Hi I'm Jeannie.I would love to help you with any questions you may have, so feel free to ask, no question I would ever consider stupid or embarassing so don't worry. Also, I am a college student, and I have been through a few things, so if you would like my opinion just ask, if not then please specify. And remember that you are beautiful no matter what you feel or what you are going through. :)
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I've never even considered the thought of me being bisexual, much less making it a formal thing, but recently I've had a change of heart. I'm excited for college suddenly [which is in a couple of months], only because I have hopes that people will be more open there. I don't exactly know how I'm gonna go about it, but I wanna date a girl. I guess I got jealous when I saw how easily Lindsay Lohan just magically SWITCHED. I never knew it was that easy. I don't know why, but it completely caught me by surprise. For some reason, I want a sexy, Barbie doll, girly girl [like me =)] not a crossdresser or dike, or whatever they're called. I just think that looks better. I've always thought I should've been born a man; wished it actually... The thought of it excites me almost more than dating a guy, cause I guess that's something I've never had before. I wouldn't dare date anyone around here cause I don't really want anyone knowing. My question is, is there something wrong with me? Is it just a passing fantasy, or am I bisexual? Most importantly, how do I do it? I mean, I can't just go up to some random beautiful girl and ask if they're lesbian... Any inputs would be really appreciated [like, how you met YOUR girl, or one-time stuff] thanks in advance! (link)
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There is nothing wrong with wanting to date a girl. It is okay to experiment, but if you think about it constanly, chances are you are bisexual. But you are young, you have time to figure that all out, which is what college is for and picking a career, lol. Just see what works for you, don't be ashamed to experiment, you have to find out who you are.
Good luck, :)
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there was a guy, screwed me over
didnt talk to eachother for a while.
then became very good friends again, took things farther again. & i got hurt once again, he did the same thing, and ran back to the same girl, when he said he wouldnt.
the thing is, i kinda figured that would happen but i gave him a chance, because i wanted to trust him. obviously i shouldve listened to myself.
now i told him we couldnt be friends.
i havent talked to him in a month, but its hard seeing him around, and not talking to him or even looking at eachother.
i want to forgive him, but i just dont know if i should, or even if i can.
how do you know if you should?
i really miss being friends with him, im just scared things wont be the same.
i try to keep him outta my mind, but its soo hard, not to think about him.
i just really need someone to talk to about it, i guess.
any opinions or advice,
guys and girls.
please..im just so completely confused about what to do, and im sick of thing about it :/ (link)
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Hey there, I am sorry you got hurt. Unfortnately, these things do happen, and thats how we find ourselves is because we go as far as we can until we break, and we learn who we can and cannot trust.
I can understand how you feel, what if you try to talk to him about how you feel, that he hurt you so much. He may not realize how much he hurt you, maybe you should tell him. And always follow your heart, trust your gut b/c afterall you know yourself better than anyone.
I hope things get better for you, and if you would like to talk, I am here to listen. Afterall that is my main reason for joining advicenators, I love to listen to people and help as much as I can. Leave me your email if you would like to talk, I can't promise a complete cure but I will listen and do my best to help you :)
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My best friend commited suicide on the first of this month.. N idk what do with myself anymore. She was everything to me.. we were so close n we were even blood sisters (meaning we poked our fingers and touched our blood together). I met her in the behavorial health hospital n i knew we both had depression, but she always said she'd call me if she was thinking those thoughts again. But she didn't.. N i feel even worse cuz I was supposed to be with her that day too! I feel like I could've stopped her or something. I'm lost without her.. I don't feel like I can do this without her. What should I do? Please Help Me! (link)
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I am so sorry about your best friend, my God, that is horrible.
Whatever you do, do not blame yourself. It is NOT your fault at all, I promise. Unfortunately and impossible as it may seem, things do happen for a reason. Maybe if you listen to some songs to help you out of the slum. HOnestly, she is in such a better place, and even if you don't believe that, I do, and I know everything will be okay. I know you feel like you can't go on without her, but the world will not ocme to an end, I promise. If anything, life is short and I take it back, things dont just happen for a reason, the happen to teach something about life that you didn't know. I know it is so hard to understand, but everything will be okay. If you are still having trouble maybe talking about it with someone you trust may be a great idea.
I love to listen to people, if you would like to talk to me about it, I am absolutely here, anytime. I know how it feels, to love someone so much and in the blink of an eye they are gone. It is like a bad nightmare that you just can't wake up from, no matter how many times you pinch youself. When you rate me, leave me your email if you would like to talk, okay?
In the meantime I'll list some good songs that have helped me cope with death:
Who you'd be today- Kenny Chesney
Things Left Unsaid- Disciple
To Bring you Back- Paul Alan
Last Night- Skillet
What Hurts the Most- rascal Flatts
Broken-Lindsay Haun
I'll think of some more, but I have listened to these and cried my eyes out, and it does help. YOu have to go through the entire emotion until you can honestly walk away from it.
And please don't blame yourself, you are a good person trapped in a horrific traumatic situation, and you will walk away from this unharmed, you will become stronger, and you willhonestly be okay, I truly believe that, I have faith in you. :)
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What do you think I should do about girls that are jealous to me. You know the ones that seem to think that everything you do is like a big deal and they pay so much attention to even when there really isnt anything that they should even notice. It annoys me. (link)
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HOnestly, just ignore them. I know that may sound like stupid advice but they are so not worth your time. Believe me, I lived the stupid girl drama, where they constantly point out every flaw you have. It is just not worth it. You are above it, and better than it.
I used to let it get to me. I used to cry about it and stuff, and I let it pull me down. Unfortunately there is nothing you can really say except to tell them to get over it, but honestly life is too short to sit here and even let those immature girls get to you.
I know it is extremely annoying. But you know your better than it, so just ignore them and look for other positive things to do. They will do it even more if they know that it gets to you. SO do not even acknowledge them. When they give you a dirty look or snicker at you just turn your head and walk away. And obviously you have confidence b/c they are jealous.
You could even tell them if they are that jealous of you you can give them free lesson how to be just like you if they are clearly that obsessed.
I hope everything works out for you, and just know that you are a good person, and there will always be people like that in your life, just rise above it, your better than that. Don't even bother to lower yourself to their level, because it is such a long wayyyy down.
Good luck, and if you need anything else, just message me, I'll be glad to listen :)
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I don't understand why people have so much faith in me. They tell me that I'll make a team or that guy will go out with me but when it comes around for that stuff I didn't make the team or that guy acutally had the crush on girl who told me. Is it their confidence? I know i lack in that area and if it is b/c of their confidence i am glad to lack because i would never want to keep being put down like that i understand that it's not on purpose but still why do people say such reasuring things? (link)
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People say stuff like that because they honestly believe it is true. Their confidence probably does have something to do with it, but it doesn't mean they are lying to you. I don't think they mean to put you down either. Think about this, when you get a good grade on a hard test or you find out some awesome news that you want to share with someone, aren't you in a really good mood, and happy. Well happiness is contagious, and maybe they are happy about something in their life and are basically rubbing the happiness onto you. And honestly life is so short to constantly be angry or upset or have no faith in yourself.
I understand what you mean about lacking confidence, we all feel that way at sometimes, but sometimes when you lack it it shows. Maybe that boy wanted to ask you out and by feeling unconfident and unsure of yourself you portrayed that you werent interested in him. Life basically evolves around the Law of Attraction. Why do you think those people that build you up make you feel good about yourself. You like being around them b/c they are fun and nice. The world may be unfair and ruled by"pretty" people but moreover, the world is ruled by people who are a joy to be around. IF you walk around with a sticker that says "Screw life" people won't want to be around you.
But I don't think those people say things just to make you feel bad or look stupid, I say stuff like that to people, b/c I honestly do believe they are good people and deserve to have good things happen to them.
I honestly don't know you, but I believe in you and I also want good things to happen to you, b/c that is just the way I am. I am a happy person for 2 reasons: 1.) God is in my life and 2.) life is too short to cry and get angry about the things we can't change. And for me to complain about an unfair world, I'm just making it suck more, rather then trying to change at least one place for the better.
Did I make sense to you? What it all comes down to is to just live your life fully and richly, and say a kind word to someone who looks up to you. There is too much negativity in the world so when you get a chance to make something better, do good. Just do good in the world. :)
The way to be confident, is to only focus on the positive things in yourself rather then stripping out the negative. Next time you feel worthless or something focus on something good that just happened to you. That will make all the difference.
Sorry this is so long, and if you need anything else just ask.
Good luck with everything!! and Happy Thanksgiving!!
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What are some of your favorite movies? I would like a bunch. The genre doesn't matter, just tell me your favorites!! Please tell me good christmas ones too pleasee!!! (link)
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I love these movies:
The Notebook
21
Cinderella Story
The Dark Knight
Evan Almighty
Sweet Home Alabama
Aladdin
Actually, all Disney Movies are cool
City of Angels
Miss Congeneality one and 2
The Phantom of the Opera
Wedding Crashers
I can't think of any more right now, but let me know if you need some more, ill go think of some.
Some great Christmas ones are:
Holiday in Handcuffs
White Christmas
A Christmas Story
A Very Brady Christmas
Christmas with the Kranks
Thats all I can think of right now, Ill go think of some more.
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hey. let me give you some background information on myself. i was always a little bit of a chubby girl. not really because i use to eat like a pig or anything like that. i would excersise, and i really didn't watch what i ate that much. i would go to mcdonalds and stuff and i really wouldn't think about it. well, to make a long story short, after trying so many diets and putting so much work into my body, i got very thin, and i look fantastic. i am now weighing 95 pounds of pure muscle. I don't mean to brag or anything, but I really do look great and it's just that i'm very proud of myself because i worked so hard to get here. but, i did go a little crazy. i started to become a bit anorexic, counting calories obsessively. i started eating no more than 600-800 calories a day. along with this calorie intake, i would do spinning and strength training every day. i go to the gym every day (or atleast 5-6 days a week), and atleast 2 or 3 of those days, i do spinning. i've been getting a little better about the calories, because i started to feel really sick. my hands would get really cold, and i was really tired. i would stare off into space and i lost consciousness a little bit. i knew that it wasn't right, but i just didn't want to lose everything i had worked so hard for. but, i've been getting better because i've realized that i'm not going to gain weight by eating things that are low fat. it's not about calories. it's about healthy foods. if i eat fish and chicken and fat free yogurt i'm not gonna gain weight, especially with all the excersise i do. i'm not going to get fat by eating fruits and vegetables, that i was cutting out to save calories. so, basically, i increased my calorie intake a little bit, but sometimes i feel kind of guilty, and i just want someone to tell me that it's ok and that i'm doing the right thing. (i haven't gotten my period in like 3 months). but, i can't ask my mom to tell me, because she gets mad whenever i mention food because she's so concerned with my situation.
like today, this is what i had
Breakfast: gritz (100-calorie quaker oatmeal pack)
Snack: sliced pineapple
Lunch: lemon chicken and1/2 cup of mashed potatoes
Snack: non-fat greek drained yogurt
Dinner: 1 drumstick chicken (baked) , 1 chicken wing (baked), 1/2 cup of rice, 1/2 cup chopped carrots, watermelon slice
i know i overdid the dinner a little bit but I was STARVING when I got home after my workout. i don't know why. but, anyway, would someone just show a little support for me? you have no idea how much I would appreciate it just to hear that i'm doing good.
Thanks
=) (link)
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Honestly, you are doing good. I know you want to hear it. But it is true, when you got past counting calories and obsessing about your weight, you became healthier.
YOu didnot overdo it at dinner. You were hungry and there is nothing wrong with it. You don't have to starve yourself to lose weight, and you don't have to completely cut out junk food. You are doing rihgt by eating fruits and vegetables but it is okay to have apeice of cake once in a while, it really is good for your body to have some kind of junk food every now and then.
As for the constant working out, it is okay to go to the gym like 3-4 days a week for mybe 1-3 hours but 6 days honestly is not good. 6 days is indicating to me that you are overdoing it. When you go that much and put constant exercise on your heart like that, it can cause you heart damage or excessive weight loss.
It is okay that you want to lose weight, but please cut back on the gym a couple days b/c I think by your symptoms that you could have been borderling aneroxic, I'm glad you were able to stop. My doctor told me I was borderline aneroxic and I had those symptoms. You don't want to be in rehab and stuff. I think that by cutting back on your diet and still eating healthy you will do awesome, and look and feel amazing.
Congratulations again, you have come a long way and you will continue too if you just keep taking care of your body.
Best of luck to you!!
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it's josh again, you answered one of my questions today, just like to say thanks your advice is really gonna help me. another thing about this same girl that makes me think she likes me is she send me the most random text messages, like the other morning i woke up to my message tone and it was her saying "happy first real day of snow", and today she asked me if i wanted to go out with her and some of her friends saturday night. do you have any ideas of what i should do?
thanks (link)
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Really? Josh, it sounds like she is asking you out! I definetly think you should go with her on Saturday. The fact that she sends you random texts indicates to me that she is thinking of you at different times during the day. And honestly, I think that you should go and see what she is like when she is around her friends and away from work. That will be the final sign if she likes you. Take this opportunity and see what Saturday brings.
I'm glad I was able to help you, and if you need anything else, do not hesitate at all to just ask me :)
And if Saturday goes well, then you should make the next move and ask her out. Because it sounds to me like she is asking you out right now, so technically the ball is in your court. Just see how Saturday goes and make the final decision. But I have to say as an outsiders opinion, it seems to me that she does like you.
Best of luck to you, and go Saturday, b/c if you dont you may regret it.
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My name is Josh, I'm 21, and i need some advice.
I've been crushing on this girl at work for a while now, and recently we've been hanging outside of work a little. this past weekend she was saposed to come see my band play at a party but she never showed up, the next morning she came in with gatorade donuts and asprin for me and appoligized for missing the show. i dont know if she was trying to make up for missing the show or didn't want me to be mad at her or what. everyone at work thinks she likes me even our boss said "I've been watching her flirt with you for months now". i guess i just want to make sure before i make a move.
thanks (link)
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Well it sounds to me like she likes you too, but the only way to know for sure is to ask. If you are too shy to talk to her I would say maybe hint at her that you like her. And honestly from a girl's perspective, I hate it when guys just assume that I already know they like me. I am one of those oblivious people, and if I were you, just go up and be straightfoward about everything.
I say go for it, you have a very good chance. I have total faith in you! :)
Good luck, and be confident, you got this!!
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i'm 14, and i have this boyfriend, that is extremely rich. and christmas is coming up. and he is going to be getting me all these expensive things my friend told me, and i'm not at all rich. my single mom makes an average pay. so, whatever i get him i'm scared he's going to be like "oh, thanks." like as in a way like 'oh-i-could-buy-this-anytime-i-want' kind of way. so what should i get him, that would be nice. even if they are separate things. i just really don't know what to do. so if you any suggestions, ill be fully considered to them. thanks. (link)
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Honestly you could make a photo album of the 2 of you and put pics of you guys and lyrics to your favorite songs, its heartfelt and doesn't cost a lot of money, and I am sure he wont be mad at what you give him.
Then write him a heartfelt note of what he means to you, because love is the richest gift to give someone and it doesn't cost a cent. You should really just put your heart into this gift not a wallet, b/c honestly I am sure he'll love you no matter how much money is spent.
I personally like the photo album, I think he will really like it.
Best of luck to you, and I hope the 2 of you have a Merry Christmas :)
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what is the most meaningful thing anyone has ever said to you when you were at such a low point in you're life? i would really love to know what people say to others, something that they will keep with them forever. any advice that helped you get through some rough times, because right now i'm going through really hard times. (link)
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To dare is to lose one's footing momentarily but not to dare is to lose onself
I am not afraid of storms because I am learning to sail my own ship.
Thomas Edison failed many times before successfully inventing the modern electric light bulb. He said, ’If I find 10,000 ways something won’t work, I haven’t failed. I am not discouraged, because every wrong attempt discarded is another step forward.
When the going gets tough, the tough get going.
It's not about being the best, it is about trying your best. :)
Honestly, I love to listen to people and do my best to help them. If you leave me your email, I wouldn't mind talking you through whatever it is you are going through. That is what I am here for, to do my best to help other people.
my favorite quote is: Yesterday is but a dream tommorrow is only a vision but today well lived makes every yesterday a dream of happiness and every tommorrow a vision of hope.
Live like you are at the bottom even when you are on top, b/c that way you will always try to better yourself and be the best that you can be. I promise.
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Hi! I don't want to state my real name so just call me Zettie. I have a small complicated problem and I really need some advice. You see, I am very very shy. My counselers have even said that I have social phobia! For years I felt awkward around people and alone. However, in my first year of college (I'm 19)I met someone that I actually felt comfortable with. (Let's call him "Peter") Peter and I became best friends! There were times when I had to ask myself if I liked him as more than a friend but I always came to the same conclusion: no. Now, 9 months later I realized that I was wrong, I do like him as more than a friend! Ever since the end of October (when he went to homecoming with someone else) I realized that my feelings for him were changing. You see, I was planning on transferring to a different college but lately the thought of saying bye to Peter was making me feel panicked! I didn't know why but I just couldn't leave him. So I decided to stay and thats when I knew that I liked him. At first I was a little hopeful that Peter might like me as more as a friend. But a couple of days ago I found out from his friend that he likes somebody else. I was completely crushed! I don't dare tell Peter that I have feelings for him especially if he doesn't like me the same way. I don't want to lose his friendship and I know he would feel uncomfortable around me if he found out I liked him! I don't know what to do. Should I forget about my feelings for him? Or should I wait patiently for a miracle? Please help me.
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First of all, I am glad that you are overcoming your social phobia. Anyways that being said, I can tell you there are other guys out there that once you get to know them you will get over the social awkwardness, but you know yourself better than I do. If you honestly believe that Peter is the guy you are waiting for and you really do like him, I would talk to him about it. Yes you are setting yourself up for rejection, but thats life and it does happen. First of all, tell him what he means to you, and say you can see yourself dating him, that way if he doesn't feel the same it wont be too awkward b/c you said you could see it happen and it doesn't mean it will happen/. Does that make sense? I think that the more guys you meet the more comfortable yopu will become around them, but who knows Peter could be right for you now, and honestly you never know if you don't say something. So when and if the opportunity presents itself, take it and make the most of it.
Good luck with everything with Peter, and have confidence b/c he obviously values you as a person so see if sees you as more then a friend too.
Best of luck, and let me know how things turn out for you :)
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Does anyone know the official air date for the new season of Kyle XY?? I really wanna know so I can watch!! I've been seeing different dates on the internet, I went on ABC Family.com to try to figure it out but came out with nothing. Thanks (link)
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The KyleXY new season begins January 12 at 9/8 Central. I just looked it up online.
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my friend is going with a guy she doesnt like.so why is she going with him?? the day they went out they took a couples picture for the yearbook. she says she doesnt want to break up with him because of the piture they took. she said that all the other couples that took the picture had been going out for like a year.i think she just doesnt want to look back at the pict and think o yeah thats the boy i went with for only a month or so cuz i guess most of her relationships have been pretty long. i told her you shouldnt go with somebody that you dont like. but she still doesnt know what she should do. what would you tell her if you where in my position? (link)
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HOnestly I wouls say sometimes a picture is just a picture, it doesn't need to have meaning behind it.
And take it from experience, the longer you date someone b/c you feel like you should, or you feel sorry for them, the more they get hurt in the end. And that isn't right. So honestly it is just a picture. Maybe she is thinking maybe she will eventually get feelings for him or maybe shes afriad to break it off. If you help her understand why she is dating him, she will come to a better conclusion.
My advice, explain to her that the longer you wait to end it the more hurt he'll be. And you should never do something b/c you think you are supposed too, b/c that in fact leads to regret, believe me. I think if you just explain to her, that she is hurting him in the long run , and the yearbook is just a picture, maybe shell understand that it doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of life. My freshman year this couple who were the sweetest ppl I've like ever met, they looked so awesome together. well they dated a 2 years and a half and took a pic together for the yearbook then 2 months later broke up. My point, the picture doesn't last forever, its just a moment in time that freezes life for a millisecond and ends when the flash is over. She'll be fine, just be there for her, and help her understand the greater meaning, you can use my examples if you want.
Good luck, I hope things work out well :)
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are there any high paying jobs that involve kids? For example a social worker (although i know they don't make very much money).
Thanks so much! (link)
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I want to be a child pyschologist. I love children so I can work with them and maybe even afford a comfortable living style. I also love to help people with their problems too.
You could also be a director and work with young kids onbig shows. Believe it or not, the talent some kids posess is seriously amazing, and if the director is good at directing he/she can get paid well.
Ill try to think of some others. Best of luck!!
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Thank you for the advice its okay that your confused becuz so am i. i just needed some other persons opinon thats all. my other friend who is friends with her too thinks that she is scared too. i mean i just came out to my friends and sisters but not my parents yet, i am still confused of who i am, i will like to date girls some day just to try it out but not seroius if i found some one. this happen before last year she got jealous over some guy that i randomly met at a party but it wasnt serious. if she does like me more than a friend i dont know how to handle it. we been friends for so long and her parents are very reglious people and it be just to hard to deal with. i am going to date people but if she has a promble then she should say something not ignore it. she a good friend but confusing.
thanx again for your advice. (link)
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No I totally understand. I hope everything works out for the both of you. And its okay that you don't totally know who you are, I think thats the process of growing up, I am still finding what makes me me, you know the whole college career choice,I am just becoming comfortable in my own skin.
Anyways, best of luck to you. :) All the best!
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sorry that this is long...
Okay I didn’t really get your answer so I am going to make my question a little more understanding and explain every thing. first of all my ex boyfriend and I dated for a month or two we broke it off in 2005! He lives in a different state and “he” calls me sometimes because we are just friends. He told me that he still has a thing for me but I told him I am not interested because I want to meet new people and he needs to move on. Anyways my best friend knows that I am bi because I told her a year ago about my self coming out slowly to my loved ones…I even told her that I liked her too just to get it off my chest. I know I am just her friend and she doesn’t feel that same way so I left it at that because I value our friendship. I moved two months ago far from my bff now in a different town 2 hours away from her, we keep in touch by text and phone too. So anyways two days ago that odd text from my ex showed up. I commented it with my bff and she agreed that he needs to move on, so then I told her that I will like to date women more than men and then she got me confused by sending me this reply “if you do, then who should I date?” to me it sounded like she wants to date me. At first I joked around with her that she’ll date some space man or whatever, I then ignored it but then it began to bug me, so the next day I ask her to explain her self and she text “have you found some one you want to date there?” I said “no, why?” she text “I’m just wondering because what you said about Anthony, ” I replied “all I said is that he needs to move on and that I want to date a girl some day, if you want to date my ex go ahead“. Then she texted “ummm no thanks” then I ask “okay what are you getting at? You want to date me?” she text ”that’s what I am wondering about” so I said “so let me get this straight you like me more than a friend?” she texted “um no I was just wondering” then I explain her that she did not make no scents at all and that she made it so awkward then she replied “I WAS JUST WONDERING” and that was it…. then today I asked her again and she text “oh it was nothing”
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So that’s why I am confused and that I had to asked those questions because SHE wasn’t explaining her self!?!?!
Really sorry that this is long…. (link)
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OoOoOohhh okay now I understand what you are saying. I am sorry about the misinterpetation. I thought you said she asked who should you date. Not who should she. Okay. So that is weird it sounds like she likes you more than, but if she says its nothing it could be that she likes you and is scared to say it, or maybe she really didn't mean anything by it. Maybe she wanted to see if you still like her.
I don't know, Im confused by her response, b/c it sounds like she likes you. But you said you don't think shes gay, maybe shes bi too.
I don't know what exact advice to give you other than, that she really should explain herself, b/c I have no idea what she meant by that. If she changes the subject it may be that she doesn't wanna talk about it, or maybe shes nervous to tell you. My advice, is give it a rest for a few days and if it comes up again, ask her what she meant maybe if you give her a few days she can figure out how she feels and give you a more clear answer to your situation.
I hope I answered your question. I am slightly confused by her response too, thats why I would wait a few days then ask again, and then leave it alone for good after that.
I'm sorry again for misreading the question, I hope I helped to give you a more clear explanation of what is going on. Best of luck to you and your best friend, and let me know if you need anything else. :)
~ Jeannie
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It all started when I got an odd text from my ex boyfriend of a picture of a teddy bear hugging a heart. It seems too romantic that I didn’t understand why he sent it to me. He said before to me that he still liked me last year I just hope he got over it because he just not my type anymore. I text to my friend about this and she agreed that he needs to move on. I text her “I rather date a girl than a guy again” (btw I am bisexaul) she reply “if you do that, then who should I date?"…um okay what did she mean by that? she not gay ...i think? i should've ask her about what she meant but i ignored it but this just happen yesterday and its been bugging me. we are 21 years old. i did have a thing for her but that was years ago i told her about my feelings and she just see me as a sister(so she says). i am just counfed why she text that it just seem odd...BTW i moved to a different town 2 hours away from her, it was stepmeber when i moved. she text me mostly every day about her work and classes. we keep in touch. i dont know if she is joking or just starting to realise she likes me.???? (link)
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Honestly just because she asked who you should date next doesn't mean she likes you. I am sorry if that isn't what you wanted to hear, but I mean you already said you asked her before and she said she sees you as a sister. That was a year ago. So I mean if you are over your ex boyfriend then just tell him, like if he says anything. And as for her, just see where she stands on it, its kind of subtle as for if she likes you or not.
If I were you, I would just ask, b/c if not youll always wonder and kick yourself if you dont.
Anyways, good luck with everything, if you have any more questions or need help just let me know.
:) All the best
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this is my situation,
im 16 years old, 4 weeks pregnant i know i have options and i have been thinking about them a lot.
adoption is just out of the question if i did that then one of my family members would adopt my child and i wouldn't be able to deal with that. So im not putting my child up for adoption.
i have always told myself that i was against abortion not just because i think of it as killing a baby but because it can cause physical and emotional harm to you also.
if i kept the baby i know i would have sooo many people behind me my mom has 4 sisters and all of them including her had there first baby at 17 so i know they would understand i know they would all help me, but im sooo scared. Im a Jr this year and the baby wouldnt be born till late july early augest so thats summer i mean .. i want to go back to school after i have the baby i would do that.. but i dont know.. i mean im not sure the father will stick around my best friend is his sister i know she would help me but i dont know what to do... i really dont want to be someones mother right now and i know its my boyfriends and mine fault that this happened but .. HELP!
what would you do in my situation, tell me why and what you think I should do!... please help any advice will help me (link)
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Honestly I cannot tell you what to do b/c it is your life and your decision 100%. But my opinion, is to keep the baby. I also am against abortion and I believe that b/c you said you have so many people standing behind you, your 4 sisters and best friend, I would keep the baby. YOu can do this. You will need help and support but you can do this, I have total faith in you.
I understand how you feel, my best friend growing up got pregnant at 16. She had the baby last March. We were talking about her options, she kept her baby, and although it is hard work, she said she would never take it back, she loves that little girl. HEr baby is so adorable. Having a child though at this age is tough, b/c you have to stay home and take care of him/her, but they do deserve a chance to live. She couldn't give up her child, and she is so glad she didnt. So talk to your parents, family friends, trusted adults, and see how they feel and I think youll find that they will support you.
I wish you luck with everything, b/c this is a huge situation, and if you ever need anything please let me know.
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I just really am about to spill. I don't have many friends I can share this with. So please help me!
To start I'm completly in love with my ex. We went out for 6 months and after ending it, not wanting to be friends, 6 months later, I'm still obsessed with him, and still unsure of the reason we ended it.
We'll call him Mike.
The next guy I just met. He's amazing but also 17, and I'm 15. He is exactly like me and I want nothing more but to be with him. Except, He doesn't know I like him, and I'm totally unsure about how he feels about me. & I don't want to tell him because it'll definitely change things. Oh and he doesn't go to my school.
We'll call him Steve.
And the last guy I've known for awhile. He's a COMPLETE asshole. He cheats on his girlfriend with me, he smokes, he drinks, he's a manwhore, he has sex with random people. But for some reason, I LOVE the attention. I just love it. I'm not sure if it's because I want to make my ex jealous, cause I find myself always talking loud about how we made out and things when I'm around my ex. Or if I actually like this guy..All my friends HATE HIM. They think he's a terrible person, and I know he just is going to hurt me. He's already lead me on twice and we're going on the third time. & I have to lie about him to my friends and stuff because thats how much they dissapprove of him. We'll call him Tom.
I think I like Tom, but I'm not sure if I do. and Steve is just amazing. But I'm not over Mike at ALL. And I'm not sure if steve likes me.
So what so I do?
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Honestly I think you need to completely cut Tom from your love list. Although you like the attention you are just heading down a dangerous path with him. Honestly he is going to pull you down hard. Just so you know that kind of guy will just crush you, hes an user he will tell you things you want to hear and you will lose yourself in all the lies. If you have to lie to your friends to be with him, then my God, it is so not worth it. And honestly the thing to decide between Steve and Mike, is you really need to make a list of pros and cons, and you really need to follow your heart on this one. I can't tell you which one is better for you, you need to decide that. If you still love Mike, I believe love is the greatest thing in the world, it doesn't come by often so when it does, you really want to make the most of every opportunity with it, so my suggestion is to talk to Mike and see how he feels, b/c otherwise youll just keep wondering and youll kick yourself if you don't ever find out. Go find out b/c even if he says hes over you you can give Steve a try. Leave it up to fate, because afterall things do happen for a reason.
Best of luck to you. But one thing I have learned in life is that if we have the chance to love we realyl should take the chance, I have missed a couple chances so thats how I know youll regret it. I have.
Good luck, all the best :)
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