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Boyfriend
My boyfriend, Ed, and I been together for almost 8 months but we dated for a month before that. He is 18 and I'm 17. Everything was pretty good the 1st few months, few fights but nothing major. Then it seems as we hit the 6 month mark everything went way down. His family doesn't think I'm good enough, the have called me a slutty whore, cum dumpster, conceited, high mantience. At 1st, my boyfriend would stick up for me but then his siblings told their mom that we had sex infront of them and that I tried to seduce the 13 year old brother. Both of which are not true. So I was told I was not allowed to call or go over their house. Its been hard but we have dealt with it, but now Ed, is being a lot meaner to me. He'll blow off plans with me, show up 3 hours late, it seems everything is up to him. His friends hate me, he is nice when its just me and him, but add any of his friends and he's an ass. I love him and I lost my virginity to him and he is also my best friend. But I can't take this anymore. I;m sick of him blowing me off and only hanging out with me when he has nothing better to do. Do you think I should stay with him and try and work this out or just say fuck it and move on. One last thing, I hate being alone so I think the reason I have held on for so long is because I don't want to be lonely.
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Oh hell yeah break it off. This guy's a jerk. Having him treat you like this is far worse then being alone. When you do break up with him-do it to his face.It'll seem more official and probably make you feel better about it. Good luck!!<33
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if he's dumb enough to believe his siblings and be sooo horrible to you he's not worth it. how could he believe them cos they said you and him had intercourse infront of them and that never happened so he knows that they're lying. and if they're lying about that they're most probaly lying about you seducing that 13 year old boy!dump him, hun. i know it won't be easy but it wil be worth it. there is some1 out there who will love you like no other, ok.hope i helped.good luck...
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hey sweetheart...ur in an extremeley difficult situation! the stress your going through must be exhausting! first of all you need to ask yourself if you are sure you love him enough to continue to go through the struggle to be with him and get through the fact that you do not have the acceptance of his friends and family. if the answer to that question is yes...you need to have a talk with him and see what is going on. you need to find out if there is a specific problem then you need to find out why that is. on the other hand if you dont feel the love is worth it..or if you know in your heart it isnt going to work out,..then you need to get yourself out of the relationship which will be difficult but may save u from future pain. i understand you do not want to be lonely but maybe its time for you to learn how to be happy with yourself and learn that you dont need a man in your life to feel loved and unlonely.this is the perfect oppurtunity to make big decisions in your life and find out whats best for you.
i wish u the best of luck...bless you!!
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first tell him whats bothering you if you might dump him anyway whats the worst that can happen.
But! dont be harsh guys make mistakes too. if he doesnt listen DUMP HIM you probabibly wont be single for long.
Hope this helps
Carpe Diem
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(Sorry if I'm a little incoherent, I don't have a great deal of time, and I'm trying to write as much of my thought as possible.)
I'd talk to him about it. You sound like you've had a few problems before, so I think you have enough courage to bring this up, and once you have you'll feel easier doing it again if he tries to fob it off.
Something is seriously wrong wit h your guy's priorities if he lets people tell him what to do, and who to go out with. There's also something wrong when he acts like an ass infront of his friends. You can't answer me, but think about it yourself... what kind of an ass is he? Does he grope? or make fun of you? What is it that makes him like that?
There's a chance that he's just got bad friends, but you made it sound like he's into things, so the other part to that equation is that he's just one of the jerks too. Some can do very convincing acts.
When his siblings (younger??) accused you of having sex infront of them, what did you boyfriend say? I have to say, I'm sitting here saying "WTF?" to myself. Why do the siblings hate you? What kind of parents will believe that crap?
What it all falls down to for me is that you tell him he isn't treating you with the respect and dignity that he used to, and that isn't good enough. He either shapes up, has an argument with his parents and changes his habits about his friends, or you're out of there. I'm sorry if it sounds harsh, but that's really IT.
He treats you well. He sticks up for you for as long as it takes. He says you are the most important girl in the world to him, and proves it to you at every opportunity. Anything else, and he's just not good enough.
If you're still not good enough for his family then he should be prepared to ditch his family.
Bad feeling that things won't turn out well, but it's always worth a try, good luck.
-K
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Screw it, move on.
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Dump that boy! Apperently he's not worth it! Im sure there is someone else out there willing to have a great girl like you as their girlfriend!
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