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i have a bf who has gone threw a lot with me
and we have been together for 1 1/2 years ..
he meanse everything to me .. he has hit me
in the past and he tried to kill me .. everyone
thinks i should just get over him but i can`t
i love him .. i was gonna have his baby last year
but shit happend with my mom so i had to get
an abortion :-/ . he has also liked this girl
behind my back and hes been lying about it ever
since .. but now he says that he misses me
and everything .. i don`t know what to do ..
i miss him so much .. he just got outa jail
for something big :-/ trying to run me and
my boii off the road but he just needs help.
please help me thank you -Nikky-
YOU need to get help. You're trapped in an abusive relationship. It doesn't make sense to other people, but you love him even though he's cruel to you. If you can, get out of it as fast and as clean as you can. If you can't, I'd recommend going to a phsyciatrist or something to help yourself.
I'm going to a party tomorrow night and I'm getting quite worried about it.
There's this guy going who I don't talk to that much...but I've been to parties with him there before. Twice. And both times I ended up getting with him under the influence of a substantial amount of alcohol.
And I seriously don't want to do it again, but I don't want it to stop me from having fun...and I just don't know if I want to go any more, but its my best friend's birthday!
I'm pretty damn certain he'll try it on again if he gets the chance, so my question is how can I try and make sure he doesn't try it on? And if worse comes to worse how can I get rid of him without making things awkward for the other people at the party?
I rate!
If you are really worried then maybe you shouldn't go to the party
one of my closest guy friends has been very very huggy since the first day of school. he is always coming up right behind me and throwing his arms around me and getting his face close enough for me to smell the shampoo in his hair. he carries my books from my locker to where we hang out waiting for our rides and today he started calling me "his princess".
i wouldnt think it was so... lovey dovey if he hadnt of said i was "his".
everybody notices that he hugs me alll the time and sometimes he leans on my shoulder and lets me cuddle him. my best friend even asked us to both of our faces if we were going out with each other. he had to go practice for his sport thing, so he never answered. but we drink after each other and i want to be his girlfriend..
but i'm not making the first move so dont even suggest that.
does he like me? do yall think he wants to be more too? i cant get him out of my head.
i recently broke up with my boyfriend because he thought that i was to huggy with the guy. and every time i mention his name he gets all jealous and protective.
Omg yeah He likes you! Keep showing him that you're interested and hopefully he'll get up the guts to ask you out! I don't think there's anything you can do, but yeah he defiantly likes you! Good luck!
ok i listen to music like fall out boy, my chemical romance, hot hot heat, green day, 3 doors down, system of a down and all kind of music like that but im lookin for some new bands can anyone help me out??
Oasis is AMAZING! But so is Jet, Athlete, Coldplay, Puddle of Mud, Pixies, All-American Rejects*just came out with a new cd"move on" it's brilliant*, Radiohead, Ash, Alien Ant Farm, Chevelle, Deaf Pedestrians "15 beers ago", Gorillaz, The Killers, Lit, Muse, Red Hot Chilipeppers, Starting Line, Sugarcult, Weezer, Emery, and The verve. Hope i helped!
I have curly & frizzy hair; I use a straightening iron to smooth out the frizz but it still seems a tad frizzy. Is there a smoothing product anyone can suggest that can be used with a straightening iron? Or something after that I can use to smooth it out?
There's a lot of products that are excellent de-frizzers! The easiest is hair spray- most people might have it around their house from that one day for that one thing. So, you can spray some on a brush and brush it through your hair to de-frizz. I have a product by loreal that defrizzes, it's in a white bottle with yellow, red and blue colors on it. To find one that suites what you want the best go to the hair isle at your grocery store and take a few minutes to look around. Compare the prices,what the product claims to do, and wether it is for wet or dry hair. Good luck!
ok..... PLEASE help me im SO stuck!!! well two of my BEST friends in the world are in a HUGE fight, they say i have to pick one of them. i dont want to pick one, but i dont ant them to fight!!! they sometimes fight OVER me!!!!!! but PLEASE help me im begging you!!!! im desprate!!!
ps. they talk about eachother and i dont want to talk about eather one!!!
When you're with either one of your friends and they start bashing your other friend just say "Hey, I don't really want to talk about them. They're my friend." Then quickly change the subject! Maybe to someone, or something else. If they continue to bug you about choosing, let yourself, and them, know that if they were really your friend you wouldn't have to choose! Make sure you stay out of the arguement. Don't get in the middle of it. Let them fight, or work it out. Again, change the subject if their fight comes up in conversation. Goodluck!!
My boyfriend, Ed, and I been together for almost 8 months but we dated for a month before that. He is 18 and I'm 17. Everything was pretty good the 1st few months, few fights but nothing major. Then it seems as we hit the 6 month mark everything went way down. His family doesn't think I'm good enough, the have called me a slutty whore, cum dumpster, conceited, high mantience. At 1st, my boyfriend would stick up for me but then his siblings told their mom that we had sex infront of them and that I tried to seduce the 13 year old brother. Both of which are not true. So I was told I was not allowed to call or go over their house. Its been hard but we have dealt with it, but now Ed, is being a lot meaner to me. He'll blow off plans with me, show up 3 hours late, it seems everything is up to him. His friends hate me, he is nice when its just me and him, but add any of his friends and he's an ass. I love him and I lost my virginity to him and he is also my best friend. But I can't take this anymore. I;m sick of him blowing me off and only hanging out with me when he has nothing better to do. Do you think I should stay with him and try and work this out or just say fuck it and move on. One last thing, I hate being alone so I think the reason I have held on for so long is because I don't want to be lonely.
Oh hell yeah break it off. This guy's a jerk. Having him treat you like this is far worse then being alone. When you do break up with him-do it to his face.It'll seem more official and probably make you feel better about it. Good luck!!
how do u change your laugh and i want to know the best ways to get rid of acne and o yeah any ideas on how to get whiter teeth seee this sounds like a person has some really bad facial issues but its not im giving my friend a makeover but i need fast and long lasting results plz and thank you i rate high
Teeth.. crest while strips or any other whitening stuff
Acne... I get stuff over the counter it's called Differin and it's like my hero
Laugh...Don't change it! Your laugh makes you unique!
okay...i've been on my period for about 3 months now. ( i started like 3 months ago..i mean ) i've used pads b/c i was afraid to use tampons. well i tried to use a tampon the other day and it hurts to put it and i got it half way in and pushed up the aplicator but it wasnt in all the way so i pulled it out and when i did it hurt. wut should i do? is that bad?? should i see a doctor?? should it hurt, i kno it's not suppose to, is there something i can do? i rate high for good answers. someone plz give me advice!!
Putting it in might hurt the first time, just because you're not use to it. The reason it hurt when you immediantly took it out was because it was dry-usually after it's been in a while it comes out easily. Try using a plastic applicator, the ones called "slim fits" for a light flow. They're smaller and then when you get use to that you can start using the ones that are correct for your 'flow'.
i started my period around the first of august. like the 2nd..about.. for the first time. its september now & i havent started yet this month. will the date i start this month be the date for every month ? ?? help me out w/ this time date stuff
It takes a year or so for it to get on a monthly scheudle. Eventually it starts ABOUT the same time everymonth- unfortunatly not the same day. But wouldn't life be easier! You might go a couple months without having a period, especially after the 1st one. Don't fret!
ok well..my best friend (who is a guy) really likes this girl. He is still getting to know her and hasnt asked her out yet but he still seems to like her..i do not have feelings for him nething more then a friend but i really dont like the girl who he chose..hes had some bad experiences and i just want him to be happy, but shes not right for him, i know more about her then he does and i want to tell him, but i dont think hed understand and i think he would just be mad at me..and i dont want him to get mad. The other thing is it seems like she tries to copy things i do bc she thinks its going to make him like her more..and i think someone should just be themself. Whenever shes around he wont talk to me or any of his other friends..i dont know if i should tell him...or let him be...
First, it makes sense that she's copying you. She's probably jealous that you guys are so close and she wants to be close with him. And to the subject that he doesn't talk to you guys when she's around just shows that he likes her a lot! But you could try bringing them into a converstaion, maybe get to know her.
I'm not totally sure how close you guys are, but if you are really close then you might try telling him that you're not sure about her. If he asks why, just say you're not sure but it's something about her. That way, you're not accusing her or him of anything and he has no reason to get upset. After that, if he likes her then let him be. Support him if he asks her out, and while they're going out-it's the only thing you can do. You dont' want to seem controlling.
Good luck!
my mom gets pissed when i leave stuff at school. we have an email program at our school, where our teachers can email us homework. Well my teacher sent m e somethign and i dont have the book, because i didnt know what the homework would be, untill i checked my email onc ei got home, so what should i do?
Call a friend and ask them if you can borrow his or her book!
My boyfriend, Justin, and I, went to a rodeo tonight. This one girl, Destanie, was there. She likes him. Alot. And she doesn't like me at all (for what reason I don't know.) Anyways, she came up and was all over Justin and he was backing off and stuff and she pulled him aside and started telling him how I was cheating on my and walking down the hall with some guy holding his hand and stuff. Which is total BS! I would never cheat on him, I love him so much. Anyhow though, he came up and asked me about it. I blew up (for one reason or the other, I was just pissed because I'm sick of her telling him this stuff, and she's told him other lies like that recently.) He was really pissed off for me blowing up at him, which I can see because it might have came off like something WAS up. But I was just getting tired of all of it. Anyways, we made up I guess, but how can I let him know that I really would never cheat on him? I don't want him getting tired of Destanie saying stuff and break up with me, because I love him more than anything. I can't confront Destanie because she'd kick my butt. I rate high! Thanks so much.
Next time you guys are hanging out, bring up what happened again. Look him right in the guy and simply tell him "I will never cheat on you." If he accuses you of cheating again because of Destanie then you might want to consider breaking up with him. At that point if he hasn't figured out that Destanie is trying to ruin your relationship then he never will.
ok i have like a redish brown hair and today im going to get it died mayb like just a brown then get like cranberry blonde and carmel highlights...do you guyz thinks its a good look or not?
I'll right all 's for all answers!
thanks
Uh yeah I do, in fact I'm totally jealous! But be sure you're ready to have the dangers of bad roots and the fact that you'll have to color your hair forever, unless you want that awful half a head of roots. But, it's just hair and if it looks horribley bad just go to the store and try to match your color for like 5 dollars!
hey, im 14/f and 2morrow is tha first day at skool. I have curly frizzy hair like mia from the princess diaries if i don't put any gel in it, duz any1 know what products i can use to make it look curly but nice and fresh? i live in NY. any products as long as it dusn't damage my hair? thanx!
There's this stuff called "Frizz Eease" by John Frieda. It's like a whole line but all you really need is the moose part, it's called step 4, and you also might want the step five:finish spray because it makes it softer and also helps to de-frizz it! Hope I helped!
My Mom Has done drugs 4 a long time.........and now she is bak in my life and wants to see me i dont know what to to cause i am afraid as once i start trusting her again im afriad that she is just gunna leave.......what should I do??
Signed:Hurt --Inside
I think you should go see your mom. You don't have to fall into her arms and act like nothing ever happened. If you don't feel like you're ready to see her then maybe you shouldn't. If you didn't go how would you feel? And you don't need to start putting your life in her hands anytime soon. However, you should give her another chance. When you go and see her you might consider going somewhere public. So if it was uncomfortable or anything strange happened people would be around and if you wanted too, you could leave easier.
ok i want to be a movie director i always have. ive always loved making movies and being behind teh camera. but now i want to make a movie to send in to some director/movie company. but i have two problems. What should it be about? and who do i send it in too?
thanks
I have no idea about the second question, but to the first one: I don't think anyone should decide what your movie is about. If it's not your idea then you might not have "a vision" of what you want it to be. But in general, you could do it about your life- maybe dramatize it a big, it worked on Dawson's Creek! lol Well good luck and I hope to see your name on the big screen!
Hi I have this friend who went out with my ex a week after we mutully broke up. She's nice and all but I don't like how she would go out with him after I did! SHould I forgive her or not?
That is pretty low and it doesn't sound like she even thought about how you'd feel. You might just want to go up to her and say "Can I ask you a question? Why did you go out with *so-&-so*"- just get it out in the open and see where it goes from there. It might be that she's been feeling really bad about it or she didn't think you two were that close so didn't think it was a big deal.
Ok, first off if you are reading this and you know your just going to put something everyones going to say, please stop. I really truely need help! Ok, my best friend, lets call her 'Kristina' and me are going out with these 2 guys, lets call them Drew and West....ok well i go out with 'Drew' and 'Kristina' is going out with West! wellll....are relationshiphs with them are very....serious! i mean we love them to death buttt....me and 'west' have been talking online and becoming really good friends! and now...i find myself thinking about him sometimes and thinking about if i was with him and ive also had like 2 dreams about us making out or being together or something like that! andd everytime i think about this i cry and get upset because i dont want this to happen....but i think it is! i really dont have a clue what to do....somebody seriously needs to help me! like please dont send a smart remark please please try and see things from my point of view! act like you were me! ....thanks so much!
If it were me, I would just hide my feelings. Don't tell anyone because it might get back around to your best friend. Maybe stop talking to him online- separate yourself from him for a little bit so you can get over it. I can tell you don't want to loose your friend over a guy and that's awesome!
to lose stomach fat, is walking the same as running? im not very good at running and i really want to lose my stomach fat so can i just walk? will walking help me lose my stomach weight?
Try doing ab stuff- crunches/sit-ups- it focuses on the muscles in your stomack area.