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I am 16 years old, and I am sure you are on here for advice, not to learn about my life.
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13/F
ok... so I am looking for some new music that I think that I would lke. My type of style is rock, pop, alternative (but not screamo). The bands I like are paramore, hinder, threedaysgrace, and boyslikegirls. Are there any other music that i would like?
thanks
A Change cf Pace
The Academy Is
The Ataris
Acceptance
Ambry
Arrival
Anberlin
Bravo Romeo Bravo
Circa Survive
Thrice
Greeley Estates
Hellogoodbye
Cute Is What We Aim For
Boys Night Out
Brand New
Count The Stars
Cursive
Dance Gavin Dance
The Early November
Emanuel
Emery
Ever We Fall
Funeral for a Friend
This Years Anthem
Goo Goo Dolls
I Can Make a Mess Like Nobody's Business
Idiot Pilot
Incubus
Isadora
Letter Kills
Lifehouse
Matchbook Romance
Matchbox 20
Motion City Soundtrack
Saosin
Scary Kids Scaring Kids
Senses Fail
Silverstein
The Spill Canvas
The Starting Line
Straylight Run
Thursday
Twilight City Fracture
The Morning Of
Shotgun Rules
We the Kings
Some of these bands do have screaming in them, but nothing extremely over the top.
"There's a guy I like at work, and I think he might like me, although he already has a girlfriend. We're friends, and I think we flirt a bit (I know I do), but I'm wondering how I might take it to the next level. Any suggestions??"
I do not think you should try to take it to the "next level" at all just yet. You said he has a girlfriend. You shouldn't come between them even if he does flirt back with you. You can probably picture the outcome of that situation, and I believe you don't want to go there. Harmless flirting is not too bad, but trying to go any farther is a bit extreme. Imagine how you would feel if someone else were trying to get with your boyfriend. That is not a feeling you want to experience. Let things go with the flow and back off a tad. If he likes you, he will dump his girlfriend.
Even if he does leave his girlfriend, however, you should wait a little bit before pursuing anything with him just in case he changes his mind. I don't know if you already know their history on if they are on and off or not; so if he does break it off, give it some time to see if they are really over and see if he makes the first move.
Hi to everyone.
I'm going to a wedding on Saturday, and I have everything under control except for my bangs.
I'm only going to be wearing my hair down, and straightened. I just don't know how to have my bangs/fringe.
It's grown out, and is down to my chin. My everyday hairstyle is right now just long with a part in the middle. It looks hideous on me, and doesn't suit my face. If I tuck them behind my ear, it looks gross on me and it's so short it really sticks out from behind my ear.
So what should I do with them? Like how should I style them? I think they're short enough to have REALLY LONG bangs, but they're not very nice.
I'm also asking for styles pls, and not to cut them as I'm trying to grow them out for a certain style without bangs. They're too short at the moment for that style though.
Clip them back, like so.
http://www.poster.net/duff-hilary/duff-hilary-photo-hilary-duff-6227156.jpg
Or to the side, and have your hair hide the clip, like so.
http://z.about.com/d/prom/1/7/Y/1/-/-/76851368.jpg
Headband, like so.
http://www.shopjuici.com/headbands/celeb-headbands.jpg
Not-so-middle-part, like so.
http://img2.timeinc.net/instyle/images/2007/dbf/110907_holmes_400x400.jpg
You have 5 days, play with it a little bit until you find something you like.
14/F
hi everyone!
this summer im staying home, with only a few of my girl, and guy, friends.
any ideas on jobs/internships/anything we could do?
all ideas welcome!
or anything i could do just with my best friend. we really want to get jobs.
thank you so much!!
p.s what are the laws for working when 14? (in calfornia)
It will be VERY difficult to get a job over the summer because 1)You are fourteen, and they are not legally allowed to hire you until you are 16, and 2)because a lot of college students and older people are going to be coming home for the summer, and will be taking up most of the job offers out there. So for the most part, it will be almost impossible to get a job at your age.
In my opinion, you should enjoy not having to work. I thought I wanted a job too because, hey, we all want money. Now I have one, and it sucks. Take the time you have to have fun.
my friend jenn has been dating this kid eric for a year and a half now, shes liked him since like 7th grade (were freshman now) well in the beginning i didnt like him at all, i thought he was rude. she got mad at me and we didnt talk for a long time. well jenn is a really good student, class officer and normally awesome grades and AMAZING softball player (just made varsity as a freshman, only one) so school means a lot to her. eric's mom over rid the teachers reconmended levels from 1's and 2's to all level 3's (which is the most work and for hardworking and "agressive" learners) he shouldnt be in level 3's it is to much for him. he doesnt do his homework and now jenn is getting fed up with it. she always says do your homework. she told him "im going to put as much effort into this relationship as you do to your schoolwork" that didnt work. they "breakup" kinda under the scenes, like no one knows about it cause its like a day or 2 and that wont work. so this past weekend we went to friendlys me her and eric and somehow we started arguing about schoolwork. we spent 2 hours like yelling at him "not yelling just arguing and lecturing" he doesnt call her to say goodnight anymore and that bothers jenn, obviously and he sleeps all the time, i gave him suggestions and he just rolls his eyes (it sounds a lot worse than it really was) so after all that and even some tears we thought we got through to him. well we were wrong. he came to school today and nothing was finished. i yelled at him and so did jenn and they got in a fight and sometime throught the day they broke up. like now people know and jenn was upset (not those girls standing in the hall surrounded by a million people. just a few tears.) and she made jokes about it, so i know shes okay but should i
-talk to eric
*if so what do i say
-not do anything
-try to get them together
-how do i help jenn
Well obviously yelling at him is not solving anything. I don't understand why you are trying so hard to get this boy to do something he just does not want to do. Let him do what he wants; it's his future he's ruining, not yours. You both being so uptight about it is not going to change if he does his homework or not, and screaming and threatening to break up is not the way to go. Plus, he pretty much indirectly is telling Jenn that he would much rather not do his homework than be with her, so I think both you and her should stop wasting your time with him and let him figure out what he wants for his future. Don't bother talking about it with him anymore, and have Jenn forget about it as well. Pretty soon he's going to be the one fed up and freak out on you guys.
hey, i have a little sister, and she's only like 7 right? and she knows things that she REALLY shouldn't know! like she knows soulja boy and sex stuff and ... other things. anyways, is our generation changing by the minute? I heard her talking to a boy about sex! help!!
What ever happened to hide and go seek? Tag? Playing outside?
During out younger years we got to enjoy being a kid. We had the best cartoons, the best games. As years go on, the world is telling everyone that being young is overrated, so everyone is quick to grow up. Being called "immature" is now an insult, and kids take that into consideration. You may not know it, but your little sister can hear everything you talk about, so she might get some of her knowledge of these things from you. The television and radio are not very kid-friendly these days, so whatever they hear on there, they are going to remember and repeat sometime in the future. And of course, if their big sister says something about sex, then it must be alright to say.
Some parents just spoil their kids because they do not want to deal with them. So they just give them what they want and be done with it. Hollister and whatnot are not made for kids under the age of 13 in my opinion. I don't understand why they need to dress like that in 6th grade.
If only everything were like they were in the 90's, kids would be able to enjoy their childhood a lot more.
moshing??
At a concert, when people get into the music, they push everyone out of the way and form an open circle. There are many interpretations of what moshing is, but you typically do it in a "pit."
There are two different kinds of pits. There is a push pit, which is when everyone is crammed together without any breathing room and are being pushed from different directions, not being able to move. Then there are the mosh pits, which in my opinion are fun, but dangerous.
Some people "two step" around the circle ( two mini hops on one foot, swing other foot in front and repeat), and push people around. There are the people who go into the middle and windmill kick and flail their arms everywhere. There people who intentionally try to hit someone and just run in and start throwing punches. Or there are the kind where no one goes into the circle, and people from the outside get shoved across and ram into the other side of people. I've seen many people get hurt pretty badly in mosh pits. Coming out of them bleeding and beaten up horribly. I, myself, have gotten a black eye, a fat lip, and plenty of bruises.
Here are some videos.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=T7dnWB1BiRA
http://youtube.com/watch?v=gKrGMbRc4NA&feature=related
http://youtube.com/watch?v=cOAnyTZBykE&feature=related
in the mocie smaart house played on disney, theres a scene where the daughter is in her room jumping on her bed and theres a music video playing on her wall..does anyone remember that and know what song it was?
i can't remember any of the words unfortuneately but if anyone could help that'd be great! =]
C'est La Vie by B*Witched.
Ah oh hey hey
Ah oh ah oh
I say, hey boy sitting in your tree
Mummy always wants you to come for tea (ah oh)
Don't be shy, straighten up your tie
Get down from your tree house sitting in the sky (ah oh)
I wanna know just what to do
Is it very big, is there room for two
(Ah oh)
I got a house with windows and doors
I'll show you mine if you show me yours
Gotta let me in, hey hey hey
Let the fun begin, hey
I'm the wolf today, hey hey hey
I'll huff, I'll puff
I'll huff, I'll puff, I'll blow you away
Say you will, say you won't
Say you'll do what I don't (say you will)
Say you're true, say to me
C'est la vie
Say you will, say you won't
Say you'll do what I don't (say you will, hey)
Say you're true, say to me (get a life)
C'est la vie
Do you play with the girls, play with the boys?
Do you ever get lonely playing with your toys? (ah oh)
We can talk, we can sing
I'll be the queen and you'll be the king (ah oh)
Hey boy, in your tree
Throw down a ladder, make room for me (ah oh)
I got a house with windows and doors
I'll show you mine if you show me yours
Gotta let me in, hey hey hey
Let the fun begin, hey
I'm the wolf today, hey hey hey
I'll huff, I'll puff
I'll huff, I'll puff, I'll blow you away
Say you will, say you won't
Say you'll do what I don't (say you will)
Say you're true, say to me (yeah)
C'est la vie (oh)
Say you will, say you won't (say you will)
Say you'll do what I don't (oh, say you will)
Say you're true, say to me (what are you like?)
C'est la vie
Hey hey
Na na na, hey
Na na na, oh
Na na na, hey
Hey hey hey hey
Say you will, say you won't
Say you'll do what I don't (say you will)
Say you're true, say to me
Wanna say
C'est la vie
Say you will, say you won't
Say you'll do what I don't (say you will)
Say you're true, say to me
(I fight like my dad as well)
C'est la vie
Na na na, hey
Na na na, oh
C'est la vie
Na na na, hey
Hey hey
C'est la vie (hey hey)
13/f
ok is it un normal to still be a virgin or not hooked up yet for my age?
Look what this world is coming to; thirteen year olds asking if it is normal to still be a virgin at there age.
The real answer is, it is perfectly normal to be a virgin at ANY age. Your virginity it something sacred and should not be tossed around like it's nothing. If you have sex when you are not ready, you will look back in a couple of years and be like, "Why did I do that?" You should have sex because you are with someone you care about deeply and trust them with your whole heart, and I do not believe anyone at the age of thirteen is ready for that responsibility. So to answer your question, it is perfectly normal to be a virgin at thirteen.
Well, I met a guy & really liked him & got on great with him. I had a feeling he was a player, so I didnt get too involved. Although I've found out he was messaging a friend of a friend being over "friendly", & when I asked about it lightly he openly admitted it & continued to message her (probably to annoy/keep me on my toes) but now I need advice on how to do the same back to him. I wont steep into messaging his friends, but ways which will keep him on his toes? I would really appreciate your advice! xxx
"An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind."
In other words, payback is not the answer.
Show him it does not phase you. If you show him you are annoyed you are just giving him what he wants. Laugh it off and treat it like a joke, and he will thing it is not getting under your skin, and if he does like you, he will probably stop. He wants you to chase him, and if you don't chase him, he will want to chase you.
If I have gone to 2nd or 3rd base (hand job, blow job, or if my partner performed oral/manual sex on me) and the doctor asks me if I'm sexually active, do I say yes?
By the way I'm not doing any of these things, but I probably will be in the future.
17, female
Yes, you are considered sexually active.
Sorry its long. but you have to know the whole story.
Me and my boyfriend have been going out for like a week and we have been friends before this for like 3 years or so. And before we even started going out i made him promise we would be friends no matter what. well hes younger than me. And so he does things differently. Well ever since he asked me out i have seen him. he hasnt called or anything. i have had 3 boyfriends in a row. and im thinking i might want to be single but im not sure. because hes really cool and i know how to have fun with him but thats it i guess you could say hes not "boyfriend" like. and hes really not but hes the noly boyfriend iv had in a long time that iv had fun with. Plus theres this guy i met at soccer. (we played agenst eachother in a scrimmage. We both play select for the same club) and that would mean we only really see eachother then. Plus im not sure if he likes me. i think i saw him looking at me at halftime. SO im not sure on what to do.
Please help. All advice is wanted. PLEASE HELP
You cannot really sum up what a relationship will be like in the first week you have been going out. Usually the first couple of days are awkward because you have the person and then you are like, "Ok, now what?" He is probably nervous and does not know what to do. Give him time and things should eventually fall into place. If it does not, and you are not comfortable being with him in that way, then call it quits, because you do not want to lead him on. As for the other guy; do not jump to conclusions with him. Just because he could have been looking at you does not mean he all of a sudden likes you. You do not know him and for all you know he could be a jerk. Try working things out with the guy you have now, and if that does not work out, you can try and get to know the other guy.
ok so i had to choose between a sleepover at my bff's house or spending the afternoon with my bf. i dont see either of them often. i chose my bff cause she and i never get to just hang out but i really wanted to hang my boyfriend. i will see him but not really spend a lot of time with him. like one-on-one. i wanted to see him more but i dont want her to feel bad. i love her and she and i never get to hang out. buuut i wont see my bf nxt weekend either and nxt mon. is our 3 month anniversary but i can probably see him nxt thu or sumthing like that. did i make the right choice? i kno i will have fun either way :) thanks
Including your friend would make her feel like the third wheel, and that is never any fun.
In my opinion, I say you made the best choice (not the right choice, because there is no right choice here.) I, personally, hate it when my friends and I make plans and then she is like "Well, I want to hang out with so and so tonight." Your friends were there for you before your boyfriend, and will hopefully be there after. You do not want to put all of your attention on your boyfriend. You friends will get fed up with being second best compared to him and eventually bail, and in the end they will not be there for you because you were not there for them. My friend just went through that, and she pretty much has no one backing her up anymore because she is with her boyfriend 24/7, and you cannot hang out with her without her texting him or calling him to hang out. Spend as much time with your friends as possible. If you hang out with them one day, hang out with your man the next. Sure it is hard. I do not see my boyfriend all week because he goes to a different school and work, and I have school and track and other stuff. Fridays is usually my time with friends, and then me and him spend all Saturday and after I go to to work on Sunday together, which is nice. Plan your time with one another so it does not intertwine with anything else. "Chicks before dicks."
well i want to know am i ready for it as you know what i mean i think not but i am like horny all the time and i need some advice
Well for one thing, if you need to ask someone if you are ready to have sex, then you are not ready.
There is a difference between being horny and actually doing it. Everyone gets horny, but that does not automatically mean you are ready to jump into something as big as sex. Sex is a HUGE leap and requires a lot of planning ahead and trust with your partner. It should not be something you through away in the heat of the moment. There are many other ways to calm your hormones, like masterbating, which is much safer than having sex.
Also, having sex before you are ready is a risk you will regret in the future. You should want the moment to be special, with someone you truely love and feel like you can trust with your whole heart. If you just throw away your virginity, you will probably look back and be like, "Aw crap, why did I do that?" I am suspecting that you are still pretty young, so my answer simply is no, you are not ready for sex.
Find ways to stimulate yourself, and just slow down, no need to jump ahead of the game just because your hormones are raging.
im 16/f
the guy is 17. i really like this guy. he's gorgeous and has a really awesome personality. i normally talk to him in school but a few nights ago we both went to watch a track meet and he smelled like cigarette smoke like, he had just smoked it. i knew he did pot but i actually don't mind that. i never knew he smoked cigarettes because whenever i talk to him in school he doesnt smell like smoke. im one of those people who say "its their life, they can do whatever they want" and i really like this guy and im pretty sure he likes me because he's always trying to make cute jokes around me and hang out but i dont know if i can date a smoker? for anyone out there dating a smoker, and you dont smoke, how do you deal with the smell?
ironically my best friend is going through the same situation with a different guy.
Well, if he has been smoking before you two started talking, you cannot just ask him to stop. Also, just because he smelt like smoke does not automatically mean that he was actually smoking, the people around him might have been. You can bring it up casually in a conversation. Do something like, "Yeah, someone smoked a cigarette today and they smelt pretty strong of smoke, it was so iritating. I wish they could have sprayed something or used gum too, cause their breath was gross." You are not telling him directly about him, but if he IS smoking, he should take the hint.
My coach is choosing 11 people out of my team (15 players).
The 11 chosen, MUST show effort.
How can i show effort, but not show off at the same time???
If it helps:
(I'm an OKAY player, the others in my team are around the same level as me... some are better...!!)
Thanks so much in advance!!
Kronix
You just need to try. Not stand around, always be after the ball. Whenever someone needs help with something, be the first to jump in and do it. Do your best at everything and give 100%, and you will be fine.
I am 13, I am in 6th grade, so here is the question: If a girl bumps into me, and stays touching me, does that mean she likes you? We were walking into class, and she bumped into me and kept touching me until we got into the class room. Our shoulders/upper arms were touching each other until we got into the class room. Also, if a girl bumps into me often, does that mean she likes me?
Either that or she is very clumsy.
My throat has been swollen for like 3 weeks at first it hurt and was swollen then it stoped hurting but stayed swollen then a few weeks later it started hurting again and got a little swollener then it stopped hurting again the whole back or my throat and my tonsils are swollen is it possible i have an STD
I highly doubt it. It sounds more like mono to me.
I've dyed AND bleached my hair so much in the past that I gave it a break for almost a year. So my hair grew out from bleached streaks and a bob. I probably dyed it twice during the growing out stage because the bleached parts resurfaced over and over. So I'm asking for some help to get beautiful hair. My hair is to my boobs now and it's curly. I got a perm for christmas to get a loose curl. My hair naturally is curly/wavy but it forms knots, you know? >_< My hair was fine but now it's just going back to knots. Sometimes I try straightening it but it just comes out as bad Hermione hair. I mean it looks fried even though I use some hair product in it and it's completely dry. Right now, my hair is a light brown towards my roots and it gets darker as it goes down. I really want to dye it all a chocolate brown but get it professionally done.. Would that be a good idea use a little of bleach?
I really need help lol. What are some good products to use for knotty, damaged, dry hair?
Frizz serums? Heat activated sprays? Deep conditioners? I really want to get the color fixed but should I wait it out? It looks like I tried going blonde :S Or should I just use a color stripper again?
I'm on a low budget so if there's anything I can put together at home, it would be great =P
You REALLY need to get all of the product out of your hair. That is what is weighing it down and unhealthy. To do so, while you are in the shower before you wash your hair, take some Baking Soda and wet it a bit. Then smooth it around in your hair. After that wash and condition it as usual. The baking soda will get rid of all the product that is caught in your hair.
You should probably find a rich conditioner, and use it from roots to tips. Also, it would be very wise to not color it at all for a while, since that is what is killing your hair.
Think of your hair like a piece of silk. When it first grows in it is soft and pretty, but after brushing it, washing it, combing it, straightening, blowdrying; it becomes torn and brittle, and looses it's sheen.
You need to start treating your hair better if you want it to look nice. After you wash your hair and what not, let it towel dry.
Leave in conditioner is your best bet. Usually they are around 10-12 dollars. Getting your hair trimmed would also help, since it would get rid of most of your dead ends and preventing your hair from splitting.
Just remember coloring is fun until the after effects start to show.
Here are some things you can do at home for your hair.
http://www.ehow.com/how_2133634_home-deep-conditioner-hair.html
http://www.pioneerthinking.com/conditioner2.html
I need a good quote. Right now i am talking to this kid, and i'm not sure if i like him or not... any ideas? the quote can be broad
You got a fast car,
I want a ticket to anywhere
Maybe we make a deal.
Maybe together we can get somewhere.