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Which to choose
So being in a dilemah right now I have a couple choices ... Just out of curiosity which would any of you pick ???
A). A finance you have been with for 6 years, financial stability is not the greatest - he lives paycheck to paycheck. I pretty much pay for any extra things we do and he
Smokes , never been on any vacations, he never is motivated to do anything fun but now that I wsnt to leave he wants to change and do things. The only problem is guess who is gonna fund these fun things ! Pretty much had to beg for a ring but he claims he wouldnt of given me one if he didn't wsnt to , also he has shown me no affection for a while and now he wants to show me all kinds of it ahhh. Took me 6 years to get where I am .... Wanting him to have a family with me , marry me and ect and now i am throwing it all away ... Is it smart??
Or....
B) new guy , makes more - pays for everything, hard working , loves to go places, it's only been 4 months but we are so similiar in everything - college graduate - good family - wants to have a family soon , I know $$ isn't everything but it does help
So it seems like a no brainer but why can't I let choicd a go ??? I feel so bad to the point where I'm not sure I can leave because he would be lost without me !
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dearie, dude A is dead in the water. if your only reason to stay with him is because he'd be lost without you... then leave him. staying with him is like shackling yourself to a corpse for the rest of your life. do whats best for all parties involved and cut slingload.
-Gunner
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The fact that you are even asking this question shows that you shouldn't even consider staying with Guy A. Especially if he is your fiance. This is someone you're (potentially) going to spend the rest of your life with. If you aren't completely satisfied with him in almost every way, don't set yourself up for serious lifelong disappointment.
He'll be lost without you? You've been together for 6 years?
Boo hoo for him. You had to beg for a ring? He doesn't show you affection?
I mean its pretty clear this relationship is (or should be) over. I understand that its hard to let people go sometimes, especially people you have been with for so long. But you will only be hurting the both of you if you stick around with him any longer.
I have a feeling you already know what to do, and just want people to agree with you, and give you a little push towards what you have already decided in your head.
My advice, go with the obviously better choice, Guy B. You have nothing to lose but dead weight. And its much more likely that you will be happier anyway.
Good luck.
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