Hi there Advicenators.
The last time I logged on here I was 21. Im almost 30 now. Wow I thought I was well put together at that time. I wasn’t. I was looking for validation in being right, or proving that I had the solutions to problems. I didn’t. It makes me think about all the times I went looking for answers online and who was on the other end of that answer. Was it someone like my 21 year old self who didn’t know anything? Be careful out there, friends, and I hope you get the answers you’re looking for.
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I'm planning on getting a new number (Because I've had the same one for SO long, and I've gave that number to people I don't talk to anymore), but I'm kind of afraid of something happening...
The service recycles the number after 30 days of non-use, so I'm scared that my one friend that has my number (I only like to give my number to family) will text it. I don't want to be associated with her anymore. She's "bad news", if you know what I mean... That being said, I won't give her my new number.
Should I be scared? Or is it just me? Also, we don't really text anymore. (link)
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I'va had the same number for years and I would hate to change mine. But i've considered it a few times just due to some harassment issues.
Maybe instead of changing the number you could just block the bad news friend's number. Contact your cell provider and they may be able to block it for you. That usually works for me.
You could also just not reply to her if she does text you. She will probably get the point eventually.
If it's a really bad situation, where you are being harassed or threatened then I would change my number over dealing with that any day.
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If I eat healthy, drink water and work out an hour everyday can I lose 80 pounds by December/January? (link)
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You can definitely lose quite a bit of weight between now and January. 80 pounds may be a little unrealistic, depending on your current health. With consistency, you may be looking at more like 40 pounds at the most.
The reason I say that is because 80 pounds in 4 months is 20 pounds per month. That's 1.5 pounds, PER DAY. That would be very difficult to maintain. You would have to eat a very very low amount of calories, and by doing so your body may actually go in to "starvation mode" where it starts consuming the good fats in your body to keep you alive. Also, consuming such a low amount of calories would not be beneficial with working out. You need to be able to fuel your body for workouts and you may burn out very quickly if you don't do it correctly or enough.
My advice would be to cut out empty carbs from bread, pasta, etc., and refined or artificial sugars from sweets, fizzy drinks, and so on. Base your diet on vegetables, particularly your leafy greens, white meats (chicken, tilapia, shrimp, crab etc,) and fruit. Only eat when you are hungry! Also increase you water intake to a half gallon to a full gallon a day, that will help with any water retention.
This in combination with daily workouts will be effective in weight loss, just don't set your goal too high or you may get discouraged and quit.
Good luck!
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in what ways can being locked up change a person? I am wondering how being in jail could change my mother. I wonder if she will look at things differently (link)
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http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=613981
I've answered your question to the best of my ability at the link above. My expertise with this matter is based entirely off of someone else's experience, what they've told me and what I myself have noticed. If you want some more answers, you can try asking again on the main advicenators page.
Good luck, dear.
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Hi,
So for probably the past 6 years, I've been able to 'pop' my jaw. It doesn't hurt when I do it (Or when I don't do it), but it's a bad habit.
It doesn't pop by itself, I do it by putting my hand on the left side of my jaw and move it a certain way until it pops. Is this bad? Nothing bad has happened since I started doing it, but it's kind of grossing me out now... I try to stop, but like I said - It's a BAD habit. I probably do it like 20 times a day.
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It won't kill you, BUT!
I did this same exact thing when I was younger. SERIOUSLY. I popped my jaw just because I could. I didn't need my hand to do it though. My doctor told me that I probably started being able to do it due to clenching my teeth and voluntarily popping your jaw can make it worse. Now, my jaw pops whenever I chew, yawn, talk. It's horrible. The constant popping gives me headaches, sometimes my lower jaw will be stuck as a result and i have to pop it to get it unstuck, which can hurt, i get earaches a lot now and I never did before.
I've been officially diagnosed with a TMJ (Temporomandibular Joint) disorder, and the only way to fix it is surgically, which is expensive, so I just have to live with it for now.
Not trying to scare you, this may be totally different from what you have going on, but I certainly wouldn't wish it upon you!
My advice is to just stop doing it while you're ahead, just in case!
Read up on this:
http://www.webmd.com/oral-health/guide/temporomandibular-disorders
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I'm 14 and have terrible periods, bad acne, and sexually active. My mom has mentioned putting me on birth control before, I said no because weight is a very big concern of mine. I am going to the GYN soon and I want to ask her about it. But, knowing her, she will be stubborn and prescribe me a kind that makes me gain weight . Therefore, I would like to be able to ask her for a specific one. Any recommendations? (link)
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Not all girls gain weight on birth control pills. It is a side effect but not everyone experiences it.
I have been on birth control pills for about 3 years and I have not noticed a huge amount of weight gain. (my weight fluctuates normally, though).
The estrogen is a big part of why people gain weight. Estrogen can cause you to retain water. But, retaining water is not actual weight gain, you can counteract that by drinking more water so that you body flushes it out more often. However, you can get pills that are entirely progestin now, or a very very low amount of estrogen. Ask you gyn about those when you go.
I myself had this same fear when i started taking birth control, so i did some research. As I understand it, some people are predisposed to that weight gain side effect due to an abnormal glucose metabolism. When you've got a higher level of insulin, extra energy that you get from carbohydrates will transfer to fat cells. BUT, you are 14, so unless you have diabetes, I doubt you need to worry about that.
Ultimately, none of us are doctors and we don't know your medical history, your gyn will prescribe you the best one depending on your physical. Just let her know your concerns beforehand and hopefully she isn't too stubborn!
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So I've been talking to/hooking up with this guy that I met about a month ago. We have good chemistry together and don't seem to ever run out of things to talk about so things are going well between us. The thing is that he's 33 and I'm 19.
We've already had sex once but we're making plans to have a sleepover together soon and I was just seeking some advice as to what older guys might like in bed.. I know everybody has their own preference, and we're comfortable with each other so I can ask questions (like "do you like when I do that/what do you want me to do"), but what may be something that could kind of 'wow' him from me?
Being younger, I definitely don't think I'm as experienced as he is. My sex life for the past 2 1/2 years has been with the same guy, my ex-boyfriend, so I'm a little nervous that what I'm used to may be a little boring.
Any tips would be appreciated.. thanks! (link)
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This question is sort of difficult to answer because, like you said, everyone has their own unique preferences.
In my own experience, my boyfriend's preferences haven't really changed with age, I've just found out that he like things (that maybe he didnt even know he liked) by experimenting.
The thing is, with this guy you're seeing, he probably already knows what he likes so, don't be afraid to ask him! It will get all the awkwardness out of the way and on to enjoying the sex.
I have found that with the guys that I've been with, a lot of touching is always good. And I'm not talking about just sexual touching, I mean like a massage, or just rubbing your hands all over. Don't be afraid to go everywhere! It's a loving gesture and can feel extremely erotic in the right mood.
Another big one is to just not hold back. Take the lead and get a little rough every once in a while. Make sure it's not just one person putting in the effort. And don't be shy or afraid to try something new, if he suggests it!
Again, all of this is just from what I've experienced in my life, I can't say for sure that "guys that are 33 years old like this one position" (lol), but it has worked for me and I hope it works for you!
Best of wishes!
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is there a web site that offers free computer trouble shooting of common everyday problens such as computer lockups
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I would try the website of your computer manufacturer, if it's a hardware issue.. They may have some troubleshooting steps on there.
I use Apple support on apple.com as I have a mac, and the forums and support pages are very helpful. Microsoft most likely has the same thing for windows support.
Mostly though, whenever I have an issue, the first thing I do is just see what I can find on google. There are tons and tons of forums and computer help pages, it's hard to say which one you should use exclusively. They are all different and some focus only on certain aspects.
To answer your question: Yes there are websites that offer computer troubleshooting, but, there are tons of them. So just google the issue that you are having and look through the websites of the results you get. You'll find one that suits you and your specific needs eventually.
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First off not sure if this goes in this section so I apologize on that.
18/m
First and foremost please do not tell me that I am under age and should not be drinking. I am very well aware of the fact. I came here for an answer to my question not to be lectured.
Last summer when I was 17 I went to a party and didn't have anything to eat and I ended up drinking a lot. I felt like throwing up at one point but never did and was hung over the next morning.
I have not drank since except for beer. Whenever I have tried to drink any alcohol besides beer I immediately feel sick and like throwing up. Ever since that party I have been this way.
Will this go away so I can enjoy drinking again or will it just stay?
I would like to over come it so I can enjoy drinking at a later age again and at college and parties. I am responsible and do not drink or drive and try to limit myself.
Thank you for any help! (link)
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Some people just have a lower tolerance to different types of alcohol. I can't do tequila or vodka because they make me sick, but I can drink beer, rum or whiskey just fine.
Also, liquor has a higher concentration of alcohol than beer does and it will make you intoxicated faster.
If you must drink, the first step is to always eat something first. Drinking on an empty stomach will cause you to also become drunk faster and will almost certainly make you sick.
Second, drink water. Drink water before and keep a water bottle with you while your drinking and sip on it throughout the night.
Third, pace yourself. You don't want to go out and immediately get trashed and pass out. That's no fun. Make your drinks last for a better time.
Lastly, be careful and know who you're with! Not trying to be lecture-y, but just in case you do get piss drunk, make sure you have a buddy who can ensure you get home safely.
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I wanna find out about birth control pills like trigestrel. Is it okay for males to take them thus I want to gain weight, because I've heard that they make you gain weight. I know how they look like and know all colours though and their unction. Believe you me I won't take the red onesi just want gain weight. (link)
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If you want to gain weight, I don't think that birth control pills would be the best option.
Weight gain CAN be a side effect, but isn't always. Also, birth control pills have estrogen in them, which can cause some side effects you weren't looking for.
You should increase your protein and calories for the day to where you're gaining weight instead of maintaining or losing. Maybe do some muscle building exercises. If you need to gain a lot of weight, then talk to a doctor about it and see what he/she recommends.
But yea, I wouldn't jump straight to birth control pills just because some people experience weight gain. Everyone reacts differently to them and, as a male, I expect you would react much much differently.
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I was doing laundry and the laundry facility is on the outaide of my apartment building. Some dude around my age was locked out if the building behind me and said "Hi" in the distance and I said Hi back. Then he scratched his his head and asked if I lived in the building and I said yes. So he asked if we wanted to go inside and hang out and I turned down his offer because I dont know him. Then he looked at me and said "ohh you have a boyfriend?" And i responded uhh yeah lol..
What was he thinking? Was he flirting? ... Or just a whacko? (link)
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What a strange encounter.
It sounds like he was flirting a little but also trying to get in the building maybe?
You may need a guy's opinion on this one. But maybe he just thought you were pretty or something and thought he would ask you to hang out. Hey, you never know if someone is going to turn you down unless you ask.
He sounds a little bit awkward, but he doesn't sound like a whacko. If he backed off when you said you had a boyfriend then at least he respects that.
It was probably a good idea to turn down the offer though, you never know what someone you don't know is capable of!
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So I have a party tomorrow and I'm on my period but I HAVE to wear white jeans! I've tried tampons but I tend to tense up so I don't think I should use them. My white jeans are a bit see through and I'm scared that I might stain them. What can I use or do so that I don't stain them?!?!?! (link)
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Double up, do a tampon with a panty liner. That way just in case something gets through the tampon your jeans are protected. Also bring extras and change the liner and tampon frequently so that it stays clean!
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Statements like that came when my dad mentioned it was good to not be hysterical and be understanding and he said to just look at the positives if the situation. That's when I mentioned the whole she will no what it's like to be punished tease. He mentioned it will give me an opportunity to see what happens when you break the law and it is an interesting and educational experience lots of prior my age don't have. Would you agree with that? (link)
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Yes I agree that we learn from other people mistakes. Especially those closest to us. Many people think jail is for hardened criminals, I would never go to jail it will never happen to me. But as you're learning, it can happen to anyone. Take in as much from this experience as possible.
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one "positive" way of looking at it , she can look at things in a different perspective or in a more objective light
someone said Since your mom will be in jail she won't be there to hound you for details 24/7 and she can give you a lot of good advice from an outsiders perspective. She also won't be there to get you in trouble if you mess up so you might be able to tell her more and be more honest.
she'll probably have a more objective viewpoint than she did before.
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That's true. In general, the more life experience you have, the more objective you are. As someone that has done something illegal, gotten caught and paid the time for it, she can put herself in your shoes when and if ever you do something that would get you in trouble. It doesn't necessarily mean that she is going to stop parenting you, it just means that she may be more understanding in certain aspects.
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I am a black female, so keep this in mind haha. I want to grow my hair out, but I don't know where to start. I am cuban also but my hair texture is that of any normal black person. I don't know where to start any suggestions that pertain to my hair is welcome. Thank You! (link)
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I've gotten good hair growth results using either biotin vitamins, or prenatal vitamins. I take one prenatal vitamin in the morning and my hair grows about a half inch to a full inch every month. When I stop taking them it grows at the most a half inch in a month. As far as I know, your race and hair type don't effect the way that the vitamins work.
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definitely not in a malicious type of way, it is more a teasing and exciting type "ah now mom knows what it is like to be punished and is taking orders from others now". And also notice that there will obviously be a bit more freedom for a few months. I think the reason I am feeling that way is because I know she is not going to be in there forever and will be back and while stealing is still serious she is not in there for a heinous type of crime. Might be a childish way of thinking of things but I guess it is all right (link)
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Yea, it's all very ironic. Mom, the one that traditionally deals out the punishment, is now being punished. It's not terribly childish, I understand feeling that way. And yea, if it were murder or something like that, I would say don't joke about it, but she did something wrong, she's paying for it now, and she'll be out soon. You are free to think whatever you want about the situation and no one should judge you for it.
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I can't help but feel a little eh "giddy" maybe is the word about my mom being in jail. Not in a malicious type of way but more in a teasing type of way. Not because I hate her or dislike her. On the contrary I had a good relationship with her but I definitely find it kind of funny that my mom is in the punishment situation now and is taking orders from others and it might give her a different perspective on certain things. Also because I know she is coming back in six months and is not going away from forever or for years and years. I guess it is kind of childish to think that way but I cannot really help it lol . I actually told my dad some of these things and he said it was OK and he was glad I was instead not acting hysterical about it and even joked back "maybe you;re mom will understand how it feels when she punishes you, maybe when she comes back things might be different". People might look at it and think we hate her but really it is just a different way of dealing with it. (link)
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No I don't think it's weird. I mean, you aren't laughing in her face about it or anything. It's a unique situation that not many people experience, and it can be thrilling in a way. I agree that you are handling it quite well. You and your dad both, I'm sure its not easy for you guys and some humor can actually help lessen the tension. Joking abut a bad situation doesn't imply that you hate her at all, in my opinion, in fact it's probably the most healthy of coping mechanisms.
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I'm a 24 yr old female, my boyfriend and I just got into a fight. I'm having female issues and don't want to have sex like I used to. He threw a tantrum bc I didn't want to be tickled. He really hurt my feelings by what he said so naturally I started crying. I went to get situated to sleep on the couch. I had to turn on lights to get blankets n pillows. I was moving stuff n he got mad bc the light was on. He slammed the door n called me a bitch. I broke down, I am completely heart broken. We r working on yr 5 of our relationship, not married, this has never happened before. I don't know what to do. Please help. (link)
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No no no. This guy does not respect you as a girlfriend or as a woman. He needs to understand that sometimes the female body doesn't allow for sex ALL the time, and on top of that he needs to respect your wishes when it comes to sex. Also, he should not be calling you any names. A relationship depends on mutual respect. Like the other person that answered said, this is a form of manipulation to get what he wants, and if it goes on it could become mental or even physical abuse. I would recommend talking to him fist, let him know what your body does and does not allow you to do and that calling you names really hurts your feelings. If he's willing to work on it then great, if not then you may want to think about your future with him.
Remember that who you are with and who you choose to share you body and life with is totally up to you. Dont ever feel obligated to stay with someone just because you've been with them for a while. Think about yourself first!
Best wishes.
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I'm on my period and i was able to get the applicator in but i'm scared to push the tampon out and i'm scared of how bad it'll feel taking it out. what should I do? I have a party tomorrow and I need a tampon so that I could wear my leggings.
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Its really just a matter of getting used to inserting it. You'll find that different angles feel better than others. You will become more comfortable with it eventually. If it's hurting when you push the tampon out of the applicator then try to adjust it to another angle. When its in you shouldn't feel it at all, if you do it may not be up far enough, or it may be in a weird position. Don't worry if you have to take it out and try another one! When taking it out remember to relax your muscles down there. It doesn't hurt, but if you're tense you make have a hard time getting it out.
Just remember that it's no big deal! All us girls have to go through it eventually.
Good luck :)
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Thank you for your advice it was a really big help . (link)
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No problem, hon. Feel free to write me any time!
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I'm a girl who is thirteen years old. I have always been somewhat annoying, but the most annoying thing I do is talk about my crushes nonstop. Everyone really hates it, especially my sister and my dad. I try to stop, but I just can't!
Right now, I have a crush on a girl I met at camp and a teacher. (I don't care that they are girls . . . I'm not the type of person who cares about gender.) The thing they have in common is that I might not see them again -- at least I won't see them any time soon. I'm going to a new school next year, so I won't be at the same school as my teacher. The girl I met at camp said she'll be there next year, but that is a long time away. I think the main reason why I talk about them is because I miss them so much, but nobody seems to understand that.
I don't want everyone to think I'm an annoying weirdo because of the fact that I talk about my crushes so much. Any advice on how to stop would be appreciated. Thank you. (link)
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Hey, you aren't an annoying weirdo! You sound like me when I was younger. And even now when I'm excited about something, I tend to talk about it a lot.
Unfortunately people do get annoyed if you talk about the same thing incessantly. Maybe keep a diary so that you can get all of your thoughts and excitement out on paper and whenever you feel like talking about it just write it down instead. You could also try and keep yourself busy so that your mind isn't always on how much you like her. A year is a long time to dwell on a crush and during that time you may find someone else you like.
And remember, your family is there to support you but you have to be courteous to them as well.
Best of wishes!
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