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Is this girl playing hard to get, or does she really not like me?
We have known eachother since we were both 15, and we are both now 19. We have been best friends since we met. Our relationship is really complicated, and no one can really give me a straight answer about whether or not she likes me.
When we were 15 I started going out with a girl she didnt like, and immediately after that she started going out with a boy I didnt like. A few months later when we were both single again, she kissed me in front of everyone on the last day of school (our school shut down after that). She has always gotten very upset whenever I get girlfriends, and always tries to get all of my attention. I figured all of this was a sign she liked me, so I asked her out, and she said "no, youre not my type." She then continued to get jealous over other girls, and started coming over to my house wanting to "cuddle" with me. I thought she was playing hard to get, so I confronted her about it, and she didnt answer. I told her I loved her one day and she didnt tell me she loved me back.
We stopped talking for a while, but then we began hanging out all the time again, and watching movies a lot. She wanted me to go to England to live with her for a year, and told me she would miss me more than anyone in her life. I couldnt go, and we havent talked for 6 months now.
I really cant tell if she is just really shy and wants me to be very aggressive with her and constantly chase after her, or if she genuinely isnt interested in me, because I dont know how you can want to live with me and cuddle with me and want all my attention when Im not your type and you dont love me and you said no when I asked you out. Any advice for when she comes back?
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She simpely likes you but is scared to lose you or she is just having some fun or she could be hurt from any past relationships and is scared or maybe just a little Friends With Benefitss
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Okay, it is quite evident that she has feelings for you. It may be a crush/ infatuation/ love.
Now, I think either she is confused about her feelings towards you or is trying to be hard to get, as you say. The reason may be that she knows that guys are usually attracted to girls who they think are a challenge. And she wants you to win her over.
Now my advice when she comes back: Be friends again, in the beginning, like you were. Hang out with each other, in public places. Take it real slow and try to make her feel that you wanna know her more, and wanna be great friends, forever. Tell her and explain why you couldn't go to England. And make her comfortable around you.
And after some time, explain to her about your feelings, nicely, and tell her that you want to give her time to think about it. Be clear.
Now, after some time, ask her out, and make it clear that you want to be with her. And now two things can happen:
1. She refuses -> Leave her. Forget about her completely and move on. You have tried enough and she is too shy/ not reasonable/ confused. You really shouldn't be with someone who is so indecisive and hollow.
2.She accepts -> Start dating, and appreciate her being with you. :)
Also, tell yourself that it is going to be the last time when you are asking her out, and going after her, like she wants you to. She isn't really worth it if she doesn't appreciate your effort.
You don't wanna be with someone who is not appreciative and kind. Move on, there are plenty of options around.
I wish you the best. :)
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