So being in a dilemah right now I have a couple choices ... Just out of curiosity which would any of you pick ???
A). A finance you have been with for 6 years, financial stability is not the greatest - he lives paycheck to paycheck. I pretty much pay for any extra things we do and he
Smokes , never been on any vacations, he never is motivated to do anything fun but now that I wsnt to leave he wants to change and do things. The only problem is guess who is gonna fund these fun things ! Pretty much had to beg for a ring but he claims he wouldnt of given me one if he didn't wsnt to , also he has shown me no affection for a while and now he wants to show me all kinds of it ahhh. Took me 6 years to get where I am .... Wanting him to have a family with me , marry me and ect and now i am throwing it all away ... Is it smart??
Or....
B) new guy , makes more - pays for everything, hard working , loves to go places, it's only been 4 months but we are so similiar in everything - college graduate - good family - wants to have a family soon , I know $$ isn't everything but it does help
So it seems like a no brainer but why can't I let choicd a go ??? I feel so bad to the point where I'm not sure I can leave because he would be lost without me !
dearie, dude A is dead in the water. if your only reason to stay with him is because he'd be lost without you... then leave him. staying with him is like shackling yourself to a corpse for the rest of your life. do whats best for all parties involved and cut slingload.
-Gunner
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Which sleeping style is more popular in males?
Naked or shirtless&wear boxers
what the fuck? dude, teenage males, for the most part don't really give that much thought to things like that. I've personally slept in nearly every stage of undress from fully clothed to completely in the buff. it doesn't make a difference, unless the weather gets involved. whatever's comfortable is the golden rule.
-Gunner
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Ok...I decided to accompany my daughter and her father to a mini-christmas vacation and so we were about to eat dinner (reminder: with my ex). So I tell him "Are you happy we are here!" and his response is "Well, I am paying for it" with a certain attitude. I gave him 250.00 from his child support to help "US" with the trip expenses. I got upset and told him I would pay the 40.00 bill for the dinner. I did tell him those types of comments were totally uncalled for. He was amazingly upset saying I had twisted all his words around. It completely reminded me why I got a divorce in the first place, but I want to understand and get another man's perspective or woman's....did I over react...was my reaction uncalled for. I don't know please let me know.
Female 36 years old
yeah.... I kind of need a little bit more info to make a good call on it. also: I assume you weren't telling him "are you happy we're here!", but rather asking "Are you happy we are here?" as a rhetorical question. because that makes sense. now as for what you perceive as his curmudgeonly behavior- yeah, in all likelihood he was probably being a dick, but with the tidbit of information provided, I can't make a full call on it. there is a bit of wiggle room in his response to your rhetorical question for it to be considered dry humor, because by their very nature, rhetorical questions are answered in four ways- sarcastically, angrily, humorously, or matter-of-factly. and to be perfectly honest with you, I can picture myself giving the exact same response to your question, but by using the right facial expressions and a quick follow-up "hey, thanks for chipping in!", I'd be indicating that it was meant as a joke. Maybe you cut off his quick follow-up? who knows. hit me up if you really feel like giving more details, otherwise, have a good day, unless you've made other plans.
-Gunner
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What should I do for my guy friend(with benefits) for christmas? We have had a relly close friendship for about 4 weeks. Then he finally made the first move and we kissed. Right now, we are at the hot and heavy stage we are now making out a lot and is about ready to go to the next step. We have tried, but we ran out of time. This Sunday is christmas and I was wondering what I should do for him. I have grinded on him before and gave him a 'hard on'. he has also felt me up before...but not in my 'areas'. So what should I do for him for christmas? Like give him a bj?? Idk!! Please help!!
what is with girls and this "special occasion sex" crap? honey, guys do not care if its christmas or the apocalypse or toilet appreciation day. perhaps you should consider just hanging out with him? ehh, do whatever the hell you want, as I am sure you will. just remember to have fun, and use condoms.
good luck
-Gunner
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Socially, which college is more fun, the University of Maryland-College Park or the University of Michigan-Ann Arbor? I have heard that michigan is SO competitive and there are lots of spoiled Long Islanders. I'm from ny and hoping to get away from that crowd. on the other hand, i've heard maryland isnt as spirited and fun as michigan. any insight?
if you want a college that kicks ass on the social scale, University of Georgia. but, from what I hear from my buddies in michigan, ann arbor's a pretty wild place too. just a thought, but should you really be concerned about the fun factor of a college at this point? what major are you going for? which university's program will give you the best chance for success?
consider these, in addition to your original question.
-Gunner
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Is it normal to shave your you know what? ( i am a girl)?
most of my ex girlfriends have. some of them have not. when I asked about it, they said it made them feel cleaner. I personally could care less whether or not my ladyfriends are shaved. if you want, try it out. if you like it, well then, keep doing it.
good luck
-Gunner
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hello
i dont know how to propose a girl and how to talk to them i mean what makes them interested to know about a boy how to keep them interested in me.
propose? I think you've got the wrong word for what you're trying to say. anywho, back on topic- Talking with girls is pretty simple. They're people just like you. stop worrying about saying the wrong thing, or looking like an idiot, because that just happens. so what if you make an ass of yourself in the attempt, at least you tried. after a while, you'll stop being so socially awkward and that increases your confidence. and girls like confidence.
-Gunner
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Im thinking about getting one but I dont want to waste money. I saw some reviews that were good and some that were bad. Is The scale that tells you your weight and body percentage accurate
yes, doctor scales are calibrated at least once a year. therefore, they are accurate. it really doesn't matter whether or not a scale is digital because a scale designed for extreme accuracy is still going to be wrong if it hasn't been calibrated. I have a scale for measuring the powder loads I put in my homemade ammunition- I calibrate it before use EVERY time. this is because I'm dealing with measurements that are not only extremely small(1/7,000 of a pound), but also because if I am off by just a little tiny bit, my ammunition will exceed the chamber pressure threshold of my rifle and cause a rather energetic explosion. in my face. those bathroom scales are just guidelines, not the word of God. so if you're trying to track your weight while you're on a diet, you'll have a general idea of how good you are doing. don't get a really expensive one, because thats just wasting money.
good luck
-Gunner
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Do boys like it when they want to finger you, but you have a hairy vagina?
in the words of a great philosopher, "pussy's pussy.". its nice when the girlfriend goes the extra mile and does some trimming, but for the most part, I could care less.
-Gunner
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There is a theory that the universe (All metter, everything) was created by the big bang billions of years ago. There is also the statement I hear all the time, "Energy cannot be created nor destroyed" Would not this statement contradict a "beginning"? If the universe came to be through the big bang, so did energy. But if not, it would mean that the universe has no beginning, If energy was present before the big bang, then so was the universe. This confuses me.
dude, there's four or five shows on the science channel that explain this whole thing. hell, M-theory is blowing the current models of physics all to hell anyways, so you're going to get different answers from scientists based on how long you wait. current theory is that our universe is a giant membrane coexisting with thousands of other membranes. at some point(~14 billion years ago), they think our universe collided with a neighboring universe, fucking everything up. so this big bang was probably just a bigass collision between two realities. in this theory, nothing was created or destroyed, but matter and energy were... energetically reorganized. I pester my math professor about this sort of thing all the time. you should see how frizzy their hair gets when you ask them questions involving black holes and luminal velocities.
-Gunner
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My big toe nail has fell off three times one after another why is this
giving us more information would be helpful. mine's fallen off once before, because I smacked it with a steel girder. if its happening randomly with no external stimuli(like smacking it with a girder), then you should probably speak with a medical professional.
-Gunner
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17/female
I have absolutely no privacy. I don't have a bedroom. My parents are home most of the time. So I don't get much if any time to masturbate. I also don't have a bathtub, as that has been suggested before: just a stand up shower with a very small bathroom so that doesn't give me much of an option either. Idk what to do.
wow, this is silly. you're a human being, graced with a massive brain geared to solve problems. A couple of nuclear physicists built a bomb that could level a whole city, I'm pretty sure you've got the brain capacity to figure out how to get five minutes of privacy.
jesus. get an electric toothbrush, run the shower to cover the noise, and lock the door. problem solved, problem staying solved. Go Rangers.
-Gunner
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i am with a very very good guy. perfect in most peoples eyes. For me there is alot missing. emotionally we dont connect for. for him everything is perfect. i dont feel he is the one. but every adult ( i am 22 he is 28) in my life is teling me u can learn to fall in love. is it true? should i stay with him just cause he is a good guy and we have a 1 year old together? am i crazy for feeling that it just isnt enough?
follow the advice of those below if you want, but from a sociological standpoint, theis whole "Love" thing is a recent development. go back a few centuries, and everybody would think you were out of your mind. this "marry for love" notion is a creation of victorian literature and hollywood. hell, even shakespeare thought the notion was batty, and you can tell if you actually understand "Romeo and Juliet". either way, don't let people driven by newfangled emotional notions like those below convince you(ever notice how the divorce rate went up like a rocket after families stopped arranging marriages?). Nor should you let my cold-ass logic decide. this is your choice.
statistically speaking, your kid has a much better chance of being "normal" if you stay.
but I'm betting thats not your first thought in this matter.
Too bad nobody gives oaths or responsibilities first priority anymore.
yes, you are crazy. it's part of being an emotional, illogical thing called a human being.
-Gunner
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My friends and I want to go to Montreal to celebrate New Years Eve, so it would probably only be a few day stay. Do I need to acquire a passport for this?
I am an 18 year old United States citizen living in Boston, Massachusetts.
yeah, the process to get a passport/passport card takes 4-6 weeks. start now. and remember, you are crossing into another country, don't bring citrus fruit or pistols. rifles with barrels less than 18.5 inches are restricted, and rifles with longer barrels need to be declared. make sure you fill out the paperwork before you get to the border checkpoint, because if you haven't, they will grab your guns. enjoy your time in French Canada, there's no other Canada like it!
-Gunner
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This is by far the most weirdest dream I have ever had.
First it started out at a gas station; my boyfriend was with me and there was a woman with a german shepard; her daughter was up against the fence, and she had her hand on my boyfriends face. I saw him get closer and closer to her; and I told her "Dont you touch him!" and than I noticed my boyfriend getting mad, and I looked at her and said, "I'm kidding!" and she laughed.
Than I fell in a hole. There was a piece of wood that caught me inbewteen my legs and people started laughing. Than, somehow I ended up in the back of a car, and got out.
Than I ended up at my house, and saw my yorkie alot bigger; like normal size (right now she's two months) and my boyfriend and my dad were playing a video game, and my boyfriends penis was hanging out of a hole in his boxers and it was opening up like a Tulip. Than I noticed on my leg, I had a big bruise that covered up my entire calf. My dad smacked it and I started screaming; I couldn't breathe at all; and I began to cry.
I woke up screaming and crying. My boyfriend had to wake me up to get me to quit.
What does this mean?
it means exactly the same thing as my dream sequence from earlier this evening about doing a giant barrel roll jump over the grand canyon in a candy apple red 1969 camaro Z28 with a chrome blower, and mag wheels while jammin out to Lynyrd Skynyrd- absolutely nothing. or like my war nightmares. its just your brain's way of processing your memories.
-Gunner
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I am a 45 tear old engineer who has been with the same girl since I was 16. I just found out she has been having a long term graphic affair with a co-worker. She got a new cell phone and I was going to use her old one. She left 700 texts on the phone and I am heart broken. I don't want to live anymore. It is as my entire life has been a lie. Instead of being remorseful she became angry and has blamed me for her affair. I don't know how to pick up the pieces.
dude, that sucks. well, this gives you grounds for a divorce without any of that alimony crap.
If you still want to stay with her, its gonna take some serious counselling.
If you guys do stay together, and she realizes how poorly she has been asking and is genuinely sorry about the affair, just remember to not lord that shit over her for the rest of your lives.
good luck
-Gunner
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I asked this before but only to one person. I need more advice please. I recently told my b/f I was raped. His reaction? Oh I'm sorry baby. He doesn't really like it when I need to talk about things, or when I freak out when he does things. I am not trying to upset him or anything, but when I get to the point where I don't want to be touched, he acts like it pisses him off. I feel like he uses it against me too. I mean he knows have had sex, but I feel like he uses that to get more and more out of me. I don't like soingd certain things because I see my rapist. I told him that once and he looked like I slapped him. How do I handle telling him tihngs in a nice or gentle way? Please help me if you can
Female/21
Thats pretty fucking insensitive of him. ditch the douche and find a nice guy.
-Gunner
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I recently made a suicide attempt but failed coz the rope snapped off.now i am in a dilemma whether to kill myself or go on with life.i dont feel confident of having a successful future nor do i have the guts to attempt suicide again.i am confused.
take it as a sign, and stick around.
-Gunner
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Guys, I need your honest answer as to why you try so hard to be forward and let a girl know you're interested..only to go completely quit and distant one day??? I don't get it. I know this one guy who made it pretty blunt that he was into me, he was always talking and making the first text message move. And now it's like he just hasn't made any attempt to try and talk. I've texted him a few random times within the past week, and he doesn't reply. What can I do to make him go back to how he was acting? Thanks so much!!
there's something called the "Oh..." moment. when a guy thinks you're really neat, starts showing it, and then he sees something that is not to his liking. like a gambling problem, or a heroin dependency. recently I had an incident like this. the girl was really sweet, liked the same things I do, and we were hitting it off well. took her on a date, and afterwards, I guess she thought it was okay to open up and start complaining about everything in her life. needless to say, I'm thoroughly unimpressed with people who complain incessantly about the most insignificant things, and had a delightful mental image of what it would be like "down the road", and immediately thought of how, if put in a situation of having to deal with a nag for the rest of my life, my chances of dying from a self inflicted gunshot wound to the head would raise exponentially. and so I simply stopped.
Don't worry, some day you'll meet somebody who likes about you what this fellow perceived as a "flaw".
-Gunner
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I love my boyfriend, but he is such a bigot! He believes blood is blue if de-oxygenated, global warming is a government conspiracy, racism is totally ok, and that dinosaurs never existed. I am a very scientifically inclined person; and I am appalled by his lack of general knowledge. How can I convince him of the truth?!?
I have to ask- why are you bothering? is this another episode of a woman finding a man and trying to change him into the man of her dreams? some people are set in their ways, like me, for example. I know brown people aren't all out to get me on an intellectual level, but after being blown up so many times and having so many of them try to kill me, its instinctive to reach for my gun when they are near.
If you love him, let this shit slide and stop sweating the small stuff. just make sure he doesn't share his heathen beliefs with the children. ignorance doesn't just pack it's shit and move out like your mother on holiday.
If you can't put up with his backwoods mentality, find somebody who's a little brighter.
-Gunner
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