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college & sexuality
16/f
I've never even considered the thought of me being bisexual, much less making it a formal thing, but recently I've had a change of heart. I'm excited for college suddenly [which is in a couple of months], only because I have hopes that people will be more open there. I don't exactly know how I'm gonna go about it, but I wanna date a girl. I guess I got jealous when I saw how easily Lindsay Lohan just magically SWITCHED. I never knew it was that easy. I don't know why, but it completely caught me by surprise. For some reason, I want a sexy, Barbie doll, girly girl [like me =)] not a crossdresser or dike, or whatever they're called. I just think that looks better. I've always thought I should've been born a man; wished it actually... The thought of it excites me almost more than dating a guy, cause I guess that's something I've never had before. I wouldn't dare date anyone around here cause I don't really want anyone knowing. My question is, is there something wrong with me? Is it just a passing fantasy, or am I bisexual? Most importantly, how do I do it? I mean, I can't just go up to some random beautiful girl and ask if they're lesbian... Any inputs would be really appreciated [like, how you met YOUR girl, or one-time stuff] thanks in advance!
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let me tell you my story. i am a 20 yr old female and my whole life i dated guys. i always wondered about girls and would take notice to the lesbians at school (some of them were my friends) and i would fantasize sometimes about being with them. i have been curious and kind of attracted to girls my whole life but i never really thought i would do anything about it. until one day this girl started at my job and i knew her but i hadnt talked to her in a long time. she was gay and she would flirt w/ me and we started hanging out. i fell for her and we went out for about a month. i have been with girls ever since then and i have been with my current girlfriend for the past 2 yrs.
i know its hard when none of your friends are bi or you dont want people in your town to know. especially if your not sure. my advice to you is if there are any bisexual girls or lesbians in your town try to become friends with them. once you become friends with one of them you meet so many more because its like a big circle. all of my friends are either bisexual or lesbians now and thats because my straight friends werent "comfortable" with me being with girls.
also if there is gay clubs anywhere near you, try going to one. there are 2 that i go to and i always have an amazing time. people always think that they are like flashy clubs where people are all half naked and theres drag queens running around everywhere. thats not how it is. its like a regular club. there is even some straight boyfriends and girlfriends there.
but just try to get out there and expirament. just because you wanna date a couple girls and try it out does not put a permanent lesbian sign on your forehead. i like girls and im with a girl but i might be with a guy again someday. the way i look at it is i will give anyone a chance. male or female. if you treat me right and make me happy i dont care what you are.
in your question you mentioned how people met their girls. i already said that my first girlfriend was a girl i was friends with before that started working with me. the next girl was actually the ex girlfriend of the girl in with now, who i have been friends with since my senior year of high school.
i hope i helped in someway and if you need anyone to talk to i can give you my email.
good luck!
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There is nothing wrong with wanting to date a girl. It is okay to experiment, but if you think about it constanly, chances are you are bisexual. But you are young, you have time to figure that all out, which is what college is for and picking a career, lol. Just see what works for you, don't be ashamed to experiment, you have to find out who you are.
Good luck, :)
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