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Well me and my boyfriend have been dating for a little over a month now...but one problem...he lives in Texas and i live in New York.I made sure that I got to know him before I went into anything with him.He's soo sweet...and hes constantly saying he loves me and that he's saying that he wants to fly up to visit me.Im 13 and hes 15.Most of my friends are fine with it...except for my BEST friend...shes always telling me that we dont really love eachother, and were only with eachother for the heck of it...how do I get her to except him? (link)
fuck her.she doesnt no if your in love or not. follow your heart and dont focus so much on her accepting him


hey now before you read this and hate me u should hear the story..... we grew up together! are mothers were bestfriends and a kids i was always his girlfriend! we grew up telling eachother that we were going to get married! he was "my boo". when we got older our relationship got seriouse and we had grown apart but still had feelings for eachother that we kept alive. we would kiss and hug and call eachother on the phone! when i truned 16 i met this guy and he took me to my prom! and of course he got jelouse and went and slept with my friend. i was so hurt sghe knew how i felt about him and did it anyway! they ended up going out for 2yrs and there still dateing! i thought our realationship and everything we had was over! i was so sad and depressed! but then like 4 months ago he came and told me that he was still in love with me and he cant stand seeing me and not being able to hold me so we did a few things together!! but nothing sexual! i swear!!! but he is still going out with my friend! i feel so guilty and i wanna tell her but at the same i dont wanna hurt her but i still have deep feeings for him! wat should i do? should i give him up? should i keep sneaking around? or should i tell her the truth and leave them both alone! i know im horrible and you guys are gonna hate me but i feel guilty and im looking for help for the right thing to do! (link)
i think you should talk to him not her. tell him that your as much in love with him as he i s with you. tell him that you want to get back together.now listen up heres the important part: if he's like ok lets get back together, make sure he ends it with the girl. then maybe you and the girl can have a talk where you explain everything. but if he's like no then just leave it alone. dont go to the girl and tell her everything cause that would ruin his relationship. and that would just be wrong.

talk to him
Delilah


One of my dad's friends gave me a Texas Instruments TI-82 graphing calculator but no user guide to go along with it. I was doing some math homework and one of the equations had a base number then a exponent of 3. On the calculator I can only find the button to make the exponentto be a 2, how do I tell the calculator I want the number to the third power, besides typing in the number 3 times. thanks for any help and yes I did go to the product site and look at the user guide but it didn't help (link)
on the calculator there should be a button that looks like a a upside down v.or an arrow. you press that and then the exponent number. in your case that would be a 3...that should do it..

hope i helped
Delilah


ok i asked this question earlier but i didnt see it posted. anyway i am a 25 year old married woman, i have 2 georgeous children. my problem is when i am at work i have access to a computer and for the last 6 months i have been talking to a really great guy. sometimes he calls me also, we talk about everything and he makes me feel really good. i feel like if i wouldnt of gotten married he is the man i would want to be with. to make things more complicated, i am falling in love with him. we have never meet, i want to but he knows i am married and only wants to be a friend, i did to at first, but my feelings are changing. i dont want to destroy my family life ever, but i know it is also not fair to my husband, me sitting there thinking about what if im supposed to be with this other guy. what should i do, follow my heart or do what society and everyone else would say is right.please help (link)
i would tell you to follow your heart.i mean no body knows you as much as you do.that would be the most logical thing to do.but as a daughter i couldnt imagine my mom just leaving and gonig off in the sunset with some guy she met on the internet.i no your in love and that is the most powerful thing in the world but you have to thikn about your kids.i no sometimes you have to only think of your feelings but this would ruin your life and theirs if left you husband. also even though your in love with this man doesnt mean your out of love with your husband.your probably still deeply, madly, truely in love with your husband. so this would mean your in love with two men.so think of it like this:you have one person your in love with and you cant have two.
do what you think is best. if you must follow your heart dont forget that your kids are in your heart too .as well as your husband.

hope i helped
Delilah


ok so im going out with this kid and and i have braces and so does he if like we make out or kiss will we get stuck together im jyss nervous lol ill rate 5's for none fagg answers (link)
no you wont get stuck together.i dont no why people think that.i have braces and i havent had any problems or complants with the way i kiss


Ok.. My best friend's name is Cj.. he is 15. I'm 13. He and I are wicked good friends and we joke around alot. But when we hang out just me and him he flirts with me. He doesn't know i like him, or atleast i don't think he does. But whenever I go outside or something, he runs outside.. and sometimes he wont even say anything to me. He just goes outside and stares at me. My friends say he likes me, but I don't know because he's older than me. He is so sweet and so nice, and he always has a smile on or acts stupid-cute when he's near me. And I do to. I just wanna know if u think he likes me.. I think he does, but the age dif is getting in my way.. I really like him!!! (link)
i think he likes you because he's doing stupid things for you to get his attention. no body would do all of that unless they like you. and about the age thing:age aint nothing but a number.anybody i've gone out with has for some strange reason always been at least 2 years older then me. at the end of the day age is the least important thing on peoples mind


hope i helped....
Delilah


Okay, My name is melissa, and i'm fifteen. Theres this guy at my school who keeps calling me fat. He says that i'm obese and that i should just stop eating!!! The problem is, that i'm 5,4 and i'm 105 pounds. I dont think that's fat, and all my friends say i'm stick thin....but, i dont know. If he calls me that, do other people think that? And...if not, how do i get him to stop?

Please help! I rate high!

~Melissa~ (link)
stick up for yourself girl.tell him to shut the fuck up. i have no idea why he would be saying that unless he likes you cause your skinny as shit.please dont do anything stupid like stop eating or something cause you would be crazy if you do that.you would be like mary-kate.if you want him to stop you need to make him stop


This is my story.. I was dating this women when things made a turn for the worse. I was between jobs and acted poorly towards her. She had always said that if we broke up she would never talk to me again, yet when she did break things off, she called me within a day or two and we continued to talk for weeks. She told me that If I met someone else to go for it, but she didnt want another boyfriend and that there was little chance of us getting back together. I told her that I only wanted to be with her, and when we stopped talking is when I would move on. So we continued to talk. Well one week I decided not to call her, after that week she calls me late night, and we had a really good talk, that morning she called me just to say hi. Well a day had passed and I had talked to a friend of mine about a women that was drunk in the bar named jes, and how she was hitting on me. The next night I call my ex, and she hangs up on me, about 30min. later I get a voice mail from a guy named jes telling me to stop calling my ex. What are the chances of meeting a girl named jes one night and the next night hearing from a guy named jes. I know my friend said something to someone and it got back to her. after recieving that message a day later my ex's number comes up on my phone I dont answer it. Well come to find out that my so called friend was taking what I would say to her and twisting it around. Well last week her was in town and stopped by my ex's work in order to buy some batteries, another co worker of her' approached her and told her that we were never dating and that I was harrassing her. this was a complete lie. Why would she say that? She had to know that my friend would tell me, so she calls me and asked why I was talking crap about her. I was not of course, she then said to me that I was only making things worse. Making what worse? The following week a get another call from her telling me to stop talking crap or else.. Well I had told her again that I was not and of course she hangs up on me again, The whole time she has been blocking her number when she calls me. Last weekend I told my friend that I was threw with the back and forth and this was all over something that never happened. i know he went back and said something. That night I got a block call from her, and I didnt pick it up, then the next day the same block call, then last night she called three times. The fact that I didnt do anything that she thought I did and she reacted before actually talking to me makes me mad. But what I dont understand is why would she continue to call me if she hates me at this point, regardless whether I said anything about her or not, why call me. I dont know what to do, and cant understand her logic. The worst part is that i was trying to get back together with her, ever since we broke up, until my friend open his mouth and said things that I didnt say. I need some advice on how to handle this situation, I dont know whether to answer the phone or not, I would atleast like her to know that I didnt say those things and I was not talking to another women on the phone while i was still talking to her, but she just wont listen, and advice would help alot???????


breal,29yrs,male (link)
you have to make her listen.you cant just let people get away with things.your so called friends needs to get a punh in the face.but if you want to let her know all these rumors were lies you need to tell her.simple as that.you need to answer the phone a tell her to shut up for a sec and listen.tell her the whole story about your shitty friend and things should become clear


I'm 21 years old and in a six month relationship with a boy I adore. The problem is the sex, it's fantastic, but there is suddenly way too much of it. It seems like all he wants to do, and he can last and last. It's just not the way I want to spend *all* of my time with him. (I also wanna sleep sometimes.)
I find myself avoiding him even when he is around just cause I don't want his hands on me every second...
Anyways, I feel really guilty about rejecting him but I'm just sick of sex! Anyone have any ideas how I can approach this without making him feel unsatasfied? (link)
understand that your in a RELATIONSHIP.this mean that you both should get what you want. you cant let him have you however he wants and you have no say.you have to be honest.thats the key to all relationships.be true to him and you'll be true to your self.if you dont want to do it all the time just say"i really would like to be with you and not be with you only in bed"


I like this guy whos 7 years older than me. He likes me too but said the age bothers him. But when we are at parties we end up having sex or doing something sexual. I really really like him shold I just be friends with benefits for now then when im older think about going out with him or what? (link)
i think yall should just be friends with benifits because the age differnce is to differnt.obviously he just want to fuck because he doesnt want ot go with you.so at least that means you look good but are too young.by the way how old are yall???


how do you get rid of or cover up a hickey? please&thanks! (link)
you could either use make-up or wear a turtle neck.usually i tell my bf not to give me one in seeable spots over the summer.but if its the winter i wear turle necks


I need serious help fast. I have a job, and I didn't tell my bf(for what reason I don't know), but anyways when he would call me I would be at work I would just tell him I was in town, so now he thinks I am cheating. He thinks I am cheating because we haven't had sex in like forever and he thinks that I am getting it from someone else. Y'all I love him and he knows that he just thinks this, he like he trust me but not like he used to because I am never home and always in the other location. Help ASAP how can I get him to believe me? (link)
why dont you just take him to your job to prove it.show him your boss or something.or tell him to come their while your working so he can see that your working.then show him your hours so he knows when your working.

but if it were me and he didnt trust me and he was being pressed like that i would of said fuck you.if you cant trust me then you can leave.


Hey i am 14 and I mean i am very flirty its just liek my personality and me my best friend adn her boyfriend were going out to dinner one night and I guess I didnt relize how much i was flirting cuz when she went outside to go call her mom to pick us up, he kissed me and I hate to sound like a slut but i liked it and i am starting to like him more and more but i feel really bad! we have been best friends scince 1st grade, How can I brake the news to her and still keep our friendship, or should I just not tell her? Please good answers only I rate High! (link)
i dont want to be blunt about this but you would be a fucked up friend to do something like that.you said she's been your best friend since yall were like in 1st grade.you cant do that. why'll i was reading your question i couldnt even imagine myself doing that to a friend or the other way around.when he kissed you. you should of backed off even though you liked it.

if you plan on telling her, the best way to do it is to say "i no this is hard to here, but the other day when we all went out to eat your boy kissed me" dont tell her that you liked it. if you do you will be breaking the friendship code


i've known a guy for exactly 2 months now.

he's this gorgeous sex-god type guy, and he's the type that's just so cool. it's evident to me that he's never really had to work for a girl's affection before. anyway, i hear he has had a lot of girlfriends, but he's not a slut or player. whenever i see him i am intimidated, and our conversations seem a little bit strained because i never really say what's on my mind. although he does that raised eyebrow thing that guys do when they're attracted to you, and he treats me differently than i have seen him treating my friends or other girls. he always approaches me first, or only gives me a hug and not my friends, etc.. recently, i saw him again, and he gave me this hug where he wrapped his hands and arms so tightly on my waist. and he pressed me against him really tightly. the hug was pretty much a 5 second hug, which isn't a normal friendly greeting type hug. at one point i even tried to break away because i realized it surpassed the usual hug, but he didn't budge, so we held on a bit longer. that kind of hug is not a hug you give someone you're not attracted to. then after the hug he didn't really look at me, and said that he was feeling weird and that he would be right back, but then said something else i don't remember. i think the gist of it was that he had to go talk to other people and that he probably wouldn't come back or that i shouldn't wait for him, but i'd see him around. he didn't even stick around for a conversation or anything, and he never came back.

WHAT THE HELL. WAS HE JUST DRUNK AND MAYBE FORGOT OR WHAT??!? WHAT'S YOUR TAKE ON THIS? WHY ARE GUYS SO COMPLICATED (link)
i call that hug a "dry sex hug".LOL.im thinking maybe he got horny after that hug.thats why he said i feel "weird" and walked away.i think he likes you though. but after him feeling like that and all you have to give him some time cause right now he will be feeling weird around you.just wait.he'll be back

P.S
if you like him then you need to make your move so he knows that youl like him. dont wait around for him to aprouach you because chances are he is real nervous after that freaky hug yall had.lol


How can you tell if its true love? I am having feelings for this one guy, they are more than my usual feelings for guys. I just want to know how it feels and what the "symptoms" are.

Thank you.

5's I guess (link)
this is one of the hardest feelings to describe. when you feel in love you will notice that your always happy. nothing can make you mad.you feel special all the time.you think about him/her all night and day.Love is important. it feels slow, deep,passionate.Basiclly when your in love you everything good you can possible think of is squeezed into one heart


theres the cutes boy at scool (popular).i used to think he was a jurk but hes not.anyway he said some really nice things to me like"you look preatty"or"you have a nice body......does he likes me or is he just playing with me? (link)
i dont want to be rude or anything and you dont have to rate this,but its kinda hard for anybody to tell if he likes you or not.if we knew him then thats a different story.but all you told us was that he said that oyu cute.it depends on how he said.and since i dont no how he said it i cant answer this question.sorry


i really like this guy. we r frendz and all but i wanna take it to the next level. How should i let him kno this w/o like reuining our frendship. i think he likes me but i cant be sure. he drinks after me all the time and he hugs me all the time too. on thurs. he asked me if i needed a kiss but i told him no bc we were in a huge group of ppl. plus... i was crying. so... how should i let him know that i like him w/o reuining our frendship?? im 14/f (link)
who says your friendship is gonna be ruined.just because they say it in the movies doesnt make it true.just follow your heart


is there a difference between when...

*a guy and a girl hugging when they say hello

*&& a guy and a girl hugging when they say goodbye??

just wondering thanks! (link)
no


ok so heres my problem.
my cousin,(josh)is 17 was dating this girl sarah 19...
well josh told me to start talking to sarah to see what i thought of her.
well i did. we became really good friends.
then her brother started listening in our conversations and reading our ims when we would talk.
so she told him to talk to me so he wouldnt be so nosy. so i started talking to him. he's wonderful
he's 2 years older than me and he's wonderful..
so we got together.
even though i had met his sister,i had never met him. well, it turns out i started liking him.
alot
and thinking about him, all the time.and i told him i really liked him. and he said he felt the exact same way so..
he asked me out. and of course, i said yes.
he's almost 15 and i'm almost 14.
i love him, i do. with all my heart and he says he loves me back.i told him i wouldnt let myself
fall inlove until i go to see him in june.
but, i think i already have.
he is exactly what i've always wanted. he's perfect.
i think i'm too young to think he's the one.
but i want him to be. and i think, once i'm older he will be.
i think i might be getting a promise ring when i go see him. as in.. like promise to marry him, promise ring.
because of what his sister tells me.

when ever we have a fight, he immediately says its his fault and that he's sorry.
he says that he'd rather it always be his fault
than for him to be mad at me or me to be mad at him.

am i too young to think he's the one????
pllleeeeaaasssseee help
FAST!!!!!

i'll rate 5's. (link)
i wanted to elaberate on my answer to you but i didnt have time.i hope your'll change the rating you gave me after you read this real response.
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you cant put a number on Love because Love doesnt go by age. you can fall in love when you 5 years old if you wanted to. see when you get that feeling in your heart then everything is ok.and even if people say your too young to be feeling like this...who cares...at the end of the day your heart still feels good cause you have somebody that loves you.so my answer to your question is no.i dont think your too young to feel the way you do.you can feel however you want, whenever you want,at whatever age you want.so this is my complete answer to your question.i hope that it is enough.and if you need more im sure i will find it.

Love.Live.Life.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~.~Peace.Love.Unity


Hey

I have been going out with Mikey for like 2 months now and i go see him all the time, but it seems to me that everytime we hangout he ignores me and worrys about his car too much and talks to his best friend Chris instead of me. Im his second real g/f so i wasnt worried at first. but mann its starting to get bad. I went and saw him yesterday and he barely talked to me the whole time and when i left all he said was bye. He calls me every night tho so when he called me i asked him if he even likes me and hes like omg yes i have never liked anyone more. so i was happy about that, but why does he ignore me?..I asked him and everytime he says, "when i see you, im like wow thats my gurlfriend, and i cant think of anything to say to you becuz i dont wanna fuck up"..How can i change that?..I want to like hold his hand, and hug him and kiss him and stuff.. I do sometimes but not all the time. its bugging me alot...does anyone know what to do?..i dont wanna lose him i like him way to much. (link)
i no what you mean.see im kinda like that too.even though ima girl i get real shy around my boyfriend when i first started going out with him.and it is because i dont no what to say and i dont want to fuck up...just like he said.if you want him then you have to be agressive.i notice that all of my past boyfriends were agressive to get me to loosin up.when i say agressive i mean instead of waiting for him to kiss you you should go for it youeself. you have to make the first moves hope i helped.




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