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there was a guy, screwed me over
didnt talk to eachother for a while.
then became very good friends again, took things farther again. & i got hurt once again, he did the same thing, and ran back to the same girl, when he said he wouldnt.
the thing is, i kinda figured that would happen but i gave him a chance, because i wanted to trust him. obviously i shouldve listened to myself.
now i told him we couldnt be friends.
i havent talked to him in a month, but its hard seeing him around, and not talking to him or even looking at eachother.
i want to forgive him, but i just dont know if i should, or even if i can.
how do you know if you should?
i really miss being friends with him, im just scared things wont be the same.
i try to keep him outta my mind, but its soo hard, not to think about him.
i just really need someone to talk to about it, i guess.
any opinions or advice,
guys and girls.
please..im just so completely confused about what to do, and im sick of thing about it :/
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Well, if one person can help you it's me.. because I've been in the same exact situation.
These guys are jerks, he is a jerk.
I trusted this guy i dated over and over (it was long distance which was one of the reasons it didnt work).
But anyways he kept telling me that it would work, of course I trusted him and of course he broke my heart.
I went out with another guy and ended up breaking up with him to go back out with the jerk, who yes, did the same exact thing to me over again.
Enough about me though, I know its hard to see him and be friends with him.
But honestly you can't forgive him, because that is basically what got you into this situation in the first place, you kept forgiving him and thats why he continued to hurt you.
I guess you can try to be friends with him, but you have to be strong enough to put up a guard against him, which is one of the reasons i havent talked to my ex in months.
It's going to be alot harder in the end to try and be friends with someone who hurt you repeatedly than to ignore them for a while.
trust me.
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Hey there, I am sorry you got hurt. Unfortnately, these things do happen, and thats how we find ourselves is because we go as far as we can until we break, and we learn who we can and cannot trust.
I can understand how you feel, what if you try to talk to him about how you feel, that he hurt you so much. He may not realize how much he hurt you, maybe you should tell him. And always follow your heart, trust your gut b/c afterall you know yourself better than anyone.
I hope things get better for you, and if you would like to talk, I am here to listen. Afterall that is my main reason for joining advicenators, I love to listen to people and help as much as I can. Leave me your email if you would like to talk, I can't promise a complete cure but I will listen and do my best to help you :)
<3 Jeannie
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you should forgive everyone..it will be hard to trust him again, but you don't have to right away..some people just don't know what they want..or maybe he's just a jerk..try to keep busy, it sometimes keeps my mind off things..spend some time with other people and try to have fun.
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Okay everyone makes mistakes. This was a big one because it happened not only once, but twice. Therefore, did he even learn the first time?? Well, you can forgive him. You can become friends again just don't let him and you go to the next step because of what happened. You can be friends but don't let him hurt you again. maybe you should talk to him about this. Just be like you really hurt me after you said you wouldn't. He'll understand. But, you need to make it clear that you don't want to be more than friends. (he may think that he can keep doing this to you and get away with it, so don't let him and you get to that level. Keep it on a friend level)
Hope i helped and if you need anymore help then drop a question in my inbox.
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