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help! should i give her a chance? can i ever trust her?
I met this girl 5 months ago in texas, and we hit it off and I like her alot. The other day she told me some things that really made me think twice about being w/her and if I could ever trust her. She told me she's had a 1 nite stand, she's cheated once but, felt bad afterwards. she then tells me she believes in the saying "what he doesnt know wont hurt him" 2 make things even worse..she told me she was raped not once but Twice!! b/c she passed out. then she goes on and tells me shes loyal, trustworthy & only has sex if shes dating. Is it me or is this girl confused? she says 1 thing and then says the complete opp. Don't get me wrong, I give her alot of respect 4 being honest, it meant alot 2 me that she was. Not many females would have been. But how can she be trustworthy and loyal if she's cheated? I just cant trust her. and if she only has sex while shes dating then how can she have a one nite stand? Some 1 Please!!explain 2 me how in the hell she could put her self in the same situation Twice? You would think if you were raped you would have learned your lesson the first time, right? It tells me shes careless. God only knows what was done 2 her and by how many. I Cant!! look pass that! Am I wrong in doing so? I should mention..I live in Chicago. One more thing she told me.. was that she didn't mind me sleeping w/other girls, and she understood I needed 2 get mine. I've asked family what I should do and they all told me the same thing::get rid of her, she'll give me nothing but problems. Shes told me that her loyality and love are w/me in a major way, I've already told her I thought it was best if we just stayed friends b/c I could'nt trust her. Should I give her a chance? how do I get over everything she told me? Thank you to everyone who responds to my ?. I really need other peoples opinion, and B Honest.
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If she cheated and her ex was an in-town boyfriend, then I don't think she deserves your trust because you won't even have that advantage of being close by. You would have to live with assuming this girl, who is hundreds of miles away- (I think, I'm not too good in geography..) will treat you with more respect than others she has been with. A positive outcome is unlikely, I'm sorry..I know you have/had hope in it but I doubt that she will change unless you and her really start a serious ritualistic, tremendous relationship that will isolate her from her past life. I do commend her on being truthful but actions and words are two very different, important things. Let her go...
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I agree with your family, you should get rid of her. I feel so bad for saying this too because I know how much it hurts. I hate it when people tell me to get rid of someone who I really like, it's happened to me before and I felt like ignoring what they said just because I wanted to be with them. But the truth hurts. If I were you I would get rid of her. She keeps contradicting herself and she doesn't seem loyal or trustworthy at all. It's good that she was honest with you, so that you find out what she's like sooner rather than later. You deserve to be with someone you trust. Good luck :-)
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you need to get rid of her and fast lol because she is definitly crazy and confused if a girl like that does all that and expects a guy to still trust her shes got problems your doing nothing wrong because you want someone who you can trust and can expect to have a good relationship not somone who says you can sleep with other girls that just proves shes not gf meterial she just wants sex and a fling nothing more so move on she isnt worth your love or time and im sure theres girls out there who are a hundred times better then this girl. :)
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