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For your information, I'm very plain. I never do anything to myself except tie my hair in a loose pony tail.
I hardly ever dress nice, or wear makeup or anything. I'm 16 years old, and I honestly feel like doing my hair, wearing makeup, wearing nice clothes and all that because I really think it'll help with my self-esteem issues. I've always noticed that I'm more confident whenever I wear makeup or do my hair, or dress nicely whenever I'm gone to a wedding or something.
My mother on the other hand absolutely doesn't want me wearing any makeup besides eyeliner, and lip gloss. She says that make up will ruin my skin, and that I'll become too accustomed to wearing it that I won't like my "real" face.
Anyways..
Do you think I should wear makeup, or should I not?
Share your personal experiences, and opinions. It'd help alot!
makeup is fine if you don't over-do it. choose the colours that match your skin type. if you don't know which colours these are then just type it into google & they'll be lots of sites to help you :) try and apply it correctly also, & again if you need help you can get some guidance from sites on google..or videos on youtube (i always find them best bcos you get a better idea) if you feel more confident wearing makeup, then wear it! it gives everyone confidence & i dont think anyone should not wear it unless they don't want to! explain to your mother that it will help your self-esteem issues. she'll understand!
17/f I've liked this one guy for almost three years. He's two years older than me and we're pretty close friends. He's away at college, and every time he comes home to visit friends, he flirts with me. I'm not gonna complain about that, but he's told me a million times that he doesn't want a long-distance relationship. It's quite annoying.
I've been trying to accept the fact that we'll probably never seriously date, but his flirting keeps giving me false hope. Should I continue to pursue a relationship with him or give him up for good?
i know how you feel, it can be very irritating! i think the best thing to do is give up on him. he has said that he doesn't want a long distance relationship, so unless you made a move to his college, then it's unlikely that he wants to be with you. it's unfair that he flirts with you when he comes back home but i guess that's just what some guys are like. stay friends, but don't flirt back with him else you will get hurt! good luck
hello advicenators.
first of all i havent been on this site in 3 years. and must i say its great to be back.
so i wont get into details because i'm just wondering this in general, what happens when someone you love, as in a best friend, hurts you. they didnt mean to, and you understand that, but what they did hurt you and you start to realize they werent the person you thought they were. i want things to go back to normal but i can't forget what she did to me.
any experiences with a simliar situation? advice?
i haven't been in this situation before, but i can imagine it's difficult for you. how long has it been since the person you cared about hurt you? if it hasn't been very long then chances are you will get over it. things just take time & if you are willing to give them a chance then you should do so. things change & so do people, just give it a try & if you still feel the same in a few months time, maybe you were hurt bad & time can't heal it. good luck
Okay so I'm to the point where I just wanna go crazy because I'm SO SICK of people mainly very catty girls hating on other girls just because of how they look. Like I'm a pretty girl and I know it and everyone's all like oh Lexie your so pretty blah blah guys dig you like 24/7 and blah blah all this other crap. I'm like aw you guys are sweet thanks! So I liked this guy and I still do like him and what not but it didn't work out because everyone was like "Dude don't go out with her she seems like a slut" "Dude bang her and then drop off a 100 bucks at the end table when your finished" and you know comments LIKE THAT just piss me off! I'm such a nice person WHO by the way is the least shadiest person at my school seriously. I get called SLUT and all of these other horrible names by girls, guys never take me seriously (like they just think I like to **** and them dump them) which IS NOT TRUE. I've only been in about 3 relationships and I'm 17 ha. So my question is why DO YOU THINK pretty girls ALWAYS get judged before the person judging them gets to know them at least?
i agree with the comment below - everyone gets judged! there's nothing you can do about it, that's life. the best thing to do is show people who you really are & if they want to believe that you are a slut then let them believe it - they aren't worth your time anyways!
Should you ALWAYS listen to your gut feeling? you know, that feeling you get when your doing something wrong and you get a feeling in your tummy, or if you are head over heels in love with a guy and you get butterflys in your stomach?
Why is the gut feeling always right? i dont understand it.
this is random but it just was on my mind =]
i think sometimes (most times) your gut feeling is right. but not always! i think it's a good idea to go with your gut instinct though because more often than not, it's right. i've liked guys in the past & i never had bad feelings about them, yet they turned out bad for me. idk i guess it's different for different people!
So, I'm in college and yesterday I turned 19. I was hanging out in the library between classes and this girl that I've been talking to came in and sat near me. We talked a little, and before I left I finally asked her out on a date (set for Friday). She said yes and I was really happy. I thought it was like a birthday present from God or something cheesy.
So, today (the day after my birthday, obviously) I go on my Facebook. I see that she has sent me a message about how she only wants to be friends with me and didn't mean to give me the wrong impression. I feel like I couldn't get a girlfriend to save my life though. I've never had one and have never even kissed a girl. I'm sure it sounds pathetic.
If you're a nice guy who girls don't like because your nice, how can you change that? What am I doing wrong?
awww you aint doing anything wrong, you need to keep telling yourself that! Some girls (not all girls) prefer bad guys. i wouldn't say i prefer bad guys or nice guys, i like an "inbetween" i think that aslong as you don't come across clingy, you shouldn't have a problem. i have friends who love nice guys, especially if they've had bad experiences with bad guys. you're a rare kind of a guy because nice guys are hard to find! you will meet someone who loves you for who you are, don't change! we don't need anymore bad guys! as corny as it sounds - just be yourself!
I went on a date with this guy on saturday night.
The date went good and we seemed to like eachother.you could tell he was trying to kiss me the whole time,but im not a kiss on the first date kinda girl but i acted interested when he held my hand and all that.once we left,i texted him saying thanks for paying for my ticket and all that.He thought i wasn't interested in him since i didnt kiss him but i was told him i was interested and he told me to tell him to truth if i wasn't interested but i told him i really was.He never texted back for the rest of the night,then the next day a lot of drama happend with his next girlfriend,she kept texting me and fighting with me etc.She kept calling him and texting him but he didn't answer he because he hates her.I then texted him simply saying hey,nothing else.He never responded.I really want things to work out with him because he said he was interested in me.I was thinking about calling him later since it's been a couple of days and just ask him to hangout? Should I wait and see if he texts me?His phone might be messed up though because it was a few weeks ago or maybe he's busy?
I just want to know what the deal is!
He sounds JUST like a guy I once knew. Quite a similar story to me and him too, so I know how you feel. First off, he likes you. He obviously thought that you didn't like him much because you didn't want to kiss him. Guys think like this. From my experience, I would text him again. Say something more than "hey" say something which can lead to a response such as "hey, how are you?" and ask him what he's been up to etc. If he still doesn't reply then just leave him to it and find someone who does actually want to interact with you. He'll probably end up contacting you again once you ignore him anyway. Good luck
i really like this guy. and i dont get him cause im new at this school .. and i havent really made that many friends yet, and he always comes and sits with me when im alone and asks me where i am in the break etc. so today we sat down and talked. and it was going really well until he started to tell me about his problems and that he still has feelings for his ex???!!! that kinda broke my heart cause he is honestly my dream guy and it always seemed like he likes me. cause he also got jealous when i flirted with other guys and when i sit with him he always tells his friends to go away, when they come. and like now i think that hes just talking to me cause he feels sorry for me? and him not liking me but liking someone else really broke my heart. i cant stop crying & seeing him now hurts so much. what should i do?
Firstly, don't let this upset you. I don't think he feels sorry for you at all else he wouldn't want to know where to meet you, and get jealous when you flirt with other guys. I hate it when guys do this because it really messes with girls feelings! I think he likes you but he just wants you to know that he's still hurting from his previous relationship (maybe he realised that you liked him and wanted to save yourself from getting hurt, who knows?) All you can do is talk to him. Express your feelings to a degree - in other words tell him how you feel without mentioning that he is your dream guy! Keep it low key. Explain that you know he has feelings for his ex, but you are starting to gain feelings for him and you wanted to see how he felt without being pushy. I hope it works for you :-)
my boyfriend of like a year broke up with me 4 days ago.. i'm trying to move on because he said he doesnt wanna talk anmore and doesnt care anymore, and i'm fine during the day, i have my momenst where i miss him, but like at night, when i lay down, i cant fall asleep and i've cried myself to sleep everynight sense.. please dont say to try to talk to him because he doesnt want to and i refuse to bother him.. i just dont know what to do to get over him.. i miss him so much. help :(
Don't worry honey, things will get better. It's really hard to get over anyone and i'm sure he's going through the same as you - it won't be easy for him either. Sometimes when you feel you are feeling better, you feel bad again and it's normal. It will take time but you will be fine. Try to focus on other things. Start a new activity or find a hobbie that you can use to occupy your time. Concentrate on school/college, your health and anything else that is productive. It may sound like a bore, and you probably don't want to do anything that doesn't consist of your ex boyfriend. But that's what he is now - your ex. You'll be feeling good soon, but you have to give it a chance. No matter what - you will think about him and yes you will be upset. That's love for you! You will feel great once you have overcome this though. Best of luck to you :-)
15/f
so on saturday i was at ny friends house and her guy friend came over (A) and his friend (B). well i had never met either one of them and my friend had only met (A) well (B) was superrr hot and he goes to my school but i had never seen him before and when they left my friend texted (A) and was like my friend thinks your friend's hot. and he goes no shit shit everyone does. and then he put he thinks she ok too. then today i was walking to my first period and (B) was standing right next to the door, turns out his class is right next time and he smiled at me and i was like oh hey! and then i walked away. hmm heck of a qoincidence... then during fourth period i was walking the track for class and (B) was out there running the track! it was sooo weird and he like ran by me two or three times.
but isn't that weird?
omggg hes so cute and i really wanna talk to him and stuff but im so shy!
anyway do you think that was a sign or something?? if so, please explain.
ahhh this is killing me!
please and thanks.
It's pretty simple, just talk to him! About anything you want! You will obviously have chance seeing as some of your classes are near eachother. He already knows that you think he's hot, so depending on how he reacts to you when you speak to him now, is the sign to tell you whether he's interested in you too. It could of been a sign, or it could just of been a coincidence. Either way, do what you feel is right. Good luck :-)
Okay, Idk what I want to be for halloween!! UGH!
I want to be something sexy. NOT whorish! Just sexy. Like the short fluffy skirts.
I'm looking for something cute, not gag me though.
I'm not EMO, I don't want anything like that.
I like to have fun! I don't want anything funny though. & My boyfriend also wants us to go as like, a theme? Like me be a sailor and him be the captain or whatever. HELP!
Sorry that I cant give enough info to help you guys out. Anything will work though, thanks!
There's loads to choose from! Have a look online and in fancy dress shops. Here are a few ideas for you:
- Ghostbusters
- Daphne and Fred (for you and your boyfriend)
- Cowboys/girls
- Nurse and doctor
I remember seeing a good fireman costume and you can get a matching dress costume for a girl! I don't remember which shop it was though. Have fun shopping! :-)
Let's say on the date,the guy seems VERY interested and talks to me later that night after the date.
He hasn't called me or texted me since then.
That was Saturday night and it's now monday night without a call or text.I would be fine with texting him or calling him,except for I had the last word ..and I don't like to seem obsessed.
I was thinking about calling him Friday to see if he wants to hangout again ,if he doesn't talk to me before then.
Yes or no?
I'm sure he still likes you. He's probably waiting for you to text him. Like others have said, guys aren't good communicators. They aren't into the whole "who texts who" like us girls are. It doesn't matter who texts who, just get texting! If he doesn't reply, then just leave him to it. If he does, which is most likely... good stuff!
I'm 15 female, Softmor in high school.
He'll be 18 in a few days, Senior in high school.
I've knowen him for a few years, he's my best friend. Greatest friendship I'd ever had, there's just one small problem I've got a MAJOR crush on him! I'm afraid if I tell him I like him, he'll reject me. I've had ALOT of heart breaks all the same way... I'll tell the guy I like them, He'll say "I'm sorry I don't like you that way. I just wanna be friends." and he'll repeat it every other conversation, and in the end were not friends! I've never had someone crush on me, makes me wonder if it's cause I'm different. At my school, EVERYONE says I'm crazy(some mean good others mean bad), that and I'm the ONLY one even slightly over weight... I wanna tell him Wensday(we'll see each other all day). But should I accutally tell him? Lily (his little sister, i know pretty well) said (& i heard) when she ask'd Seth (aka my crush/best friend) if he likes me, and he said "That's no of your buissness" and looked away with a half-smile... Does that mean he would like me back, he sends mixed signals... Help please?
-Gabriella
I think due to his reaction when his sister asked him if he likes you, he must like you. Obviously i'm not 100% as I don't know him and sometimes guys can send mixed signals. But i'd say it's most likely that he does like you. I would try and talk to him and explain how you feel. The worst that could happen is he could reject you, but you can move on from it. I hope it works out for you, good luck :-)
okay hi i have a lot of questions so bare with me here. i'm 17/f. i don't have a boyfriend, but i'm basically 'with' this guy. we've been hooking up on and off since like february. so that's like 7 months. he's liked me on and off since like freshman year and i never really had any interest in him until last year. we would hook up on and off but i hooked up with a bunch of other guys this summer and didn't really like him or want to be tied down to anyone. (i liked other guys this summer too). anyways, he is the sweestest, cutest guy ever. he REALLY, and i mean REALLY cares about me. he honestly makes me feel like i'm the prettiest girl in the world. just the way he looks at me and kisses me. the last week of summer, i got really drunk and threw up all over at a party i was at and he sat behind me for like 2 hours while i threw up and then carried me to his car and made sure i got to my friends house safely and then came over to my house the next day to make sure i was okay. and i had hooked up with another guy that night. and he knew it. not that i did anything wrong because we aren't going out but since he likes me he obviously doesn't like it when i hook up with anyone else. i know that most of my friends wouldn't do that for me. anyways, the past few weeks i haven't hooked up with anyone else but him. and i told him i don't want to. and he doesn't want to either. we're like basically going out but we aren't. i'm scared to. because every time i start going out with a guy i don't like him anymore. so i don't know how to prevent that from happening again. i just don't like feeling tied down. but i really like him a lot. maybe even love him. and i don't just throw that word around. i want to go out with him but i'm scared i'll stop liking him. and also i have problems with relationships because i have huge problems showing someone i like them especially around other people. i fight with this guy a lot about dumb things. he gets mad at me a lot. but we always make up. we joke that if we were married we would have angry make up sex every night. that kinda fighting haha. nothing huge. but anyways i've been thinking about having sex with him because we've done pretty much everything but that and i feel like i'm ready and i know i can trust him. i know he likes me a lot. but i don't want to do it yet. maybe in a month or two. i want to be going out with him before we have sex but i feel like if i start going out with him i won't wanna have sex with him anymore. it's complicated. i'm not very scared of getting emotionally attached to him because i know he would like that haha. like he really likes me a lot. and that would probably help our relationship anyways. but what if i don't like it? or what if he doesn't? and does it hurt? i'm REALLY tight. like 2 fingers hurt. pretty bad. so i'm not really sure what to do about that because his penis is pretty big. help?
I think you should just go out with him. You say that you have done pretty much everything except sex with him so I don't see why it should be a problem for you two to start dating. If it doesn't work out, then it doesn't work out - but you never know until you try. He obviously cares about you. Carry on with what you are doing now, and eventually lead to dating and wait until you are ready to have sex with him.
I met this girl 5 months ago in texas, and we hit it off and I like her alot. The other day she told me some things that really made me think twice about being w/her and if I could ever trust her. She told me she's had a 1 nite stand, she's cheated once but, felt bad afterwards. she then tells me she believes in the saying "what he doesnt know wont hurt him" 2 make things even worse..she told me she was raped not once but Twice!! b/c she passed out. then she goes on and tells me shes loyal, trustworthy & only has sex if shes dating. Is it me or is this girl confused? she says 1 thing and then says the complete opp. Don't get me wrong, I give her alot of respect 4 being honest, it meant alot 2 me that she was. Not many females would have been. But how can she be trustworthy and loyal if she's cheated? I just cant trust her. and if she only has sex while shes dating then how can she have a one nite stand? Some 1 Please!!explain 2 me how in the hell she could put her self in the same situation Twice? You would think if you were raped you would have learned your lesson the first time, right? It tells me shes careless. God only knows what was done 2 her and by how many. I Cant!! look pass that! Am I wrong in doing so? I should mention..I live in Chicago. One more thing she told me.. was that she didn't mind me sleeping w/other girls, and she understood I needed 2 get mine. I've asked family what I should do and they all told me the same thing::get rid of her, she'll give me nothing but problems. Shes told me that her loyality and love are w/me in a major way, I've already told her I thought it was best if we just stayed friends b/c I could'nt trust her. Should I give her a chance? how do I get over everything she told me? Thank you to everyone who responds to my ?. I really need other peoples opinion, and B Honest.
I agree with your family, you should get rid of her. I feel so bad for saying this too because I know how much it hurts. I hate it when people tell me to get rid of someone who I really like, it's happened to me before and I felt like ignoring what they said just because I wanted to be with them. But the truth hurts. If I were you I would get rid of her. She keeps contradicting herself and she doesn't seem loyal or trustworthy at all. It's good that she was honest with you, so that you find out what she's like sooner rather than later. You deserve to be with someone you trust. Good luck :-)
i was talking to a friend and she said i wasnt exciting.
it kinda really hurt my feelings.
cuz when im texting i guess im boring.
i was perfectly content with my life.
but now it like all changes. :/
any ways to be more exciting?
Awww your friend shouldn't of said that to you. What makes her think she's exciting!? Boring people get bored! I guess i'm like you sometimes. I can't be bothered texting so I just text whatever. Don't try and be exciting, and definitely don't let this girl effect you. If she wants to think you aren't exciting - let her think that! I'm sure you're exciting to many other people.
anyone know how to get someone to like you?
not like like but friend wise?
cuz im goin into highschool. and im trying to be outgoing. but its tough.
thanks!
Be friendly. Smiling is the easiest and most effective way to meet people. You should try and be yourself though.. never *try* and be outgoing, let it come natural. Ask people questions. Compliment them. And you will get the same in return :-)
His name is jason and he's like my drug. Sometimes he makes me happy but in the long run he is hurting me. When Im with him I want to be by him forever. And when we're apart I cant stop thinking about him. The absolute best night of my life! When he told everyone that he liked me so much he thought he was in love. But he's naturally a player and I know he cares about me but Its like he is trying so hard to be "unattatched" but he is slowly showin me and everyone else how important I really am to him. My problem though is that I feel like it could take litterally years before he will completely commit to me. I dont know if I can wait that long. He is hurting me so much with his games. but like I said he is like a drug that I am sompletely addicted to.
You sound just like me a year ago hun. I know someone that fits that description exactly. There is nothing worse than being in love with a "player" sorta guy. It hurts. But i'll tell you something.. it will hurt so much more if you leave it any longer. You need to speak to him. Don't be pushy, just be really cool about it when you speak to him, ask him where he wants things to go with you. Explain that you aren't trying to rush him into anything, but you want to know if he will ever be ready to commit to you. Some people just need time - maybe he does. I'm not a great believer in the whole "if a guy isn't willing to attach himself to you, he doesn't like you enough" In some cases this is true, but he's made it clear that he likes you, all you can do now is see where he wants this to go. If he doesn't show any signs of wanting to commit, take my advice hun and move on. It will hurt at first, but you will get over it just like I did. Good luck :-) xox
Well my question is nice and simple.....I have so many pimples on my face and I wanna know how do I get rid of them fast and easy?
Toothpaste works, no joke. It works for me and my friends so I presume it would work for everyone. The only downside is your face smells of mint.
I flirt with basically any boy I hang out with. It's getting insane, like to the point where I find myself flirting with my friends' younger brothers! (Not in a pedophilic way. They obviously aren't ten years old or anything, but they are still significantly younger than me.) It's not like the flirting ever turns into anything and I don't mean anything sexual by it, but it tends to be my automatic reaction and it's weirding me out. Fix it? 17f.
I am like that too! I didn't even realise I did it. For a long time I thought it was a bad thing, and tried to stop myself. But that's just me. Just like you are just you. Aslong as it's harmless, I don't see what the problem is!