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My crush doesn't like me back, and I'm humiliated! :c
Okay, well I liked this guy in one of my classes, so I decided to talk to him first. I eventually gave him my cell phone number, which he actually texted me back, I was shocked. Things were going pretty great, we would text for hours at a time. Every day after class he would wait for me, we would walk to our next class together, he walked close to me, the body language was good (I know body language pretty well). We worked together in class, he would wave, and act shy and dorky around me even. A girl in our class would nudge him, grin, and joke about us when we would talk to each other, he even turned red. I was pretty sure he liked me, but then again I really don't have any good traits, I'm not pretty either, so I figured he probably didn't like me. My friend told him I liked him, he started acting weird, I asked if he was okay, he said he didn't feel good. For the first time he walked right past me, we have ALWAYS walked to class together. Plus he doesn't even really talk to anyone else in the school except me and a few others. I caught up with him, and asked if one of my friends told him anything today, he lied and said no, then I told him that I knew one did. Then he lied again, and said they just asked him if he knew me. He said he didn't mean to be rude, he just didn't feel well. Then he hugged me, which I didn't even hug back because to be honest I was pissed off (the lies) and depressed (....... obvious.......). Everyone around us said it seemed like he liked me, and stupid me I really thought he did. I used my friend's phone to tell him the I liked him, but I didn't want it to hurt our friendship. Later he wrote back, "It won't, but I only see you as a friend, sorry..."
We had alot in common, and I really liked him....... I'm absolutely heartbroken to say the least. I can't stop crying, and I didn't go to school today because I didn't want to burst out crying in class seeing him. I know it was bad, but to be honest I only stayed in that class because I actually thought he liked me, and that was the only time I ever see him in the school. Now I have to see him everyday. My mom thinks he might like me, but is scared because I don't think he has ever dated.
My self esteem was horrible before, now I just feel horrible....... why doesn't anyone like me except these people who absolutely disgust me or creep me out? Am I really that awful?
Please help, any advice, anything will help. :'[
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Well, it's a knockback. It feels crap. But really not a humiliation by any means. We latch on to someone, put in the goundwork, observe, feel our way. Eventually it's going to come down to that decisive yes/no moment. You play your cards and hope for the best. It didn't work this time. There will be many others. Even when it 'clicks' that's just the start of the journey! It's so easy to beat yourself up. You're a bad/unlikeable person. You're not pretty enough. Really though, it's not about YOU at all is it...it's about him? You've done your bit. He's missed his chance. Of course, he may have just lost his nerve. About you. About comitting to a relationship at all, with any girl. He may even think again. Either way, you've NOTHING to feel humiliated about. Just a little sad...it will pass. I won't insult you with a 'plenty more fish in the sea' comment. Because right now you don't want no 'other fish' do you? Just that particular fish? This feeling too will pass. XX
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I know how bad you must feel after being told that the guy you like doesn't like you back. And since he said that, you have bad self esteem right?
That's normal. It's similar to being traumatized. You're just scared that everyone sees you as a horrible, ugly person right? Well there's no need to feel that way. You ARE beautiful. You ARE nice. Everything's fine; it's just that you're being paranoid. That's normal to.
All you need is time. You know what I usually do? I usually ignore that person for AWHILE. He'll confront you soon. It helps!
Good luck and take care :)
Bella xoxo
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I don't know why he reacted that way, but that doesn't mean you should have bad self esteem. It's just one guy. And you will find many more. I would give him some space and see if he comes around. He might like you but doesn't know how to approach the situation. Or he really does just see you as a friend. Either way, you could talk to him about it. You don't need to avoid class though. You'll move on.
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