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For about a year, I've been on and off with a really big jerk. He's hurt me countless of numbers of times. He's cheated on me, manipulated me, and still always expects me to be around. I've decided that enough is enough and I no longer wish for him to be a part of my life. Throughout all this time, my old roommate saw me break down numerous times from the hell he's put me through. She saw me cry in bed for weeks at a time over him. For a long time she wouldn't speak to him, but now they're friends again. It really hurts me. Is this something I can confront her about? Maybe she felt like I took advantage of her by always talking about my issues with him and she didn't want to have to deal with them anymore. Her and I are still close, but we don't see each other everyday like we obviously did when we lived together. All in all, I guess I'm just very hurt and I don't know how to handle the situation.
You should talk to them about your feelings. Confront them.
or is it always something more?
like, his car was a bit messy, and he had to clean the seat before i sat down, and another guy friend was with us but he didn't care about him. and when we were going to his room he said i should wait cause he was embarrassed about his room being messy, so he was gonna clean it up a bit, even though I said I didn't mind. and then when my other guy friend left and it was just us he seemed to really be paying attention to what I was saying, and tried to impress me I think, through my interests? like he said he listened to some band I love, the day before. i don't know.. when we're with our other friends in public he seems more distant. i mean he jokes with me but when it was just us I felt like I had peeled the layers and was just seeing the true him, and even though I was a bit nervous cause I like him, I felt easy just saying a lot on my mind, cause we're still getting to know each other. I may have talked too much, but I was afraid of an awkward silence.. haha next time I'll try not to do that as much. but he just makes me nervous cause I rarely connect with other people like that. we have a lot of weird things in common. and what else.. well, i was wearing a dress and a couple times I'd catch him staring at my legs and feet (I was wearing wedge heels). he implied that I was dressed fancy but to me it was just casual lol. but in all honesty I do like dressing up a bit when I know I'm going to see him..
No. Guys don't take the time to impress girls they don't like.
Why does my dog keep eating my wife's shoes?
Dogs like eating shoes. They like the material.
I know a lot of people have this discharge from the vagina but I was wondering if a lot of u girls have the same ? Is it normal ? My discharge is every single day , and there's a lot to . Sometimes it looks like i peed my pants a little bit .... It's awful . It feels wet And looks wet .Like I have so much ... Blahh idk what to do ? Is it normal
Yes but if you feel like somethings wrong, schedule yourself an appointment with a Gynecologist. They will be able to answer your questions.
Okay so I've been friends with this guy since I was in eighth grade and we've had our offs and ons when it came to speaking to eachother so we've recently started talking again and when I walked past his table during lunch I heard his friend ask him if that was her/ me and he said yeah then two seconds later he called my name and waved at me that was the first time he did that. Then we text every single day sometimes he texts first other times I do and the other day he texted me at like 8 in the morning !!! Ughhhh I was do upset but anyways we talk all the time about everything and we hug of course and he stares at me all the time without blinking and of course I stare back it's just getting to me like is this a normal best friend relationship or has it always been something more because I don't think of him as a brother.... Can someone give me some advice??? Or and also he asks how I'm doing what I'm doing all the time ect. He shows he cares(:
Normally guys will not text you like that unless they like you. You should just ask him.
hi suki. my girlfriend has left me for my best mate and im gutted. ive been with her 3 years now and i thought we were happy. i guess she did it right as she finished with me 1st, buti dont know how to respond when i see him/her. they are keeping it secret apparantly for now. should i tell him or her when i see them that i know or should i say nothing.
please help
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If she would leave you for your best friend, you need to move on. You should let both of them know how you feel about it.
I've been trying to get out of depression for around 3 years now, and I don't know If I'm progressing anymore or getting better. I feel somewhat lost with my feelings and I don't know exactly where to go from here. I'm unsure of how to react to things. My life is mostly healthy it's just moving on from things that have affected me badly. What do I do?
A lot of people dealing with depression feel lost. It's part of it. You should ask people around you. Normally, outsiders can tell better than you can.
16/f
Hey guys. So I know this is kinda weird but I wanna dress like a cool old-school 60s-70s rock star. Something about the styles really fascinates me. I don't want to be subtle, I want to go loud and proud, I don't care if I get made fun of. Any tips or suggestions? Where can I find good clothes/ accessories?
Thanks :)
I'd suggest looking at the Good Will or other quality thrift stores. You'd be surprised at trendy things you can get for cheap.
15/f
So, there's a guy that I'm friends with that I've known for about 4 years, but we weren't really friends till a couple months ago. He randomly started messaging me on Facebook, then he pulled the "I'm getting off Facebook, what's your number?" stunt, so I have him my number (we're friends). This was a week ago, and now he texts me every single day, from the hour after school gets out till he goes to bed. I don't mind the texting, cuz I enjoy talking to him. I like him, but only as a friend. Anyway, he has been sending VERY flirtatious texts, and has told me multiple times that I'm sexy and very attractive, and that I'm his type. I've just said thank you. Then, he's asked me if he's attractive back, and I didn't want to be mean so I said yes (he IS attractive, I just don't like him that way) He's been flirting with me over text, and I've been unintentionally flirting back, but I haven't explicitly said anything about liking him.
Tonight, when he was going to bed and saying goodnight, he said that he liked me. However, it was in a longer text, so I sort of ignored that part and just filled my response with a bunch of "hahahahas" and ;). The thing is, this guy is pretty cute and he's really nice and smart, and I probably would go out with him, except there's another guy that I'm really good friends with that I have a massive crush on. I don't want to go out with the one that likes me because I like the other guy. Basically, I dont want to give this guy a chance in a relationship because then the guy I like will think I'm not interested.I'm certain this guy will mention that he likes me again, over text. How do I say I don't like him? And how do I respond to his flirty texts without flirting back? Thank you!
You just need to tell him you don't see him that way but you do want to be his friend. That whatever you say isn't meant to be flirting. But that you are just a friendly person.
Is there any way to look at a private Facebook. Besides adding the friend?
No. Facebook has privacy measures that prevent people from peeking at your page.
It's not the way I dress or I act. I'm 5'5" .I'm 19 and people always ask me if I'm 16 or 14. People say it's because I have huge innocent 'doe eyes' and someone said that I look like a baby porcelain doll. I think they were trying to compliment me, but I think it makes me look five. Even when I dress up people tell me I look younger. Older people tell me I look "adorable", its annoying, that's something you tell a 5 year old. I wear my hair down all the time either straight or curly. I only dress up or wear make up for special occasions and I really don't care for make up and I really don't like heels they hurt my feet.. I need help because I really don't want to look like a little kid.
I'd recommend wearing subtle colors. Instead of wearing pinks or purples, wear blacks and grays. Don't go crazy on the make up. If you do wear make up, maybe try a smokey eye. Not too much glitter.
Broke up two weeks before our 4 year anniversary. I love her with every ounce of my heart but she dumped me cause I was too non chalant and not clearly showing my love and appreciation for her and everything we built together. Its been 16 months since then and besides an occassional what's up/how's it going, via text,there is no communication. But I just learned she still wears my promise ring and another ring I bought her on her left hand and she still has been talking to my family. We keep our conversations short cause I'm too scared of bringing us up and her shattering my heart again. But her actions are confusing. She always did contradict herself. I just want us to work this out and be together but she is very hard to figure out. Am I reading too much into her actions and just need give up on us or am I not realizing that she still needs time to finally come to me and work this out for the better?
She wouldn't wear the rings if she didn't still care for you. If she was over the relationship and you, she probably would have given it back or got rid of it. Sometimes random break ups happen and people get back together. It depends on the situation. Are you willing to fix it? If she dumped you because you were being too nonchalant, then you definitely shouldn't be nonchalant about the break up if you want to get back together. As stupid as it sounds, a lot of girls break up with their boyfriends so that they "fight" for them and become more affectionate. It's a stupid thing to do, but some believe it works. You need to keep open communication with her and see what it is she really wants. Tell her you want to fix it but if she really doesn't want to be together then you'll have to move on. She needs to know you won't just wait for her.
Okay, well I liked this guy in one of my classes, so I decided to talk to him first. I eventually gave him my cell phone number, which he actually texted me back, I was shocked. Things were going pretty great, we would text for hours at a time. Every day after class he would wait for me, we would walk to our next class together, he walked close to me, the body language was good (I know body language pretty well). We worked together in class, he would wave, and act shy and dorky around me even. A girl in our class would nudge him, grin, and joke about us when we would talk to each other, he even turned red. I was pretty sure he liked me, but then again I really don't have any good traits, I'm not pretty either, so I figured he probably didn't like me. My friend told him I liked him, he started acting weird, I asked if he was okay, he said he didn't feel good. For the first time he walked right past me, we have ALWAYS walked to class together. Plus he doesn't even really talk to anyone else in the school except me and a few others. I caught up with him, and asked if one of my friends told him anything today, he lied and said no, then I told him that I knew one did. Then he lied again, and said they just asked him if he knew me. He said he didn't mean to be rude, he just didn't feel well. Then he hugged me, which I didn't even hug back because to be honest I was pissed off (the lies) and depressed (....... obvious.......). Everyone around us said it seemed like he liked me, and stupid me I really thought he did. I used my friend's phone to tell him the I liked him, but I didn't want it to hurt our friendship. Later he wrote back, "It won't, but I only see you as a friend, sorry..."
We had alot in common, and I really liked him....... I'm absolutely heartbroken to say the least. I can't stop crying, and I didn't go to school today because I didn't want to burst out crying in class seeing him. I know it was bad, but to be honest I only stayed in that class because I actually thought he liked me, and that was the only time I ever see him in the school. Now I have to see him everyday. My mom thinks he might like me, but is scared because I don't think he has ever dated.
My self esteem was horrible before, now I just feel horrible....... why doesn't anyone like me except these people who absolutely disgust me or creep me out? Am I really that awful?
Please help, any advice, anything will help. :'[
I don't know why he reacted that way, but that doesn't mean you should have bad self esteem. It's just one guy. And you will find many more. I would give him some space and see if he comes around. He might like you but doesn't know how to approach the situation. Or he really does just see you as a friend. Either way, you could talk to him about it. You don't need to avoid class though. You'll move on.
yea i kno this is probably the most stupidest question bout i wanted to try it out anyway, so here it is: i have this notebook for school ( those big ones with dividers) and my teacher didn\'t really say the exact type she wanted us to get so apparently i get the wrong one because wen she tells use to go to the next page in my notebook the divider is there. i kno this is probably the stupidest question you might get but it there a possible way i can still use the divider or like still use it for my notebook. and if so tht would mean i would hav to move all of the dividers. i kno this is stupid, but younever kno who haves tricks, turns, and tips. well if youunderstand wat i\'m trying to say and you hav a trick, turn, or some tips tht would be absolutely great!!!!! thx
I would suggest going to Staples and see if there are any that suit your needs. Teachers can be somewhat particular when it comes to that stuff.
So basically there's this guy that I work with that I've gotten pretty close too. We talk all the time and goof around. We eat our lunches together and take all of our breaks together. We're always together at work and he waits for me in the mornings and at night and walks me to the car and we even cook each other things and ask each other if we want something at restaurants that we're at and stuff. He also gave me his number (without me asking) and we text when we are out of work. He doesn't straight out flirt with me but like I said we goof around and he'll playfully touch me sometimes. Today I let it slip that I wanted a bag of bugles out of the vending machine out of work so he immediately got up and went to buy them and I playfully jumped in front of the vending machine so he couldn't get too it and he kept putting his hands on my arms and picked me up and moved me out of the way while laughing and bought me the bag of chips.
He pretends to get upset if I walk too fast because he wants to walk with me and like I said he always waits for me. He even stayed 20 minutes after work once when I was talking with my manager so he could walk me to my car.
Well I added him of fb earlier this week and noticed right away that he had a girlfriend (who he's been with for a year and a half)...I was really upset about it but I figured maybe he just forgot to take her off and hadn't been on facebook in a while since the last post she put on his page was on the 4th of September.
He NEVER mentioned he had a girlfriend and I was starting to view him as more than a friend...I mean guys don't usually do all of those things for you unless they think of you as more than a friend right? Well I also noticed she was still in high school which I thought was odd since he specifically said before that he "had" (like he wasn't in a relationship) two girlfriends during his time in high school and that he was done with those sort of girls. Plus he's 23 so he's long graduated and I'm thinking why is he with a high schooler? He never mentioned her not even one time he never talked about ANY other girl in fact. Which is why I was so thrown off when I found out.
Well today he was talking about some pretty reckless things he'd done while in high school and I said "Is your girlfriend alright with you having done those things?" just in a normal casual tone and he just got silent and said "Yeah she doesn't have a problem with it" after a moment and then a couple minutes he said "I didn't really want "people" to know that I had a girlfriend..." So of course I asked why and he said "I don't know just because I didn't."
The more I think about it the more I feel a little played.
I also feel sort of aggravated and angry about it but the stupid thing is I'm angry with his girlfriend. I feel like she shouldn't be his girlfriend and I know that's arrogant of me but he spends NINE hours a day with me,talking to me,goofing around with me,waiting for me,SPENDING TIME WITH ME. Not her. I really sort of feel like crying because I feel so stupid about it but maybe I'm overreacting.
As this point I'm not sure what I should be feeling.
Am I being played or is she being played?
Should I hold out and see if he breaks up with her?
Here's the thing. He can very well be a great guy. Maybe he's in a bad relationship. Maybe he doesn't know how to get out. You don't exactly know. However, if you guys are spending time together and he is treating you like his girlfriend, which is pretty obvious since he's waiting for you/walking you to your car, then he could very well do that to you if you started dating. Which you should consider. You don't want to assume that, but he is spending all of this time with you and is betraying her. You need to let him know how you took his actions. Sure, he might lie and say "oh no way I'm just a nice guy I don't have feelings for you" but I think it's pretty obvious he does. Then when he explains his feelings, you should ask him to either break it off with her or ask him to leave you alone. While she might be a horrid girlfriend or they're terrible together, it doesn't matter. She is still his girlfriend and you wouldn't want another girl going after your boyfriend so don't do that to her. It's wasting her time and yours.
So I was was off of birth control pills cause I had to reorder them once I got them I started taking them well my boyfriend and I had sex it was my first time and used a condom nothing brook or anything I missed my period in September now its October and I got my period but. Now I'm hungry all the time I talked to my mom and she said maybe. I should take a test but I just agree what should I do?
If you got a normal period, you aren't pregnant. If it was light spotting or didn't last, you could be but obviously you'll need a test.
Well you kno how halloween is comin up? Well I don't celebrate Halloween but I do go to church and play games and earn candy. We r allowed to wear costumes but I don't kno Wat Christian costume tht I can use a little face makeup but still able to get my face painted at church. Thanks!!!!
You should go for non-scary costumes. Raggedy Ann/Andy Doll, The Flintstones, Disney Princesses/Princes, Super Heroes, Fairies, Scarecrow, or Animals.
There is this oldish song where it's music video has ballerinas and it has this man in mask covering half of his face like the phantom of the opera, and he looks like he tries to make love to this main character, and then he goes away forever and she's alone...as what I can remember.
This sounds familiar. Do you remember any lyrics at all?
I'm a 14/f and I hate having long hair. It's not who I am I lik being tomboyish and I want the bieber look but my parents won't let me get the hair it's really upsetting me.
Talk to them about why you want it. They probably think you're going through a stage and don't want you to be upset if you change your mind since you can't undo the haircut. But if it's what you really want, tell them. It is your hair.
So my boyfriend and I were hanging before a mixer and then we got to talking about kissing. He's had one and only one kiss, but I haven't had any. So we both discovered we want to kiss each other and he put and kept his arm around me and kept walking like that, but he kept jokingly trying to kiss me, then he held his face directly next to mine so when I turned my head up I'd end up kissing him. Evidently he thought I wouldn't notice this, but I did, so I kept looking at the ground probably blushing for once. I was so nervous that I think by the end of the night he ended up thinking I didn't want to kiss him and we've hung out after that but it's not as close and cute as we were and he hasn't tried to kiss me anymore. We've got a best friend kinda thing goin' on too, so what should I do? Did I ruin my chance, or should I suggest it more...?
It's not ruined. Why don't you talk to him about it? Guys are not mind readers. And he probably doesn't want to make you feel uncomfortable.