips on when i should drink this product and what else i could do to prepare for my drug test? Also, if i pee less than the amount they need me to and claim i cant go to the bathroom will that also help me pass the test?

they will still detect the marijuana. A good idea would be to not use drugs anymore :-). They dont just give drug tests for nothing, they do it because they want to have "clean" people representing them, I wouldnt want someone who used marijuana/any drug to work for me or represent me. Im not trying to be harsh, its just the truth.

To be clear, I used the term "clean" as clean of drug abuse. And if there was nothing wrong with smoking marijuana, then it would not be illegal


http://alcoholism.about.com/od/pot/a/effects.-Lya.htm


http://civilliberty.about.com/od/drugpolicy/tp/Why-is-Marijuana-Illegal.htm

[view]

<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>
eXTReMe Tracker