i was in something similar. though it didn't last as long and we never actually went out and he never hit me, i can still relate, i promise!

first things first, this guy is an ass. dump him right now. (i know, it's hard to do).

secondly, you need to know WHY you dumped him. he is a pompous loser and he's not going to stop lying and you shouldn't have to take his crap. you have to know when to draw the line, and knowing that someone else gave him a blowjob is a pretty nice place to start.

third, do not ever think that you deserved any of this. because frankly, some guys are just scum. (and vice versa for girls, i'll admit it, some of us can be real ...cunts)

and lastly: it's going to be so hard at first but it does get easier to step away from this horrible relationship. it doesn't matter if he actually does love you or not. the thing is: he STILL hurt you, over and over. he may care for you but that doesn't change the fact that he doesn't care about you enough to stop hurting you physically and apparently mentally.

last year i fell for this guy and everyday we'd hang out in the morning and he'd hold my hand and tell me so sweet things but frankly, he was telling every other girl that too. i really should have stopped liking him when he kissed other girls and told them that me and him were through. so yeah, i can sort of relate. maybe not as good as someone else but i know what it's like to keep taking back someone who really doesn't deserve the chances. i'm sure you are a great catch and someone out there will see that and never dream of hurting you like he does.

dont' do anything dumb or do something "reboundish" 5 years is pretty big though. just keep in mind that this WILL pass and you WILL eventually get over him. partially, i believe that you just like him because you want to try to get him (even though you know there's no chance of it). it's okay, that's human nature lol. i want what i can't have all the time. anyways! it's totally natural and normal. sometimes i just talk to my friends about it, i know they get tired of it after a while but hey, that's why they're friends. try reading or taking up a hobby. sometimes i just get out how i feel over a guy by expressing it by making pictures on my computer or writing stuff out on online- journals.

maybe guys find you intimidating, or too shy? it seems like you've got alot going for yourself and you know alot, so maybe they find it intimidating... don't worry, just be yourself and you'll find guys eventually. i know it's the cheeziest thing to say but as you get older, it's going to be more and more important for you to just be yourself; especially to attract guys

i looked like an idiot when i first did it like 3 years ago. it's just something that comes more and more natural to you. esepcially as you get older. it's basically like sex with clothes on. so yeah, your bodies are basically colliding into each other, you get in tune with the beat and rhymthm and etc.

it's scary but you have to tell him that you honetsly want to get to know him better, and it's not some line you're feeding him to get him off your back. tell him that you really are interested and you'd understand if he wants to move on. (harsh to say but yeah). tell him that you do like him alot and you do and want a future with him but you just need a little more time. if he's really that into you then he'll stick around

running, push ups, i can't remember the name of this exercise but you:

get on your hands and knees, straighten your back and tighten your legs. then you straighten out your leg (while it's being tightened). hold it for a few seconds and then put it back on its knee. do the same to the other leg.


not really sure i if i helped but yeah lol

HTMLS are the basics of a website. if you are using IE (internet explorer) as your website browswer (the thing you're using to look at websites) then go to the top. where it says "File" "Edit" "View" "Favorites" etc...

click on "View"
click on "Source"

now, alll this mumbo jumbo stuff will come up. and that is all HTML. consider them letters to the alphabet (the alphabet being a website). you use them to create frames, insert marques (those little scrolling things), insert pictures and links and all that junk.


http://www.lissaexplains.com

that's a good website for some basics and stuff on html.


hope i helped

"You know my name"


i googled it =]

here's a link to the rest of the lyrics if you need them :http://www.seeklyrics.com/lyrics/South-Park-Mexican/You-Know-My-Name.html

that's not really supportive of your boyfriend to say that. i haven't eaten alot in the past like 3 days but it's just because of my new sleeping schedule. body's do a crapload of weird stuff. maybe it's just adjusting to something new. just because your appetite has decreased doesn't mean you're going anorexic or something like that.

check it out with a doctor. don't be so freaked though, i get slight pains in that area too. i doubt it's your reproductive organs because they're lower down and a bit back. it possibly could be your appendix but don't fret. you don't really need the appendix to survive. it could possible be just a pulled muscle or hurt muscle around that area

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tell your dad that you respect the fact that he's moved on and found someone else but that she has to respect the fact that you still care for your mother and it's not polite to bad-mouth like that. hell if you're bold you can tell her that yourself. i suggest your dad be around though, just incase you need some back up or re-assurance

you already said that you've been open with her, so open her up to your feelings. tell her how you feel, don't be so strong though. don't be like, "i like you sooo much and i want to be with you so badly." that might scare her off (even more so since she hasn't actually dated yet). tell her that you think she's a great person and it'd be nice if there was a near future date with her..then ask her if she feels the same. re-assure her that it's totally fine if the feeling isn't given back, and that she's a worthwhile girl to wait for.

since she's shy it might be a good idea to make the date seem more like a hangout. I don't know her personality nor personally so i couldn't tell you. but either go with simple and nice, or huge and memorable. hope i helped

of course guys will like you. i'm like the total opposite. i look like a 10 year old and i'm 15, going on 16. with so many guys out there, there's alteast a 100 guys that like what you just described. don't be so harsh on yourself, you're only 14. atleast you know the definte person you are. stay true to it, and before you know it, guys will be flying to your bedroom window reciting you Romeo and Juliet lines

confront him. be bold and just sit him down one day and be like we really do need to talk. straighten it all out with him and tell him everything he's been hearing is bullcrap and that if anything that you two had before meant anything, then he'd know you good enough to believe that you are telling the truth.

Nelly Furtado -- i'm like a bird

came out late 90's, possible very early 2000's

dont push. it will make then feel uncomfortable and insecure. just try talking to them and letting them know that you are there for them (but dont suffocate them). make them feel safe in telling you anything and that you won't bail on them or tell any of their secrets. if they do tell you, the first step in comfort is for them to want to be comforted. so if they aren't ready to start getting over things or feel better then there's not that much you can do except support than and ease them into comfort

for me.. it makes the friednship stronger (after the breakup and during the relationship) i will admit it gets weird and awkward after the breakup but that gap closes itself up. trust me. there hasn't been an ex yet that im not good friends with. it's ok to fall for your friend; i actually prefer that. that way you know them atleast somewhat you know? bring it up.. if you're ultra shy then be reasonable and think does he like me back? the biggest mistake girls make is taking things too seriously and like taking everything that they do as a sign they're flirting back (and they end up getting hurt real bad thinking they've been plyaed when they just took every single small thing as a sign of flirting back)

small talk small talk small talk.. so you wanna go catch a movie or go out and eat somewhere sometime?

this site has been down for a while but i'm starting it up again. i've been really busy with school work and other activities but now you can ask me questions again.


anyways about myself, i've gone through alot in my life and it's all made me stronger so i can relate to nearly any situation. i really love people. when i get older i do plan on doing something in this sort of field, maybe psychiatry. i'm currently a junior in highschool and i devote all of my time to either my friends, theatre, or school. yeah i'm sort of a nerd. if i can't get on here to reply to your questions and its urgent then you can always feel free to IM me on AIM and i'll try to help you on there. i'm basically always on.

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